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By *woWayWorship OP   Man
over a year ago

Angus

Hi all, I've been here a few months and this is my first time on the forums so be gentle on me! Lol

Anyway, I've had a few meets but the site isn't quite as busy as I'd hoped and I seem to be getting more joy on dating sites (although these haven't been expanding my sexual comfort zone as I'd come here for) So I come to you, the combined knowledge of the forum for help. Could some of you take a quick minute to view my profile and tell me what areas could be improved? I've tried to use common sense when making it

Thanks for any and all help

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello and welcome. Your profile.looks ok and is well written but it's all about what you want. Nothing wrong with wanting to meet experienced women but what can you give them? A woman who knows what she's after won't settle for just young. Experience isn't all about age either if you stay on this site by the time you're 25 you might have experienced a lot more than some men much.older than you.

So drop the headline about experienced women, most of us are anyway, don't concentrate on age too much search and contact people you find attractive and look at their age last and put a paragraph in about what you have to offer, grammar is lovely but doesn't give many orgasms.

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By *woWayWorship OP   Man
over a year ago

Angus


"Hello and welcome. Your profile.looks ok and is well written but it's all about what you want. Nothing wrong with wanting to meet experienced women but what can you give them? A woman who knows what she's after won't settle for just young. Experience isn't all about age either if you stay on this site by the time you're 25 you might have experienced a lot more than some men much.older than you.

So drop the headline about experienced women, most of us are anyway, don't concentrate on age too much search and contact people you find attractive and look at their age last and put a paragraph in about what you have to offer, grammar is lovely but doesn't give many orgasms."

Maybe it could, you get some diverse fetishes out there! Lol

Thanks for the advice, when I get in from work I'll think up a mildly witty headline and add in a wee paragraph about what I can offer. I'm a little shocked that's all you think I should do! I thought it would need a complete overhaul

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Flumper, nothing wrong with that profile...Get in the forums and chat rooms and get chatting to people.

You also mention D/s if that is something in which you are genuinely interested, which side of the fence??

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Hi all, I've been here a few months and this is my first time on the forums so be gentle on me! Lol

Anyway, I've had a few meets but the site isn't quite as busy as I'd hoped and I seem to be getting more joy on dating sites (although these haven't been expanding my sexual comfort zone as I'd come here for) So I come to you, the combined knowledge of the forum for help. Could some of you take a quick minute to view my profile and tell me what areas could be improved? I've tried to use common sense when making it

Thanks for any and all help "

As others have said it looks pretty good,, as a single bloke, more competition,,

patience is required and most of all have fun,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with the profile has what you like and things which is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is good, get yourself noticed, wether it be on the forum or a social event or a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - not bad profile, could be better, but not bad. Photos could be better, but we ain't all David Bailey are we..? (You're probably going to ask who the hell he is!)

The problem you're hitting is nothing to do with your profile however. It's back to the age thing, I'm afraid. But that's not to say it's insurmountable.

There are two things you are up against at your age: 1. There are a LARGE number of people on here who will not have sex with someone young enough to be one of their children. Simple as that, and you have to accept that as their preference.

2. are you 21 going on 25, OR... 21 going on 15.??????? BIG question at your age matey.

There are some very mature 21yr olds, and there are some very immature ones too - even you would agree with that I hope. No amount of words, pics or anything else on here will convey to anyone which end of the 'maturity spectrum' you are at. Only making a judgement in person will do that.

My 'advice' (for what it's worth) for all guys in your age range is always the same:- Use clubs to build up your image and 'user base' (lol!). Find one you like and become a regular - even if you don't play with anyone. People you meet will be able to make a judgement call about YOU and be able to verify you. Build it from that.

One last thing - your comment about doing better, quicker on dating sites:- NO ONE ever said this is "InstaShag". Swinging - if you're going to make it a lifestyle choice - is a marathon, not a sprint. You need to give it time... if any of that helps... ???

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By *woWayWorship OP   Man
over a year ago

Angus


"OP - not bad profile, could be better, but not bad. Photos could be better, but we ain't all David Bailey are we..? (You're probably going to ask who the hell he is!)

The problem you're hitting is nothing to do with your profile however. It's back to the age thing, I'm afraid. But that's not to say it's insurmountable.

There are two things you are up against at your age: 1. There are a LARGE number of people on here who will not have sex with someone young enough to be one of their children. Simple as that, and you have to accept that as their preference.

2. are you 21 going on 25, OR... 21 going on 15.??????? BIG question at your age matey.

There are some very mature 21yr olds, and there are some very immature ones too - even you would agree with that I hope. No amount of words, pics or anything else on here will convey to anyone which end of the 'maturity spectrum' you are at. Only making a judgement in person will do that.

My 'advice' (for what it's worth) for all guys in your age range is always the same:- Use clubs to build up your image and 'user base' (lol!). Find one you like and become a regular - even if you don't play with anyone. People you meet will be able to make a judgement call about YOU and be able to verify you. Build it from that.

One last thing - your comment about doing better, quicker on dating sites:- NO ONE ever said this is "InstaShag". Swinging - if you're going to make it a lifestyle choice - is a marathon, not a sprint. You need to give it time... if any of that helps... ???"

Thanks everyone, I'll try answer everything from memory (posting from my phone at the minute)

Someone asked about dom/sub, I listed them both because I fancy trying them both, I should maybe clear that up a bit though as for the sub thing I'm not really too interested on the being sissified thing, more just pleasing the domme :P

As for the quoted reply thanks a lot, this is really in depth! I'm definitely more mature for my age as I'm told by most people and I know exactly what you mean about the less mature, I have to deal with them daily lol. I'm actually going to get more pictures come Thursday so it'll freshen everything up a bit and I'm getting myself along to CJ's (Glasgow club) sometime next month just to try it out and see if swinging is the marathon I want to take part in. (although when you say it's a marathon of sex you're only selling the idea haha)

Thanks for the help and kind words again everyone. And if any of you fancy a gab sometime then get in touch! Hopefully I'll become a familiar face round here soon enough

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