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By *ustintime69 OP   Man
17 weeks ago

Bristol

Is it just me or are any other long term Fabbers finding it a struggle to connect with anyone these days? Is it me or has Fab changed over time or am I just in the wrong place? Any thoughts?

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By *ustamanMan
17 weeks ago

weymouth

Being a single fella on here can take a long time, socials (if you can get on them) or clubs seems to be the best way to develop contacts

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By *ouise 555Woman
17 weeks ago

dorchester


"Is it just me or are any other long term Fabbers finding it a struggle to connect with anyone these days? Is it me or has Fab changed over time or am I just in the wrong place? Any thoughts?"
its changed! A lot I've been on and off 18 years, and struggling to connect or find what I'm looking for, not just you op x

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Very much the same. Thinking it could be the influence of swinging clubs which are very popular nowadays and the amount of idiots you find nowadays.

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By *ustintime69 OP   Man
17 weeks ago

Bristol

Thank you all for your thoughts, they are much appreciated

So I have been a fabber on and off for 13 years now and imho it’s definitely not the place it used to be…. I do wonder if Fab has become flooded with blokes looking for instant gratification, which makes it much more difficult to break through the noise and make a connection on here. I guess clubs is my best bet for now, although it’s tricky without a friend for company (single men rules!), but I am planning to move to London later this year so perhaps I’ll have more opportunity there?

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
17 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
17 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

Yea it’s definitely not just you. Definitely has a lot to do with the amount of single men and the sheer disrespect they show. I know a lot of couples and women who are just inundated with crap it’s just hard to the genuine ones.

Clubs and organised socials are definitely the way forward and even private parties.

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By *aughtyandnaughtiestCouple
17 weeks ago

Midlands

I second the most recent response.

The amount of messages we receive from single males, just after a quick shag is shocking.

Half of which clearly haven't taken the time to read our profile. Therefore it's difficult not to put all single men in a group otherwise fab becomes a lot of (even more) Work than it is sorting through our messages and winks.

I'd recommend clubs! We never both with private meets unless we've met them previously - I think that's quite common now too.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
17 weeks ago

Hull

Same here .I put it down to my age !!!! But it is a real struggle .can’t find anywhere else to go to that’s free !!

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
17 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan


"Same here .I put it down to my age !!!! But it is a real struggle .can’t find anywhere else to go to that’s free !!"

Keep an eye out for events near to you. There will be organised socials that are free to attend albeit it might a night out x

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By *ammitlizzieCouple
17 weeks ago

Sutton

We only really use this site to connect with people we have met at clubs. Safer here rather than on our other socials. Never really had much success here with what we wanted but had loads at clubs.

It is, what it is.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Central

It's probably harder, as the number of single men increases. The challenge for them is to up their game, to shift odds in their favour.

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By *onlywishiMan
17 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Is it just me or are any other long term Fabbers finding it a struggle to connect with anyone these days? Is it me or has Fab changed over time or am I just in the wrong place? Any thoughts? its changed! A lot I've been on and off 18 years, and struggling to connect or find what I'm looking for, not just you op x"

That’s unusual for a lady to express that ?

But I do think that lots of guys are using it as a free sex site for like most have mentioned self gratification?

I must be sad I believe it’s for mutual fun and laughter that could include sex but doesn’t have too ?

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By *ayleigh1111Woman
17 weeks ago

Liverpool

I honestly feel sorry for the genuine men on here who aren't looking for just instant gratification,I try to be as nice as possible as that's how I am in "normal" life but a lot of the men here just do not understand boundaries do not take the time to read profiles either my patience is tested daily 😭

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Dublin

It has changed MASSIVELY!!!

The amount of timewasters, pic collectors and just messers has shot through the roof!

I struggle to organise proper meets without someone not replying on the day or not showing up! I have had one person delete his profile literally as he " was just walking out the door"

Honestly feel theres to many on here who just love the thrill of the chat

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By *assageVirtuosoMan
17 weeks ago

SouthEast


"Is it just me or are any other long term Fabbers finding it a struggle to connect with anyone these days? Is it me or has Fab changed over time or am I just in the wrong place? Any thoughts?"

It's just you, OP.

We are all going absolutely fine! Something is clearly wrong with you,

Alright...Just joking. I'm sure it's not your fault. What everyone says is true, but tbh I get more interest than I can accommodate. There are many couples and women who I'd like to meet but they don't want to, but there are still plenty of others who are interested in me.

I'm kind and honest and make it clear that I'm not selfish prick. Whoever has met me, never felt betrayed and disappointed.

Do likewise and you'll soon find more meets in the pipe line than you have actually time for.

Best of luck!

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By *ellinever70Woman
17 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think you're probably remembering back with rose tinted glasses

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By *urchoicenowCouple
17 weeks ago

Ashford


"We only really use this site to connect with people we have met at clubs. Safer here rather than on our other socials. Never really had much success here with what we wanted but had loads at clubs.

It is, what it is. "

This 100 percent.

Think we've had 1 social off here in the last 12 years.

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By *oxy jWoman
17 weeks ago

somerset

for couples and women the site has changed drastically as the number of men rise weekly to silly numbers it was always rising but since covid its gone into over drive ...

so many men but not only that so many men pretending to be women and couples too that for many has led to no longer using the site for fun ... we stopped looking for couples and women on here because its so much easier to get in other ways minus the hassle ... lots of couples and women now do this ..

so i /we only use the site for men and thats no easy task again easier to find away from the site nowdays but we stick with it as every now and then a diamond is found after lots of chatting n blocking ... the site will eventually will become a wank fantasy site for men its heading that wwway already unless something changes and i cant see that happening as its a money making site and men = money

men will always struggle on these sites no all but most simply because there are too many compared to couples and women add in sexual attraction and other stuff will only make it harder

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By *ollynTwitchCouple
17 weeks ago

Sible

Ok here's our thoughts on this,

This app is more of a social site, a place to show off, a place to perve the women (always top of the fab lists)

and what's worse it's slowly becoming Tik tok. Fuck the actual meets, give me the Fabs to my photos "Fab for fuck, Fab for Add" (omg the bullshit vanity there!)

For others a place for those who want to organise meets in public, clubs etc and actually socialise and potentially play.

The women with 100 veris etc tend to fuck the same type of guys/body/cock size! (If you don't look the type then don't bother even messaging!)

If you meet a person's criteria then best of luck getting past the previous 100 mails received... pot luck applies.

Guys you get punished for mailing twice - remember that when a woman moans they get 100s of emails.

Most couples on here seem to be governed by the male, winks messages usually trying to get a bit on with the female half of the couples profile. So address both of them, you might stand a better chance.

Guys - well we alllll know give an opportunity to fuck and it's game on assuming they aren't time wasters.

However, our biggest negative of this site is ignorance of everyone and not just single guys! (Us included) Pics and profiles do not make a person let alone express their attitudes correctly or their personalities. Some people are photogenic other aren't.

Some people on paper cannot express themselves truly yet in person are an amazing person / or not lol.

And let's face facts, so many profiles on here say "Come say hi" to be ignored, mass deleted. Remove that crap from your profile in our opinion if you don't plan on replying to every message (Yes we know 1000000000 messages).

Try something different, try something random, how about thanking people for their time and effort in their photos and for sharing.

There really is no concrete answer here, you're either in or out.

Keep trying, keep your faith, someone somewhere likes you and never say never.

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By *ustintime69 OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Bristol

Thank you all for your thoughts on this. It’s a relief to hear that many of you have similar misgivings about what fab has become and it’s not just me!

J

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By *hoenix_1Man
16 weeks ago

richmond

Definitely changed over 20years I have been on and off fab, much harder to find reliable people to meet.

Especially at my age

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By *ark n kimCouple
16 weeks ago

Durham

We are finding that the good genuine guys are getting fewer.

Most of the messages we get are blank or very lazy profiles.

The first message is usually the generic hi or how's you crap.

Profiles pics usually consist of the same multiple cock pics from different angles.

We do like to meet single guys,so we just treat it as a filter,especially when it is obvious they have not had the decency to read our profile.

So all you good guys,keep doing what you are doing.it makes you all stand out like a brand new car in a scrap yard.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Been on and off fabs for nearly 20 years and it’s becoming increasingly hard for real swinging or just legit none time wasting fellas to break through the bullshit 100 messages you ladies get in 4 seconds. I also play with some ladies who enjoy a few guys to join on occasion, as I learned from my early years on this site and around swingers events and swingers a bit of planning needs to happen. All this hey want to fuck is shocking and so many let downs and time wasters not to mention Dave the one man couple who wants you to jerk on video to him and his misses playing that’s why there are cam rooms Dave lol I’ve seen some crazy stuff recently. The site used to be full of like minded discreet people looking for fun sad but yes you right it’s changed dramatically

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I'm new on here and stuggling to make some connections as well. Being respectful in my messages etc, but does appear that a lot of people get disrespected by single guys, which isn't on. Going to look at attending some of the clubs to try and gain some momentum and trust that way.

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By *oxy jWoman
16 weeks ago

somerset

people make all soets of excuse's ,claims, suggestions, advice,but at the cold end of the day your either wanted by someone or not its a rejection / selection scene and with the very one sided percentages of the men the rejection is all alot will know..

its simple on the scene if your a guy there is simply NOT someone for everyone not even close

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By *endalshaggersCouple
16 weeks ago

Kendal


"Ok here's our thoughts on this,

This app is more of a social site, a place to show off, a place to perve the women (always top of the fab lists)

and what's worse it's slowly becoming Tik tok. Fuck the actual meets, give me the Fabs to my photos "Fab for fuck, Fab for Add" (omg the bullshit vanity there!)

For others a place for those who want to organise meets in public, clubs etc and actually socialise and potentially play.

The women with 100 veris etc tend to fuck the same type of guys/body/cock size! (If you don't look the type then don't bother even messaging!)

If you meet a person's criteria then best of luck getting past the previous 100 mails received... pot luck applies.

Guys you get punished for mailing twice - remember that when a woman moans they get 100s of emails.

Most couples on here seem to be governed by the male, winks messages usually trying to get a bit on with the female half of the couples profile. So address both of them, you might stand a better chance.

Guys - well we alllll know give an opportunity to fuck and it's game on assuming they aren't time wasters.

However, our biggest negative of this site is ignorance of everyone and not just single guys! (Us included) Pics and profiles do not make a person let alone express their attitudes correctly or their personalities. Some people are photogenic other aren't.

Some people on paper cannot express themselves truly yet in person are an amazing person / or not lol.

And let's face facts, so many profiles on here say "Come say hi" to be ignored, mass deleted. Remove that crap from your profile in our opinion if you don't plan on replying to every message (Yes we know 1000000000 messages).

Try something different, try something random, how about thanking people for their time and effort in their photos and for sharing.

There really is no concrete answer here, you're either in or out.

Keep trying, keep your faith, someone somewhere likes you and never say never.

"

Certainly agree with the vast majority of this statement.

We've only been on here a few months in comparison to quite a lot but it does seem if you are like us - not people who can/want to attend club meets - it can be difficult to meet others who would be just happy meeting socially or privately.

When we first joined there was a huge hoo haa over "you need to be verified". Now these days it seems to be a big thing over "don't message for X Y Z".

The vast majority of profiles are blank or contain barely anything of use or note. Even sometimes when there is a fully fleshed out profile it can feel a tightrope messaging. And you always get people who don't read/can't be bothered to read yours and still message anyway despite not meeting your own criteria as such.

Whilst there's a lot of lovely genuine people on here - a lot of people we've actually ended up chatting to through forum debates rather than winks/seeing them pop up as such, there's also been a huge rise in fake accounts or picture collectors it's maddening.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago


"We only really use this site to connect with people we have met at clubs. Safer here rather than on our other socials. Never really had much success here with what we wanted but had loads at clubs.

It is, what it is. "

Same here. Just use fab to talk to people I meet at clubs.

Go to clubs with my FWB too.

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