FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging club virgin

By *entenTeaCouple
10 weeks ago

Buckley North Wales

"Hi all.

I was hoping someone had any advice or recommendations for clubs? I am looking at going sometime soon and every time I think about going I bottle it through nerves. Any advice is welcomed

Pick a local club and review the website. Some clubs require pre booking rather than just turing up and paying on the door. Just be clear about it.

Make sure you have photo ID and cash for a key or bar deposit.

Dress should be smart casual.

Make an extra effort on personal grooming. Especially on how you smell!

Most clubs will give a new person a guided tour. No matter how much you are attached to your phone leave it in your changing room locker. It's an idea to have a post it note pad and pen in your jacket pocket. If people give you their fab profile names.

At the club take careful note of the rules. General principles:

No means no.

Never touch with out asking and getting clear permission.

Don't follow people around and try not to be a wanking zombie.

With women and couples focus on just chatting and being social and friendly. Go with the attitude that swinging is 80 to 90% just being social. The rest is a bonus. If you can start a,conversation in pub you can start a,conversation in a swingers club. When chatting to a couple chat to both of them. Most clubs start social then as the evening progresses people go to the play areas. 10 to 11pm seems like the key start time zone.

As a guy make sure you have a condom at hand or know where they are.

Chat topics:

Are you guys regulars here?

Is it normally this busy or quiet?

What other clubs have you been to?

Whats a good night for single guys?

Had a busy day, weather ect?

If you watch, give people space and dont crowd them unless invited. Don't block door ways.

Beaware of room limits and rules. If it is going well you might get asked to join in. Always ask before doing anything. Use lube an focus on the carress and stroking don't slam in with fingers or cock or force oral. Get a feel for their play style and listen for cues and hints.

Alaways say thank you. Give a kiss or hug and clean up. Make sure you dispose of your condom.

Afterwards if the vibe is right chat to them in the warm down back in the lounge area.

Alcohol can help with a bit of dutch courage but keep it to a minimum. It's often an idea to get a bottle of water when play time is starting.

Take viagra about an hour before you think you might need it wash it down with plenty of water.

A middnight can of Redbull helps.

Typically things will be getting quiet by 1am.

Above all else: be friendly, affable and go to make friends rather than go to get laid.