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Advice for single men in clubs- a couples perspective

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By *andPextra OP   Couple
32 weeks ago

North West

Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.

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By *kpiercedCouple
32 weeks ago

walsall

Good advice there

After our last few experiences we would also add don’t be shy about approaching couples

Sometimes the couples can be shy about approaching single males and need that initial contact

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By *itty9899Man
32 weeks ago

Craggy Island

Thanks, noted.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I don't know how a couple can be nervous about approaching a single guy. It's 2 vs 1. The single guy should be the nervous one in that situation. If the couple is nervous they need some help.

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By *pa-LoverMan
32 weeks ago

Coventry

I think I need a bit more in-depth and personal clarification on these points

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By *econdSideQuestWoman
32 weeks ago

SWANSEA

Don't be that guy ^

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By *ral loving manMan
32 weeks ago

Tidworth

Good advice, for me it’s not a meat market, take time chatting and getting to know people there, all good things come to those that wait and take their time

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

We had a couple of these last night and one of the ‘followers’ proceeded to not say a word AT ALL! He just walked around ogling me then we went to a locked room with a glory hole, we could hear him shuffling around trying to look through and then he started to tap and signal with his hand for us to move over so he could see better left after that where he then followed us to the changing rooms.. mouth on the floor while i dressed. When he was done he left without a word.. Hmm

Weird night

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By *wingdance1Couple
5 weeks ago

Cumberland

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By *wingdance1Couple
5 weeks ago

Cumberland

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By *angler 321Man
5 weeks ago

Hereford


"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.

"

As a single guy, I totally agree with all these points.

I used to frequent Cupid's fairly regularly before COVID.

Considering I'm not exactly Brad Pitt!! I had a lot of success with couples and single ladies by just being normal, having a drink at the bar and making interesting conversation. The nights I didn't get lucky were actually some of the best laughs! I also made friends through visiting the club.

So it is possible for single guys to be successful in clubs, just be "normal and patient and do expect too much" Happy fabbing.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
5 weeks ago

Darlington

I'm not single.

I just go to the club without my wife regularly (if she's working) and I usually do so on the couples night, not singles night.

Everything you said is 100% true.

Effort goes a long way and it's categorically not my style to wander around watching couples anyway. I'm in the bar having a laugh. If I get invited elsewhere, game on. If I don't, I'm still having a good time chatting with freinds or making new ones.

I think a good rule of thumb is, go where you're invited and don't linger where you're not.

I personally hate it when my wife and I are followed around by guys (not our thing) so i won't do it to anyone else.

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By *issFussyWoman
5 weeks ago

hitchin


"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.

"

Good summary of expected behaviour

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By *aomilatteCouple
5 weeks ago

Midlands


"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.

"

This should apply to everyone, not just "single" guys. Couples and other singles should have behaviour and appearance standards also.

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By *on_departCouple
5 weeks ago

West Midlands


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Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

"

God if a man tried to do this to me I’d laugh in his face. Desperation is the biggest turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.

"
agreed

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

I think the real special sauce for single guys in clubs is having a bit of a spark and most of all the emotional intelligence to read the room. I think these are the guys who tend to do really well and it's not something you can buy or teach.

Mr

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By *xfordiceCouple
5 weeks ago

Manchester


"Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure.

"
100% agree. Great summary

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