FabSwingers.com forum: How to start anal

By *wan64 OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Glasgow

Never done anal how do I start it?

I am a woman do I use toys and lube

Plz give me some advice

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By *essTTWoman
20 weeks ago

Birmingham

Very slow and lots and lots of lube

Preferably with a man who is patient and willing to follow your lead

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By *wan64 OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Glasgow

Would butt plugs help?

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By *xfordcouple39Couple
20 weeks ago

oxford

Honestly baby oil is the way forward

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By *ouple-perthCouple
20 weeks ago

Perth

Try a finger first, with lots of lube

Mrs x

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By *itygamesMan
20 weeks ago

Don't bother, leave it for what it was designed for....ie shit to come out lol

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By *essTTWoman
19 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Don't bother, leave it for what it was designed for....ie shit to come out lol"

No one asked for this

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By *essTTWoman
19 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Would butt plugs help?"

Yes in helping you get ready to receive, absolutely

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

"Don't bother, leave it for what it was designed for....ie shit to come out lol"

It evolved, alongside our intelligence and preferences, it wasn't designed

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By *9 Love-To-TryCouple
19 weeks ago

East Anglia

"Never done anal how do I start it?

I am a woman do I use toys and lube

Plz give me some advice "

Make some time and Start with some self play try fingering and gently add fingers and find out what feels good

Then progress to a dildo I recommend a glass one and again work slowly you will find yourself having orgasms

I use a but plug before I have a play session when I will be having anal I also wear one as I live the look and feeling

ensure your partner is gentle and understands the intimacy of anal sex not just wham bam

oh and clean before any couples sessions it’s the best way to really relax and enjoy

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Farnborough

Try with your finger first … the key thing is, plenty of lube… and most of all, relax!! - don’t be tense!

There are are many nerve endings in that area … just explore as you feel comfortable. Try with small narrow butt plug - again once you feel comfortable.

I love my ‘bum fun’ now. It almost always plays a part in sex … whether with a partner - or on my own.

Enjoy sweetie x

R xx

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
19 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Never done anal how do I start it?

I am a woman do I use toys and lube

Plz give me some advice "

Don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

It sounds like you're already doing every right op, toys, lube, relaxation.

If with a partner ask them to use fingers, starting with 1, insert, stretch the muscle gently in each direction, wait until you've adapted to that then add another finger etc until you can take a cock sized object.

It might take more than one attempt, patience and arousal are key!

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By *herryEatersCouple
19 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"Never done anal how do I start it?

I am a woman do I use toys and lube

Plz give me some advice "

Very slow, lube, fingers, toys.... When it comes to a real man pick one who's not too long or girthy and very caring and considerate, one who's truly happy to take things VERY slowly xx

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By *ev_1Couple
19 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Go to correct hole is a start

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By *rcadian110Couple
19 weeks ago

Barnsley

Lube lube lube......then when you have enough lube use more lube. Lol. Take it very slow, start with fingers first. Let your partner know how your feeling every step of the way and don't be afraid to ask to stop or just hold still. Relax and also douche first. Being clean will help you just enjoy without worrying about natural processes making things awkward. If you take your time it can be a lot of fun but it's not for everyone. Listen to your body and you will be fine

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By *inkystar1Woman
19 weeks ago

Heathfield

"Honestly baby oil is the way forward

xx"

Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms.

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By *lecom1Couple
19 weeks ago

Stornoway

With my first wife when we first started doing anal she would lie on me reverse cowgirl that way she could control the penetration. She would rub her pussy as she slowly eased down on my cock. Her weight making it hard for me to thrust deep into her hence giving her control.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
19 weeks ago

manchester

"Never done anal how do I start it?

I am a woman do I use toys and lube

Plz give me some advice "
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You need porn star lube

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Been struggling for ages, I enjoy toys and finger but can’t yet manage cocks

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
19 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Use lube and toys first then think about it again in about 3 months time.

Maybe every few weeks gradually increase the size of the dildo

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
19 weeks ago

Bourne lincs

My 1st experience was about 25 yrs ago with a tv who fucked me and have never looked back. I love it now. It's the best feeling in the world. Wish I could find a gen top for reg.

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By *yesgreenMan
19 weeks ago

north and south

"Use lube and toys first then think about it again in about 3 months time.

Maybe every few weeks gradually increase the size of the dildo "
A drink can relax you too and get the guy to be gentle Patience inch by inch , You will end up having a lovely orgasm when you get it right , Or it might not be for you , not everyone loves it

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By *enelope2UWoman
19 weeks ago

Fife

Actually enjoy the person you're with and nothing else is required. The person should be gentle considerate patient affectionate and turn you on way before sex actually happens. When you have that house don't need anything extra.

Also have a healthy diet, good hygiene and body control and awareness.

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By *assageVirtuosoMan
19 weeks ago

SouthEast

"Honestly baby oil is the way forward

Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms. "

Baby oil should never be used at all. It's a petroleum product .

For toys use natural oil or water based lube .

For condoms , generally no oil is good. Apply water based oil. Ultrasound lube is good.That's what they do in medical settings when insert fingers and instruments in you.

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By *bwstarzWoman
19 weeks ago

south cheshire

Lube, lube, lube and even more lube!

Start with small toys / butt plugs and then go bigger, take it slow and enjoy yourself.

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By *awpleasureMan
19 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

My friend says they teach this at junior school now. I hope she was joking

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By *asher11Man
19 weeks ago

market harborough

"Honestly baby oil is the way forward

xx"

coconut oils a better bet if you have an accident it hides the smell

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By *orny PTMan
19 weeks ago

Peterborough

Start by playing with your bum hole days or weeks beforehand.

Gentle rubbing and small circles, with NO pushing action will tell the sphincter muscles to relax.

It should feel similar to having a finger in your ear. That's how delicate you need to be. Then when you're ready try it with some lube and see if your finger gets sucked in. Keep it steady and still until the first knuckle and leave it there. Keep this there and see how you feel.

Circling is more gentle and gently persuades those individual muscles to relax in turn.

(This is how I got myself ready for my first prostate and colonoscopy exams.) Having damaged insides and Farmer Giles ain't much fun.

A smaller cock will be an advantage here. Spooning will take away all balancing issues as doggy and other positions might be a bit awkward.

When doing spoons keep him still, as you guide your self onto his cock, that way you'll be fully in control and relaxed.

Good luck

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By *nnandElleCouple
19 weeks ago

Brackley

Douche thoroughly! it'll help you relax knowing you've minimised the chance of "accidents".

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By *tlanshiaWoman
19 weeks ago

Chatham

Very slowly, lots of lube.

Get a set of plugs, for me they were the easiest things to train with. They didn't feel as intimidating as a dildo. Lube the smallest one up and start to edge it in.

Do so daily, until you can wear it for a time comfortably. Then move onto the bigger ones.

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By *inkystar1Woman
19 weeks ago

Heathfield

"Honestly baby oil is the way forward

Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms.

Baby oil should never be used at all. It's a petroleum product .

For toys use natural oil or water based lube .

For condoms , generally no oil is good. Apply water based oil. Ultrasound lube is good.That's what they do in medical settings when insert fingers and instruments in you."

Ultrasound lube is ky jelly

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By *heelofTimeCouple
19 weeks ago

Two Rivers

For me spooning is always best initially it gives me control over how far in and I can let himself know when I am ready to build up speed or not! Another way is to lie flat on the bed you need someone you trust and who is gentle for this and let them gently take control.

As mentioned by other make sure you are with a patient and considerate person, not someone who watched a lot of porn and thinks women want to be rammed and hurt a lot when doing anal!

Personally I started by myself with toys and when I knew I enjoyed it and could take a certain size without being hurt, we moved onto himself

Dove xXx

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By *wan64 OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Glasgow

So do I

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
19 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

You gotta hawk tuar on dat thang

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
19 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Honestly baby oil is the way forward

Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms. "

This.... plus baby oil can irritate the delicate areas! Use a good quality water/silicone based lube

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By *oodtimebiboyMan
19 weeks ago

bristol

Practical advice would be.

As one profile said, douche yourself, think about what you eat at least 24 hours in advance, drink lots of fluids and make sure you’re empty.

The rest it about taking time and exploring. Often best on your own in the shower.

Worst thing is to have some guy just think about himself and force it, that is some extreme pain.

For us guys we get a hell of a lot of pleasure from a good pounding of our ass. I’ve come hands free many times that way. So very good.

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By *eyondVanillaCouple
19 weeks ago

Greater Manchester/ Cheshire

Fuck sake you just stole my thunder, was just about to post that

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By *ndisMan
19 weeks ago

Liverpool

Go slow, and steady, with someone who you can trust, lots of lube, don't go too big too soon, it's uncomfortable the fisrt few times but start small then work up once happy with a small things. It could take a while before you are happy moving up and take your time as too big too soon will put you off! And really you need a partner who will listen and go at your pace instead of someone who thinks you are ready and just goes for it. Toys at home are a good start but obviously its used mainly for things coming out so at some point expect a little mess. Maybe towels on the bed first or try douching in the shower!

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By *26StitchMan
19 weeks ago

Hucknall

tristan taormino does a great guide (and smoking hot porn video) 'anal sex for women'.

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By *ylonlover87Man
18 weeks ago

upchurch

Better than lub?

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By *ildatheart30Couple
18 weeks ago

Gorebridge

Yes, lot's of lube (anal lube is thicker but you can use anything) and go VERY slowly, it feels awful to start with but it gets better

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By *hisgirlgotalottacurvesWoman
18 weeks ago

woo

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By *aramel.desiresMan
18 weeks ago

London

Cold pressed virgin coconut is very good. Natural and slightly antibacterial too. Aldi and Lidl version.

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By *ellowthread2Couple
18 weeks ago

manchester

yea slowly and a man who knows that only a few inches in . even if he is big. and oil or lube

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By *inkystar1Woman
18 weeks ago

Heathfield

"Cold pressed virgin coconut is very good. Natural and slightly antibacterial too. Aldi and Lidl version. "

But not safe with condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Melted Candle wax

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By *rand Central CoupleCouple
18 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Very slow and lots and lots of lube

Preferably with a man who is patient and willing to follow your lead "

and sober!

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
18 weeks ago

wonderland.

Reading this with interest. I used to be able to do anal... till an ex caused some damage. Stitches involved...

Im really wanting to have anal with Mr. I know I used to be able to. I think a lot of mine is psychological x

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By *ythenMan
18 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

Slow - small - discuss - mutal toys .. be patient..

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By *ayboii_18Man
18 weeks ago

cannock

Always douche, helps to stay clean. Use luke warm water. You don't wanna cause damage.

Silicone based lube is better for anal. Take it slow and with a trusted partner.

Remember you must be relaxed otherwise your muscles won't wanna play along.

Once you've got it right, you'll never look back. I love it. The feeling before and after is immense. The orgasm is out of this world when it hits the right spot for me.

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By *razymindMan
18 weeks ago

Dublin mainly

"Never done anal how do I start it?

I am a woman do I use toys and lube

Plz give me some advice

Don’t "

Hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Finally managed it last weekend and wow it’s a game changer

Plenty of training

On the night we took it slowly and used a lot of lube

Very happy ending

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By *erry bull1Man
18 weeks ago

doncaster

Usually a good rimming rimming and finger play gets you relaxed enough to take cock

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By *razymindMan
17 weeks ago

Dublin mainly

"Finally managed it last weekend and wow it’s a game changer

Plenty of training

On the night we took it slowly and used a lot of lube

Very happy ending

Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Thank you! It took its time but it was well worth it! I was literally screaming the house down

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By *26StitchMan
5 weeks ago

Hucknall

There's a really good book (and video) by Tristan taormino called a guide to anal sex for women.

Orgasms during training and stretching with toys and fingers can be useful in conditioning you to enjoy it. Take it slow.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
5 weeks ago

Norwich

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By *teveanddebsCouple
5 weeks ago

Norwich

"Honestly baby oil is the way forward

xx"

Not if you going to use normal condoms.

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By *ew Spark 2024Couple
4 weeks ago

Burton On Trent

Hi it may have been said already but I'm going to ask any how. When you have a butt plug how long do you keep it in? Do you just have it in when you are having sex or can you have it in all day?

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By *oodo69Man
4 weeks ago

London (visiting very often)

Wife prefers when l lick and finger her first, for quite a long time actually. She loves that and often orgasms from having her tight hole licked. Or sometimes we use a butt plug and lube first to open her up a bit before gently sliding my cock very slowly inside her. Needs a bit of careful slow fucking before we can start go deeper and harder. We both love it xx

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By *harlottes ChurchTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Toy me town

Some good advice but I would add that if you are on top to start then you can control things.

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By *ellowthread2Couple
3 weeks ago

manchester

yes good advice about keeping guy under to control the depth as you slide on top of him in to your arse as slowly as you like then . k

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By *ARKblondeCouple
3 weeks ago

london

I cannot belive no one has stooped to this yet...

Start at the bottom and work your way up...

🤣🤣

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By *orny PTMan
3 weeks ago

Peterborough

"I cannot belive no one has stooped to this yet...

Start at the bottom and work your way up...

🤣🤣

Good tip!

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By *ister_EMan
2 weeks ago

Hayling Island

Experimenting is lots of fun and anal sex can add a whole new dimension of pleasure to your sex life so I'd definitely encourage you to go for it.

Ideally start with a partner who is experienced, sensual and very patient. Remember that it's not all or nothing. Lots of people enjoy anal play and stimulation without full penetration.

Letting your partner tease, and finger your hole during oral will hugely enhance your orgasms for instance. As will a finger or plug or toy during sex.

You can encourage your partner and show them what you like by reciprocating. And teasing and fingering each other is very intimate and erotic.

Rimming is amazing to give and receive and not 'ick' at all if you both practice good hygiene.

Lubrication is your best friend when it comes to anal play. And there are great lubricants that are designed specifically for anal play. Don't use water based lube that will dry out as they can become sticky and will actually increase friction.

Position is key in the beginning! Doggy feels great once you are loosened up and he is fully inside you but it's a terrible position to start with. It tightens your sphincter muscles and makes penetration more difficult/painful.

Lying on your back with legs supported is great for relaxing your muscles as is lying on your side.

If he has no experience then consider sitting on him as it gives you complete control and will be more comfortable than him prodding and thrusting.

There are two muscles that need to be stretched. Steady pressure is much better than poking and prodding and going in and out.

You may feel a burning sensation or pain as he first enters, if you are not completely relaxed.

It will pass quickly though once he is inside you. Just hold it in there and don't let him push further or pull out. Especially when the muscle tightens around his head and clamp down involuntarily.

Just hold him inside and it will pass in a moment and you will feel the muscles release, accompanied with a feeling of relief and pleasure.

He will slide in deeper and hit the second sphincter muscle. Repeat the previous process and then he should easily slide all the way inside.

Hold him inside you and just get used to the feeling and let your body adjust. Clitoral stimulation will definitely help through this whole stage.

Once your muscles have relaxed he will be able to start rocking back and fourth and gradually increase the length of his thrusts. By now you will be feeling immense pleasure and when he pulls out you will experience a feeling of emptiness and craving to be filled. Keep adding more lube, and if you haven't both cum already then he should be able to fuck you a little harder and faster.

Not all women cum from anal, especially without clitoral stimulation so don't be disappointed if you don't. It should still be very pleasurable for both of you and using a vibrator on your clit can definitely help you orgasm.

Hygiene is not a sexy topic, but it's especially important for anal! Evacuating fully and Douching before anal is not only cleaner but will help you relax and feel more confident.

Make sure he uses different fingers or washes well before touching your vagina after playing with your bum and make sure he washes well, using soap, if he wants to fuck your pussy afterwards. Switching between holes looks hot on porn, but can lead to nasty UTI's for women.

The same goes for toys. Use different toys for each hole or wash well before switching between holes. Using condoms on your toys is also far more hygenic.

There may be a little 'unsightly contamination' on him after a good session, so have wet wipes to hand for when he pulls out. Some guys are squeamish about this, other's more relaxed, but if you anticipate and prepare you minimise awkwardness and discomfort after sex.

I would definitely encourage you to explore and play with yourself first. Fingers, toys and plugs are a great way to learn and prepare. And encourage him to use them on you before penetration.

Not only will this help to loosen and stretch your bum before sex, it will help you be more relaxed to recieve him.

Hope some of this helps and that you will be able to add a whole new repertoire of pleasure to your sex life

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By *ologuy877Man
2 weeks ago

Leigh

I've always started to give anal with very gentle touches while doing other things, then slowly start with some tongue action which helps her to relax before moving on to using fingers. Can never use too much lube & when it eventually comes to inserting your manhood just the tip to start with short slow thrusts & not being too keen to force it all in straight away.

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By *ellowthread2Couple
2 weeks ago

manchester

"I've always started to give anal with very gentle touches while doing other things, then slowly start with some tongue action which helps her to relax before moving on to using fingers. Can never use too much lube & when it eventually comes to inserting your manhood just the tip to start with short slow thrusts & not being too keen to force it all in straight away."

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By *ellowthread2Couple
2 weeks ago

manchester

very helpful advice .

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By *hat Couple Over ThereCouple
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

My wife used clit toys to stimulate herself to distract from the pain.

After 10 year of asking she let me do it.

Another 8 years later it's one of her faves. Makes her cum really hard .

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