FabSwingers.com forum: To wink or not to wink, this is the question

By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ??

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By *inUpProWoman
23 weeks ago

Liverpool

A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message "

I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message

I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?

Do you still wink ?

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By *oxy jWoman
23 weeks ago

somerset

i mass delete them daily same with unsolicited friends request

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message

I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?

Do you still wink ?"

Pointless. You're not what they want. Just admire from afar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message

I will take that on board, now let's say your slightly out there age ?

Do you still wink ?

Pointless. You're not what they want. Just admire from afar"

That one was a slight joke

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"i mass delete them daily same with unsolicited friends request "

Can I ask why you delete them ??

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By *endalshaggersCouple
23 weeks ago

Kendal

We wink a lot of the time....sometimes just as a testing the water in case we are maybe not exactly what the other profile are looking for

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Some people look at winks & some don't.

We've (couples profile) had some great meets that started with a wink so I'm quite fond.

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By *harAndBryCouple
23 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Hey everyone just trying to get a feel on people's opinions, if you like a profile should you wink, to be like hey you look good, if you think I look good wink back ? Or should you bin them off and go straight in for a message ??

We are fans of winking. But nothing so annoying as receiving a wink, winking back and then either getting nothing back or worse....another wink!

We figure a wink is an easy way to show interest without the risk of actual written rejection

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"We wink a lot of the time....sometimes just as a testing the water in case we are maybe not exactly what the other profile are looking for"

That's my point of view however I have seen alot of profiles saying don't wink

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"Some people look at winks & some don't.

We've (couples profile) had some great meets that started with a wink so I'm quite fond. "

I think a wink is perfect, I'm glad I'm not the only one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

We are fans of winking. But nothing so annoying as receiving a wink, winking back and then either getting nothing back or worse....another wink!

We figure a wink is an easy way to show interest without the risk of actual written rejection

(Bry)"

I 10000000% agree

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By *o_Called_SwingersCouple
23 weeks ago

Atherton

Nothing wrong with winking. In fact, I wrote a song about it ...

Just WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

The worst thing it will lead to is a drink

So give a wink

Just give a wink

You've loaded up the app

And now you're looking down your feed

And we all know you're there

Because it's time to fill a need

You see a sexy picture

These people catch your eye

So what should you do next?

This is no time to be shy!

You look at all their pictures

Each one hotter than the last

They're getting you excited

And your heart rate's getting fast

You read right through their bio

Find out what they're looking for

You wonder if they'll like you too?

There's one wat to be sure

Just WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

Maybe you'll find someone who can share your kink

So give a wink

Just give a wink

You jumped into this lifestyle

But don't know quite what to do

Feels like everyone knows everyone

Except they don't know you

You know inside your heart

That nobody's being mean

But as the time goes on

You think you're just not being seen

The way to make it better

Is to follow this advice

You'll never win the game if you're too scared to roll the dice

There's so many gorgeous people

Everywhere you take a look

But if you're staying hidden

Then you'll never get a fuck

Just WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

Regardless if you're after blue or pink

So give a wink

Just give a wink

You've finally got your spirits up

And ready now to swing

Don't matter what you're wearing

Because confidence is king

You've come out of your shell

And now you've lost that little frown

With any luck, soon, it won't just

Be hair you're letting down

So WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

Just walk yourself away now from the brink

Don't hide away and let your spirits sink

This lifestyle is much easier than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Tend to ignore winks, think they’re lazy, just our opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"Tend to ignore winks, think they’re lazy, just our opinion "

Perfect I saw someone say this and I wanted to dig deeper, why is it lazy ? What gives you the ick about it ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
23 weeks ago

"Nothing wrong with winking. In fact, I wrote a song about it ...

Just WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

The worst thing it will lead to is a drink

So give a wink

Just give a wink

You've loaded up the app

And now you're looking down your feed

And we all know you're there

Because it's time to fill a need

You see a sexy picture

These people catch your eye

So what should you do next?

This is no time to be shy!

You look at all their pictures

Each one hotter than the last

They're getting you excited

And your heart rate's getting fast

You read right through their bio

Find out what they're looking for

You wonder if they'll like you too?

There's one wat to be sure

Just WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

Maybe you'll find someone who can share your kink

So give a wink

Just give a wink

You jumped into this lifestyle

But don't know quite what to do

Feels like everyone knows everyone

Except they don't know you

You know inside your heart

That nobody's being mean

But as the time goes on

You think you're just not being seen

The way to make it better

Is to follow this advice

You'll never win the game if you're too scared to roll the dice

There's so many gorgeous people

Everywhere you take a look

But if you're staying hidden

Then you'll never get a fuck

Just WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

Regardless if you're after blue or pink

So give a wink

Just give a wink

You've finally got your spirits up

And ready now to swing

Don't matter what you're wearing

Because confidence is king

You've come out of your shell

And now you've lost that little frown

With any luck, soon, it won't just

Be hair you're letting down

So WINK!

Don't get inside your head and overthink

Don't even take the time to stop and blink

Just walk yourself away now from the brink

Don't hide away and let your spirits sink

This lifestyle is much easier than you think"

All I can say is WINK

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By *reamers13Couple
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

"A wink shows interest. If they wink back, I'll send a message "

Same here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Central

If they've not stated for no winks, then feel free to send. If they are really of high interest, send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I only wink when I'm unsure if I'm the kind of guy a couple is looking for, e.g. if I see on their verifications that they've only met 50+ year old guys. In such situations I think there is close to a zero probability of them replying so I don't put effort into a message.

For profiles that specify exactly what kind of guy they are looking for - and I happen to meet their specifications — I will send a message instead of a wink because I think there is a good chance of a response in that situation.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
23 weeks ago

Bedale

We do wink unless the profile says not to.

If it does say not to, we tend to ignore that profile entirely or possibly block.

It's one of a few small tells that are a pretty reliable indicator that the individuals involved are not going to be for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"We do wink unless the profile says not to.

If it does say not to, we tend to ignore that profile entirely or possibly block.

It's one of a few small tells that are a pretty reliable indicator that the individuals involved are not going to be for us. "

That is a sensible idea. I also find it strange why some would put "don't wink" on a profile then proceed to ignore the overwhelming majority of messages they get...

Also, the content of messages is not really what drives the interest for a meet between two couples/singles. It is the profile of the person who sends the message that will influence your decision to meet with them. In that regard, there is very little difference between a wink and a message for the first contact.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
23 weeks ago

Bedale

"We do wink unless the profile says not to.

If it does say not to, we tend to ignore that profile entirely or possibly block.

It's one of a few small tells that are a pretty reliable indicator that the individuals involved are not going to be for us.

That is a sensible idea. I also find it strange why some would put "don't wink" on a profile then proceed to ignore the overwhelming majority of messages they get...

There is absolutely a difference, just not a functional one for the purposes of fabmin.

The wink is an indicator of intent allowing the recipient to have their attention brought to the invitation and consider it.

The bespoke message someone put actual time and effort into that they then delete summarily is a little dopamine hit that vindicates their egotism.

Hence why those who refuse winks are not going to be for us, because odds are good they aren't here for anything more than an ego stroke and even if they are then their attitudes are not likely to endear them to us.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
23 weeks ago

surrey

I always send a wink to a profile I like. My first meet started with a wink…

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

As a general (but not absolute) rule.

Winking women is pointless. There's hundreds every day and they just get bulk deleted.

Some couples and t girls are interested enough to check if their profiles aren't too busy.

Men are the most likely group to respond to a wink.

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By *yesgreenMan
23 weeks ago

north and south

"As a general (but not absolute) rule.

Winking women is pointless. There's hundreds every day and they just get bulk deleted.

Some couples and t girls are interested enough to check if their profiles aren't too busy.

Men are the most likely group to respond to a wink."
A wink a day keeps the wank at bay ready for the jump in the hay on another hot day what the hey , it’s not hurting anyway it’s just a fantastic day to brighten someone’s day , Is that another hit ladies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Tend to ignore winks, think they’re lazy, just our opinion

Perfect I saw someone say this and I wanted to dig deeper, why is it lazy ? What gives you the ick about it ??"

It’s asking us to initiate a conversation. Send a decent message and we’ll reply, send a wink and we’ll ignore you

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By *unchalMan
23 weeks ago

Dartford

Yes.

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By *uliette500Woman
23 weeks ago

Hull

I never send winks and never look at them either. When the list gets really long I just delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Constantly forget to check the winks section, by which time it's too overwhelming and often end up getting rid.

Friend Requests is the one I'm not so keen on - by which I mean a friend request before we've even messaged. Never accept those.

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By *azzler2Man
22 weeks ago

halifax

I always wink first see if there interested if they wink back I send a message

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By *istr3ssWoman
22 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

I ignore winks & unrequested friends request result in me blocking the person

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By *ustincider888Man
22 weeks ago

Preston Ish

I'll send a wink most of the time before messaging then if there's no response I tend to block that profile.

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By *heelerMan
22 weeks ago

Northants

A winks always a good start to show your interest and hopefully they wink or message back and could lead to good friendship

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By *t8880Couple
22 weeks ago

Staffs

We don’t mind winks but think of them like this

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By *ickedwillyCouple
22 weeks ago

Bangor

Nothing wrong with a wink.

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By *ustincider888Man
22 weeks ago

Preston Ish

"Nothing wrong with a wink. "

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By *lik and PaulCouple
22 weeks ago

Flagrante

As some others have said, we bulk delete winks as there's not enough time in the day to spend reading maybe 100 or so profiles and then wink or message back but we do reply to messages.

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By *harAndBryCouple
22 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"It’s asking us to initiate a conversation."

Now we don't see winks like that at all. We see them as a request from the winker for them to start a conversation, IF we wink back.

(Bry)

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By *ynecplCouple
22 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We see the wink system as another way of expressing interest. If somebody winks us we will wink back and it is up to the winker to start a conversation. The same is true in reverse if we wink and get a wink back we will message.

Like anything on here some love it some hate it or ignore it

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By *eily2020TV/TS
22 weeks ago

Manchester

I prefer men to wink first, then send a message thanking them if I'm interested over getting a tonne of messages that usually all say the same thing - especially if a guy winks me from a profile I've viewed but they don't mention Ts on their looking for list (which is usually a high proportion of men who actually want to talk/meet).

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Wink away

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By *el13ABCMan
22 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I wink to show intrest always wink back

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By *ackandSarah2024Couple
22 weeks ago

All over

Before anything, read their profile first.

Then go from there.

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By *nkedguy777Man
22 weeks ago

Manchester

Always send a wink to show interest, hopefully get a wink back then I'll drop them a polite message

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By *arierWoman
22 weeks ago

birmingham

I normally wink if someone’s so hot that I don’t know what to say. I overthink that I an going to come across saying too little or too much and end up bottling it

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By *ackandSarah2024Couple
22 weeks ago

All over

"Always send a wink to show interest, hopefully get a wink back then I'll drop them a polite message "

As long as the people on the other end like winks.

Otherwise it will be a piss take reply, and it will be going nowhere.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
22 weeks ago

Herts

I've had a few meets starting from a wink. So worth a go

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By *oiluvfunMan
22 weeks ago

Penrith

I only send winks as a nod of appreciation to a profile I’m unlikely to ever meet.

Women and couples tend to wink as a first point of contact, in my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Love receiving a wink me !! Not everyones cup of tea though ! However i think its a great introduction

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By *yesgreenMan
22 weeks ago

north and south

"Love receiving a wink me !! Not everyones cup of tea though ! However i think its a great introduction "
Yes for me that wink says that lady is hot stuff and she took my breath away , It may not be reciprocated but Really is the wink on the street ever taken seriously either and the lady knows she an admirer

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By *igjay2584Man
22 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Is the power in the wink dependent on the winker...

As a guy I'd rarely bother sending a woman a wink, my assumption being what's the point... it gives nothing of me and she probably has a million messages let alone winks.

On the flip side, if a woman sends me a wink... it's a big sign that I should invest some time in a hello message and we're likely to have a chat.

I love a wink!

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