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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " naw happen few times myself - just say a polite thanks n then walk away no point in hanging around | |||
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"Thanks. I should not feel guilty then" nope just move on bud theirs plenty of fun still | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " This suggests that their pics were not as honest as they might have been. If that is the case then you should not feel guilty. They should have been more honest and not wasted your time. | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " Not at all. And this is one of the reasons I insist on a social on neutral ground first to avoid awkesrdness. | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? Not at all. And this is one of the reasons I insist on a social on neutral ground first to avoid awkesrdness. " Totally agree | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? Not at all. And this is one of the reasons I insist on a social on neutral ground first to avoid awkesrdness.Me too Totally agree " | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " Don't feel guilty or that you're being rude - you both have the right to say no after all - but you might have put yourself in an uncomfortable and tricky situation. | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet " You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? | |||
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"It's far more honest to walk away from a meet, although I did once escape a meet claiming I'd left something in my car (and wheelspinned outa there) " Someone did that to me once. Drove down to near Southwaite Services, we booked a hotel room, had a bit of fun when he said he'd left his phone in the car, went off to get it and text me 10 minutes later to say sorry, but he had to go. I was mortified to say the least. | |||
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"It's far more honest to walk away from a meet, although I did once escape a meet claiming I'd left something in my car (and wheelspinned outa there) " how awful and rude is this | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " No it's not rude it's never happened to me but if it did as awkward as it would be I'd say no | |||
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"It's far more honest to walk away from a meet, although I did once escape a meet claiming I'd left something in my car (and wheelspinned outa there) Someone did that to me once. Drove down to near Southwaite Services, we booked a hotel room, had a bit of fun when he said he'd left his phone in the car, went off to get it and text me 10 minutes later to say sorry, but he had to go. I was mortified to say the least. " That is awful. What a horrid person. I would just put it down to performance pressures though. Not you x | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? Not at all. And this is one of the reasons I insist on a social on neutral ground first to avoid awkesrdness. " | |||
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"It's far more honest to walk away from a meet, although I did once escape a meet claiming I'd left something in my car (and wheelspinned outa there) " I think that admission is commonly known as profile suicide | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? " yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!!" Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! That's all we guys need, a bad press! Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude " | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? Not at all. And this is one of the reasons I insist on a social on neutral ground first to avoid awkesrdness. " same here i have a simple half hr rule..chat drink n bye....if theres some attraction then the next meet will be filled with lots of fun | |||
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"Maybe camming first would help avoid such a situation" If someone mentions about us meeting up I always ask if they can cam chat on skype with me. If they say they will download it, that usually means fairly genuine to me, even the married ones have done it. So cam and/or social first much better | |||
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"Maybe camming first would help avoid such a situation If someone mentions about us meeting up I always ask if they can cam chat on skype with me. If they say they will download it, that usually means fairly genuine to me, even the married ones have done it. So cam and/or social first much better" This does prevent the old "it was only taken last year - honest!" Crap!! | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! That's all we guys need, a bad press! Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude " My point exactly! | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! That's all we guys need, a bad press! Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude My point exactly! " Thank goodness I've reached a stage in my life when I'm a man with a cock attached. Have to actually fancy someone first. It may be fairly shallow physical attraction - or, having got to know someone, it's their manner and personality that is the main turn on. Bit like saying - driven 50 miles for a shag, randy as hell - so I'll shag anyone. Must have some standards, surely? | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " Not at all...would be rude if you'd passed a paper bag over though and asked if they'd wear it! Not sure why anyone would go through with a meet with someone they weren't attracted to, and I'd want a guy to be honest with me rather than go through the motions and neither of us really have fun x | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude " i was actually saying this with my tongue firmly in my cheek, and in a hugely sarcastic manner. i'm glad too see the sense of humour is still alive and thriving on here . At the same time these threads can be a bit ridiculous that people can't make there own decisions without running it past the board/forums first use your own mind with your own standards and im sure u wont go far wrong | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude i was actually saying this with my tongue firmly in my cheek, and in a hugely sarcastic manner. i'm glad too see the sense of humour is still alive and thriving on here . At the same time these threads can be a bit ridiculous that people can't make there own decisions without running it past the board/forums first use your own mind with your own standards and im sure u wont go far wrong" could see you were having laugh. Naughty u lol. | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " Say 'is your daughter in' | |||
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"It's far more honest to walk away from a meet, although I did once escape a meet claiming I'd left something in my car (and wheelspinned outa there) Someone did that to me once. Drove down to near Southwaite Services, we booked a hotel room, had a bit of fun when he said he'd left his phone in the car, went off to get it and text me 10 minutes later to say sorry, but he had to go. I was mortified to say the least. " Something similar happened to me a few years ago, he turned up, we had a quick kiss, he told me he'd left his phone in the car and promptly disappeared, a few minutes later he text me to ask if he could pop back and I told him where to go! And it wasn't as if I hadn't sent him a pic. If I haven't got any recent pics I always say so. No use lying to people | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " Not rude at all, at least you turned up. And good on you for sticking to your principals, many guys would have just gone along with it just for a shag... | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet You're saying he should have sex with people he doesn't fancy because he worked hard to get a meet???? yeah ... why not mite as well your there arnt you!! Well, I'd hate for someone to shag me just because they had made the effort! I only want people who I find attractive and therefore would expect the same back! No wonder single males get a bad name with that attitude i was actually saying this with my tongue firmly in my cheek, and in a hugely sarcastic manner. i'm glad too see the sense of humour is still alive and thriving on here . At the same time these threads can be a bit ridiculous that people can't make there own decisions without running it past the board/forums first use your own mind with your own standards and im sure u wont go far wrong could see you were having laugh. Naughty u lol. " thanks hun, those that know me would have seen that xx | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " Meet socially first so everyone can leave with their dignity intact. I've had some lucky escapes! | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? This suggests that their pics were not as honest as they might have been. If that is the case then you should not feel guilty. They should have been more honest and not wasted your time." Have to disagree. I've met several men that have looked like their photos but they lacked the x factor. One was as charismatic as a dead fish, another had a facial tick I found unnerving, another had awful teeth, yet another rocked when he walked as one leg was shorter than the other...I could go on. Personally I want to make sure I feel comfortable and attracted to playmates hence a social meet first! | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet " Thank God some people are more discerning. I wonder if you'd "worked hard" for a meet they said they wanted bareback if you'd comply?!! | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet Thank God some people are more discerning. I wonder if you'd "worked hard" for a meet they said they wanted bareback if you'd comply?!! " He was joking! And yes I know it's a huge sin to have a sense of humour on here but hey ho lol | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? Meet socially first so everyone can leave with their dignity intact. I've had some lucky escapes! " | |||
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"dont feel guilty about it. not everyone looks like they do in their pics. least you turned up for the meet " Exactly, hopefully it will make them think twice about using old or false pictures in future. There's nowt more annoying than meeting someone like this. Christ I'm hardly a male model but at least my pics are current, can't see the point in trying to deceive someone. You might get the odd shag out of it but they ain't going to come back or give you good feedback! | |||
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"I went to someone's home once, when I got there they said I wasn't for them, but they'd make me a brew if I wanted. (I accept not everyone is attracted to each other) So I said yes ok, we sat and chatted for about an hour, when I got to the front door they jumped on me and had me stripped down in minutes. We had amazing sex (and have had on subsequent occasions too) I guess the moral of that story is that being polite and genuine (on both sides) pays off in more than one way." | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet Thank God some people are more discerning. I wonder if you'd "worked hard" for a meet they said they wanted bareback if you'd comply?!! He was joking! And yes I know it's a huge sin to have a sense of humour on here but hey ho lol " I see that's what he said, but not all of us are privy to each others sense of humour and respond to what you see! | |||
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"dont feel guilty about it. not everyone looks like they do in their pics. least you turned up for the meet Exactly, hopefully it will make them think twice about using old or false pictures in future. There's nowt more annoying than meeting someone like this. Christ I'm hardly a male model but at least my pics are current, can't see the point in trying to deceive someone. You might get the odd shag out of it but they ain't going to come back or give you good feedback!" It doesn't follow that people are always out to mislead. As I've said I've met people that look like their picture but the real them just didn't have that "something" that made me want to play with them. They didn't lie or misrepresent themselves: I just didn't fancy them. | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet Thank God some people are more discerning. I wonder if you'd "worked hard" for a meet they said they wanted bareback if you'd comply?!! He was joking! And yes I know it's a huge sin to have a sense of humour on here but hey ho lol I see that's what he said, but not all of us are privy to each others sense of humour and respond to what you see! " thats what the icons are for i thought the ones i used would have made it obvious i was kidding sorry you took it literally was meant as a joke | |||
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"just go for it anyway, mite be fun . as a single, u probably worked hard to get that far in a meet Thank God some people are more discerning. I wonder if you'd "worked hard" for a meet they said they wanted bareback if you'd comply?!! He was joking! And yes I know it's a huge sin to have a sense of humour on here but hey ho lol I see that's what he said, but not all of us are privy to each others sense of humour and respond to what you see! " We'll it would be a miserable world if we were all the same | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? " No it's not rude as long as you are polite about it. | |||
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"When you arrive at a meet in someone house. Is it rude to say no thanks when you don't physically find the other person attractive or "different" from their pics? Not at all. And this is one of the reasons I insist on a social on neutral ground first to avoid awkesrdness. Totally agree " We totally agree as wel | |||
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