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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " Couldn’t she just say hello? | |||
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"I dunno, she could…talk to people she’s interested as if they’re actual human beings. " This  | |||
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"I love BBC t-shirt " Maybe a BBC T-shirt, as in British Broadcasting Corporation - those that know, know.  Add in a cheeky wink / smile when someone catches your eye. (It seems that they are available). | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. " Beautifully put. I’m finding the OP’s concept that this is a sexy slightly-racist treasure hunt, that everyone automatically knows the rules to, hilarious and terrifying in equal order. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Beautifully put. I’m finding the OP’s concept that this is a sexy slightly-racist treasure hunt, that everyone automatically knows the rules to, hilarious and terrifying in equal order. " Ha. Brilliant! | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Beautifully put. I’m finding the OP’s concept that this is a sexy slightly-racist treasure hunt, that everyone automatically knows the rules to, hilarious and terrifying in equal order. " ------------------------------------- Well said!  | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " ----------------------------------- What does she wear to signal to white men she's available?  | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. " Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " I think a black gentlemans cum on her face would probably be a good clue  | |||
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" I think a black gentlemans cum on her face would probably be a good clue "I have never noticed a difference in cum colour. Do you think a bi man's cum is rainbow coloured ?  | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? " ------------------------------------------------------ At least the acronym recognises them as a human being rather than just a genital part, but why the need for such an acronym in the first place, it's unnecessary. More porn inspired nonsense. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? " PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? Couldn’t she just say hello?" Last weekend at a club I asked an attractive black man if he was looking to play. That approach worked successfully. | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? Couldn’t she just say hello? Last weekend at a club I asked an attractive black man if he was looking to play. That approach worked successfully. "  | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. " I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. | |||
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"PAWG is a body part it's describing a white woman that has a big arse (more focusing on her big arse)" -------------------------------------- Yes, I know what it is and wasn't implying approval, but at least the object of the fetish is referred to as a human being (girl), rather just their genitalia (cock), as in the case of BBC. It isn't rocket science to understand the difference but neither term is necessary to describe people, in my opinion. | |||
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" I think a black gentlemans cum on her face would probably be a good clue
I have never noticed a difference in cum colour. Do you think a bi man's cum is rainbow coloured ? "Lol | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term." I think that that leans towards it being fetish then if it’s kept solely for Fab | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " An ankle bracelet with Q.O.S charms will definitely work xx | |||
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"Maybe approach us black men like human beings, we're more then just sex objects to you folks" The better ones of us already know that and do not get this objectifying!!!!lol  | |||
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"PAWG is a body part it's describing a white woman that has a big arse (more focusing on her big arse) -------------------------------------- Yes, I know what it is and wasn't implying approval, but at least the object of the fetish is referred to as a human being (girl), rather just their genitalia (cock), as in the case of BBC. It isn't rocket science to understand the difference but neither term is necessary to describe people, in my opinion." Firstly, Don't be cheeky you're not speaking to an idiot. If you want to reply to my comment then reply properly or not at all. Secondly both BBC and PAWG in my opinion is focusing on a body part just because one acronym includes gender makes no difference in my opinion. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term." ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC? | |||
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" both BBC and PAWG in my opinion is focusing on a body part just because one acronym includes gender makes no difference in my opinion. " Any gender can have a phat ass but not all genders can have a cock (of any size or colour) | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. " PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " A placard? | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?" Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " The same things she'd wear to signal she's interested in any cock.... | |||
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? The same things she'd wear to signal she's interested in any cock.... "Good answer! | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x" -------------------------------------------------------- Because it's a term which appears to have popular acceptance used to describe a group of people based on perceived attributes they possess as a community rather than as individuals. | |||
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"I dunno, she could…talk to people she’s interested as if they’re actual human beings. " That's not how porn goes so idiots like their post wouldn't know what a human being was. As if any black dick is fine or any black guy would want them. Sometimes you just wish you could disperse......... On people like them. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. The fact you think all black guys have big dicks is stereotypical.. the fact you don't know what is stereotypical is stereotypical Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x" | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x -------------------------------------------------------- Because it's a term which appears to have popular acceptance used to describe a group of people based on perceived attributes they possess as a community rather than as individuals." That may be the case if people said ALL black guys have big cocks but that's not the case is it. They are not saying all black guys have big socks when they are looking for BBC on here. They are simply stating a preference. When this is used its 'short hand' for their preferences. They want to meet a guy, hence cock. They find black guys attractive and obviously this relates to the black part of the acronym. The big is exactly as it says, they want a guy with a larger cock. It's all three elements that are required. They are not saying that because a person belongs to a particular race that they 'automatically' fit the criteria because they don't. All guys come in different shapes and sizes, so big some small. The people with these preferences are just looking for the bigger boys. As for the sexulisation of a person, we are all on a sex site. We are all 'srxually objectifying' each other. It's no different from guys contacting me because I'm blonde, curvy, older, younger(not so much nowadays). I've been called lots of things, bbw, cougar, milf, gilf even had one guy say I had a Mom Bod. Do I feel outrage at guys 'labelling' me, no I don't. If I'm doing it correctly my profile should attract sexual objectification. Anyone who posts a pic is doing so to attract the attention of suitable partner and on here it's to have sex, in the main. As for the term PAWG being less dehumanising I don't agree. The letter G is only there to distinguish the owner of the Phat Ass (White) actually belongs to a female, it could actually belong to a male. So the term BBC is the same because a Cock is normally only found on a guy and this would normally qualify it's owners gender without stating it. Unlike Asses which everyone has. So like Cougar, Dilf, Milf, BBW etc such terms on a sex site relate to certain preferences. They don't apply to everyone because of the subjective nature of attraction. You have to fit the bill in the eye of the beholder still and that's why I don't believe it's stereotypical. Each to their own. Mrs x | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x -------------------------------------------------------- Because it's a term which appears to have popular acceptance used to describe a group of people based on perceived attributes they possess as a community rather than as individuals. That may be the case if people said ALL black guys have big cocks but that's not the case is it. They are not saying all black guys have big socks when they are looking for BBC on here. They are simply stating a preference. When this is used its 'short hand' for their preferences. They want to meet a guy, hence cock. They find black guys attractive and obviously this relates to the black part of the acronym. The big is exactly as it says, they want a guy with a larger cock. It's all three elements that are required. They are not saying that because a person belongs to a particular race that they 'automatically' fit the criteria because they don't. All guys come in different shapes and sizes, so big some small. The people with these preferences are just looking for the bigger boys. As for the sexulisation of a person, we are all on a sex site. We are all 'srxually objectifying' each other. It's no different from guys contacting me because I'm blonde, curvy, older, younger(not so much nowadays). I've been called lots of things, bbw, cougar, milf, gilf even had one guy say I had a Mom Bod. Do I feel outrage at guys 'labelling' me, no I don't. If I'm doing it correctly my profile should attract sexual objectification. Anyone who posts a pic is doing so to attract the attention of suitable partner and on here it's to have sex, in the main. As for the term PAWG being less dehumanising I don't agree. The letter G is only there to distinguish the owner of the Phat Ass (White) actually belongs to a female, it could actually belong to a male. So the term BBC is the same because a Cock is normally only found on a guy and this would normally qualify it's owners gender without stating it. Unlike Asses which everyone has. So like Cougar, Dilf, Milf, BBW etc such terms on a sex site relate to certain preferences. They don't apply to everyone because of the subjective nature of attraction. You have to fit the bill in the eye of the beholder still and that's why I don't believe it's stereotypical. Each to their own. Mrs x " I couldn't have said it better myself | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?" I know all about being stereotyped. I do not equate stereotypical views of all black men being criminals, uneducated and only thinking with our dick with fantasy this is a sex site which I use for escapism, why I do not take the term BBC/PAWG seriously. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC? I know all about being stereotyped. I do not equate stereotypical views of all black men being criminals, uneducated and only thinking with our dick with fantasy this is a sex site which I use for escapism, why I do not take the term BBC/PAWG seriously." -------------------- Of course that's fine, you think how you want to think or be regarded. The issue is less enlightened individuals buy into these facile tropes which influences their view of that community generally. For my own part I'm married to a black man and have black adult children, I've witnessed (for years) how they're (the black community) trivialised and stereotyped because it's easier for some white people to think that way rather than dealing with them as individuals. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x -------------------------------------------------------- Because it's a term which appears to have popular acceptance used to describe a group of people based on perceived attributes they possess as a community rather than as individuals. That may be the case if people said ALL black guys have big cocks but that's not the case is it. They are not saying all black guys have big socks when they are looking for BBC on here. They are simply stating a preference. When this is used its 'short hand' for their preferences. They want to meet a guy, hence cock. They find black guys attractive and obviously this relates to the black part of the acronym. The big is exactly as it says, they want a guy with a larger cock. It's all three elements that are required. They are not saying that because a person belongs to a particular race that they 'automatically' fit the criteria because they don't. All guys come in different shapes and sizes, so big some small. The people with these preferences are just looking for the bigger boys. As for the sexulisation of a person, we are all on a sex site. We are all 'srxually objectifying' each other. It's no different from guys contacting me because I'm blonde, curvy, older, younger(not so much nowadays). I've been called lots of things, bbw, cougar, milf, gilf even had one guy say I had a Mom Bod. Do I feel outrage at guys 'labelling' me, no I don't. If I'm doing it correctly my profile should attract sexual objectification. Anyone who posts a pic is doing so to attract the attention of suitable partner and on here it's to have sex, in the main. As for the term PAWG being less dehumanising I don't agree. The letter G is only there to distinguish the owner of the Phat Ass (White) actually belongs to a female, it could actually belong to a male. So the term BBC is the same because a Cock is normally only found on a guy and this would normally qualify it's owners gender without stating it. Unlike Asses which everyone has. So like Cougar, Dilf, Milf, BBW etc such terms on a sex site relate to certain preferences. They don't apply to everyone because of the subjective nature of attraction. You have to fit the bill in the eye of the beholder still and that's why I don't believe it's stereotypical. Each to their own. Mrs x " ----------------------- Interesting perspective. So if someone's seeking a liaison with a black male who has a large penis why not simply ask for that rather than referring to a human being as a 'BBC' which we see so often here? | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x" It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference | |||
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" ----------------------- Interesting perspective. So if someone's seeking a liaison with a black male who has a large penis why not simply ask for that rather than referring to a human being as a 'BBC' which we see so often here? " That’s what I do. All the men I’ve been attracted to for a while are black, so that’s who I’m looking for. Seperately I only enjoy large penises. The 2 aren’t connected. In my whole type on Fab I’ve never used racial fetish language on my profile or in the play I’ve had and I’ve managed quite well without it
For me, there are so many people who make clear that they don’t like the use of those terms, that anyone using them must be doing so on purpose, knowing the consequences, because it’s so easy not to. So the choice to use them is deliberate, which I assume is linked to fetish. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference " So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x" Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. I'm not offended by the term for me it's a bit of fun and not to be taken seriously. If I was on a dating site I wouldn't use the term. ----------------------------------------- You can absolutely like what you like, but the issue here is that stereotypical attitudes towards race still pervade, people look at a person's skin colour and make judgements about that individual's personal qualities eg black men have big cocks and a certain prowess in the bedroom. There are other well known stereotypical views about black men that those black men who embrace the BBC acronym might find distasteful and offensive. Don't you think it's about time stereotypical views about any community of people were dismantled? Like you said you wouldn't use the term BBC on a dating site, so how would you feel if a white woman approached you and said she wanted to date a BBC?Why is it stereotypical? Mrs x -------------------------------------------------------- Because it's a term which appears to have popular acceptance used to describe a group of people based on perceived attributes they possess as a community rather than as individuals. That may be the case if people said ALL black guys have big cocks but that's not the case is it. They are not saying all black guys have big socks when they are looking for BBC on here. They are simply stating a preference. When this is used its 'short hand' for their preferences. They want to meet a guy, hence cock. They find black guys attractive and obviously this relates to the black part of the acronym. The big is exactly as it says, they want a guy with a larger cock. It's all three elements that are required. They are not saying that because a person belongs to a particular race that they 'automatically' fit the criteria because they don't. All guys come in different shapes and sizes, so big some small. The people with these preferences are just looking for the bigger boys. As for the sexulisation of a person, we are all on a sex site. We are all 'srxually objectifying' each other. It's no different from guys contacting me because I'm blonde, curvy, older, younger(not so much nowadays). I've been called lots of things, bbw, cougar, milf, gilf even had one guy say I had a Mom Bod. Do I feel outrage at guys 'labelling' me, no I don't. If I'm doing it correctly my profile should attract sexual objectification. Anyone who posts a pic is doing so to attract the attention of suitable partner and on here it's to have sex, in the main. As for the term PAWG being less dehumanising I don't agree. The letter G is only there to distinguish the owner of the Phat Ass (White) actually belongs to a female, it could actually belong to a male. So the term BBC is the same because a Cock is normally only found on a guy and this would normally qualify it's owners gender without stating it. Unlike Asses which everyone has. So like Cougar, Dilf, Milf, BBW etc such terms on a sex site relate to certain preferences. They don't apply to everyone because of the subjective nature of attraction. You have to fit the bill in the eye of the beholder still and that's why I don't believe it's stereotypical. Each to their own. Mrs x ----------------------- Interesting perspective. So if someone's seeking a liaison with a black male who has a large penis why not simply ask for that rather than referring to a human being as a 'BBC' which we see so often here? " So if I say I want to meet a Black man, with a Big, Cock, that would be better then? Even though I said that all the elements had to be met for me to consider meeting them. I'm not saying I'll meet all black men because I assume they all have the necessary things I'm looking for, because not all black guys do. I would never use the term anywhere else, but on a sex site, where I've been contacted by hundreds of guys describing themselves as BBC I just regard it as a preference, with no racial prejudice. Mrs x | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. " Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x | |||
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" I would never use the term anywhere else, but on a sex site, where I've been contacted by hundreds of guys describing themselves as BBC I just regard it as a preference, with no racial prejudice. Mrs x " What this has the potential to miss is how these terms are historically racist - and continuing to use them, however benignly - has the effect of keeping them in everyone’s consciousness and allowing their offensive misuse by some. I would sooner not be complicit in keeping these terms alive if there is another way to express a preference. | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x" I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid it | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid it" Yet you have on your profile BLACK MEN ONLY, in caps. You say you don't use racial terms but that's by definition racial, considering you are a white woman looking for black guys. According to your argument why state a preference when you could just filter out prospective meets yourself, still getting what you want without referencing anything to race? You do this because you have a preference for black guys, and that's OK. It's OK to say you want to meet black guys but don't think it's not racial terms you are using, because you are. You say you don't like fetish type behaviour and language. But you sound like you do have a fetish, Negrophilia. I didn't know what it was but a quick search online shows this up when you have a liking for black people. I'm not saying you are wrong, quite the opposite, I just think you should be able to meet whomever you want without virtue signallers looking down their nose at you for your desires. So long as it's between consenting adults you should be able to meet who you want. As for fetishes, isn't this the kind of site where that should be acceptable? Feet, hair, height, age, size, everyone has something that could be seen as a fetish and that should be acceptable on here. If I said I'm looking for someone with a big, black cock, would that be OK? So if you don't like something, about anyone, then just move on. Don't think you are you are better, more politically correct just because you use long hand to seek out something that someone uses acronyms for. Mrs x | |||
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"I do not even find the term QoS offensive but that's just me, I am not that sensitive "So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then?" That's a good question. " As to your earlier question I don't think it's racist to use tge phrase PAWG. Do you think asking for BBC is racist? Mrs x | |||
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"I do not even find the term QoS offensive but that's just me, I am not that sensitive "So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then?" That's a good question. As to your earlier question I don't think it's racist to use tge phrase PAWG. Do you think asking for BBC is racist? Mrs x" Speaking as a black man I do not think using the term or asking for BBC is racist. | |||
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"I do not even find the term QoS offensive but that's just me, I am not that sensitive "So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then?" That's a good question. As to your earlier question I don't think it's racist to use tge phrase PAWG. Do you think asking for BBC is racist? Mrs x Speaking as a black man I do not think using the term or asking for BBC is racist. " Thanks very much for that, Mrs x | |||
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"I do not even find the term QoS offensive but that's just me, I am not that sensitive "So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then?" That's a good question. As to your earlier question I don't think it's racist to use tge phrase PAWG. Do you think asking for BBC is racist? Mrs x Speaking as a black man I do not think using the term or asking for BBC is racist. Thanks very much for that, Mrs x" You're welcome. It's funny no one finds the term VWE offensive. From the comments above by definition this term should also be included too. | |||
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 As said many times, people have their own preference and ways of stating said preference. Personally it is each to their own, it ain't fair to bully someone over their preferences..I don't like bullies obviously..however, this is a sex site and what people post on their profile bio,is upto them. Don't like it, then move along as someone else said previously! Acronyms get used everywhere by every type of person, it's just the way to describe things. No point bitching at each other for it! Play nice | |||
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"I do not even find the term QoS offensive but that's just me, I am not that sensitive "So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then?" That's a good question. As to your earlier question I don't think it's racist to use tge phrase PAWG. Do you think asking for BBC is racist? Mrs x Speaking as a black man I do not think using the term or asking for BBC is racist. Thanks very much for that, Mrs x You're welcome. It's funny no one finds the term VWE offensive. From the comments above by definition this term should also be included too." It's all just shorthand, used to find others who match your preferences. I've had a black tell me my preference to meet black guys were rooted in Colonialist racism. This from a guy with a white partner. Yet he had no issues with this, and yes it's perfectly fine but he couldn't see the irony in the situation. Mrs x | |||
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"So much contradiction on this thread As said many times, people have their own preference and ways of stating said preference. Personally it is each to their own, it ain't fair to bully someone over their preferences..I don't like bullies obviously..however, this is a sex site and what people post on their profile bio,is upto them. Don't like it, then move along as someone else said previously! Acronyms get used everywhere by every type of person, it's just the way to describe things. No point bitching at each other for it! Play nice "You said it much better than me, Mrs c | |||
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"How is VWE offensive? It’s not making any assumptions based on membership of any perceived group, it’s just a description based on relative understanding across male anatomy. If the W stood for white, you’d be bang on, but it doesn’t. The thing about BBC is that it historically came about from the assumption that all black guys have enormous penises. That is a racist assumption and demonstratively untrue. Whilst it may be used in a more descriptive way now, that doesn’t change history. These arguments are just getting daft now! " But you'd have to be incredibly niave to believe all black guys are well endowed. If that was the case you could drop one B and just ask for black guys, if that were true. Mrs x | |||
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"How is VWE offensive? It’s not making any assumptions based on membership of any perceived group, it’s just a description based on relative understanding across male anatomy. If the W stood for white, you’d be bang on, but it doesn’t. The thing about BBC is that it historically came about from the assumption that all black guys have enormous penises. That is a racist assumption and demonstratively untrue. Whilst it may be used in a more descriptive way now, that doesn’t change history. These arguments are just getting daft now! But you'd have to be incredibly niave to believe all black guys are well endowed. If that was the case you could drop one B and just ask for black guys, if that were true. Mrs x" You’re not wrong. There’s nothing wrong with having a preference, but I would sooner express mine with a much lower risk of causing offence. | |||
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"I love reading forums! It’s amazing how many people there are out there just posting to generate an argument- never mind what the original topic was about! This is my personal opinion and I’m entitled to it- if you agree - then that’s fine- if you don’t- you are entitled to have your own opinions! But…. In my opinion…. You can all go and FUCK YOURSELVES!!!
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"My wife and I are keen to for her to signal to black men that’s she’s available. What should she wear? An anklet? " . If convenient / practical look for parties / events like BMFC , Team Player , or any other Black male theme nite.Attend the event and any guy you like the look off approach them and chat the general club night chat like have you been here before , what other clubs have you been too.Then ask the guy the question that Sally Slinky asked Are you looking to play. | |||
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"How is VWE offensive? It’s not making any assumptions based on membership of any perceived group, it’s just a description based on relative understanding across male anatomy. If the W stood for white, you’d be bang on, but it doesn’t. The thing about BBC is that it historically came about from the assumption that all black guys have enormous penises. That is a racist assumption and demonstratively untrue. Whilst it may be used in a more descriptive way now, that doesn’t change history. These arguments are just getting daft now! " Because you're reducing that person to their anatomy (breast, arse or dick) and forgetting that they're more than that as was stated previously. | |||
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"How is VWE offensive? It’s not making any assumptions based on membership of any perceived group, it’s just a description based on relative understanding across male anatomy. If the W stood for white, you’d be bang on, but it doesn’t. The thing about BBC is that it historically came about from the assumption that all black guys have enormous penises. That is a racist assumption and demonstratively untrue. Whilst it may be used in a more descriptive way now, that doesn’t change history. These arguments are just getting daft now! Because you're reducing that person to their anatomy (breast, arse or dick) and forgetting that they're more than that as was stated previously. " No. | |||
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"How is VWE offensive? It’s not making any assumptions based on membership of any perceived group, it’s just a description based on relative understanding across male anatomy. If the W stood for white, you’d be bang on, but it doesn’t. The thing about BBC is that it historically came about from the assumption that all black guys have enormous penises. That is a racist assumption and demonstratively untrue. Whilst it may be used in a more descriptive way now, that doesn’t change history. These arguments are just getting daft now! Because you're reducing that person to their anatomy (breast, arse or dick) and forgetting that they're more than that as was stated previously. No. " | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid itYet you have on your profile BLACK MEN ONLY, in caps. You say you don't use racial terms but that's by definition racial, considering you are a white woman looking for black guys. According to your argument why state a preference when you could just filter out prospective meets yourself, still getting what you want without referencing anything to race? You do this because you have a preference for black guys, and that's OK. It's OK to say you want to meet black guys but don't think it's not racial terms you are using, because you are. You say you don't like fetish type behaviour and language. But you sound like you do have a fetish, Negrophilia. I didn't know what it was but a quick search online shows this up when you have a liking for black people. I'm not saying you are wrong, quite the opposite, I just think you should be able to meet whomever you want without virtue signallers looking down their nose at you for your desires. So long as it's between consenting adults you should be able to meet who you want. As for fetishes, isn't this the kind of site where that should be acceptable? Feet, hair, height, age, size, everyone has something that could be seen as a fetish and that should be acceptable on here. If I said I'm looking for someone with a big, black cock, would that be OK? So if you don't like something, about anyone, then just move on. Don't think you are you are better, more politically correct just because you use long hand to seek out something that someone uses acronyms for. Mrs x" I’ve never met a black person who is offended at being called black. But if I do I’ll rethink how I write what I’m looking for, because I’m nice and respectful like that
I’ve never suggested anyone shouldn’t seek what they want, I’ve just said I don’t use language that is offensive to some people. There’s so much more to it that short hand and acronyms.
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid itYet you have on your profile BLACK MEN ONLY, in caps. You say you don't use racial terms but that's by definition racial, considering you are a white woman looking for black guys. According to your argument why state a preference when you could just filter out prospective meets yourself, still getting what you want without referencing anything to race? You do this because you have a preference for black guys, and that's OK. It's OK to say you want to meet black guys but don't think it's not racial terms you are using, because you are. You say you don't like fetish type behaviour and language. But you sound like you do have a fetish, Negrophilia. I didn't know what it was but a quick search online shows this up when you have a liking for black people. I'm not saying you are wrong, quite the opposite, I just think you should be able to meet whomever you want without virtue signallers looking down their nose at you for your desires. So long as it's between consenting adults you should be able to meet who you want. As for fetishes, isn't this the kind of site where that should be acceptable? Feet, hair, height, age, size, everyone has something that could be seen as a fetish and that should be acceptable on here. If I said I'm looking for someone with a big, black cock, would that be OK? So if you don't like something, about anyone, then just move on. Don't think you are you are better, more politically correct just because you use long hand to seek out something that someone uses acronyms for. Mrs x I’ve never met a black person who is offended at being called black. But if I do I’ll rethink how I write what I’m looking for, because I’m nice and respectful like that
I’ve never suggested anyone shouldn’t seek what they want, I’ve just said I don’t use language that is offensive to some people. There’s so much more to it that short hand and acronyms.
But you do you. "This has been a really interesting thread. I'm a black woman and therefore can't speak on behalf of black men. However reading comments about their cocks as if they are just toys, is really gross. I appreciate there are black men who have no problem with it but when white men message men and refer to my colour (eg I've never been with a black woman or let me eat your black please use your imagination!) I ignore them, I'm not some sort of attraction piece. The only reason I point out my skin colour, is for those who are not interested in being with someone like me or if they are racist, similar reason to why I reference my size. Just be more mindful when referencing people who are non white, yes this is a sex site but we are people with people with feelings and are not here to be used. Really glad and thankful for those of you have stated why it's wrong! | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid itYet you have on your profile BLACK MEN ONLY, in caps. You say you don't use racial terms but that's by definition racial, considering you are a white woman looking for black guys. According to your argument why state a preference when you could just filter out prospective meets yourself, still getting what you want without referencing anything to race? You do this because you have a preference for black guys, and that's OK. It's OK to say you want to meet black guys but don't think it's not racial terms you are using, because you are. You say you don't like fetish type behaviour and language. But you sound like you do have a fetish, Negrophilia. I didn't know what it was but a quick search online shows this up when you have a liking for black people. I'm not saying you are wrong, quite the opposite, I just think you should be able to meet whomever you want without virtue signallers looking down their nose at you for your desires. So long as it's between consenting adults you should be able to meet who you want. As for fetishes, isn't this the kind of site where that should be acceptable? Feet, hair, height, age, size, everyone has something that could be seen as a fetish and that should be acceptable on here. If I said I'm looking for someone with a big, black cock, would that be OK? So if you don't like something, about anyone, then just move on. Don't think you are you are better, more politically correct just because you use long hand to seek out something that someone uses acronyms for. Mrs x I’ve never met a black person who is offended at being called black. But if I do I’ll rethink how I write what I’m looking for, because I’m nice and respectful like that
I’ve never suggested anyone shouldn’t seek what they want, I’ve just said I don’t use language that is offensive to some people. There’s so much more to it that short hand and acronyms.
But you do you.
This has been a really interesting thread. I'm a black woman and therefore can't speak on behalf of black men. However reading comments about their cocks as if they are just toys, is really gross. I appreciate there are black men who have no problem with it but when white men message men and refer to my colour (eg I've never been with a black woman or let me eat your black please use your imagination!) I ignore them, I'm not some sort of attraction piece. The only reason I point out my skin colour, is for those who are not interested in being with someone like me or if they are racist, similar reason to why I reference my size. Just be more mindful when referencing people who are non white, yes this is a sex site but we are people with people with feelings and are not here to be used. Really glad and thankful for those of you have stated why it's wrong! "One more thing! There is nothing wrong in having a preference but just be mindful of how you express it. | |||
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"This has been a really interesting thread. I'm a black woman and therefore can't speak on behalf of black men. However reading comments about their cocks as if they are just toys, is really gross. I appreciate there are black men who have no problem with it but when white men message men and refer to my colour (eg I've never been with a black woman or let me eat your black please use your imagination!) I ignore them, I'm not some sort of attraction piece. The only reason I point out my skin colour, is for those who are not interested in being with someone like me or if they are racist, similar reason to why I reference my size. Just be more mindful when referencing people who are non white, yes this is a sex site but we are people with people with feelings and are not here to be used. Really glad and thankful for those of you have stated why it's wrong! "Absolutely love this! Hats off to you and very well said xx | |||
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"This has been a really interesting thread. I'm a black woman and therefore can't speak on behalf of black men. However reading comments about their cocks as if they are just toys, is really gross. I appreciate there are black men who have no problem with it but when white men message men and refer to my colour (eg I've never been with a black woman or let me eat your black please use your imagination!) I ignore them, I'm not some sort of attraction piece. The only reason I point out my skin colour, is for those who are not interested in being with someone like me or if they are racist, similar reason to why I reference my size. Just be more mindful when referencing people who are non white, yes this is a sex site but we are people with people with feelings and are not here to be used. Really glad and thankful for those of you have stated why it's wrong!
Absolutely love this! Hats off to you and very well said xx"Thank you very much, this is really appreciated! xx | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid itYet you have on your profile BLACK MEN ONLY, in caps. You say you don't use racial terms but that's by definition racial, considering you are a white woman looking for black guys. According to your argument why state a preference when you could just filter out prospective meets yourself, still getting what you want without referencing anything to race? You do this because you have a preference for black guys, and that's OK. It's OK to say you want to meet black guys but don't think it's not racial terms you are using, because you are. You say you don't like fetish type behaviour and language. But you sound like you do have a fetish, Negrophilia. I didn't know what it was but a quick search online shows this up when you have a liking for black people. I'm not saying you are wrong, quite the opposite, I just think you should be able to meet whomever you want without virtue signallers looking down their nose at you for your desires. So long as it's between consenting adults you should be able to meet who you want. As for fetishes, isn't this the kind of site where that should be acceptable? Feet, hair, height, age, size, everyone has something that could be seen as a fetish and that should be acceptable on here. If I said I'm looking for someone with a big, black cock, would that be OK? So if you don't like something, about anyone, then just move on. Don't think you are you are better, more politically correct just because you use long hand to seek out something that someone uses acronyms for. Mrs x I’ve never met a black person who is offended at being called black. But if I do I’ll rethink how I write what I’m looking for, because I’m nice and respectful like that
I’ve never suggested anyone shouldn’t seek what they want, I’ve just said I don’t use language that is offensive to some people. There’s so much more to it that short hand and acronyms.
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This has been a really interesting thread. I'm a black woman and therefore can't speak on behalf of black men. However reading comments about their cocks as if they are just toys, is really gross. I appreciate there are black men who have no problem with it but when white men message men and refer to my colour (eg I've never been with a black woman or let me eat your black please use your imagination!) I ignore them, I'm not some sort of attraction piece. The only reason I point out my skin colour, is for those who are not interested in being with someone like me or if they are racist, similar reason to why I reference my size. Just be more mindful when referencing people who are non white, yes this is a sex site but we are people with people with feelings and are not here to be used. Really glad and thankful for those of you have stated why it's wrong! "It's quite sad that people still do this and most still don't care about the feelings of others. It takes those standing up blocking and reporting them.the sure bans discussion of money or abuse yet think racist fetishism is ok | |||
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"If she simply wants a cock, get a dildo. If she wants sex with a human being, you need to start thinking about sex partners as people. Talk to people, find rapport, have a great time, be respectful. Or she could just get a “queen of spades” tattoo and people will assume she’s racist and can choose to avoid her accordingly. Am I being racist and am I fetishising white women because I find white wommen sexually appealing and use the acronym PAWG ? PAWG is an acronym for a person, whereas BBC is a body part, so I think there’s a subtle difference in their use. But I do think that if you’re usually racial terms to describe people in a sexual way it strays toward fetish, personally. The whole BBC/QoS thing is very divisive. You clearly don’t mind the term, but I’m sure you know a lot of people find it offensive if used a certain way. There must be 100 threads about it. PAWG is an acronym for a body part, the A stands for ass. Mrs x It’s a person with a body part because of the G, so for me there’s a subtle difference So would sticking an M at the end of BBC make it better then? Mrs x Maybe. I also think asking for a man with a bbc is better too. I just think the the term bbc gets used to describe every black man on the scene and I think it’s a bit unpleasant. I think QoS is the worst though. Just semantics now. Asking for a man is irrelevant when saying BBC. This is because a Cock comes with a man, you don't have to state it, it's already known you want a man. Mrs x I’ve just paid attention to the feedback by lots of black people on here that have explained why they find it offensive. As a white woman I don’t have their perspective, but having listened, I see the point, I agree and I’m with them. Like I said above, there are lots of ways to describe what you want and are looking for without using language that offends. The subtle differences make a a lot of difference to some people and it’s very very easy to avoid itYet you have on your profile BLACK MEN ONLY, in caps. You say you don't use racial terms but that's by definition racial, considering you are a white woman looking for black guys. According to your argument why state a preference when you could just filter out prospective meets yourself, still getting what you want without referencing anything to race? You do this because you have a preference for black guys, and that's OK. It's OK to say you want to meet black guys but don't think it's not racial terms you are using, because you are. You say you don't like fetish type behaviour and language. But you sound like you do have a fetish, Negrophilia. I didn't know what it was but a quick search online shows this up when you have a liking for black people. I'm not saying you are wrong, quite the opposite, I just think you should be able to meet whomever you want without virtue signallers looking down their nose at you for your desires. So long as it's between consenting adults you should be able to meet who you want. As for fetishes, isn't this the kind of site where that should be acceptable? Feet, hair, height, age, size, everyone has something that could be seen as a fetish and that should be acceptable on here. If I said I'm looking for someone with a big, black cock, would that be OK? So if you don't like something, about anyone, then just move on. Don't think you are you are better, more politically correct just because you use long hand to seek out something that someone uses acronyms for. Mrs x I’ve never met a black person who is offended at being called black. But if I do I’ll rethink how I write what I’m looking for, because I’m nice and respectful like that
I’ve never suggested anyone shouldn’t seek what they want, I’ve just said I don’t use language that is offensive to some people. There’s so much more to it that short hand and acronyms.
But you do you.
This has been a really interesting thread. I'm a black woman and therefore can't speak on behalf of black men. However reading comments about their cocks as if they are just toys, is really gross. I appreciate there are black men who have no problem with it but when white men message men and refer to my colour (eg I've never been with a black woman or let me eat your black please use your imagination!) I ignore them, I'm not some sort of attraction piece. The only reason I point out my skin colour, is for those who are not interested in being with someone like me or if they are racist, similar reason to why I reference my size. Just be more mindful when referencing people who are non white, yes this is a sex site but we are people with people with feelings and are not here to be used. Really glad and thankful for those of you have stated why it's wrong!
It's quite sad that people still do this and most still don't care about the feelings of others. It takes those standing up blocking and reporting them.the sure bans discussion of money or abuse yet think racist fetishism is ok
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"Alot of offended white people on here commenting lol typical. What a weird take. You don’t have to be directly affected to want to be a decent human and do the right thing, whatever that is. Then don't you maybe think you are commenting on something that in reality you have no experience with. Making it less plausible for it to be the right thing and more about virtue signalling. This post is for black men to express their opinions for and against said topics they are the ones that experience. " ----------------- ....and yet here you are, offering an opinion just like the rest of us, as you're perfectly entitled to do in a forum environment. | |||
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