FabSwingers.com forum: This sites impossible

By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

Been on here a few weeks now teying to connect with women and can barely get a message back ino women like us to be verified but how can i if i cant even get a reply any tips for me as im lost right now ????

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By *mmaleiaWoman
2 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

Your profile says nothing about who you are, you relying on your looks alone?

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

You've been on here 4 weeks.

When I get a message I look at the profile see if we are compatible (in stealth mode) if there's nothing to go by on said profile I won't waste my time replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

More on your bio as there is basically nothing , less cock pics on profile . Get into the chat rooms and make friends in there , easiest way to get member verified

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By *enital_mAnMan
2 weeks ago

nottinghamshire

Say more, less purple headed yoghurt slinger

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If your profile says nothing, your message needs to be super interesting and engaging. And even then many won't even read a message coming from a profile that doesn't interest them.

What kind of messages are you sending OP?

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

Your not alone OP. Threads like this one are one of the most common themes on fab.

There's a lot of men so the standard for for getting, and keeping, peoples attention are pretty high.

Having a complete profile is step one.

Understanding that messaging in and of it self is almost certainly the least probable way to make a connection until you are quite well established is step two.

Step three is finding and attending social events and clubs.

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By *punk n gushCouple
2 weeks ago

Walmer,

Excatly as others have said put more about you as that's what women look at we personally just ignore profiles if there's nothing about the person

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

4 weeks you've been on here OP which is nothing....its not #instashag.

If you are just sending the generic "hi how are you" messages then I can guarantee most will be ignored.

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it but maybe start there.

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By *carlettxStaxCouple
2 weeks ago

Nottingham

Get yourself along to social events and clubs

I happen to know of an event where single guys are in demand

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By *allandathleticMan
2 weeks ago

Asgard

If your here to get some quick kitty kat. Then yes it is.

If however your here to make friends, flirt, have some suggestive conversations. Then no.

It is what you make of it.

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By *radleywigginsMan
2 weeks ago

northwest

How difficult do you think it must be for all the guys that aren’t horse cocked super model Olympian love islands like you?

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"How difficult do you think it must be for all the guys that aren’t horse cocked super model Olympian love islands like you?"

Well of course that's where your going wrong because women only meet greek gods

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

A few weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is cheeky

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By *d4fun73Man
2 weeks ago

Shipley

"Been on here a few weeks now teying to connect with women and can barely get a message back ino women like us to be verified but how can i if i cant even get a reply any tips for me as im lost right now ????"

Write coherently might help!

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By *lixiroflifeMan
2 weeks ago

Rawtenstall

My initial takeaway was the same. But it's all on how you approach it

I think if you come on here expecting, you're in for disappointment

If you're happy and content to put the effort in, like you would in any other walk of life, you'll enjoy it more

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By *riel13Woman
2 weeks ago

Northampton

Only message people that are definitely attracted to you... Sorted!

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

There's nothing on your profile that would attract us to you. Your photos are 'ok'

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Oh, and, smile when you take a photo

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

Any advice on my profike woukd be apprecaited help a man out ??

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"Did you miss initiation day ?

That's where all the women line up and you pop each one of them and they all do you one fucking humongous verification.

They are desperate the women on here.

They are dying for you

Have you tried gay ?

Made me chortle!

Fab - No place for the faint hearted!

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By *r PantyMan
2 weeks ago

Morpeth

It's a buyers market bonny lad and unfortunately you are the one who is trying to sell something so you need to up your game, get yourself decent profile for a starter and after that you need to have patience and lots of it.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it but maybe start there."

Yes you can, it's in the rules.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

Will. Try a few socials or meet a woman for a coffee who wants a verification too.

All the very has to say is they are who they say they are...... you don't have to say you banged all night x

Good luck xx

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

Olease let me no but ive never done a social and would be shitting my self to attend alone ??

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

I aint no horse cock love island ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"It's a buyers market bonny lad and unfortunately you are the one who is trying to sell something so you need to up your game, get yourself decent profile for a starter and after that you need to have patience and lots of it."

A market?

Meat one of course?

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

And how do you no that with out talking ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"I aint no horse cock love island ??????"

Will , Click on quote on reply and quote and everyone can see who it is you are replying to.

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By *lixiroflifeMan
2 weeks ago

Rawtenstall

Also

"This site's impossible"

Probably approaching it not as a game might be of benefit?

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By *allandathleticMan
2 weeks ago

Asgard

"I aint no horse cock love island ??????"

I am

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By *enital_mAnMan
2 weeks ago

nottinghamshire

I can’t even…..I’m out

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Don’t you go to a disco and shake your booty and chat girls up?

Is that a thing of the past?

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

One tip op, try smiling on some of your pics if poss.

Also actually write a bit about yourself, what you're into and seeking.

I like most women look at a profile, before the message. If it's bland or just one/two lines, I'll delete it without reading the message.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort.

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it but maybe start there.

Yes you can, it's in the rules. "

You only can if asked...otherwise it can land you on the naughty step

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By *allandathleticMan
2 weeks ago

Asgard

The ladies missed the check box upon signing up.

Leave your knickers at the door and fuck the first man who messages you.

Disappointing isn't it? Almost as disappointing as I am in bed.

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By *ammitlizzieCouple
2 weeks ago

Sutton

Op, this is a swinging site. There are other sites and apps for singles trying to find women.

If I was a single guy I wouldnt be on this site. I would be out talking to women in average nightclubs. That was 10 times more successful at getting me laid in the past than being on this site.

You could go to a lifestyle club and just talk and enjoy the atmostphere. You might get a bit further that way but the truth is, about 75% of people here are interested in other couples or women.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Any advice on my profike woukd be apprecaited help a man out ??"

OP has asked for advice on his profile (I assume that’s what he means) here?

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By *d4fun73Man
2 weeks ago

Shipley

"Olease let me no but ive never done a social and would be shitting my self to attend alone ??"

Take your mum with you! Or grow some

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By *riel13Woman
2 weeks ago

Northampton

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

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He hasn't learned to repy and quote yet. He'll get there im sure ( maybe halfy halfy sure )

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By *riel13Woman
2 weeks ago

Northampton

Please keep it to the forum OP... I don't need to interact with anyone that I don't find attractive... My initial response was only mildly sarcastic

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort."
thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
2 weeks ago

Chester

Verifications don’t mean as much as you think. A good, detailed profile, with some nice photos (give us a smile) will be a better start. And as everyone’s said, manage your expectations and get to a social event or a club.

(Smoking will be an issue for some, but best to have it on your profile.)

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By *mber and FireCouple
2 weeks ago

Carmarthenshire

There's no hook to your profile, nothing to hint towards any sort of compatibility or any starting point to make some sort of connection.

If you aren't selling yourself/advertising yourself/otherwise putting yourself out there in a good light, then you can't be too surprised if you don't get a response. Many people will look at a profile after receiving a message before deciding on whether to reply.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort. thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha "

Good luck! Have a look at some other male profiles for ideas. There’s lots of good ones from guys who contribute regularly to the forum. Use your profile as your shop window. Women have so much choice on here - it’s survival of the fittest

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it but maybe start there.

Yes you can, it's in the rules.

You only can if asked...otherwise it can land you on the naughty step

Nope, the rules say you can critique the post if it's relevant.

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort. thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha care to take another look ? X

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it but maybe start there.

Yes you can, it's in the rules.

You only can if asked...otherwise it can land you on the naughty step

Nope, the rules say you can critique the post if it's relevant. "

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort. thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha care to take another look ? X

Definitely a little better in my humble opinion

Keep adding to it, get involved in the forums, be friendly, think about going to a club if that might be of interest.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

The profile is much better but you have no cock photo.

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"The profile is much better but you have no cock photo. "
people were saying loose the cock photos haha

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort. thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha care to take another look ? X

Definitely a little better in my humble opinion

Keep adding to it, get involved in the forums, be friendly, think about going to a club if that might be of interest."
thank you would it make you more interested then before then ? X

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By *allandathleticMan
2 weeks ago

Asgard

A million times better bud

Some will preference a cock pic. Others won't be bothered.

I don't actually have a cock pic. I figure it's best left to the imagination. Suggestive photography, leave a little to the imagination.

Be kind and courteous, and although you may not have an instantaneous line of women. The ones you do message will be golden and worth waiting for

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

"The profile is much better but you have no cock photo. people were saying loose the cock photos haha "

That's the problem with advice from the forum, you can't please everybody. Some people will ignore a message if the sender doesn't have one.

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"A million times better bud

Some will preference a cock pic. Others won't be bothered.

I don't actually have a cock pic. I figure it's best left to the imagination. Suggestive photography, leave a little to the imagination.

Be kind and courteous, and although you may not have an instantaneous line of women. The ones you do message will be golden and worth waiting for

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thanks bud any more tips for the profile then im listening haha

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort. thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha care to take another look ? X

Definitely a little better in my humble opinion

Keep adding to it, get involved in the forums, be friendly, think about going to a club if that might be of interest. thank you would it make you more interested then before then ? X "

Hypothetically, yes. Me personally, no. Just keep working on it and see what works best for you. It still should be true to your personality and wants.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

Most people are just not mutually compatible with most other people. Even with the best profile and being attractive, you'll get mostly ignored as you have here - just as all single men will be.

Make realistic expectations for yourself here. Then look for the tips that can improve your potential.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Your profile is looking better. All you need is some photos where your smiling

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

Expectation vs reality is often difficult.

Stick around and sort out exactly what you want from the site and weigh up if it's actually achievable

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

This place is a sausage fest. As a single man you’re competing against everyone else.

What do you expect?

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"Your profile is looking better. All you need is some photos where your smiling

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thank you they will come but not today im having a lazy day with me kids before they go home haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Is that your age op?

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By *ill2207 OP Man
2 weeks ago

bewdley

"Is that your age op?"
yes mate look older dont i hahaha

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By *.T.Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

There is no magic formula.

Easiest thing is to not try and get a meet. It sounds counterintuitive, but people can sniff out desperation. The harder you try, the harder it is.

Lower your expectations but raise your standards. Don't carpet bomb every woman within a 500 mile radius.

Not everyone will meet without a social, not every social leads to sex. If you treat this site as an occasional divertion rather than a guaranteed hook up, the meets will follow.

Cock pics - Some like them, some don't. Whatever you do will immediately put someone off so do whatever you are comfortable with. I'm told one or two tasteful ones can be effective.

Understand that you are one in hundreds within your area and you have to stand out in some way. Be unique.

Finally...

Be yourself. If you try and become what you think people want, you lose yourself on the way. I've been there, it doesn't work.

Just my humble opinion as a man who meets very few people but in the past has made some really great play friends.

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By *oxy jWoman
2 weeks ago

somerset

op the truth is yes for most guys this scene is impossible for no other reason than there are zillions of men to couples and women ...simple maths thats before we go down the road of sexual attraction of which most wont have for those looking

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

You're 6'3 and look decent have patience...

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By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

A few weeks.....it rarely works that quickly.

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By *uliette500Woman
2 weeks ago

Hull

"One line of bio won’t cut it - more detail is needed (what you like, what you’re looking for, what you have to offer). Check your spelling. Less dick pics. Smile. Overall the profile looks rushed and very low effort. thank you will give it a make over and see how it gets on haha "

Look at your punctuation and use of capital letters too when writing it. Sounds a bit picky but it's one the things that puts some people off as it makes it look rushed and lazy.

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith

"Get yourself along to social events and clubs

I happen to know of an event where single guys are in demand

I wish you well with your event at Purple Mamba (a club which always appears to make single guys feel welcome, and included), and if you plan on running a similar event at one of the Northern clubs, feel free to let me know

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith

"There is no magic formula.

Easiest thing is to not try and get a meet. It sounds counterintuitive, but people can sniff out desperation. The harder you try, the harder it is.

Lower your expectations but raise your standards. Don't carpet bomb every woman within a 500 mile radius.

Not everyone will meet without a social, not every social leads to sex. If you treat this site as an occasional divertion rather than a guaranteed hook up, the meets will follow.

Cock pics - Some like them, some don't. Whatever you do will immediately put someone off so do whatever you are comfortable with. I'm told one or two tasteful ones can be effective.

Understand that you are one in hundreds within your area and you have to stand out in some way. Be unique.

Finally...

Be yourself. If you try and become what you think people want, you lose yourself on the way. I've been there, it doesn't work.

Just my humble opinion as a man who meets very few people but in the past has made some really great play friends."

Absolute all of this!

Just be yourself, only message people you genuinely feel you may be a match with, and be patient. The point about Fab being a diversion to ‘normal’ life is important too. Good luck OP!

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By *rDuracell88Man
2 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Get yourself to a club. Much better

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