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By *wingtogether2020 OP   Man
24 weeks ago

Crawley

Any idea or thoughts on how to get the wife interested in this lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

When your having fun just casually mention about someone else being there pleasing her, with you

I started by mentioning another guy there with us took awhile but eventually we invited someone to join us

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex

Unless you can talk to her honestly and openly about how you feel you can't.

Address the issue that's preventing you from being able to open up to her and the rest will follow.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex

That doesn't mean she'll be interested, it just means that she'll know that you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

She will do what she wants to do u can't name her do something

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By *umagain58Man
24 weeks ago

London

So many posts about this. Answer always the same as it’s what they want to do or not. Talk about but if not interested respect that. Don’t take advantage

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Show her your profile and talk about it.

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By *uenevereWoman
24 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Any idea or thoughts on how to get the wife interested in this lifestyle?"

Swinging couples have strong honest relationships and are able to discuss their sexual fantasies and desires.

The fact that you've been on here over a year, have had meets and have to ask others how to broach the subject, tells me you don't have the kind of relationship for swinging.

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By *issmorganWoman
24 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You can't make her be interested op, you can only talk to her and ask her if she'd be interested.

It does amaze me the amount of men who start threads like this.

Have an open, honest conversation with her.

Tell her you have fantasies you'd like to have a go at & ask if she has any or what she thinks about adding other people into the mix.

It won't be for everyone op, you know your own wife more than any stranger on here.

If she says no then be prepared to drop it & watch out she doesn't get suspicious & catch you on here.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
24 weeks ago

Cheshire

Why is there so many posts from men about this recently?

To answer your question though, you cant "get someone interested" unless they want to be themselves.

You have to bring it up in a mature and compassionate way, but seen as you have a profile here and met before, we're not sure if this is going to end well. Swingers value trust and honesty, and well, it doesn't show a good look does it??

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Honesty is the best policy even if it freaks her out at first she might think actually that's quite hot she might be in denial of her feelings at first but she will let you know over a couple days as will be a surprise to her . Me and my wife are on here now took a while to get her here but she finally plucked the courage up and she actually really enjoys a browse on here with me

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By *oolblue12Man
24 weeks ago

Tarporley near Chester

You come off the site , go to a club or a party ,if she is interested she will go with you , if not forget about it and move on .

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
24 weeks ago

Leeds

Show her your profile and verification, tell her it's such an open and honest lifestyle that requires trust and communication which you can't offer, then she can join herself and get tons of meets alone & live her best life.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"Show her your profile and verification, tell her it's such an open and honest lifestyle that requires trust and communication which you can't offer, then she can join herself and get tons of meets alone & live her best life."

^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Maybe meet another couple or get another guy to flirt with her see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"Show her your profile and verification, tell her it's such an open and honest lifestyle that requires trust and communication which you can't offer, then she can join herself and get tons of meets alone & live her best life."
hehe so true

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By *andb69Couple
24 weeks ago

leeds

Unfortunately if you can't openly discuss the possibility of swinging with your wife then you probably aren't ready for swinging. It's all about honesty, openness, and respecting each other's boundaries.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
24 weeks ago

Bicester


"Show her your profile and talk about it. "

Ding ding ding we have a winner. Only answer missing here is the classic she probably already has a profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Maybe meet another couple or get another guy to flirt with her see how it goes"

Don't do this op.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"Unfortunately if you can't openly discuss the possibility of swinging with your wife then you probably aren't ready for swinging. It's all about honesty, openness, and respecting each other's boundaries. "

This is the answer open and honest discussion and if she's not into it, you have to leave it.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
24 weeks ago

Middle England

OP. I like how you start your profile by stating you're married but your wife doesn't know but you're being honest about that!

So you've had the show yourself wife your profile responses etc.

However, whilst it might be to late to show her you've been on here a while. If you really do want to swing with her rather than cheat on her you need to be honest with the person that really matters. Talk to her, subtly bring the subject up, maybe watch a C4 documentary about swinging etc

I'm not sure about your exact circumstances but swinging with your other half will be infinity better than anything you've experienced being solo on here. IMHO.

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By *n2YouMan
24 weeks ago

Your To Do List

Quite an interesting thread to read.

I was in a relationship a few years back with someone who agreed we would ONLY be Fxxk Buddies.. nothing more.. she knew that I enjoyed the lifestyle and also knew that I was (and still am) regularly STI tested..

After 8 weeks of being with her.. the tears started rolling and she said she wanted to be more than Fxxk Buddies.. yet she knew my lifestyle....

I asked her if she was happy about my lifestyle and she agreed it was ok...

She was BiSexual and I asked if she wanted to join me sometime as a biSexual woman, but the answer was always no.. she wanted me to herself..

However; she cheated on me at least 6 times in 2yrs with guys and 4 times with women.

She still insisted she didn't want to join the lifestyle and apologised for cheating..

We split up over it.. because, even though she wanted to see other people.. she only wanted to see them outside of swinging and didn't ever want me to find out... we remain friends to this day.. and I will still get a boob pic from her (without asking).. lol

So...

As people have said...

You can't force someone to be what they don't want to be!!

And I thought I was with someone who would have easily joined in!

Never mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

The reality is not everyone wants extras involved

She might be bi curious or bisexual but if you know her then you have possibly already sussed that like I did with Mérida

It progressed from openly discussing attraction to women to me sending porn gifs of ffm

Eventually she came out as bisexual

But I will also add she will need to trust you fully to open, this is my experience

If your bisexual,cuck or just want another to join openly discuss

But if the latter is true make sure you have no hang ups about other men touching and pleasuring her

Find out what she wants and respect it fully

Mérida is only interested in women being an addition to our marriage even after discussing other things

Good luck

Mr

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By *ackformore100Man
24 weeks ago

Tin town


"Any idea or thoughts on how to get the wife interested in this lifestyle?"

Often see these types of threads. I don't think there's silver bullet. Each relationship and circumstance has its own dynamic. Not sure there's a "sneaky" coercive route into it though.

A relaxed conversation about fantasy and a no pressure visit to a social or club might be an easy run up to it.

How would you go about getting her to try out any new activity?

Wonder if women ever have similar thoughts about how they get their partners to try it?

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By *hoirCouple
24 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Any idea or thoughts on how to get the wife interested in this lifestyle?"

Pass us her number. We'll show her things you haven't.

C

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By *ucka39Man
24 weeks ago

Newcastle

Ask her opinion on swinging has she heard of this what she thinks about it

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By *hoirCouple
24 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Ask her opinion on swinging has she heard of this what she thinks about it "

"I haven't been to the park since I was a kid, H. How would I know?"

C

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By *ucka39Man
24 weeks ago

Newcastle


"Ask her opinion on swinging has she heard of this what she thinks about it

"I haven't been to the park since I was a kid, H. How would I know?"

C"

She might actually have had a sneaky perv online or heard by someone else

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By *oxy jWoman
24 weeks ago

somerset

op you married her so nobody knows her better than you everyone on here are strangers ....also you will have to accept that in real life most women dont want to swing for what ever reason ..

talk openly be honest just start with fun chat or have a giggle with porn you'll soon know ...

i find couples are made up of two groups one half are oipen from the day they meet and dive str8 in and the bigger group are couples that have long loving trlationships who are very open with each other nomally in their 40s 50s and 60s some are very late starters

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By *aughtyFreddoMan
24 weeks ago

Coventry

Watch a TV show where swinging or similar is a part of the story.

My wife was watching Alan Carr's Changing Ends. One episode has some dogging/swinging/threesome references. A little discussion followed.

None of it positive from her!

But it's a way in to a chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

I often wonder with these threads if the man joined Fab thinking it was the golden ticket to lots of extra marital no strings sex.

After the first few dry months (or more) they realise that couples do better so try and think of ways to get the non suspecting wife involved.

Be careful what you wish for. You might be opening Pandora’s box!

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By *ondoncabbyMan
23 weeks ago

london

We started we just sex talk,then one day she said would really like to see that and it built from there

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