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"Fab is a bit much for some, tbh it's put me off men for life. Maybe see if there's some local socials it's just a normal night in a pub with a load of swingers that may ease her in, theres also no pressure to play. alternatively look at some poly type dating apps. Mrs " yep her words "men on fab seem so predetory" & she's only seen the site once. We're going to have to try something different. We've agreed do not mess with anyone at work it's too close and could get messy. | |||
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"Organise a fab meet in secret then bump into them on a night out " this has crossed my mind but then I feel it's not fair play. | |||
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"Organise a fab meet in secret then bump into them on a night out this has crossed my mind but then I feel it's not fair play. " It's not  | |||
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"Organise a fab meet in secret then bump into them on a night out this has crossed my mind but then I feel it's not fair play. " Under no circumstances do this. | |||
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"Organise a fab meet in secret then bump into them on a night out this has crossed my mind but then I feel it's not fair play. Under no circumstances do this. " If you start off with secrets it's not 'open' | |||
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"Agree 100% and will not do it. " Really? | |||
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"Agree 100% and will not do it. Really?" ofcourse I won't do it. Like to say it's not 'open' if I don't tell her about a possible meet social or otherwise. | |||
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"Agree 100% and will not do it. Really? ofcourse I won't do it. Like to say it's not 'open' if I don't tell her about a possible meet social or otherwise." I see. You've changed your mind since March then. | |||
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"Agree 100% and will not do it. Really? ofcourse I won't do it. Like to say it's not 'open' if I don't tell her about a possible meet social or otherwise. I see. You've changed your mind since March then. " yes we were visiting London then and I thought it would be fun. But I didn't follow through because it didn't feel right. | |||
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"I’d try a different app like Feeld where she can swipe and see actual pictures of people. Feels less like a meat market like fab tbh." thanks will give this a try. | |||
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"She's not making it easy for me.. hehe" OP, you need to listen to her really carefully. She probably doesn’t know what she wants and there’s often a bit of difference between agreeing to do something and finding the best way forward. Forgive me, but I’m glad she’s not making it ‘easy for you’ - it’s not her job to do so either and I suspect what she really needs is to know you’re right by her side every step of way. I promise you it works. Ella x | |||
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"She's not making it easy for me.. hehe OP, you need to listen to her really carefully. She probably doesn’t know what she wants and there’s often a bit of difference between agreeing to do something and finding the best way forward. Forgive me, but I’m glad she’s not making it ‘easy for you’ - it’s not her job to do so either and I suspect what she really needs is to know you’re right by her side every step of way. I promise you it works. Ella x" you're right.. I need to let her lead.. I'm acting like a child now and I need to calm the F down.. | |||
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"Organise a fab meet in secret then bump into them on a night out this has crossed my mind but then I feel it's not fair play. " Don't do this op,its not fair and she may feel you're putting pressure on her. | |||
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"So my wife and agreed to open up our relationship and is now thinking how to find someone. I've shown her fab and she said it scares her. She want to meet someone outside in a normal way, the fab world is all too crazy for her cause she's wanting a regular thing not a one night stand. How do we go about? BTW the going to clubs falls in the same category as fab for her. She's not making it easy for me.. hehe" ------------------------------- Forgive me but it sounds like your wife is a reluctant participant, showing interest to placate your needs rather than her own. You say she was scared when you showed her fab, was this her reaction to your profile or the site generally? | |||
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"OP Have you shown her your profile? Did she spot you've been on here for over a year already? How honest are you willing to be; or is it all on a 'need to know' basis? Do you really think this is something she wants or rather you'd like her to be interested so as to make things easier for you? I could be totally wrong but from your responses and the thread in general I feel this may not work out as you expect/hope." After reading all this again I’d say I agree with you guys | |||
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"So my wife and agreed to open up our relationship and is now thinking how to find someone. I've shown her fab and she said it scares her. She want to meet someone outside in a normal way, the fab world is all too crazy for her cause she's wanting a regular thing not a one night stand. How do we go about? BTW the going to clubs falls in the same category as fab for her. She's not making it easy for me.. hehe ------------------------------- Forgive me but it sounds like your wife is a reluctant participant, showing interest to placate your needs rather than her own. You say she was scared when you showed her fab, was this her reaction to your profile or the site generally?" reaction to the site and vulgarity. She knows I have a profile on here. Yes she's reluctant but she's by no means going to do this for my pleasure. She's made it very clear that it'll all be on her terms and I'm not to be around when she's playing either. So she'll be playing solo. | |||
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"OP Have you shown her your profile? Did she spot you've been on here for over a year already? How honest are you willing to be; or is it all on a 'need to know' basis? Do you really think this is something she wants or rather you'd like her to be interested so as to make things easier for you? I could be totally wrong but from your responses and the thread in general I feel this may not work out as you expect/hope." she knows I have profile here for over a year. She is interested and I think she's still bit undecided and a bit nervous. I'll let her take her time. | |||
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"the same ''scary men'' on fab are the same men on many many other sites ... also she wants to find someone in the vanilla world to me suggest shes looking for more than swinging " you hit the nail on the head. She wanting bit of regular chemistry and not just the sex bit, which is the hard bit. | |||
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"OP Have you shown her your profile? Did she spot you've been on here for over a year already? How honest are you willing to be; or is it all on a 'need to know' basis? Do you really think this is something she wants or rather you'd like her to be interested so as to make things easier for you? I could be totally wrong but from your responses and the thread in general I feel this may not work out as you expect/hope. she knows I have profile here for over a year. She is interested and I think she's still bit undecided and a bit nervous. I'll let her take her time." If nothings happened in a year I’d chalk it up as a no go. | |||
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"Organise a fab meet in secret then bump into them on a night out " Yeah don't do this | |||
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"So my wife and agreed to open up our relationship and is now thinking how to find someone. I've shown her fab and she said it scares her. She want to meet someone outside in a normal way, the fab world is all too crazy for her cause she's wanting a regular thing not a one night stand. How do we go about? BTW the going to clubs falls in the same category as fab for her. She's not making it easy for me.. hehe" I would suggest going to a club as purely a "fact finding mission". If you know in advance that you're not going to let anything happen, but just talk to folk and watch what goes on, then it will seem a lot less scary. You could also consider attending an organised social. Cal | |||
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"She said her hormones are changing and she's feeling horny again. Went through few years of her not being bothered at all. Now we're having a lot more sex and she's wanting more .." Why no jump on that and be together then , saves all the hassle off other stuff | |||
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"So my wife and agreed to open up our relationship and is now thinking how to find someone. I've shown her fab and she said it scares her. She want to meet someone outside in a normal way, the fab world is all too crazy for her cause she's wanting a regular thing not a one night stand. How do we go about? BTW the going to clubs falls in the same category as fab for her. She's not making it easy for me.. hehe" There are other Apps and websites that might be more appropriate, I’m not sure I’m allowed to list them here - but they enabled me to establish a long-term FwB that theoretically continues as a relationship, although distance currently curtails any physical activity.. | |||
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