FabSwingers.com forum: Not being a bi Female couple

By *orl1971 OP Couple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow

Is swinging with other couples pretty restricted if you’re not a bi female couple?

There seems to be a widespread expectation of FF play. We really struggle to meet other couples as a straight couple. Feels like we’re playing in a very very small pool.

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By *partharmonyCouple
37 weeks ago

Ruislip

I think it is very common for the lady of a couple to be bi but it is by no means universal. You are definitely not alone.

I'm this couple, Hannah is bi and it would be great if couples we met had a bi lady but we know that's not always going to be the case. We have a social lined up with a couple who are both straight. That's fine by us because it's much more about chemistry than ticking every box.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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37 weeks ago

East Sussex

We've met a few couples where the woman is straight but they are rarer.

A lot of bi women say they're happy to play straight though

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By *rpeggioCouple
37 weeks ago

Baughurst

"We've met a few couples where the woman is straight but they are rarer.

A lot of bi women say they're happy to play straight though"

This. So we agree that Both-straight couples are rare and the minority versus bi-woman couples. But we have met several. Also played with many bi-woman couples and never been a problem. When they know we are straight, if they still want to play with us, never had any trying to push the boundaries and it's always been us letting the boundary move or not, without any pressure.

Sometimes we have felt 'excluded' at couples parties, because couples with bi-women tend to end up flirting more among the women first during the socialising time and therefore end up forming play groups based on what women fancy each other, but that's our perception.

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By *orl1971 OP Couple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow

"We've met a few couples where the woman is straight but they are rarer.

A lot of bi women say they're happy to play straight though

Most of the couples we have played with have had a bi or bi-curious female who has played. There are however quite a lot who expect a meet to start with an FF bit of play and they’re not for us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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37 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ we sometimes have messages from couples whose profiles emphasise how much they enjoy the women playing together. We avoid meeting them because often they assume that I'll change my mind about being straight as soon as we meet.

There are straight couples out there and bi women who genuinely are happy for straight interaction only though

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm straight and half a couple

It can be hard to meet couples just looking for full /soft partner swap only, but we have managed to meet a few couples.

You're right that lots seem to push ff play though, we've had it mentioned by couples even when it's been made clear I'm straight.

I think if you read between the lines on some profiles, you get a better idea.

Those that are heavy on photos of the fem with other women, I'd avoid as its obviously important for them.

However I do think some have the fem as bi curious as a default, but aren't specifically looking for ff play.

It's all about open communication I think.

When my partner and I are active we've found clubs and socials a much easier way to connect with other couples.

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By *ookiewithcreamCouple
37 weeks ago

London

We’re a straight couple and because of that feel that we are an outlier in the world of swinging. For us it’s about both our pleasure and not just one or the other. Still I guess it’s nice to be different

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By *lik and PaulCouple
37 weeks ago

cahoots

We're straight and just checked our verifications and most couples are bi or curious female but it's never been an issue at all...just a lot of fun playing straight.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Coming from a bi couple, I don't want to play with every woman in a couple I meet, we'd if we were meeting wed play as a straight couple.

Not all bi couples want FF play, I find it odd the amount of times women assume because I'm bi I want to grope them - nope, not the case, like straight people I'm not attracted to everyone in a gender.

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By *moothstaffspeepsCouple
37 weeks ago

Stafford

We kind of agree it’s really difficult to meet both bisexual folk like us x

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
37 weeks ago

Hyde

Speaking as the bi female in this couple - I was in a 15 yr relationship with a woman so this isn't a 'new area for me' or something I 'want to explore'... so while we do play that way it's not our sole focus.

We often play with bi women in FFMs and sometimes in couple play or group play...

However - I would also love a straight couple swap- we haven't found that yet and want to!! (Slight frustrated foot stomp lol)

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By *helroyCouple
36 weeks ago

Skegness

we a straight couple and feel same limeted to a few we now have more mfm than we do mfmf

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By *ouple8889Couple
36 weeks ago

Leeds

Same! L gets quite nervous when we start chatting with couples at clubs! She doesn't mind a girly kiss and cuddle but that's about her limit. Often more is wanted or even expected! X

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By *pricot_PunchCouple
36 weeks ago

Bristol

We wouldn't expect female female play if only one of the females was bi. You can still have lots of fun doing other stuff!

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By *endalshaggersCouple
36 weeks ago

Kendal

"Is swinging with other couples pretty restricted if you’re not a bi female couple?

There seems to be a widespread expectation of FF play. We really struggle to meet other couples as a straight couple. Feels like we’re playing in a very very small pool."

We agree. Even though our profile makes it abundantly clear we're both straight it doesn't take long before female-female play is brought up. Do people not understand no means no these days or just try chancing their luck?!?!

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