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am i too old ugly for swinging ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been looking for a while but all i get is msg deleted . Im always polite so where am i going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

smile?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Thinking you may be too ugly is silly as there is someone for everyone on here... it is how you approach it, sell yourself on your profile, what you are looking & what you seek.

are there any organised lunches or socials near you that you could attend to introduce yourself to others..

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for comments . I hate having my pic taken . Guess need to sort some new pics !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being able to accommodate is potentially one reason. Giving details about living with mum is another perhaps? Us women like men who have a bit of intrigue and mystery! It gives us something to ask questions about later...

This site is no different to a dating site in my opinion, in that we can reinvent ourselves in a more positive way and describe ourselves in a way that sounds attractive - isn't that what we want others to do - think of us as attractive human beings?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Had people ask why i could not accom . Just being honest in my reply .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite this being a 'sex' site, people still want to know you're a nice guy before meeting you.

Neither your profile or picture suggest this. Your profile only talks about sexual interests, and the fact your mum lives with you (which is not going to do you any favours!), and your pictures make you look like a miserable b***ard (when I'm sure you are not!).

As others have said, sell yourself... with some nice pics (where you are dressed smartly) including your smile, and write more to show your personality. It's not easy, but it can be done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think you are you are.

Have some confidence and that might help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sell yourself better! New pics better bio.... Be confident.

No one is too ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been looking for a while but all i get is msg deleted . Im always polite so where am i going wrong "

OP, may I suggest you ask the forum to critique your profile? Unless you actually ask for that, none of us can comment as it is against forum rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand why some are saying that he has his mum living with him is a turn off.

To me it would suggest he is a caring man who looks out for his family.

And it answers why he cannot accom.

In all honesty OP, I would say the fact you are older, larger build and bearded will work against you with many but that does not equate to being an impossible task.

You do need to address how you sell yourself though both in words and in pictures.

As others have said, clubs and socials may offer the opportunity for you to get to know people in an informal setting.

Just dont assume that either will lead directly to sex.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do look very stern! Perhaps as suggested some better pics and get yourself to a social. Patience will show that's there is someone for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Once again thanks for your comments will have a long think about what to do ! Will try a club as has been suggested . Anyone reccomend one in west yorkshire ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again thanks for your comments will have a long think about what to do ! Will try a club as has been suggested . Anyone reccomend one in west yorkshire ? "

look on the clubs listing on the top menu bar and read the re_iews. Go with what YOU like the sound of (have a look at their websites) and give one or two a try.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Been looking for a while but all i get is msg deleted . Im always polite so where am i going wrong "

if you think it is because you are ugly... then you are probably going in with the wrong mindset....

thats too easy an excuse....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been looking for a while but all i get is msg deleted . Im always polite so where am i going wrong "

Don't be ridiculous, have you seen half the women on here?!

Joking aside, you need to be more confident in yourself, as after all you are on a swinging site full of men who are oozing confidence, you need to stand out from the crowd. Best of luck to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself m8 I'm in the same boat as you, just be honest, honesty is the best policy

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Never ever pull yourself down, and I agree that not all on site are beauties..

And truthfully for me personality takes over looks any day....

Persevere and you will be okay

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