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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x" Don’t you think that it’s better for couples to find their own way and build their relationship from their own experiences whilst learning and developing together. No 2 relationships are the same so what was relevant for your relationship may not be relevant for others and the path your relationship took may not be the path others want their relationship to take. Giving people relationship advice is a very risky game to play unless you know them both very well, how can you advise what’s best for a couple when you don’t know anything about either of them. If every cuckold relationship was exactly the same then your advice would be invaluable but every relationship is unique. I appreciate that you’re trying to help and im sorry if I’m being a bit harsh but i just think you need to be careful when getting involved in other people’s relationships, especially people you don’t know. Maybe posting your advice and insights publicly would be best so that people can read it and take on board what they think may be relevant to them rather than you speaking to them privately and trying to guess what advice would be relevant to a couple that you know nothing about. | |||
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"Thanks for your comments and no they’re not harsh at all, I’m sure they come from a good place. As was made clear in the original post, it’s only advice from our own experiences and we wouldn’t dream of being prescriptive in what we say, it would only be our thoughts and feelings from our own journey. We also didn’t say to private message as we wanted to have this discussion right here, where we can share together. We’re certainly not suggesting a one size fits all approach. I hope that gives some clarity. " That’s cool then, are you going to post your advice here for us all to read then? | |||
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"What advice could you give then? How do we make the next step? Not a massive deviation from what we are currently doing. Me (hubby) I’m very comfortable but the wife is worried about emotions. I’ve asked to introduce a bit of humiliation for example " How can anyone offer advice on how to make the next step when we don’t know where you’re currently at? Who’s emotions is your wife worried about? What emotions is she worried about? | |||
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"I’m sorry, I didn’t realise it was a full time post. Chill out dude. Fabs is a great thing, but it’s not the only thing. " well said  | |||
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"Weird that someone would start a thread offering to give people advice and then not bother replying when someone asks for advice. " Wow. Chill bro. Not cool | |||
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"I am experienced with couples. So I could give an insight from the guys point of view" Welcome to join the conversation. Thank you | |||
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"I am experienced with couples. So I could give an insight from the guys point of view Welcome to join the conversation. Thank you " I tried to DM you but outside your ange range lol | |||
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"I am experienced with couples. So I could give an insight from the guys point of view Welcome to join the conversation. Thank you " Happy to answer any questions. Thanks for having me | |||
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"What advice could you give then? How do we make the next step? Not a massive deviation from what we are currently doing. Me (hubby) I’m very comfortable but the wife is worried about emotions. I’ve asked to introduce a bit of humiliation for example " I’m guessing you’ve already made the massive move to meet a guy and that’s gone ok? I can only tell you what we found worked for us. I’m the same as you, but compromised so that initially it was some gentle teasing and upped the anti over time. The crucial thing for us was choosing a guy that didn’t want to just nip round and fuck Lola. He had to have experience of being in charge as a bull and was willing to partake in including Joe in the process, even if it was just to degrade lol. We just talked loads on it - still do! | |||
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"What advice could you give then? How do we make the next step? Not a massive deviation from what we are currently doing. Me (hubby) I’m very comfortable but the wife is worried about emotions. I’ve asked to introduce a bit of humiliation for example How can anyone offer advice on how to make the next step when we don’t know where you’re currently at? Who’s emotions is your wife worried about? What emotions is she worried about? " I'd recommend doing what Mrs is comfortable with. Women are usually more reserved as they have their safety to think about, and women don't get aroused like men. Find a common ground and go from there. | |||
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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x" Same here, we're more a hotwife couple than cuck but happy to answer any questions from prospective newbies if they wish. That doesn't mean an invitation to single males who simply want to knock one out lol | |||
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"Hi we would love some advice on cuckholding, we are not new to swinging but are just getting into the cuckholding scene." Sure Drop me a msg. | |||
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"What advice could you give then? How do we make the next step? Not a massive deviation from what we are currently doing. Me (hubby) I’m very comfortable but the wife is worried about emotions. I’ve asked to introduce a bit of humiliation for example I’m guessing you’ve already made the massive move to meet a guy and that’s gone ok? I can only tell you what we found worked for us. I’m the same as you, but compromised so that initially it was some gentle teasing and upped the anti over time. The crucial thing for us was choosing a guy that didn’t want to just nip round and fuck Lola. He had to have experience of being in charge as a bull and was willing to partake in including Joe in the process, even if it was just to degrade lol. We just talked loads on it - still do!" Wow, i can really see your 15 years of experience shining through here and you’ve been able to offer a real insight into life in a cuckold relationship and give some advice that only someone with your experience would be able to give. All of us who don’t have any experience were wondering whether or not it’s important to chose the right man to be bull and introduce into the relationship, we were unsure whether to take our time looking for an experienced bull who would make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable for us or whether we should just go with the first man we have the opportunity to meet without getting to know anything about him first. Well thanks to you being able to give us advice based on your vast experience we all now know that it is in fact important to take our time to find the right man to be bull. | |||
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"What advice could you give then? How do we make the next step? Not a massive deviation from what we are currently doing. Me (hubby) I’m very comfortable but the wife is worried about emotions. I’ve asked to introduce a bit of humiliation for example How can anyone offer advice on how to make the next step when we don’t know where you’re currently at? Who’s emotions is your wife worried about? What emotions is she worried about? I'd recommend doing what Mrs is comfortable with. Women are usually more reserved as they have their safety to think about, and women don't get aroused like men. Find a common ground and go from there." I think as a general rule, in all situations, when doing something with other people, it’s best to do what everyone involved is comfortable doing. I can’t think of a situation when it’s a good idea to do something with someone knowing that the other person isn’t comfortable doing it….advising someone to only do what his partner is comfortable doing is sensible advice i guess but it’s not really advice you’d think needs giving as everyone should know to do that. ‘Women are usually more reserved as they have their safety to think about’….have you just arrived from the 40’s? I don’t know if you noticed but we’ve moved on from the days when women had to pretend to be reserved about sex and women can now express themselves freely without being judged or criticised and to everyone’s surprise it turns out that women actually enjoy sex and experimenting with different experiences in exactly the same way men do….in the past women had to pretend to be reserved because thats how society expected them to be and they were looked down on if they didn’t behave that way, thankfully that’s not the case anymore and most people have stopped expecting women to be reserved. I’m not sure if your comment about women not getting aroused like men is a serious one or if you’re on the wind up, i am struggling to believe that you really mean that…i mean, you’d have to be a massive fuck wit to really believe that. If it is your personal experience that women don’t get sexually aroused then I’d advise you to keep it to yourself from now on because it indirectly shines you in a bery bad light…. | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips! "You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. | |||
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" You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. " It seems that you have hijacked a post that has had nothing but respectful responses from the OP with vile and downright disrespectful responses. Perhaps, respect the thread and the intentions, and if your feeling and knowledge base is as strong as you think it is; start your own. Others are less likely to ask valid and interesting questions because you’re being a dick. | |||
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" You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. It seems that you have hijacked a post that has had nothing but respectful responses from the OP with vile and downright disrespectful responses. Perhaps, respect the thread and the intentions, and if your feeling and knowledge base is as strong as you think it is; start your own. Others are less likely to ask valid and interesting questions because you’re being a dick. " Also he's on here over a year and no veris.  | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips!
You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. "Nice response idiot. Let me guess you’re also someone who complains they don’t get meets? With that level of disrespect, total lack of understanding of a how a dynamic and emotional closeness between 2 people can work I can understand the lack of verifications. Maybe contribute when you have someone useful and not offensive and belittling to say. Prick. | |||
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" You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. It seems that you have hijacked a post that has had nothing but respectful responses from the OP with vile and downright disrespectful responses. Perhaps, respect the thread and the intentions, and if your feeling and knowledge base is as strong as you think it is; start your own. Others are less likely to ask valid and interesting questions because you’re being a dick. " Thank you x | |||
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"In agreement my wife visits an ex lover every three months. I drop her off at a hotel and pick her up. It’s an incredible turn on. Difficult though to get her to talk about what she gets up to and I’d like to take it much further. Any advice welcome. " Is she not an independent woman | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips!
You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. "100% spot on ....you cannot be cuckold in a fwb setup ... you have to be in a real relationship for it to be cuckold itherwise theres no mental connection and its that mental connection that makes it cuckold ... and yes cuckold couple for 30++ years real lifestyle cuckold not roleplay or fantasy | |||
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"please dont message me ive no advice ... advice on this is pointless ie if you dont know what you want then how are others going to help ... there are a few real cuckold forums with real cuckold couples go read them from real people who live the lifestyle if its fantasy / roleplay then seek the blogs/books/porn hotwife is not cuckold stag and vixen is not cuckold" I’ve not messaged you! | |||
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"please dont message me ive no advice ... advice on this is pointless ie if you dont know what you want then how are others going to help ... there are a few real cuckold forums with real cuckold couples go read them from real people who live the lifestyle if its fantasy / roleplay then seek the blogs/books/porn hotwife is not cuckold stag and vixen is not cuckold I’ve not messaged you!" never said you did  | |||
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"Has it ever been an issue for the wife to maintain a sexual attraction to the husband ?" Interesting question. | |||
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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x" Hayy, I love your post Joe and Lola and would really appreciate your insight as I would love to have a better understanding of cuckholding. It seems really popular but I was never really able to grasp why it was so popular a kink. I always wanted to try and understand better but not so easy to be able to ask questions. Hope my questions are ok as they may seem a bit direct and on here or private, if you’re ok with answering I would love to get your insights. Please believe me though, I mean no offence or mean to cause any upset. I have mild asparagus and so the dynamics of any relationship has always been challenging for me. Thankfully over time that got easier but there still a lot more for me to understand and I’m only asking in the hope the answers will allow me to look at cuckholding and understand cuckholding from another’s prospective (mine been a mixture of confusion and intrigue) and be able to more enlightened and informed understanding if that ok? 1: Where you both into cuckholding before you meet? How did it all come about you being a cuckhold couple? 2: As a couple was it difficult finding a balance between what you both desired and what your partner was also comfortable with? 3: as a couple do switch the role of being cuckhold around so you both get to experience being with someone else while your partner watches? 4: Is there anything one of you is allowed to do but the other isn’t or are you both on equal footing, so if one of you is allowed do something then equally so is the other? 5: Would you be ok with your partnering wanting to be able to do something but they wouldn’t be ok with if the roles where reversed? 6: if only one of you wanted to sleep with other people but your partner didn’t, is healthy to still go down the path of cuckholding? How do you ensure your not hurting and abusing your partners love for your own needs or it the other half in the relationship handle only wanting to be with your partner but they don’t feel the same and want to go ahead regardless, in some instance even humiliate you further and make you watch, help them get ready to meet someone else or hear about it? 6: What is it makes seeing your partner with someone else but not be/ get involved and share in the fun? Is it solely for their benefit or do you get something out of it as well and is that really more satisfying then actually being part of the experience? 7: How do you strike the right balance between it being something you occasionally enjoy trying amongst enjoying other kinks together to it becoming the overriding arch of your sex lives, where one half sex life suffers at the expense of the other? 8: Lastly, does it make you both happy? Do you both feel you’re just as strong or stronger a couple as before? Just as loving and affectionate or even more loving and affectionate to each other? Sharing a life with someone that loves and is deeply in love with you is one of the most amazing gifts life has to offer and I truly admire you both for having that as well as the strength as a couple to find and embrace what gives you both fulfilment and happiness together instead of silently dirtying apart as so many couples do x | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips!
You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation.
100% spot on ....you cannot be cuckold in a fwb setup ... you have to be in a real relationship for it to be cuckold itherwise theres no mental connection and its that mental connection that makes it cuckold ...
and yes cuckold couple for 30++ years real lifestyle cuckold not roleplay or fantasy"Curious why you think friends can’t have as strong a connection as people who’d describe themselves as a couple? If you share everything, speak all day every day and know each other better than anyone else and care about each other deeply, I’d suggest that’s more of an emotional connection than a lot of “couples” just without the label?! | |||
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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x" Would welcome advice, but can't message.  | |||
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"We’ve had a decade of experience exploring this kink on both sides of the fence.. With the right people utterly amazing " Same here and the couples I've had the pleasure to meet and play with have been fantastic. When it works, it's a fantastic dynamic. | |||
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"Has it ever been an issue for the wife to maintain a sexual attraction to the husband ?" none i love my husband totally and would not want to be with anyone else ... cuckolding works for us because its us we are totally together anything i have with others is just sexual and friendship ... do i find my hubs sexually atractive hell yes i do totally our sexual connection is spot on just his penis is useless ...
this only works because of us i would not be interested in this lifestyle with anyone else because no one would understand me like hubby and its the same the other way around its us that makes it and thats how this lifestyle should be with swinging / cuckold other kinks only the strongest couples get it and thrive from it.... hence why its not a lifestyle for all | |||
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"I’m interested in how you end a scene. Does the bull stick around? Do the three of you have a coffee? Or do you two cuddle up and the bull leaves? (I realise this would be different for everyone. I’m curious what works for you?) Thanks for this thread. It’s interesting. " well said | |||
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"Has it ever been an issue for the wife to maintain a sexual attraction to the husband ? none i love my husband totally and would not want to be with anyone else ... cuckolding works for us because its us we are totally together anything i have with others is just sexual and friendship ... do i find my hubs sexually atractive hell yes i do totally our sexual connection is spot on just his penis is useless ...
this only works because of us i would not be interested in this lifestyle with anyone else because no one would understand me like hubby and its the same the other way around its us that makes it and thats how this lifestyle should be with swinging / cuckold other kinks only the strongest couples get it and thrive from it.... hence why its not a lifestyle for all" | |||
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" You can’t be in a cuck situation with a FWB partner, it’s a contradiction in terms. A cuck is someone who entered into a monogamous relationship with someone but his partner starts sleeping with other men and he knows about it and the cuck still remains faithful and loyal to his cheating partner (im pretty sure that’s basically what it is anyway). If you’re in a FWB situation it means that neither of you have committed to being monogamous and you’re both free to sleep with other people which is pretty much the complete opposite to the relationship you need to be in before you’re made a cuckold. If you consider yourself to be a cuckold because a woman you’ve shagged a few times but you’re not in a committed relationship with has sex with other men then there are many, many men in the same situation who will have to start considering themselves to be cuckolds too. The situation you’re in is a typical FWB situation and nothing like a cuck situation. It seems that you have hijacked a post that has had nothing but respectful responses from the OP with vile and downright disrespectful responses. Perhaps, respect the thread and the intentions, and if your feeling and knowledge base is as strong as you think it is; start your own. Others are less likely to ask valid and interesting questions because you’re being a dick. " 100% agree | |||
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"We have a good cuckolding group on telegram now, if anyone wants to join drop me a message with your telegram name. " Sounds great. | |||
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"I've been trying/hoping my wife will cuckold me for years but no luck. She deserves so much more than my megre efforts, even if meant me losing out for good. I'd love to know how you eventually took the plunge! " She was messaging someone at work. I said I wasn’t angry and in fact had been something I’d always wanted. It coincided with a conversation with a mate who said he’d fancied her. It went from there. Slowly. It lasted a long time but he was young and it ended not very well. So lessons learnt from that first experience. | |||
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"Has it ever been an issue for the wife to maintain a sexual attraction to the husband ? none i love my husband totally and would not want to be with anyone else ... cuckolding works for us because its us we are totally together anything i have with others is just sexual and friendship ... do i find my hubs sexually atractive hell yes i do totally our sexual connection is spot on just his penis is useless ...
this only works because of us i would not be interested in this lifestyle with anyone else because no one would understand me like hubby and its the same the other way around its us that makes it and thats how this lifestyle should be with swinging / cuckold other kinks only the strongest couples get it and thrive from it.... hence why its not a lifestyle for all"Best way to be. You’re doing you! X | |||
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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x Hayy, I love your post Joe and Lola and would really appreciate your insight as I would love to have a better understanding of cuckholding. It seems really popular but I was never really able to grasp why it was so popular a kink. I always wanted to try and understand better but not so easy to be able to ask questions. Hope my questions are ok as they may seem a bit direct and on here or private, if you’re ok with answering I would love to get your insights. Please believe me though, I mean no offence or mean to cause any upset. I have mild asparagus and so the dynamics of any relationship has always been challenging for me. Thankfully over time that got easier but there still a lot more for me to understand and I’m only asking in the hope the answers will allow me to look at cuckholding and understand cuckholding from another’s prospective (mine been a mixture of confusion and intrigue) and be able to more enlightened and informed understanding if that ok? 1: Where you both into cuckholding before you meet? How did it all come about you being a cuckhold couple? I was she wasn’t at all but other men were mentioned during sex 2: As a couple was it difficult finding a balance between what you both desired and what your partner was also comfortable with? Yes but we adjusted over time. It became too much at one point and we stopped completely for a long time. 3: as a couple do switch the role of being cuckhold around so you both get to experience being with someone else while your partner watches? Never. It’s about Lola’s pleasure and as time has gone on I like the humiliation of it 4: Is there anything one of you is allowed to do but the other isn’t or are you both on equal footing, so if one of you is allowed do something then equally so is the other? I’m not allowed but she is allowed anything she likes. 5: Would you be ok with your partnering wanting to be able to do something but they wouldn’t be ok with if the roles where reversed? Answered this already I think lol 6: if only one of you wanted to sleep with other people but your partner didn’t, is healthy to still go down the path of cuckholding? How do you ensure your not hurting and abusing your partners love for your own needs or it the other half in the relationship handle only wanting to be with your partner but they don’t feel the same and want to go ahead regardless, in some instance even humiliate you further and make you watch, help them get ready to meet someone else or hear about it? The second half of this question is totally us and I clean up sometimes but not always. Meets have occurred and been told about them after the event. Found this hard in the beginning but I knew she was more comfortable without me there if that was the mood at that moment. 6: What is it makes seeing your partner with someone else but not be/ get involved and share in the fun? Is it solely for their benefit or do you get something out of it as well and is that really more satisfying then actually being part of the experience? She likes a bigger dick and someone who can go for a long time. She also prefers taller rugby player physique which I can’t provide. I find it incredibly intense and the humiliation is a massive turn on when done correctly. 7: How do you strike the right balance between it being something you occasionally enjoy trying amongst enjoying other kinks together to it becoming the overriding arch of your sex lives, where one half sex life suffers at the expense of the other? Cuckolding is a fantastic thing - but it’s not the only thing. We are happy with it and without it. It’s something to pick up and put down when we like. Not dictated to by others. But that’s just us. 8: Lastly, does it make you both happy? Do you both feel you’re just as strong or stronger a couple as before? Just as loving and affectionate or even more loving and affectionate to each other? Twenty five years together. We’ve had a life, children, lost parents, have a business together. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else and I know she’s the same. Sharing a life with someone that loves and is deeply in love with you is one of the most amazing gifts life has to offer and I truly admire you both for having that as well as the strength as a couple to find and embrace what gives you both fulfilment and happiness together instead of silently dirtying apart as so many couples do x" Answered hopefully enough to help you. It’s just our story though, it’s not law lol | |||
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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x Hayy, I love your post Joe and Lola and would really appreciate your insight as I would love to have a better understanding of cuckholding. It seems really popular but I was never really able to grasp why it was so popular a kink. I always wanted to try and understand better but not so easy to be able to ask questions. Hope my questions are ok as they may seem a bit direct and on here or private, if you’re ok with answering I would love to get your insights. Please believe me though, I mean no offence or mean to cause any upset. I have mild asparagus and so the dynamics of any relationship has always been challenging for me. Thankfully over time that got easier but there still a lot more for me to understand and I’m only asking in the hope the answers will allow me to look at cuckholding and understand cuckholding from another’s prospective (mine been a mixture of confusion and intrigue) and be able to more enlightened and informed understanding if that ok? 1: Where you both into cuckholding before you meet? How did it all come about you being a cuckhold couple? I was she wasn’t at all but other men were mentioned during sex 2: As a couple was it difficult finding a balance between what you both desired and what your partner was also comfortable with? Yes but we adjusted over time. It became too much at one point and we stopped completely for a long time. 3: as a couple do switch the role of being cuckhold around so you both get to experience being with someone else while your partner watches? Never. It’s about Lola’s pleasure and as time has gone on I like the humiliation of it 4: Is there anything one of you is allowed to do but the other isn’t or are you both on equal footing, so if one of you is allowed do something then equally so is the other? I’m not allowed but she is allowed anything she likes. 5: Would you be ok with your partnering wanting to be able to do something but they wouldn’t be ok with if the roles where reversed? Answered this already I think lol 6: if only one of you wanted to sleep with other people but your partner didn’t, is healthy to still go down the path of cuckholding? How do you ensure your not hurting and abusing your partners love for your own needs or it the other half in the relationship handle only wanting to be with your partner but they don’t feel the same and want to go ahead regardless, in some instance even humiliate you further and make you watch, help them get ready to meet someone else or hear about it? The second half of this question is totally us and I clean up sometimes but not always. Meets have occurred and been told about them after the event. Found this hard in the beginning but I knew she was more comfortable without me there if that was the mood at that moment. 6: What is it makes seeing your partner with someone else but not be/ get involved and share in the fun? Is it solely for their benefit or do you get something out of it as well and is that really more satisfying then actually being part of the experience? She likes a bigger dick and someone who can go for a long time. She also prefers taller rugby player physique which I can’t provide. I find it incredibly intense and the humiliation is a massive turn on when done correctly. 7: How do you strike the right balance between it being something you occasionally enjoy trying amongst enjoying other kinks together to it becoming the overriding arch of your sex lives, where one half sex life suffers at the expense of the other? Cuckolding is a fantastic thing - but it’s not the only thing. We are happy with it and without it. It’s something to pick up and put down when we like. Not dictated to by others. But that’s just us. 8: Lastly, does it make you both happy? Do you both feel you’re just as strong or stronger a couple as before? Just as loving and affectionate or even more loving and affectionate to each other? Twenty five years together. We’ve had a life, children, lost parents, have a business together. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else and I know she’s the same. Sharing a life with someone that loves and is deeply in love with you is one of the most amazing gifts life has to offer and I truly admire you both for having that as well as the strength as a couple to find and embrace what gives you both fulfilment and happiness together instead of silently dirtying apart as so many couples do x Answered hopefully enough to help you. It’s just our story though, it’s not law lol " If your new to cuckolding it’s very helpful to discuss things with people in a similar situation to yourselves especially as emotions and a lot of mental stimulation is involved and if you have someone you can tell they can give you that independent view or an explanation I pick up on other peoples emotions easily and find myself speaking to them and trying to support them so can go from swinging to marriage counseling!! In the extreme OP great idea | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips! "She needs to be honest when she does not want you to enter her. You have to consider she maybe sore after being with another man. Or make a rule reclaim is always the next evening and then the pressure for both is less. | |||
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"Changed our settings slightly so that if you feel you actually want to privately message then you hopefully now do so. Genuine enquiries on this one though, not an excuse for random dick pics. We already have a van full of those x" I tried messaging… lol my sex is blocked. It was a genuine enquiry x | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips! She needs to be honest when she does not want you to enter her. You have to consider she maybe sore after being with another man. Or make a rule reclaim is always the next evening and then the pressure for both is less."Can they reclaim something that isn’t theirs? If she sees it as a friends with benefits then there isn’t a reclaim to be had. This sounds like differing expectations and levels of involvement in the arrangement that probably needs a discussion. | |||
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"Thought about this for a while, so here goes! As a cuckold couple of fifteen years, we would like to offer the opportunity to anyone who would like any advice or insights into this very niche lifestyle. It's only drawn from our own experiences and inevitably will flawed, so you can put your own filter on it of course! But what we do say will be straightforward and honest and is intended to help J and L x Don’t you think that it’s better for couples to find their own way and build their relationship from their own experiences whilst learning and developing together. No 2 relationships are the same so what was relevant for your relationship may not be relevant for others and the path your relationship took may not be the path others want their relationship to take. Giving people relationship advice is a very risky game to play unless you know them both very well, how can you advise what’s best for a couple when you don’t know anything about either of them. If every cuckold relationship was exactly the same then your advice would be invaluable but every relationship is unique. I appreciate that you’re trying to help and im sorry if I’m being a bit harsh but i just think you need to be careful when getting involved in other people’s relationships, especially people you don’t know. Maybe posting your advice and insights publicly would be best so that people can read it and take on board what they think may be relevant to them rather than you speaking to them privately and trying to guess what advice would be relevant to a couple that you know nothing about. " From how I read the OP, it's not relationship advice on the table here but advice around the cuckold lifestyle. Harsh, yes. I thought it admirable a couple wanted to reach out to the community. Want advice? Well, ask a question, either here or by DM. If anyone also wants to know more too, listen to the Keys & Anklets podcasts. So many episodes to listen to; all are very good and you can select which ones are worth checking into first. And, if you don't take it too seriously, you might just laugh on occasion. Having fun is what I think the lifestyle should be about. Now, let's see what others are talking about on this thread | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips! She needs to be honest when she does not want you to enter her. You have to consider she maybe sore after being with another man. Or make a rule reclaim is always the next evening and then the pressure for both is less.
Can they reclaim something that isn’t theirs? If she sees it as a friends with benefits then there isn’t a reclaim to be had. This sounds like differing expectations and levels of involvement in the arrangement that probably needs a discussion. "as a full time cuck and cuckolded for real reason i can say their is no such thing as reclaim sex in a real cuckold relationship i dont owen my wife and how can i reclaim i cant please her in the first place we dont have penative sex at all if your reclaiming then your hotwife and even then reclaim ? how can you reclaim the person your in a relationship with cucks dont reclaim they are cucks for a reason | |||
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"I have a what might be termed a fwb arrangement with someone who I’d genuinely describe as a close friend. A lot of issues around commitment of any kind after she was in a extremely controlling relationship. I’ve always really liked the hotwife type stuff but that needs more emotional connection than we have at moment as more than friends to work I think. She loves to play with others as it gives her that feeling of freedom she lost, so I seem unwittingly to have ended up in a cuck type situation. I like that she enjoys stuff, and it makes her feel confident, I guess my question for the cuck guys is how do you manage the feelings of envy/jealousy if you can’t reclaim straight away? I find it very difficult when I say I’d rather that didn’t happen or please could we do this and it’s not taken seriously or brushed off, but I’d love for us to find a way to make it work? Any tips! She needs to be honest when she does not want you to enter her. You have to consider she maybe sore after being with another man. Or make a rule reclaim is always the next evening and then the pressure for both is less.
Can they reclaim something that isn’t theirs? If she sees it as a friends with benefits then there isn’t a reclaim to be had. This sounds like differing expectations and levels of involvement in the arrangement that probably needs a discussion.
as a full time cuck and cuckolded for real reason i can say their is no such thing as reclaim sex in a real cuckold relationship i dont owen my wife and how can i reclaim i cant please her in the first place we dont have penative sex at all if your reclaiming then your hotwife and even then reclaim ? how can you reclaim the person your in a relationship with cucks dont reclaim they are cucks for a reason"Reclaiming sounds like a hotwife and stag/vixen dynamic. Meanwhile, a Cuck can be seen to be restricted, as you say, in a FLR. Good thread. Not the first, by no no means the last. | |||
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"I've been trying/hoping my wife will cuckold me for years but no luck. She deserves so much more than my megre efforts, even if meant me losing out for good. I'd love to know how you eventually took the plunge! " Why would you say that? That’s a horrible thing to say about yourself and relationship. Surely cuckholding should be and added excitement and kink shared as part of the physical relationship you have amongst other things. You both deserve to have fullfilling sex lives and loves lives not just the one of you. I really hope you saying that is just part of the kink and roleplay and not how you really feel as that’s a terrible and really unhealthy way to live. If you really have such low self esteem I’d recommend couple swapping and group play so you also fall back in love with your own self worth. I’m sorry I don’t mean to be preachy or judgy but that heartbreaking to read from someone deeply in love with their other half but feels that way genuinely and not part of roleplay | |||
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"We’ve been a cuckold couple for over 30 years and it’s never been about abuse or degrading - although a lot on here that message us seem to think that’s what the cuckolding lifestyle is about. There’s lot of reasons why couples embrace the cuckold lifestyle and you’ll find most cucks in that relationship are proud to have a wife that other guys want to fuck and it gives them great satisfaction knowing that. Most cuckold couples have a stable loving relationship and to the cuck the hotwife is the most desirable and precious thing in their world and their ultimate sacrifice to that hotwife is to know they are having as much sexual pleasure as they need with other guys ! As a cuck I never feel degraded or humiliated, just extreme pleasure inside for having a desired hotwife ! " Thank for your understanding and helpful reply. It reassuring to hear to be honest that you’ve never experienced that and it not like that as there does seem to be a blurred line with it to me at times and a lot of misperception on the lifestyle, probably including from myself while trying to learn. I do get what you mean and know people enjoy it for different reasons. Like wise I can fully appreciate the turn on of knowing other guys want to be with your wife, I think I would feel proud and slightly excited by that as well. Them being with someone else wouldn’t be an issue really either and would be happy to know they have as much sexual pleasure as they need. None of that part confuses me or the husbands devotion for their lover it’s more just with things like, where the reciprocation, the same level of devotion and desire to see and encourage their partner to be having or experiencing as much sexual pleasure? The boost of confidence of being wanted and desired? I do think most are in very strong, loving relationships and while I get maybe the cuck might not want to sleep with anyone else, I just can’t help but feel their missing out on experience so many great things by also swinging and exploring each other journey together I guess. I don’t know I’m still a bit muddled in my understanding but really appreciate your patience and trying to help explain it so I have a better picture of things. Do want to try and understand it better even if it never something I’m particularly into and hope I didn’t cause any offence as I mean no disrespect | |||
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"We’ve been a cuckold couple for over 30 years and it’s never been about abuse or degrading - although a lot on here that message us seem to think that’s what the cuckolding lifestyle is about. There’s lot of reasons why couples embrace the cuckold lifestyle and you’ll find most cucks in that relationship are proud to have a wife that other guys want to fuck and it gives them great satisfaction knowing that. Most cuckold couples have a stable loving relationship and to the cuck the hotwife is the most desirable and precious thing in their world and their ultimate sacrifice to that hotwife is to know they are having as much sexual pleasure as they need with other guys ! As a cuck I never feel degraded or humiliated, just extreme pleasure inside for having a desired hotwife ! Thank for your understanding and helpful reply. It reassuring to hear to be honest that you’ve never experienced that and it not like that as there does seem to be a blurred line with it to me at times and a lot of misperception on the lifestyle, probably including from myself while trying to learn. I do get what you mean and know people enjoy it for different reasons. Like wise I can fully appreciate the turn on of knowing other guys want to be with your wife, I think I would feel proud and slightly excited by that as well. Them being with someone else wouldn’t be an issue really either and would be happy to know they have as much sexual pleasure as they need. None of that part confuses me or the husbands devotion for their lover it’s more just with things like, where the reciprocation, the same level of devotion and desire to see and encourage their partner to be having or experiencing as much sexual pleasure? The boost of confidence of being wanted and desired? I do think most are in very strong, loving relationships and while I get maybe the cuck might not want to sleep with anyone else, I just can’t help but feel their missing out on experience so many great things by also swinging and exploring each other journey together I guess. I don’t know I’m still a bit muddled in my understanding but really appreciate your patience and trying to help explain it so I have a better picture of things. Do want to try and understand it better even if it never something I’m particularly into and hope I didn’t cause any offence as I mean no disrespect "The agreement for us was that Lola got the pleasure and I didn’t. And that’s what I wanted too. And it’s not changed. J | |||
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"We’ve been a cuckold couple for over 30 years and it’s never been about abuse or degrading - although a lot on here that message us seem to think that’s what the cuckolding lifestyle is about. There’s lot of reasons why couples embrace the cuckold lifestyle and you’ll find most cucks in that relationship are proud to have a wife that other guys want to fuck and it gives them great satisfaction knowing that. Most cuckold couples have a stable loving relationship and to the cuck the hotwife is the most desirable and precious thing in their world and their ultimate sacrifice to that hotwife is to know they are having as much sexual pleasure as they need with other guys ! As a cuck I never feel degraded or humiliated, just extreme pleasure inside for having a desired hotwife ! Thank for your understanding and helpful reply. It reassuring to hear to be honest that you’ve never experienced that and it not like that as there does seem to be a blurred line with it to me at times and a lot of misperception on the lifestyle, probably including from myself while trying to learn. I do get what you mean and know people enjoy it for different reasons. Like wise I can fully appreciate the turn on of knowing other guys want to be with your wife, I think I would feel proud and slightly excited by that as well. Them being with someone else wouldn’t be an issue really either and would be happy to know they have as much sexual pleasure as they need. None of that part confuses me or the husbands devotion for their lover it’s more just with things like, where the reciprocation, the same level of devotion and desire to see and encourage their partner to be having or experiencing as much sexual pleasure? The boost of confidence of being wanted and desired? I do think most are in very strong, loving relationships and while I get maybe the cuck might not want to sleep with anyone else, I just can’t help but feel their missing out on experience so many great things by also swinging and exploring each other journey together I guess. I don’t know I’m still a bit muddled in my understanding but really appreciate your patience and trying to help explain it so I have a better picture of things. Do want to try and understand it better even if it never something I’m particularly into and hope I didn’t cause any offence as I mean no disrespect
The agreement for us was that Lola got the pleasure and I didn’t. And that’s what I wanted too. And it’s not changed. J "But you still have a physical relationship together? Sorry I know that’s an incredibly personal question. I do think it’s an incredible stage to get to in a relationship where a couple can have what you have together but how did you get to stage of having an agreement and if you did decide you wanted to also got. the pleasure as well, would that be ok or an issue do you think? x | |||
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"We’ve been a cuckold couple for over 30 years and it’s never been about abuse or degrading - although a lot on here that message us seem to think that’s what the cuckolding lifestyle is about. There’s lot of reasons why couples embrace the cuckold lifestyle and you’ll find most cucks in that relationship are proud to have a wife that other guys want to fuck and it gives them great satisfaction knowing that. Most cuckold couples have a stable loving relationship and to the cuck the hotwife is the most desirable and precious thing in their world and their ultimate sacrifice to that hotwife is to know they are having as much sexual pleasure as they need with other guys ! As a cuck I never feel degraded or humiliated, just extreme pleasure inside for having a desired hotwife ! Thank for your understanding and helpful reply. It reassuring to hear to be honest that you’ve never experienced that and it not like that as there does seem to be a blurred line with it to me at times and a lot of misperception on the lifestyle, probably including from myself while trying to learn. I do get what you mean and know people enjoy it for different reasons. Like wise I can fully appreciate the turn on of knowing other guys want to be with your wife, I think I would feel proud and slightly excited by that as well. Them being with someone else wouldn’t be an issue really either and would be happy to know they have as much sexual pleasure as they need. None of that part confuses me or the husbands devotion for their lover it’s more just with things like, where the reciprocation, the same level of devotion and desire to see and encourage their partner to be having or experiencing as much sexual pleasure? The boost of confidence of being wanted and desired? I do think most are in very strong, loving relationships and while I get maybe the cuck might not want to sleep with anyone else, I just can’t help but feel their missing out on experience so many great things by also swinging and exploring each other journey together I guess. I don’t know I’m still a bit muddled in my understanding but really appreciate your patience and trying to help explain it so I have a better picture of things. Do want to try and understand it better even if it never something I’m particularly into and hope I didn’t cause any offence as I mean no disrespect
The agreement for us was that Lola got the pleasure and I didn’t. And that’s what I wanted too. And it’s not changed. J
But you still have a physical relationship together? Sorry I know that’s an incredibly personal question. I do think it’s an incredible stage to get to in a relationship where a couple can have what you have together but how did you get to stage of having an agreement and if you did decide you wanted to also got. the pleasure as well, would that be ok or an issue do you think? x"I can’t be with another woman because of size and ED. So it’s not something I even want. That’s why my focus sexually is her happiness. We have a loving relationship in other ways. | |||
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"We’ve been a cuckold couple for over 30 years and it’s never been about abuse or degrading - although a lot on here that message us seem to think that’s what the cuckolding lifestyle is about. There’s lot of reasons why couples embrace the cuckold lifestyle and you’ll find most cucks in that relationship are proud to have a wife that other guys want to fuck and it gives them great satisfaction knowing that. Most cuckold couples have a stable loving relationship and to the cuck the hotwife is the most desirable and precious thing in their world and their ultimate sacrifice to that hotwife is to know they are having as much sexual pleasure as they need with other guys ! As a cuck I never feel degraded or humiliated, just extreme pleasure inside for having a desired hotwife ! Thank for your understanding and helpful reply. It reassuring to hear to be honest that you’ve never experienced that and it not like that as there does seem to be a blurred line with it to me at times and a lot of misperception on the lifestyle, probably including from myself while trying to learn. I do get what you mean and know people enjoy it for different reasons. Like wise I can fully appreciate the turn on of knowing other guys want to be with your wife, I think I would feel proud and slightly excited by that as well. Them being with someone else wouldn’t be an issue really either and would be happy to know they have as much sexual pleasure as they need. None of that part confuses me or the husbands devotion for their lover it’s more just with things like, where the reciprocation, the same level of devotion and desire to see and encourage their partner to be having or experiencing as much sexual pleasure? The boost of confidence of being wanted and desired? I do think most are in very strong, loving relationships and while I get maybe the cuck might not want to sleep with anyone else, I just can’t help but feel their missing out on experience so many great things by also swinging and exploring each other journey together I guess. I don’t know I’m still a bit muddled in my understanding but really appreciate your patience and trying to help explain it so I have a better picture of things. Do want to try and understand it better even if it never something I’m particularly into and hope I didn’t cause any offence as I mean no disrespect
The agreement for us was that Lola got the pleasure and I didn’t. And that’s what I wanted too. And it’s not changed. J
But you still have a physical relationship together? Sorry I know that’s an incredibly personal question. I do think it’s an incredible stage to get to in a relationship where a couple can have what you have together but how did you get to stage of having an agreement and if you did decide you wanted to also got. the pleasure as well, would that be ok or an issue do you think? x
I can’t be with another woman because of size and ED. So it’s not something I even want. That’s why my focus sexually is her happiness. We have a loving relationship in other ways. "Exactly, a lot of cucks have health problems or without being crude, smaller cocks than their wives would like, but in all other aspects of their marriage it works for them. | |||
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""...Relationship dynamic there are different dynamics from both a practice, dynamic and psychological aspect." Perhaps you can tease out what you mean by this What are the psychological drivers for adopting the cuckold lifestyle " They are entirely dependent on those involved. I can only speak about mine, but there are as many reasons as there are people doing it. I don’t feel comfortable about discussing my reasons on an open forum with strangers. I suggest reading/listening to books, attending workshops on the topic. There are many. You make a good point about lifestyle; for many it is a lived and breathed 24/7 lifestyle choice, for others it’s a bit of fun in a scene. Taking this into consideration when selecting your information sources would also help to shape the insight and understanding as 24/7 have different considerations to a 40-minute scene. | |||
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""...Relationship dynamic there are different dynamics from both a practice, dynamic and psychological aspect." Perhaps you can tease out what you mean by this What are the psychological drivers for adopting the cuckold lifestyle They are entirely dependent on those involved. I can only speak about mine, but there are as many reasons as there are people doing it. I don’t feel comfortable about discussing my reasons on an open forum with strangers. I suggest reading/listening to books, attending workshops on the topic. There are many. You make a good point about lifestyle; for many it is a lived and breathed 24/7 lifestyle choice, for others it’s a bit of fun in a scene. Taking this into consideration when selecting your information sources would also help to shape the insight and understanding as 24/7 have different considerations to a 40-minute scene. " Very good advice. | |||
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"We’ve been a cuckold couple for over 30 years and it’s never been about abuse or degrading - although a lot on here that message us seem to think that’s what the cuckolding lifestyle is about. There’s lot of reasons why couples embrace the cuckold lifestyle and you’ll find most cucks in that relationship are proud to have a wife that other guys want to fuck and it gives them great satisfaction knowing that. Most cuckold couples have a stable loving relationship and to the cuck the hotwife is the most desirable and precious thing in their world and their ultimate sacrifice to that hotwife is to know they are having as much sexual pleasure as they need with other guys ! As a cuck I never feel degraded or humiliated, just extreme pleasure inside for having a desired hotwife ! Thank for your understanding and helpful reply. It reassuring to hear to be honest that you’ve never experienced that and it not like that as there does seem to be a blurred line with it to me at times and a lot of misperception on the lifestyle, probably including from myself while trying to learn. I do get what you mean and know people enjoy it for different reasons. Like wise I can fully appreciate the turn on of knowing other guys want to be with your wife, I think I would feel proud and slightly excited by that as well. Them being with someone else wouldn’t be an issue really either and would be happy to know they have as much sexual pleasure as they need. None of that part confuses me or the husbands devotion for their lover it’s more just with things like, where the reciprocation, the same level of devotion and desire to see and encourage their partner to be having or experiencing as much sexual pleasure? The boost of confidence of being wanted and desired? I do think most are in very strong, loving relationships and while I get maybe the cuck might not want to sleep with anyone else, I just can’t help but feel their missing out on experience so many great things by also swinging and exploring each other journey together I guess. I don’t know I’m still a bit muddled in my understanding but really appreciate your patience and trying to help explain it so I have a better picture of things. Do want to try and understand it better even if it never something I’m particularly into and hope I didn’t cause any offence as I mean no disrespect
The agreement for us was that Lola got the pleasure and I didn’t. And that’s what I wanted too. And it’s not changed. J
But you still have a physical relationship together? Sorry I know that’s an incredibly personal question. I do think it’s an incredible stage to get to in a relationship where a couple can have what you have together but how did you get to stage of having an agreement and if you did decide you wanted to also got. the pleasure as well, would that be ok or an issue do you think? x
I can’t be with another woman because of size and ED. So it’s not something I even want. That’s why my focus sexually is her happiness. We have a loving relationship in other ways.
Exactly, a lot of cucks have health problems or without being crude, smaller cocks than their wives would like, but in all other aspects of their marriage it works for them.
"Ooh I didn’t realise that I’m so sorry for being so indelicate and really appreciate your honesty and understanding. I think I understand a little bit better now about the kink and understand a little clearer on how positive an element it can be in a loving relationship for some when faced with those types of issues. Thank you for helping me to learn and understand things better x | |||
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"Hello to everyone. I'm a single Male looking for advice on how to find a female partner who is into the cuckolding/swinging lifestyle please. I have tried a few adult contact sites over the last few year's and found them to be full of fake people trying to get me to sign up to other contact sites or only fans page. I'd appreciate your advice if you can help me please. Thanks " I think you’re going to really struggle to find someone specifically into cuckolding if you’re looking for a relationship. That’s more something that should be talked about once a relationship is established, otherwise you are leaving yourself open to abuse (not the fun kind) | |||
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"Hello to everyone. I'm a single Male looking for advice on how to find a female partner who is into the cuckolding/swinging lifestyle please. I have tried a few adult contact sites over the last few year's and found them to be full of fake people trying to get me to sign up to other contact sites or only fans page. I'd appreciate your advice if you can help me please. Thanks I think you’re going to really struggle to find someone specifically into cuckolding if you’re looking for a relationship. That’s more something that should be talked about once a relationship is established, otherwise you are leaving yourself open to abuse (not the fun kind)" Agree totally | |||
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"Hello to everyone. I'm a single Male looking for advice on how to find a female partner who is into the cuckolding/swinging lifestyle please. I have tried a few adult contact sites over the last few year's and found them to be full of fake people trying to get me to sign up to other contact sites or only fans page. I'd appreciate your advice if you can help me please. Thanks I think you’re going to really struggle to find someone specifically into cuckolding if you’re looking for a relationship. That’s more something that should be talked about once a relationship is established, otherwise you are leaving yourself open to abuse (not the fun kind) Agree totally " 100% Agree. Relationship first then cuckolding route. The way you are trying is heading for disaster or even worse. | |||
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"Hello to everyone. I'm a single Male looking for advice on how to find a female partner who is into the cuckolding/swinging lifestyle please. I have tried a few adult contact sites over the last few year's and found them to be full of fake people trying to get me to sign up to other contact sites or only fans page. I'd appreciate your advice if you can help me please. Thanks I think you’re going to really struggle to find someone specifically into cuckolding if you’re looking for a relationship. That’s more something that should be talked about once a relationship is established, otherwise you are leaving yourself open to abuse (not the fun kind) Agree totally 100% Agree. Relationship first then cuckolding route. The way you are trying is heading for disaster or even worse. " So get the woman to cuckold you | |||
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"advice advice advice it dont work it will never work why because we are all different one couple cannot advise another couple its pointless as the 2 couples are completly different even when within the binderies of cuckolding (many are not even cuckold as many have said) advice does not work just like books blogs porn they are all based on either one couple or fantasy ... it the same for say people who give guys profile advice it dont work nobody knows you ony you know that ... and its the same with real cuckold couples yes there will be some basics but everything else will be tailor made within the couple years of being together years of adding it something you cant give advice for... for cuckolding theres no such thing as a off the shelf relationship for cuckolding in fact for swinging too it only works for good relationship ...its why alot of couples wont meet fb/fwb couples because they never have that spark even when they think they do best way to cuckold is firstly be the right man and woman in a great relationship and then talk learn do and repeat you'll know if its right quite quickly because if its not the relationship wont last ...its that simple... also again very simple and this is the same with cuckold /swinging / kinks there are never enough women by a massive amout too ..why ?? well clearly they are simply not interested so that means there are alot of guys in life that it will forever just be a fantasy and nothing else its just a fact of life " You ridicule people’s advice - then spend your last two paragraphs giving advice. If this thread is not for you why not just pass on by. | |||
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"advice advice advice it dont work it will never work why because we are all different one couple cannot advise another couple its pointless as the 2 couples are completly different even when within the binderies of cuckolding (many are not even cuckold as many have said) advice does not work just like books blogs porn they are all based on either one couple or fantasy ... it the same for say people who give guys profile advice it dont work nobody knows you ony you know that ... and its the same with real cuckold couples yes there will be some basics but everything else will be tailor made within the couple years of being together years of adding it something you cant give advice for... for cuckolding theres no such thing as a off the shelf relationship for cuckolding in fact for swinging too it only works for good relationship ...its why alot of couples wont meet fb/fwb couples because they never have that spark even when they think they do best way to cuckold is firstly be the right man and woman in a great relationship and then talk learn do and repeat you'll know if its right quite quickly because if its not the relationship wont last ...its that simple... also again very simple and this is the same with cuckold /swinging / kinks there are never enough women by a massive amout too ..why ?? well clearly they are simply not interested so that means there are alot of guys in life that it will forever just be a fantasy and nothing else its just a fact of life You ridicule people’s advice - then spend your last two paragraphs giving advice. If this thread is not for you why not just pass on by. " where did i ridicule ???? i just said it dont work | |||
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"Think it's a decent idea op.. maybe there should be a thread dedicated to this part of the lifestyle. Sometimes if you need advice it's nice to talk to someone who's a bit further along in there journey than you are. We have a few people on our friends list who we could ask for advice but the forums have been very informative. A cuckolding one is a good idea in our opinion "Agree it is a very good idea. | |||
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"Think it's a decent idea op.. maybe there should be a thread dedicated to this part of the lifestyle. Sometimes if you need advice it's nice to talk to someone who's a bit further along in there journey than you are. We have a few people on our friends list who we could ask for advice but the forums have been very informative. A cuckolding one is a good idea in our opinion "Thanks We never set out to say this is the cuck bible, more a starting point to share our own experiences and to maybe avoid some glaring early days mistakes we made. But to reiterate: these are only what we think. It’s not a dictat. J and L x | |||
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"You also need to know when youre being played " Calling yourself the cuck to be just hanging on in the relationship perhaps? | |||
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"You also need to know when youre being played Calling yourself the cuck to be just hanging on in the relationship perhaps?" Possibly | |||
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"Good thread We started out many years ago as pretty normal swingers, is there such a thing LOL. As time goes on I've been able to express my Bi sexuality thanks to mrs N being such a good egg and very open minded. I am not a cuckold as the woman needs to get it. I suppose it's more of role playing scenarios rather than full on cuckold as Mrs is not into it all that much. She is happy to let me do my cucky things though while she gets on with enjoying the great sex. I am ready to fluff, serve and clean as required. " It works for you both, that's what matters. I don't worry about labelling it! | |||
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"Good thread We started out many years ago as pretty normal swingers, is there such a thing LOL. As time goes on I've been able to express my Bi sexuality thanks to mrs N being such a good egg and very open minded. I am not a cuckold as the woman needs to get it. I suppose it's more of role playing scenarios rather than full on cuckold as Mrs is not into it all that much. She is happy to let me do my cucky things though while she gets on with enjoying the great sex. I am ready to fluff, serve and clean as required. It works for you both, that's what matters. I don't worry about labelling it! "Agree with this totally. May I say this guy has been around a long time and his opinion is valued for us. X | |||
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"Good thread We started out many years ago as pretty normal swingers, is there such a thing LOL. As time goes on I've been able to express my Bi sexuality thanks to mrs N being such a good egg and very open minded. I am not a cuckold as the woman needs to get it. I suppose it's more of role playing scenarios rather than full on cuckold as Mrs is not into it all that much. She is happy to let me do my cucky things though while she gets on with enjoying the great sex. I am ready to fluff, serve and clean as required. It works for you both, that's what matters. I don't worry about labelling it!
Agree with this totally. May I say this guy has been around a long time and his opinion is valued for us. X"Why thank you. | |||
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