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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Patience is a virtue......etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience is a virtue......etc"

Stick with it pal , just takes a while to become known on here cos of all the timewasters getting in the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,? "

Maybe putting some photos on your profile may help just to give an idea what you are about? You are up against thousands of guys on here and having no photos may be doing you no favours ? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public photos would definitely help but ifyour current meeting strategy isn't working then try a different approach. Good luck.

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By *arbie and ken 2010Couple
over a year ago

braintree

If you came acros a cpl or single ladie profile like yours what would you do ?

More than likely what every one is doing to your move on to one that more intresting

Time for a profile update with more about you and some pictures but not all cock pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up ages ago, looking for meets on here is just depressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,? "
when you start writing forum posts like these.....

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Your profile comes across as a bit whiney and negative - maybe time for a re-write....and throw in a few public pics for good measure! Good luck! Xx

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Big no no is cock pictures,we ignore them completely,I like to find guys that wife may fancy .see profile .get to see if they like same things as her.then she Mau be interested in gettin to see some cock pictures,,,then if she likes you get an invite,,the guys we meet at clubs don't walk around with cocks hanging out ,she likes the banter ,if all goes well and she decides she wants them ,as long as the know how to use them she will enjoy ,if they are a bit bigger than average she calls that a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterday there was a post by member who had just been given the all clear from cancer.

It sort of puts this post by the o p in perspective so come on fella get a grip.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yesterday there was a post by member who had just been given the all clear from cancer.

It sort of puts this post by the o p in perspective so come on fella get a grip."

I don't need to get a grip , i just wondered . I'm not that bothered to be honest .

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,? when you start writing forum posts like these....."

If you see it as hard work or wasting your time then maybe you are at that stage. It should be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just enjoy the forums and chat and if something comes of that you'll feel it was a bonus!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,? "

Just keep your profile and don't make it a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday there was a post by member who had just been given the all clear from cancer.

It sort of puts this post by the o p in perspective so come on fella get a grip.

I don't need to get a grip , i just wondered . I'm not that bothered to be honest . "

If you are "not that bothered" why have you put a post on the forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday there was a post by member who had just been given the all clear from cancer.

It sort of puts this post by the o p in perspective so come on fella get a grip.

I don't need to get a grip , i just wondered . I'm not that bothered to be honest .

If you are "not that bothered" why have you put a post on the forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are "not that bothered" why have you put a post on the forum?

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Because nobody's ever posted anything before on the forums that they weren't deeply passionate about, right?

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Mate as soon as it starts to knock your confidence then throw in the towel. Remember this lifestyle is uspposed to be all about fun. If you are not having fun then why cause yourself stress seeking these answers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont waste your time on Fab in weekdays, most meets are spur of moment at weekends and late hours, once you meet people youl meet others through word of mouth, make sure you make a real long lasting impression, get creative with messages and profile, pics are a must ! and like said above if its nocking your confidence, time is to quit.

Im no charles atlas but plenty of meets in little time. Be yourself !!

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By *ondiniumCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Nothing like venting some angry frustration to get people interested in you!

Not having a dig but you're not exactly doing yourself any favours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, some women get fed up of cock pics, particularly on the soft..........face pics work far better !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and stand out a bit more and get involved in chatting in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,? "

You only "grow in the towel" when you get out of the shower and you actually do have a meet waiting in your bed for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn! I wanted to mention growing in towels!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I do find it odd when people come on the forums and make it clear that the only reason they are on Fab is for sex, and that if they don't get sex then the site has been unsuccessful for them. It was the same when I was on other sites - if the person didn't get sex, the site was at fault.

I am on here for meeting people yes, but also on here to chat on the forums, get ideas about clubs and parties, and keep up to date with local socials. All of which have helped me meet people. Go figure!

When the only important thing in your life is to have sex then it is time to change your priorities.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I do find it odd when people come on the forums and make it clear that the only reason they are on Fab is for sex, and that if they don't get sex then the site has been unsuccessful for them. It was the same when I was on other sites - if the person didn't get sex, the site was at fault.

I am on here for meeting people yes, but also on here to chat on the forums, get ideas about clubs and parties, and keep up to date with local socials. All of which have helped me meet people. Go figure!

When the only important thing in your life is to have sex then it is time to change your priorities."

Why? Absolutely nothing wrong with being on Fab to meet people for sex, and having no interest in socials, clubs or the forums.

Of course, whether being unsuccessful warrants moaning about it is another matter entirely!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I do find it odd when people come on the forums and make it clear that the only reason they are on Fab is for sex, and that if they don't get sex then the site has been unsuccessful for them. It was the same when I was on other sites - if the person didn't get sex, the site was at fault.

I am on here for meeting people yes, but also on here to chat on the forums, get ideas about clubs and parties, and keep up to date with local socials. All of which have helped me meet people. Go figure!

When the only important thing in your life is to have sex then it is time to change your priorities.

Why? Absolutely nothing wrong with being on Fab to meet people for sex, and having no interest in socials, clubs or the forums.

Of course, whether being unsuccessful warrants moaning about it is another matter entirely!"

Meeting people for sex is fine, but blaming the site for not being successful is what I find confusing.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Well yes of course, the fault is never the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never surrender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what stage do you grow in the towel and admit defeat and accept you are not going to get another meet and hitting the delete profile button would be far simpler than wasting time looking for a meet,? "

We are getting that way now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find it odd when people come on the forums and make it clear that the only reason they are on Fab is for sex, and that if they don't get sex then the site has been unsuccessful for them. It was the same when I was on other sites - if the person didn't get sex, the site was at fault.

I am on here for meeting people yes, but also on here to chat on the forums, get ideas about clubs and parties, and keep up to date with local socials. All of which have helped me meet people. Go figure!

When the only important thing in your life is to have sex then it is time to change your priorities."
sorry But this IS a sex site is it not?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"sorry But this IS a sex site is it not? "

Technically its a swinger site, which is more of a lifestyle. However my point is not that people shouldn't be coming on for sex meets. I am saying people should use all the features of the site to make those meets easier to get.

I get most of my meets via parties and socials. I read about those parties and socials on the forums. I have met people from the forums. Saying the site isn't working just because you are not getting meets is selling the site short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who has been on this site for over 5yrs i can honestly say the change on here is huge.

Its getting more like a dating site/facebook

Yes it is a swinging site...ie...people meet to have sex...

Not go on dinner dates or the flicks..

I mean Iv been on the chatroom or forums and god forbid some guy asks a chick to meet...all he gets us abuso and demands what he has to do before they can meet...

Cpls are just as bad as we have had the oh we can go out for dinner then maybe arrange another date???

Wtf??? I go to dinner with my Real mates...

We are on here to meet likeminded folk and swap partners...

Is the art of swinging dead??

Auds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have to ask that question then to me it's time to go. It;s meant to be fun and if it's not - then why bother.

But as others have said, you aren;t really doing that much to help yourself. Maybe it's just a simple case of needing to re-evaluate your expectations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has been on this site for over 5yrs i can honestly say the change on here is huge.

Its getting more like a dating site/facebook

Yes it is a swinging site...ie...people meet to have sex...

Not go on dinner dates or the flicks..

I mean Iv been on the chatroom or forums and god forbid some guy asks a chick to meet...all he gets us abuso and demands what he has to do before they can meet...

Cpls are just as bad as we have had the oh we can go out for dinner then maybe arrange another date???

Wtf??? I go to dinner with my Real mates...

We are on here to meet likeminded folk and swap partners...

Is the art of swinging dead??

Auds "

Here Here- I mean its not like people cant say a polite no, once you turn up....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never come on here looking for meets

I just come on and post and chat, if someone catches my eye and we get on I will meet, if not theres always another day

I think some people fixate on getting a meet every time they log on and that's why they get disappointe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never come on here looking for meets

I just come on and post and chat, if someone catches my eye and we get on I will meet, if not theres always another day

I think some people fixate on getting a meet every time they log on and that's why they get disappointe"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never come on here looking for meets

I just come on and post and chat, if someone catches my eye and we get on I will meet, if not theres always another day

I think some people fixate on getting a meet every time they log on and that's why they get disappointe"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having said that there's a lot of men on here who catch my eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CHILL / be patient , when it HAPPENS , its worth the wait

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Always comes down to what people see this site as.

Truth is, its whatever you want it to be. If you want to meet and shag then look for others who want the same, if you prefer to have a social side too, then there are plenty who also like that.

The site is loaded with all sorts of different people with different expectations.

Swinging is no longer 'keys in the ashtray' ...... just enjoy the site and keep trying.

The only sure thing is, if you leave you wont be meeting anyone from here.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

try attending a few socials if you are in south wales as newport , cardiff and swansea have them and they are good places to meet and get to know people in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I enjoy the forums , and I'm not desperate for a meet at all. I just wonder at times weather its worth the hassel . I'm certainly not losing sleep over it .

O and its not a look at me thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find it odd when people come on the forums and make it clear that the only reason they are on Fab is for sex, and that if they don't get sex then the site has been unsuccessful for them. It was the same when I was on other sites - if the person didn't get sex, the site was at fault.

I am on here for meeting people yes, but also on here to chat on the forums, get ideas about clubs and parties, and keep up to date with local socials. All of which have helped me meet people. Go figure!

When the only important thing in your life is to have sex then it is time to change your priorities."

Well said

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

hit the button id say.

and now is as gooder time as any if its not happening for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hit the button id say.

and now is as gooder time as any if its not happening for you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hit the button id say.

and now is as gooder time as any if its not happening for you "

Pretty much all the single guys here are in the same boat. I'd keep at it. Or do you have a FB you could rope into forming a couple? That is my next plan of attack. If all else fails, I will be reaching for my little black book and reinventing myself as one half of a swing team. I am also working up the bottle to attend a party/event/gangbang as that is something I have always wanted to get into.

I think if Fab was the only way for me to get sex, I'd be fed up and frustrated by now, but it is merely an addition to my activities and hopefully and avenue down which I can broaden my sexual horizons and try new things. Think that is a healthier way to view it.

I met one girl off here last year and that took a gargantuan effort. It is far easier to get sex in a club, on sites like PoF or socialising than on Fab, ironically, but I am hoping the quality of sex, filthiness of mind and open minded aspect of any Fab partner to make it wirth while. You sound like you take it all too seriously though. Maybe take a break for a week or two, listen to the advice of the those who made valuable contributions to this thread, reassess and come back in a week or two fired up and ready to get stuck back into Fab balls deep

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