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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone, hope that everyone is having a chilled out Sunday afternoon. I wanted seek some advice in regards to improving my profile, I have been honest in all that I wrote, but sometimes I get unpleasant replies from individuals.

I understand there could be various factors that the person who replied could be having causing them to reply in such a manner, but it makes me wonder if it is my profile that causes such reactions from people.

I will appreciate some constructive feedback if possible on how to improve my profile. I have pictures on how I look like in my "friends only" section. Thank you in advance for your help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we say to most on here, your profile gives no clue to what we would be in it for us and why should you be chosen over anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what messages you send OP

A few more pics on your profile might help

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Your profile is fine....

Ignore the unpleasant ones....

I would also ignore the ones only interested in whats in it for them...

Good luck...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much for the feedback so far everyone.

But out of curiosity how do you fill in "what's in it for the party/person?" That's a tough question and the answer's can vary so much from person to person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile might be long, and is better than many but still doesn't really say much of any substance to make you stand out.

The first paragraph would be enough to put us off. Trying to stand out by criticising your peer group is never a good look.

And 4 lines to explain why you don't barback?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice profile. Maybe a few more.pics in public would help. Report any rudeness-no need for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile might be long, and is better than many but still doesn't really say much of any substance to make you stand out.

The first paragraph would be enough to put us off. Trying to stand out by criticising your peer group is never a good look.

And 4 lines to explain why you don't barback?"

Wanted to ask some suggestions by Pm'ing you in terms in what way do you mean substance but I can't cause I am sngle... I do not mean to criticize others... I will look into changing that part and thank you very much for informing me the area that is weak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice profile. Maybe a few more.pics in public would help. Report any rudeness-no need for it."

Thank you for the feedback... I will try to add more pictures.

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By *he full worksCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Maybe put the reason you don't

Accommodate some couples think there is a good reason for it why others will think your playing away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile might be long, and is better than many but still doesn't really say much of any substance to make you stand out.

The first paragraph would be enough to put us off. Trying to stand out by criticising your peer group is never a good look.

And 4 lines to explain why you don't barback?

Wanted to ask some suggestions by Pm'ing you in terms in what way do you mean substance but I can't cause I am sngle... I do not mean to criticize others... I will look into changing that part and thank you very much for informing me the area that is weak."

Not sure why you would need to PM us. But substance, well your profile basically says that you are Asian, shy, won't shag anything and everything, won;t do bareback, and you think you're fun and like a laugh and have a large sexual appetite. How much of that is unique to you? How does that make you stand out from the 1000's of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my pet hates is getting PMs in response to a forum post. If anyone has a question or comment about something I've written then say it in the forum please.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Point taken on board everyone... it does makes sense what you two couples are saying. I will make some changes and go from there... thank you for the points raised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you for taking the advice on board and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's not a thing wrong with your profile and if you don't highlight whats in it for others then so what....that's surely between you and them ....time singles stopped getting treated as though everyone was doing them a favour...as is said by many on here ...you are here for YOUR pleasure and if you don't tick some people's boxes well so be it Im sure there are plenty you will tick ....all the best

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By *he full worksCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"Your profile might be long, and is better than many but still doesn't really say much of any substance to make you stand out.

The first paragraph would be enough to put us off. Trying to stand out by criticising your peer group is never a good look.

And 4 lines to explain why you don't barback?"

And using words that are not used in

Everyday life of most people makes you stand out!!!no makes us want too leave the profile....quick too the point is better

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By *he full worksCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"There's not a thing wrong with your profile and if you don't highlight whats in it for others then so what....that's surely between you and them ....time singles stopped getting treated as though everyone was doing them a favour...as is said by many on here ...you are here for YOUR pleasure and if you don't tick some people's boxes well so be it Im sure there are plenty you will tick ....all the best "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen a lot worse!

Just ensure it reflects you and your personality, what you're looking for and what you can offer those you hope to meet.

There's nothing wrong with browsing other profiles for ideas and tips - just ensure you never cut and paste or include anything that's not 'you'!

Oh - and a variety of pics always helps!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not a thing wrong with your profile and if you don't highlight whats in it for others then so what....that's surely between you and them ....time singles stopped getting treated as though everyone was doing them a favour...as is said by many on here ...you are here for YOUR pleasure and if you don't tick some people's boxes well so be it Im sure there are plenty you will tick ....all the best "

I don't understand?

The OP has asked for feedback, he is clearly receptive to it (unlike most of these type of threads) but you seem to be criticising people for giving him the advice he asked for and telling him not take it on board?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys please please chill out... I think the person didn't mean anything wrong by saying what she did.. I think she is just telling me to be myself... confident is important.. that is the message I got from reading her feedback.

I am happy to receive help from everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not a thing wrong with your profile and if you don't highlight whats in it for others then so what....that's surely between you and them ....time singles stopped getting treated as though everyone was doing them a favour...as is said by many on here ...you are here for YOUR pleasure and if you don't tick some people's boxes well so be it Im sure there are plenty you will tick ....all the best

I don't understand?

The OP has asked for feedback, he is clearly receptive to it (unlike most of these type of threads) but you seem to be criticising people for giving him the advice he asked for and telling him not take it on board?"

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you very much for the feedback so far everyone.

But out of curiosity how do you fill in "what's in it for the party/person?" That's a tough question and the answer's can vary so much from person to person. "

If you can't say why someone would meet you others won't be able to say why either. Have a think about how to sell yourself and what you can offer that will differentiate yourself from others. It doesn't matter really that people will want different things because it is about you.

This is more important for you as a single male on here as you are far and away in the majority.

Unfortunately you could be the nicest guy on here but you can't compare to some of the single females who can be fat, ugly and have horrendous personalities but will still get treated like Beyonce!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not a thing wrong with your profile and if you don't highlight whats in it for others then so what....that's surely between you and them ....time singles stopped getting treated as though everyone was doing them a favour...as is said by many on here ...you are here for YOUR pleasure and if you don't tick some people's boxes well so be it Im sure there are plenty you will tick ....all the best

I don't understand?

The OP has asked for feedback, he is clearly receptive to it (unlike most of these type of threads) but you seem to be criticising people for giving him the advice he asked for and telling him not take it on board?

Really? "

Yes and you are completely contradictory as you say ignore people who are in it for for themselves but then say he is in it for his pleasure. Oh dear.

So I suppose you also answer all those 'want a fuck' messages then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not a thing wrong with your profile and if you don't highlight whats in it for others then so what....that's surely between you and them ....time singles stopped getting treated as though everyone was doing them a favour...as is said by many on here ...you are here for YOUR pleasure and if you don't tick some people's boxes well so be it Im sure there are plenty you will tick ....all the best

I don't understand?

The OP has asked for feedback, he is clearly receptive to it (unlike most of these type of threads) but you seem to be criticising people for giving him the advice he asked for and telling him not take it on board?

Really?

Yes and you are completely contradictory as you say ignore people who are in it for for themselves but then say he is in it for his pleasure. Oh dear.

So I suppose you also answer all those 'want a fuck' messages then?"

Perhaps if you actually read what I said in the spirit it was meant rather than jumping in you would see that nowhere did I use the word ignore in relation to anyone...honestly it's not all about you you know why take one comment out of many and view it as a personal slight when it was in relation to the OP and not you .... your last comment was personally aimed at me though and rather uncalled for, somewhat childish but there you go ....all the best to you.

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