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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that we get plenty of men messaging to meet us but when it comes to bi women and couples they dont want to meet or they all seem fake or never stay in contact??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say never stay in contact do they just stop replying to your messages? Or do you wait for them to contact you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They say they wanna meet and never reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They say they wanna meet and never reply"

Happens all the time,

Some people just window shop . Keep looking plenty of genuine s out there .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They say they wanna meet and never reply

Happens all the time,

Some people just window shop . Keep looking plenty of genuine s out there ."

Its unfortunate but alot of people on any of these types of sites seem to enjoy the chat and fantasy of the meet but when it become real they panic or get scared, you just have to cut through the crap to find the diamonds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples anymore after a fairly dodgy experience, but when I was I had a few occasions where I found them to be as pushy (if not moreso) than single guys. Everyone wants to meet a bi single fem, but I wonder if they stop to think about what the bi single fem wants. I'm not a performing monkey and I certainly don't do fem on fem just for the male of the couple to watch and wank.

Its something that really riles me about fab - we are not like rocking horse shit but we're choosy and dodgy experiences put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pity ur so far away cos mrs has the same problem up ere, u will get there

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

The joys of it lol just adds to the chase and makes it even more when it does happen

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By *ornyGCCouple
over a year ago

Slaithwaite

In direct response to your question it may be because you have singles profile too. Some couples that we meet tend not to like couples who play seperately.

As for why they fizzle out after chatting it could be many reasons from short responses (that's why we wouldn't) to them being fake or not having the confidence.

Maybe try putting a bit more about you personally on your profile and not just the sexual elements

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I don't meet couples anymore after a fairly dodgy experience, but when I was I had a few occasions where I found them to be as pushy (if not moreso) than single guys. Everyone wants to meet a bi single fem, but I wonder if they stop to think about what the bi single fem wants. "

I have to agree - couples can be a lot more pushy than single guys and I find it really off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just meet single guys, problem solved !!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Just meet single guys, problem solved !! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single woman.

I'm also a single mum, which makes sorting meets a little tricky. I'd love to play far more, sadly life atm just doesn't allow due to juggling family and work.

But if ever I'm contacted I'm always honest about my situation. And always reply. Sometimes it's easier not to arrange meets, just so you don't mess people about. I have meets arranged, and am busy for the next 6 or 7 weeks. I don't think I'm all that by any means, but my reality is my first priority.

Don't think its because of you or anything you are or aren't doing. Just we don't all get as much time to play.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Just meet single guys, problem solved !! "

Many a true word spoken in jest, but given the incredibly small percentage of single females, the smaller number who are real and meet and the even smaller number that havent written couples off (due to dodgy meets) you're far better off on here trying to meet men/couples, lots of people come here chasing the white unicorn only to be incredibly let down by the whole situation.

Its even gotten the point where we have couples messaging us asking if Mrs C will play alone with them (like first message right off the bat).

Sad times indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have exactly the same problem with couples and ladies... All seems to be going well, chatting, exchanging pics and then silence!! Stop replying to messages

Why we now opt for clubs as even if we don't get 'lucky' we have always have a great night and met some new friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just meet single guys, problem solved !!

Many a true word spoken in jest, but given the incredibly small percentage of single females, the smaller number who are real and meet and the even smaller number that havent written couples off (due to dodgy meets) you're far better off on here trying to meet men/couples, lots of people come here chasing the white unicorn only to be incredibly let down by the whole situation.

Its even gotten the point where we have couples messaging us asking if Mrs C will play alone with them (like first message right off the bat).

Sad times indeed.

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Couples often treat us like a single female. Infuriating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same thing used to meet a couple regular . First couple of times not full fun with hubby although he did get involved but the wife always had to have a drink to play but according to her been bi since being a teenager. Well the last time I met them because the husband did get involved it all kicked off wife wasn't happy at all ... That was me out of there never to go back ... Don't need that sort of hassle .. But I did meet one other couple who were lovely.

Also messages from single guys asking if I can be there girlfriends first bi experience in the first message !!! Errr mmm no love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you have read our profiles i have met plenty of single men for fun. WE WANT COUPLES

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I have recently contacted 2 couples (because they cannot contact me) and not had any news from either...would have been nice to get a No thanks.

Couples can ruin it for other couples in the same way as single men can.

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

Its tough it really is. We have a baby so meets need to be planned, and we want to meet socially somehow first before any sexy times for the same reason

Its relatively easy to meet single men, apparently even bi ones, but couples not so much - sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we want to meet str8 cpls but no one really msgs us and if we msg them we get no reply, so have just met sngl men so far, fingers crossed lol

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm a bi woman. Have to say, you get an awful lot of rude messages, and people just expecting you to do whatever they want - without even thinking what I would like out of a meet. I had one couple message asking me to be her first bi experience but only to do things to her - and that neither would reciprocate!

At the moment, I am seeing a guy, so only looking for ladies, and have met a couple of fantastic ones through here - but an awful lot of time wasters too. Like many of the other ladies on here - I have a son, and a real life, so cannot drop things there and then - and I think sometimes the attitude to singles is that we can.

Also, got to say, there are some really pushy couples and men - one I was messaging - knew I wasn't going to meet as I'm only looking for ladies (and they messaged me first) and then they were very rude when I said I wasn't going to give them my mobile or any address details as we were never going to meet - got a horrible message, and slagged off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet couples anymore after a fairly dodgy experience, but when I was I had a few occasions where I found them to be as pushy (if not moreso) than single guys. Everyone wants to meet a bi single fem, but I wonder if they stop to think about what the bi single fem wants. I'm not a performing monkey and I certainly don't do fem on fem just for the male of the couple to watch and wank.

Its something that really riles me about fab - we are not like rocking horse shit but we're choosy and dodgy experiences put us off. "

Thats why we no longer seek single females from the web because we have found alot think it's just the female just doing it to please her partner and not because she wants to please females herself, yes there is some like that but not all.

So no, not everyone wants to me a Bi female from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a cpl looking for lady and finding it difficult to find a genuine one. Alot seem to be guys we think

Gio does not make me do anything I dont want. Its discussed before we meet up n the build up, anticipation of meet gets us horny.

We will cam or arrange social meet for coffee to prove genuine. Anyone can send pics!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I'm a bi woman. Have to say, you get an awful lot of rude messages, and people just expecting you to do whatever they want - without even thinking what I would like out of a meet. I had one couple message asking me to be her first bi experience but only to do things to her - and that neither would reciprocate!

At the moment, I am seeing a guy, so only looking for ladies, and have met a couple of fantastic ones through here - but an awful lot of time wasters too. Like many of the other ladies on here - I have a son, and a real life, so cannot drop things there and then - and I think sometimes the attitude to singles is that we can.

Also, got to say, there are some really pushy couples and men - one I was messaging - knew I wasn't going to meet as I'm only looking for ladies (and they messaged me first) and then they were very rude when I said I wasn't going to give them my mobile or any address details as we were never going to meet - got a horrible message, and slagged off. "

You look lovely

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I'm a bi woman. Have to say, you get an awful lot of rude messages, and people just expecting you to do whatever they want - without even thinking what I would like out of a meet. I had one couple message asking me to be her first bi experience but only to do things to her - and that neither would reciprocate!

At the moment, I am seeing a guy, so only looking for ladies, and have met a couple of fantastic ones through here - but an awful lot of time wasters too. Like many of the other ladies on here - I have a son, and a real life, so cannot drop things there and then - and I think sometimes the attitude to singles is that we can.

Also, got to say, there are some really pushy couples and men - one I was messaging - knew I wasn't going to meet as I'm only looking for ladies (and they messaged me first) and then they were very rude when I said I wasn't going to give them my mobile or any address details as we were never going to meet - got a horrible message, and slagged off.

You look lovely "

You look lovely too Bambi... just a shame you're so far away x

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I'm a bi woman. Have to say, you get an awful lot of rude messages, and people just expecting you to do whatever they want - without even thinking what I would like out of a meet. I had one couple message asking me to be her first bi experience but only to do things to her - and that neither would reciprocate!

At the moment, I am seeing a guy, so only looking for ladies, and have met a couple of fantastic ones through here - but an awful lot of time wasters too. Like many of the other ladies on here - I have a son, and a real life, so cannot drop things there and then - and I think sometimes the attitude to singles is that we can.

Also, got to say, there are some really pushy couples and men - one I was messaging - knew I wasn't going to meet as I'm only looking for ladies (and they messaged me first) and then they were very rude when I said I wasn't going to give them my mobile or any address details as we were never going to meet - got a horrible message, and slagged off.

You look lovely

You look lovely too Bambi... just a shame you're so far away x"

I know...just my luck...sigh!!!

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