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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

Hi does anyone have any tips on messaging women on here.

This is a typical sort of message I would send

Hey how are you

Hope you don’t mind the out of the blue message

Just thought I’d see if you maybe would like to chat sometime when your free

I’m Noel by the way

Too much ??

Too less ???

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By *issfrogstompWoman
35 weeks ago

Oxford

Bear in mind that women get hundreds of messages a day.

There's nothing in your message personalised to the profile you've just read.

Why do you like their profile?

Why should someone speak to you instead of the thousands of other men on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

Ohhh yeah I totally get that

I do read profiles but I never mention them in the messages

So that’s a lot of help

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Do u send any pics. As you have none on ur profile, they dont have to be facepics but somthing to give the woman a kind of idea if she is interested in you

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By *izzy.Woman
35 weeks ago

Stoke area

The majority of people have a look at someone's profile, before deciding whether to reply to a message. So is your profile as good as it could be. Check your headline makes sense, add some photos and make it interesting.

As someone else has already said, mention their profile and explain why you are interested in the person you are contacting.....rather than just a message that you could have sent to 50 ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

From our point of view.

You have no profile picture, you can't put a face pic for work and that's fine, but you can put another kind of picture. The lack of a pic would likely have your message deleted by us.

Also women/couples on here get dozens of messages a day so it is pot luck.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
35 weeks ago

Weymouth


"Hi does anyone have any tips on messaging women on here.

This is a typical sort of message I would send

Hey how are you

Hope you don’t mind the out of the blue message

Just thought I’d see if you maybe would like to chat sometime when your free

I’m Noel by the way

Too much ??

Too less ???"

The suggestion of "chatting" puts the onus on the recipient of the message to....well....chat. To me it's lazy - Xeno

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

Yesh.

I’m going to definitely put some pictures up

Cheers for your tips

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By *ony MannMan
35 weeks ago

New York City New York USA

In the past I chatted in the chat rooms and somehow that turned into an exchange of messages by mail.

What do I say now. I say something different. that gets me noticed. Don't me afraid of saying something they may not like. The lady will discover anything you hide.

If you have verifications display them, why would you hide them? I body or face pic is good, cock pics is a put off.

That is my advice for what it is worth.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
35 weeks ago

Central

It's best to personalise your message, not to use a copy and paste one.

If your messages and profile are forgettable and bland, you will be too

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Welcome to the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

Loving all this help

Thank you so much

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

I’m not looking for me I’m looking for women

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

Men sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"I’m not looking for me I’m looking for women "

Hit reply and quote under the post your replying to so people know

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By *rcoupleCouple
35 weeks ago

Mid Glam

No offense but your message as said by others comes across as generic and a bit dull.

Add a picture to your profile for a start- not a cock shot please.

Asking how people are is very cliche and dull way to start.

Be a bit more assertive, add a bit pf humor, dont make it too long or be beggy.

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By *edWitch0000Woman
35 weeks ago

worthing


"I’m not looking for me I’m looking for women "

I was responding to the poster above, whose post I quoted in my reply pointing out that his advice might not help a man who is looking to meet women on fab.

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By *orny-DJMan
35 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea


"The majority of people have a look at someone's profile, before deciding whether to reply to a message. So is your profile as good as it could be. Check your headline makes sense, add some photos and make it interesting.

"

Exactly this. And most won't even bother going that far if you haven't even got a profile picture up

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