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"Tell single men how you prefer to be spoken to "I prefer to be spoken to however the other person deems fit to speak to me from their own judgement. That is exactly how we get to know somebody. Being something that you're not because you're told to be is not attractive to me. | |||
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"If I need to tell a guy how to speak to another human being then he's not the guy for me" This! | |||
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"Why give people a blueprint They'll figure it out themselves or not P.S. Whats good for one may not be for others" This, I'd rather they didn't pretend to be someone they're not. Some messages are great filters. | |||
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"Tell single men how you prefer to be spoken to "The advice would simply be to speak to others the way you would speak to them face to face. Too many single guys talk like arseholes on here. We are not sure if it is because they are entitled to free sex by simply being here, or because they can hide behind a screen. Manners are everything! And the best advice is of course, read the profile first and respect the choices of others. Good luck! | |||
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"Why give people a blueprint They'll figure it out themselves or not P.S. Whats good for one may not be for others This, I'd rather they didn't pretend to be someone they're not. Some messages are great filters. " It's not about being something you're not. Simply learning. One of the ways of learning anything is asking questions. seems perfectly reasonable to ask in a environment where men are continy being told they are not doing it right. | |||
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"If I need to tell a guy how to speak to another human being then he's not the guy for me" Quite. Some things you have to figure out for yourself OP. | |||
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"Like I’m an actual human being, not a random selection of holes." This is the answer! But if this doesn't come naturally to someone then they need to delete their account | |||
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"On a previous profile I foolishly asked what a lady meant when she said men ‘didn’t know how to speak to a woman’. Never again: volleys of abuse and condescendion followed. " Indeed. Asking for advice does seem to trigger a fair few patronising responses ratger than any actual advice. | |||
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"On a previous profile I foolishly asked what a lady meant when she said men ‘didn’t know how to speak to a woman’. Never again: volleys of abuse and condescendion followed. Indeed. Asking for advice does seem to trigger a fair few patronising responses ratger than any actual advice. " Thing is I wasn’t asking for advice; the question wasn’t framed that way.  | |||
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Seriously though some women myself included like a guy to just talk to me human to human. I'm not special, complicated or difficult to work out.
Other women (also men) make it very difficult for men or women to know how to respond to them because they read things into what they say and are always thinking 'what did they mean by that?'. It's difficult to have conversations with people like that and I avoid it if possible.
On fab I don't like conversations that lead with sex talk, I'm not keen off fab either but it tends not to happen in the no 22 bus.  | |||
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"Tell single men how you prefer to be spoken to
The advice would simply be to speak to others the way you would speak to them face to face.
Too many single guys talk like arseholes on here. We are not sure if it is because they are entitled to free sex by simply being here, or because they can hide behind a screen.
Manners are everything!
And the best advice is of course, read the profile first and respect the choices of others.
Good luck!"No it's because alot of them have what's called artificial created domanince, the falsey believe that being a dick makes them believe there an alpha when it's actually the opposite, you see it in dog's when people don't train there dog proper and it's not a naturally domanint dog and they put it in to a pack lead position it will become aggressive with everything and everyone because it's under the impression from it's environment that's it's a leader. Where's if you look at domanint dogs or wolves you'll notice the alpha's lead by example and are calm and collected and in control of the environment they can't afford to lose there cool and are respectfully in that leadership role. Sorry long reply but it's my opinion  | |||
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"Why give people a blueprint They'll figure it out themselves or not P.S. Whats good for one may not be for others This, I'd rather they didn't pretend to be someone they're not. Some messages are great filters. It's not about being something you're not. Simply learning. One of the ways of learning anything is asking questions. seems perfectly reasonable to ask in a environment where men are continy being told they are not doing it right. " People shouldn't need to be told how to speak to others in a decent way though. What I mean is if you give people a script of how best to speak to women and they follow it, it's not how they'd usually speak to someone so they aren't being themselves. People are more than capable of reading a profile and seeing what that person is looking for ,many just choose not to. | |||
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"On a previous profile I foolishly asked what a lady meant when she said men ‘didn’t know how to speak to a woman’. Never again: volleys of abuse and condescendion followed. Indeed. Asking for advice does seem to trigger a fair few patronising responses ratger than any actual advice. " Why would anyone who is a decent respectful adult need advice about how to speak to other people? It constantly surprises us just how many people do not know how to!! | |||
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"Like a fucking human which in this place seems impossible. Like you'd speak face to face not some ego behind a keyboard. Mrs " Oh the irony | |||
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"If I need to tell a guy how to speak to another human being then he's not the guy for me" So well said  | |||
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