FabSwingers.com forum: Nerves

By *sttimehere18 OP Woman
36 weeks ago

When on first meet.... is it normal for the gut to struggle getting hard? Is it nerves?

Just wanting advice. Thanks

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
36 weeks ago

Bristol

Stage fright is totally normal.

We don't realise how easy we have it being female. Or a sub...

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By *ev_1Couple
36 weeks ago

Bickliegh

It happens could be a number of things good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
36 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes it's normal.

It's quite easy when you're reading the fora to believe that every man is able to go all night, is ready for action as soon as they arrive at a meet and all women are multi orgasmic.

The truth is we're just a collection of mortals doing the best we can and sometimes it goes a bit awry

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By *edWitch0000Woman
36 weeks ago

worthing

Very normal! Consider getting little blue plls on private prescription for special occasions!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

"Very normal! Consider getting little blue plls on private prescription for special occasions! "

You don't need any prescription, you can just walk into the pharmacy and buy them after a couple of simple questions from the pharmacist.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Very normal. We know people who have been on the scene for over a decade and occasionally need a little blue helper.

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By *umagain58Man
36 weeks ago

London

I agree it is very normal. People should always respect that and not judge anyone if get nervous. Only do what you are comfortable doing and don’t let anyone pressure you otherwise. Take it slowly and I find get on all relax

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By *rcoupleCouple
36 weeks ago

Mid Glam

Yes it happens.

Do not be tempted with too much Dutch courage either.

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By *umagain58Man
36 weeks ago

London

"Yes it happens.

Do not be tempted with too much Dutch courage either."

Very good advice. Seen some bad outcomes when they did

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By *owhereManMan
36 weeks ago

tamworth

Yep, happened to me on my first outdoor blowbang. The audience kinda terrified me

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I've not had sex in such a long time I couldn't say

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By *WB85Man
36 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We all get nervous about sex regardless of our gender, it's harder (no pun intended) for a man to hide it though.

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By *xeterCandRCouple
36 weeks ago

Digby & Sowton, Exeter

"Yes it's normal.

It's quite easy when you're reading the fora to believe that every man is able to go all night, is ready for action as soon as they arrive at a meet and all women are multi orgasmic.

The truth is we're just a collection of mortals doing the best we can and sometimes it goes a bit awry

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By *uttymonkeyMan
36 weeks ago

devon

Yup. First hand experience.

New people is always a biggy because I like to aim to please but ofc it becomes a fallacy with so many thoughts to manage.

Partly why I've never really been that into one nighters with randoms and more open with friendships.. which unfortunately are mostly the norm

. Still waiting on meeting a community of poly/ra/swing etc in person to gauge a different vibe!

Humm so hope that put your mind at ease XD

Third times the charm

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By *sttimehere18 OP Woman
36 weeks ago

Thank you everyone. Guts was meant to say guy but you got what I meant haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I've not had sex or any kind of intimacy for so long I think nerves would be an understatement.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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35 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I've not had sex or any kind of intimacy for so long I think nerves would be an understatement. "

Everyone, every single one of us started somewhere.

I was horribly nervous the first time we met someone and even now quite a few years later still feel nerves meeting new people.

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By *herryEatersCouple
35 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"When on first meet.... is it normal for the gut to struggle getting hard? Is it nerves?

Just wanting advice. Thanks "

Some men like to get to know the other person for a while, several meets, and build up play as time goes on. Trust grows, you learn what the other likes and dislikes, sex usually gets better and better. One reason we like repeat meets and growing naughty friendships... Another can be the environment and how he feels about himself (maybe in comparison to your beauty). We're the lights down low ?, was it rushed or a natural progression over a few hours ?, is he body conscious somewhat ?. I Tony found myself in a situ once with a couple who had invited several other guys round too while the husband filmed the fun. Great you'd think, yet not with a bright white floodlight shining upon us while the other (and older

) guys stood around the bed watching !. Yes it didn't go well lol

.... Cherry adds 'players can get hard instantly yet guys with loving partners back home can find it difficult initially, it's all psychological'

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By *ario1972Man
35 weeks ago

Guildford

totally normal.

Down to the individual, but I'm shit on forst meets, always a bag of stage fright nerves until I've got to know someone or broken the ice enough to feel comfortable.

The last time it happenned I literally spent around an hour and a half giving her oral as there was no way I was going to get hard enough to do anything else.

it would ahve been like trying to pack dough into a tight purse.

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By *rivervaderMan
35 weeks ago

bolton

Happened in a club once so take back up now with Viagra no more mr softy for me

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By *ockerbeckMan
35 weeks ago

Northallerton

Yes I still get nervous even when we have 3 way fun , it’s getting over that initial start, or do how shall we get this going always nervous lol

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By *weetpea2000Woman
35 weeks ago

Wexford

Happened to guy I met for the first time...didn't put me off.

We had amazing sex for many years after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I find the nerves and anticipation can have the opposite affect in that I go off like a bottle of pop first time

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