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Help i need lesson or advice to become a Dom/master

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello

The fast been a Dom/master really turns me on but don't have a clue what things to say and do

Looking for someone to teach me and give advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets be clear you want to learn abiut being a dom? That would mean you being a sub during training

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yer I fort of that, just wanted some tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you want tips on being dominant or being A dominant

for me its my natural state to be in control and dominant, I learnt to be A dominant from common sense, and talking to others into the same things

there are other websites that cater more to BDSM that have lots of useful information - read, talk learn read more talk more,

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Hello

The fast been a Dom/master really turns me on but don't have a clue what things to say and do

Looking for someone to teach me and give advice "

Get yourself a mentor...(pushing chunky forward) he knows what he is talking about...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Munches, fet, life experience, common sense, on top of a naturally dominant personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get onto the BDSM sites. You'll find wannabe doms here a lot of the time (I don't mean Chunky, he talks a lot of sense) get yourself to a munch or display.

Don't force it though, dominance and submission are natural things, if it isn't coming for you then it may not be there.

There is also a HUGE difference between being a Dominant and a Master though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op.. have u had much experience meeting? from ur previous profile...

and all I'm worried is about is the fact its now 50shades nonsense everyones believing in as bdsm..

ur age is a bit of a set back too...unless its someone ur own age or under..I doubt u have the life experience to dom

anyway its really not my scene, I prefer to have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you contacted Sydney University??

Seems according to so many profiles they have an interest in all things sexual so they may have courses!!

Plus the weather's lush out there!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your feedback, I know my age is a big thing but looking to get it right so if doesn't become a problem, I'm new to all this and the idea seem to turn me on, just showing a interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and deb have a very sub/dom sexual relationship but it wasent somthing we learned from readig or asking people it just came naturally to us, we had to take time to develop the relationship and learn each others boundries all we can say is dont rush it and think you can just dominate a woman instantly, although you could find that aswell

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, I know it not just coming over night, gonna take it slow and do it right just looking to advice and tips

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

You are only a Dom if you have a sub. A sub being a person who submits to you, to a significant extent sublimates their will to yours. Therefore to become a Dom your need to evoke that response in a person you wish to submit to you, somebody you are going to invest a significant amount of time and energy on.

You need to understand a submissives psychological motivations and desire to submit so when you find somebody that you wish to submit to you you can evoke their submission.

So google, read, communicate with submissives, understand them. Then when you meet somebody you wish to have submit to you, you'll be ready.

If you want to be a bedroom Dom otherwise known as a shagging Top then buy a pair of leather trousers and some kit from ann summers, call all females you meet bitch or slut, and change your profile name to MasterSlutFucker or some such.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"You are only a Dom if you have a sub. A sub being a person who submits to you, to a significant extent sublimates their will to yours. Therefore to become a Dom your need to evoke that response in a person you wish to submit to you, somebody you are going to invest a significant amount of time and energy on.

You need to understand a submissives psychological motivations and desire to submit so when you find somebody that you wish to submit to you you can evoke their submission.

So google, read, communicate with submissives, understand them. Then when you meet somebody you wish to have submit to you, you'll be ready.

If you want to be a bedroom Dom otherwise known as a shagging Top then buy a pair of leather trousers and some kit from ann summers, call all females you meet bitch or slut, and change your profile name to MasterSlutFucker or some such."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am currently very successfully mentoring two dominants. But they are both very naturally dominant.

I think though that looking to learn is very admirable. So good luck to you. I can not really add much to what has been said. Xx

So good luck and enjoy the journey. Just beware as it's just minefield at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get onto the BDSM sites. You'll find wannabe doms here a lot of the time (I don't mean Chunky, he talks a lot of sense) get yourself to a munch or display. "


"

Get yourself a mentor...(pushing chunky forward) he knows what he is talking about..."

Ah Shucks Ladies, you flatter me

Now Kneel.........

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Don't know how old you are but people have been really patient here. I'd say if you haven't grown balls enough to try anything then don't get into it.

What is it exactly that you're missing ? What do you want that you can't get from regular sexed relationship?

Rape play? Suffocation? Dehumanising? Age pay? Flogging? Urology? Ownership?

Apart from these and a fee more of the extremes that can go with bdsm, there's really nothing much that can't be done in a regular sexual relationship, so just try some stuff. If she says no at any point, tame the beast immediately. That's it really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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There is also a HUGE difference between being a Dominant and a Master though. "

And if someone doesn't understand that I'd avoid at all costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Munches, fet, life experience, common sense, on top of a naturally dominant personality "

Is that to be a dom or a master?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There is also a HUGE difference between being a Dominant and a Master though.

And if someone doesn't understand that I'd avoid at all costs."

Aaahhhhhh! Grasshoppa!... fancy a meet?

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Get onto the BDSM sites. You'll find wannabe doms here a lot of the time (I don't mean Chunky, he talks a lot of sense) get yourself to a munch or display.

Get yourself a mentor...(pushing chunky forward) he knows what he is talking about...

Ah Shucks Ladies, you flatter me

Now Kneel........."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch lots of bdsm porn - you'll learn lots but also read about it to im sure theres a dummies guide type book as theres alot of psychology behind bdsm but alot of people just like the idea of someone submitting to them.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I don't really get the point . .. Laugh if you like but I would rather treat a woman as my equal with equal control of what she does and how she does it

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


"I don't really get the point . .."

Well....


"Laugh if you like but I would rather treat a woman as my equal with equal control of what she does and how she does it "

Well that's made clear what ou want but what about her? You see difficult though some may find it to comprehend, some women actually want a power imbalance in their relationships.

As much their right to choose to do so as yours to seek a 50/50 relationship

C'est la vie

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

True . You must trust your partner so there is a giving and taking in subtle ways

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

From a woman's point of view. I like to completely dominate. Both of us get tremendous sexual satisfaction from it.

It's a very trusting relationship and I am flattered when someone submits totally to me.

I like the OP would like to explore this side further with advice from those much more experienced than me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get a Dick and Dom DVD. I understand they are quite popular.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Get a Dick and Dom DVD. I understand they are quite popular. "

Dick and Dom. Lol

You watch a lot of kids tv I take it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg I now have a total different impression of their relationship. Didn't need that imagine. God I hope little dick and dom aren't on this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to first realise that to enter into it properly there's a huge psychological consequences involved aswell as the physical permanent harm you can inflict if you don't know what your doing.

First look at the psychology behind it to see if this is what you really want and mature enough to handle that first as that's the most important part of any sub/dom bdsm relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to first realise that to enter into it properly there's a huge psychological consequences involved aswell as the physical permanent harm you can inflict if you don't know what your doing.

First look at the psychology behind it to see if this is what you really want and mature enough to handle that first as that's the most important part of any sub/dom bdsm relationship"

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