FabSwingers.com forum: Females… what grabs your attention to actually open a message?

By *m2330 OP Man
38 weeks ago

Bromborough

Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective…

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By *bi HaiveMan
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38 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

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By *m2330 OP Man
38 weeks ago

Bromborough

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

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Disagree as I rarely get profile visits

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By *mmaleiaWoman
38 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits "
most women are in ninja mode, so men can’t see

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By *mmaleiaWoman
38 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits "

Nice beard btw

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
38 weeks ago

London

I appreciate clever comments and details about my profile that prove that at least he read it. Calm, cool, funny charming flirting, not being pushing or making crass invitations to meet right now. Men here never have in mind how risky could be for a woman to go to a place alone with a total stranger/s. A clear good facial photo does the rest. Then I would read his profile.

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By *weetpea2000Woman
38 weeks ago

Wexford

Not great...

1)A blank shadow pic

2)Crude opening lines

3)Can call to you in morning

4)Can I ask you a question

5)F*ck later?

Instead try...

1)Full length pic (clothed or semi, face optional)

2)A funny opening line

3)Bit of banter

4)Read the profile

5)Be honest/upfront from start

Good luck

S x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
38 weeks ago

Poole

Ones that have actually read our profile. And not stomp in with demands, or telling us what they are going to do to me/us.

Along with sending a face pic, and have veri's.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
38 weeks ago

Worcester

I open pretty much all messages.

So maybe the key is to message women who get fewer messages and who you’re compatible with?

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

I read messages first and only click through to profiles if the messages engage me somehow, is that unusual?

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By *d4fun73Man
38 weeks ago

Shipley

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective… "

Well you need a 6pack beard tattoos but some will like no beards or no tattoos or no 6 packs or older guys or younger ones. Hope that helps!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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38 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits "

Probably the women viewing your profile have enabled 'hide on looked at me'.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
38 weeks ago

South West London

Its like this if your a guy that messages a woman and you happen to be short, overweight and broke then its highly likely they wont even look your way

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By *ull_circleWoman
38 weeks ago

Brighton

I spend most of my time in ninja mode so I can take my time looking. We're very outnumbered here and yesterday when I left it open I had over 100 messages, I'd love to reply to them all but obviously couldn't. The ones I didn't reply to said things like fancy meeting now, fancy cumming on my face, fancy watching while I piss...that kinda thing. It's off putting. There were others that were miles away so wouldn't work.

Ones that I liked said something polite and general enough to make me feel safe (ie. Not do you want to meet now or get naked together tomorrow) and showed a face picture so I could see whether there is an initial attraction. Something non-seedy. Think along the lines of something that you would send to someone on a normal dating site...not sexualied from the off.

Won't always get a reply, cos the women/men ratio is against you, but far more likely than smuttymcsmutface.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
38 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective… "

Lots of good advice on this thread already.

It's an immediate no from me when a man uses "females" where he actually means "women" (like the thread title here). So perhaps try avoiding that too.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
38 weeks ago

North West

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits "

100% agree.

I don’t open a message if I don’t find their profile attractive.

Yours tells me nothing about what you want or offer.

Relying on a hot profile pic isn’t enough when there’s loads of hotties on here.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
38 weeks ago

Magical Forrest

Profile bio … legs … chest … beards … tattoos …

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

100% this

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By *ustBoWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

A decent profile will make me open a message.And yes most women look in ninja mode. And unlike what someone has said above someone does not have to be gym fit,tall,etc to have a decent profile.

Also faf type messages or pure sex messages are an instant delete. A good profile won't make me interested in someone who can't hold a normal conversation.

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple
38 weeks ago

Within touching distance

A nice classy profile picture. Not a big erect penis. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"A nice classy profile picture. Not a big erect penis. Lol"

Agree - I’m far more likely to open a message if you have a face pic as your profile pic. Or otherwise a sexy body pic (like you do OP)

But generally it’s a bit of the luck of the draw I think - with 50-200 messages a day I open maybe top 10, so there is a bit of a timing thing. Don’t take it personal x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
38 weeks ago

chichester

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits most women are in ninja mode, so men can’t see"

This 100%

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By *iss DevilWoman
38 weeks ago

Bedford

Profile is important to me, too, even if I am not currently looking for meets away from clubs. Have a look at your profile, is it showing you in the best light it can? Does it say what you have to offer to your prospective meet or is it just a list of your demands? Is your profile too restrictive (mostly regarding age range)? If you're happy with it, don't change a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Why do I not know what ninja mode is lol.

I always ask for a face pic on my profile and wont open a message unless they have added one. 124 unread messages tonight and I worry I'm missing a great guy amongst them all but it's alot of admin. I get more messages than I do in my day job lol

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By * and T xCouple
37 weeks ago

Cannock

"Why do I not know what ninja mode is lol.

Yeah, could do with learning what ninja mode is ourselves, if anyone is able to help? There have been times where we have visited profiles and then decided that those people aren't for us, but then we have ended up bombarded by them and we have had to block them. Bit of a shame really!!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective… "

Try a dick pic … 60% of the time works every time

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
37 weeks ago

Magical Forrest

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective…

Try a dick pic … 60% of the time works every time "

Ha ha

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By *eyeYCouple
37 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"Why do I not know what ninja mode is lol.

Account - Privacy - Hide on looked at me..

Enabled, simply as we get winks/messages from some we simply can't unsee after clicking on the profile and as mentioned don't what the barage of repeat messages that has ensued..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

The profile, before I even read the messages I'll look at the profile it is either what we are looking for or not.

Mrs

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By *m2330 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Bromborough

"Ones that have actually read our profile. And not stomp in with demands, or telling us what they are going to do to me/us.

Along with sending a face pic, and have veri's. "
I pretty much always read the profile and will often make comments / respond to what’s in there. Which I would think would be good thing to do!

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By *m2330 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Bromborough

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits

Nice beard btw

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thanks!

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By *m2330 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Bromborough

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective…

Well you need a 6pack beard tattoos but some will like no beards or no tattoos or no 6 packs or older guys or younger ones. Hope that helps!"
well I have the first three…

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By *m2330 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Bromborough

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective…

Lots of good advice on this thread already.

It's an immediate no from me when a man uses "females" where he actually means "women" (like the thread title here). So perhaps try avoiding that too.

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Don’t worry, I don’t send messages saying “hey you, female…”

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By *m2330 OP Man
37 weeks ago

Bromborough

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

Disagree as I rarely get profile visits

100% agree.

I don’t open a message if I don’t find their profile attractive.

Yours tells me nothing about what you want or offer.

Relying on a hot profile pic isn’t enough when there’s loads of hotties on here. "
I think it’s fair comment I could expand my profile but a I mentioned before I’m sceptical on the profile visits I actually get

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
37 weeks ago

Cumbria

We always look at the person’s profile first, if there’s nothing that puts us off then we’ll move on to their message.

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By *ifestyle1Man
37 weeks ago

me171

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

100% this"

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By *ifestyle1Man
37 weeks ago

me171

I'm only approaching if interested me. I'm straight and friendly approach by hey what can I say.

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By *alandNitaCouple
37 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective… "

I suspect the lack of information in your profile is a big part of this.

If you're a people person, get yourself to a club. No guarantee but if nothing else you get a night out with the opportunity to meet interesting people... not to mention being surrounded by women in sexy outfits and the opportunity to be a voyeur.

Nita

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
37 weeks ago

Wirral

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective…

Lots of good advice on this thread already.

It's an immediate no from me when a man uses "females" where he actually means "women" (like the thread title here). So perhaps try avoiding that too.

THIS A HUNDRED TIMES OVER

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
37 weeks ago

Cumbria

"Because I’ve tried every possible style of approach and yet none have been particularly effective…

Lots of good advice on this thread already.

It's an immediate no from me when a man uses "females" where he actually means "women" (like the thread title here). So perhaps try avoiding that too.

THIS A HUNDRED TIMES OVER"

Yeah, a man using the word ‘females’ is a bit of a red flag for us, it screams MRA.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
37 weeks ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

"Admittedly I'm no woman....

But I'll let you into a secret. Message content isn't as important as a profile. 99% of people will view that before deciding whether even to read a message.

If the profile doesn't catch an eye then it's odds on the message may not even get read at all..

I read messages first and only click through to profiles if the messages engage me somehow, is that unusual?"

Me too

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By *he PhoenixABCWoman
37 weeks ago

MILTON KEYNES

I read the profile before answering… if no pic, I probably won’t reply tbh. With a message, I’ll reply to those who are polite and indicate they’ve looked at my profile…. If they message with ‘wanna fuck’ or similar, there’s zero chance of a reply.

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By *hesblokeMan
37 weeks ago

Derbyshire village

Credit card number as the subject would get a few looking, I would think

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