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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones.. make your own mind up ? Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site .. I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !! It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction. Even when I send a nice message and I’m not expecting anything but a thank you would be nice Let’s see how much this post upsets people." Then when I do say No thank you 'I am sent abusive message back. | |||
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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones.. make your own mind up ? Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site .. I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !! It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction. Even when I send a nice message and I’m not expecting anything but a thank you would be nice Let’s see how much this post upsets people. Then when I do say No thank you 'I am sent abusive message back. " You're not alone. You get the odd one that can take rejection gracefully and grown up then you get the A holes that feel they are gods gift and we should be falling over them! | |||
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"I have messages turned off as I cba with the admin of it. If I popped a pic on there would be more messages. Sometimes a few hundred, can’t reply thank you to each one. Replies would be ‘Why no?’ ‘You fat ugly….’ ‘Didn’t like you anyway’ and it goes on. Plus it breaks any filters when you reply. I’m not here to do admin; so I don’t "A few hundred...and that's just me  | |||
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"I have messages turned off as I cba with the admin of it. If I popped a pic on there would be more messages. Sometimes a few hundred, can’t reply thank you to each one. Replies would be ‘Why no?’ ‘You fat ugly….’ ‘Didn’t like you anyway’ and it goes on. Plus it breaks any filters when you reply. I’m not here to do admin; so I don’t
A few hundred...and that's just me "Always have time for you | |||
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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones..." We're all one of the good ones. You need to aspire to be one of the better ones. "Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site..." I must be one of the lucky ones then. 
"I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !!" Not all guys pester. "It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction." Don't be genuine. Be authentic. | |||
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"You say you don't get any interaction OP and yet you haven't openly interacted with anyone on this thread." I have out a post thanking all that have explained things what’s wrong with that ? | |||
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"You say you don't get any interaction OP and yet you haven't openly interacted with anyone on this thread. I have out a post thanking all that have explained things what’s wrong with that ?" Nothing...our posts crossed over | |||
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"You say you don't get any interaction OP and yet you haven't openly interacted with anyone on this thread. I have out a post thanking all that have explained things what’s wrong with that ? Nothing...our posts crossed over" ?? | |||
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"Thanks to everyone that has explained about all the messages they get .. I’m so glad I asked this question. And I haven’t replied individually or privately to any of you ladies because of the question I asked I’m not here to pester anyone or upset be nasty or any of the negative things that happen on FAB! I have looked at profiles and liked some pictures I hope you don’t mind that . Stay safe .. and I hope I get more people commenting and talking about this ??" Thanks for asking the question OP, I’m really glad that you did. | |||
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"There are currently over 500 messages in my mail box - i can't imagine how long it would take me to go through each one and say thank you for contacting me, but i don't want to chat further or get to know you - that would spark further replies from at least 75%... Going by your statement of being thankful for that contract, you probably think I am obliged to continue to reply - because each man has gone to the trouble to reply to me? It's ridiculous and arrogant and smacks of privilege, get over yourself - I don't have to be thankful that some random man wanting to scratch an itch contacts me and I'm under zero obligations " I have 23 unread and that’s a lot for me. Most of those I’ve read and put back into unread so I can reply later!
I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality). | |||
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"There are currently over 500 messages in my mail box - i can't imagine how long it would take me to go through each one and say thank you for contacting me, but i don't want to chat further or get to know you - that would spark further replies from at least 75%... Going by your statement of being thankful for that contract, you probably think I am obliged to continue to reply - because each man has gone to the trouble to reply to me? It's ridiculous and arrogant and smacks of privilege, get over yourself - I don't have to be thankful that some random man wanting to scratch an itch contacts me and I'm under zero obligations I have 23 unread and that’s a lot for me. Most of those I’ve read and put back into unread so I can reply later!
I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality)."I think your profile is fairly descriptive of what you do /do not want so i can see how you'd get more targeted messages from people you are likely to meet. I get a lot of fantasists wanting me to teach them about BDSM | |||
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"There are currently over 500 messages in my mail box - i can't imagine how long it would take me to go through each one and say thank you for contacting me, but i don't want to chat further or get to know you - that would spark further replies from at least 75%... Going by your statement of being thankful for that contract, you probably think I am obliged to continue to reply - because each man has gone to the trouble to reply to me? It's ridiculous and arrogant and smacks of privilege, get over yourself - I don't have to be thankful that some random man wanting to scratch an itch contacts me and I'm under zero obligations I have 23 unread and that’s a lot for me. Most of those I’ve read and put back into unread so I can reply later!
I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality).
I think your profile is fairly descriptive of what you do /do not want so i can see how you'd get more targeted messages from people you are likely to meet.
I get a lot of fantasists wanting me to teach them about BDSM "I do get a fair amount of men message me about BDSM. There are a lot of fantasists here about it. | |||
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"There are currently over 500 messages in my mail box - i can't imagine how long it would take me to go through each one and say thank you for contacting me, but i don't want to chat further or get to know you - that would spark further replies from at least 75%... Going by your statement of being thankful for that contract, you probably think I am obliged to continue to reply - because each man has gone to the trouble to reply to me? It's ridiculous and arrogant and smacks of privilege, get over yourself - I don't have to be thankful that some random man wanting to scratch an itch contacts me and I'm under zero obligations I have 23 unread and that’s a lot for me. Most of those I’ve read and put back into unread so I can reply later!
I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality).
I think your profile is fairly descriptive of what you do /do not want so i can see how you'd get more targeted messages from people you are likely to meet.
I get a lot of fantasists wanting me to teach them about BDSM
I do get a fair amount of men message me about BDSM. There are a lot of fantasists here about it."I specifically mention having knowledge of RACK and SSC, but get loads of messages saying i don't know what they are (i mean hello Google ) but you can teach me  | |||
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"There are currently over 500 messages in my mail box - i can't imagine how long it would take me to go through each one and say thank you for contacting me, but i don't want to chat further or get to know you - that would spark further replies from at least 75%... Going by your statement of being thankful for that contract, you probably think I am obliged to continue to reply - because each man has gone to the trouble to reply to me? It's ridiculous and arrogant and smacks of privilege, get over yourself - I don't have to be thankful that some random man wanting to scratch an itch contacts me and I'm under zero obligations " Look like my question has hit a nerve with this one and then blocked me as if I’m going to sent her a message and be upset about what she’s said.. This is my point all over we don’t all get upset about being told NO! I’m not after every woman on here. But thank you for you reply but honestly no need to block me .. | |||
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" I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality)." It’s the bottom profile pic | |||
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"l I specifically mention having knowledge of RACK and SSC, but get loads of messages saying i don't know what they are (i mean hello Google ) but you can teach me "I think we chatted a little on my couples profile, I remember because I did indeed Google those terms It was not hard! | |||
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" I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality). It’s the bottom profile pic "You think the bum pic puts people off? | |||
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"There are currently over 500 messages in my mail box - i can't imagine how long it would take me to go through each one and say thank you for contacting me, but i don't want to chat further or get to know you - that would spark further replies from at least 75%... Going by your statement of being thankful for that contract, you probably think I am obliged to continue to reply - because each man has gone to the trouble to reply to me? It's ridiculous and arrogant and smacks of privilege, get over yourself - I don't have to be thankful that some random man wanting to scratch an itch contacts me and I'm under zero obligations Look like my question has hit a nerve with this one and then blocked me as if I’m going to sent her a message and be upset about what she’s said.. This is my point all over we don’t all get upset about being told NO! I’m not after every woman on here. But thank you for you reply but honestly no need to block me .. " People block because they don’t wish to have contact with someone in the future. Don’t take it so personally, it just means someone doesn’t want to have sex with you and it saves you wasting your time by contacting them. | |||
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" I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality). It’s the bottom profile pic
You think the bum pic puts people off?"Oh absolutely not!  I meant it is something you are doing right | |||
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" I have no idea what I’m doing right or wrong to get so few messages. (But the ones I do get are mostly quality). It’s the bottom profile pic
You think the bum pic puts people off?
Oh absolutely not! I meant it is something you are doing right "She's definitely doing it right, one of the most alluring pics on fab  | |||
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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones.. make your own mind up ? Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site .. I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !! It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction. Even when I send a nice message and I’m not expecting anything but a thank you would be nice Let’s see how much this post upsets people." As a couple we get very few (our profile puts most off lol). I Tony had a 27 year old lady friend once who showed me her fab account.... up to 500 MESSAGES EVERY DAY !!. Of course she could respond to very few of them  | |||
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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones.. make your own mind up ? Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site .. I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !! It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction. Even when I send a nice message and I’m not expecting anything but a thank you would be nice Let’s see how much this post upsets people. As a couple we get very few (our profile puts most off lol). I Tony had a 27 year old lady friend once who showed me her fab account.... up to 500 MESSAGES EVERY DAY !!. Of course she could respond to very few of them "500 that is impossible to manage. Sounds like she could do with a few personal assistants just to read through them all | |||
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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones.. make your own mind up ? Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site .. I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !! It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction. Even when I send a nice message and I’m not expecting anything but a thank you would be nice Let’s see how much this post upsets people. As a couple we get very few (our profile puts most off lol). I Tony had a 27 year old lady friend once who showed me her fab account.... up to 500 MESSAGES EVERY DAY !!. Of course she could respond to very few of them
500 that is impossible to manage. Sounds like she could do with a few personal assistants just to read through them all"Or use filters to reduce the inflow....unless she likes the numbers game  | |||
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"Being a male straight and I consider myself one of the good ones.. make your own mind up ? Honestly I never really get any messages likes or anything really on this site .. I understand you get pissed off with guys pestering you and all that stuff !! It just gets really boring for the genuine people on here not to get a bit of interaction. Even when I send a nice message and I’m not expecting anything but a thank you would be nice Let’s see how much this post upsets people. As a couple we get very few (our profile puts most off lol). I Tony had a 27 year old lady friend once who showed me her fab account.... up to 500 MESSAGES EVERY DAY !!. Of course she could respond to very few of them
500 that is impossible to manage. Sounds like she could do with a few personal assistants just to read through them all
Or use filters to reduce the inflow....unless she likes the numbers game "I wonder what percentage the filters would take care of? | |||
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"Onr of the things that amazes me, is that you can read a msg, then mark it unread, leading to the other person thinking you haven’t seen it. Surely if you open the msg, it should stay read, its not as if it dissapears from the msg folder, just my observation, that’s all" No, you should be able to mark it unread. You may not want someone to know you’ve seen their message. Nobody is entitled to know if you’ve read what they’ve written. | |||
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"Onr of the things that amazes me, is that you can read a msg, then mark it unread, leading to the other person thinking you haven’t seen it. Surely if you open the msg, it should stay read, its not as if it dissapears from the msg folder, just my observation, that’s all No, you should be able to mark it unread. You may not want someone to know you’ve seen their message. Nobody is entitled to know if you’ve read what they’ve written." This.
Also bear in mind one half of a couple may have read it but nor the other. So they mark it as unread so the other can look at a later opportunity. | |||
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"We must be doin something wrong we get none lol " Or doing it sensibly to block single men, as we generate 95% of messages! | |||
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