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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

I'm really struggling to meet women on here no one seems interested any advice

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
39 weeks ago

Bradford


"I'm really struggling to meet women on here no one seems interested any advice"

It’s not the easiest thing to do I’ll say that much

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Be polite in your messages and only give out info if your wanting to meet. Yes it can be Hard for single guys but that's down to those whom ruin it by there approach and fake profiles. Yes Fab dose its best to le out fakes but it makes it hard for you guys out there whom are genuine. Keep trying as you Will get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Be polite in your messages and only give out info if your wanting to meet. Yes it can be Hard for single guys but that's down to those whom ruin it by there approach and fake profiles. Yes Fab dose its best to le out fakes but it makes it hard for you guys out there whom are genuine. Keep trying as you Will get there.

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

Thank you, I'm always polite and respectful, I really appreciate your advice

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Erm, yeah. It's a big thing around here.

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By *empest2KMan
39 weeks ago

Derby


"I'm really struggling to meet women on here no one seems interested any advice"

Sadly, you're fighting against the tide as a single guy without any verifications on here, mainly because there's a lot of other single males (compared to single females and couples), and a few single guys' past behaviour has made it difficult for the rest of us. Unfortunately, you need to be patient and polite, even if you get rejected or ignored.

If you really want meets on here, you need to get to a swinger's club, chat to (not stalk!) people there, and politely ask them to verify you on here. It's not guaranteed to get you meets on Fab, and it can be costly at first, but it increases your chances of people being open to meeting you for a social and maybe more. You have to speculate to accumulate, whilst being respectful at all times.

Well, that's my experience anyway. Your mileage may vary.

Good luck though!

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By *orny-DJMan
39 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

There are numerous threads from single men asking the same thing.

Might be worth having a look through some of them and see what advice has been given to others.

I can't give you any profile advice as you haven't specifically asked for any, but you might want to ask yourself if it's the best it can possibly be, as pretty much everyone you message will be looking at your profile before even thinking about reading anything you've sent to them.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
39 weeks ago

London

Go to a club x

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

Thank you

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By *electableicecreamMan
39 weeks ago

The West

There's no such thing as the guys that make it harder for the rest of us.

The truth is those guys set the bar so low that it's easy to rise above it and stand out.

OP compare your profile to the profiles of the guys who have verified the women you want to meet. That's where you want to be at.

Messaging is mostly a waste of time if your new. Make your way to a social event and meet people. Make a few friends and get verified. That works...

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

Thank you

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By *oxy jWoman
39 weeks ago

somerset


"I'm really struggling to meet women on here no one seems interested any advice

Sadly, you're fighting against the tide as a single guy without any verifications on here, mainly because there's a lot of other single males (compared to single females and couples), and a few single guys' past behaviour has made it difficult for the rest of us. Unfortunately, you need to be patient and polite, even if you get rejected or ignored.

If you really want meets on here, you need to get to a swinger's club, chat to (not stalk!) people there, and politely ask them to verify you on here. It's not guaranteed to get you meets on Fab, and it can be costly at first, but it increases your chances of people being open to meeting you for a social and maybe more. You have to speculate to accumulate, whilst being respectful at all times.

Well, that's my experience anyway. Your mileage may vary.

Good luck though!"

others make it harder for us = your blaming others for getting nowhere yourself ....they dont ruin it for anybody but themselves if your getting nowhere thats down to you and you only .. blaming others is just very very moany ..your all responsible for your self ...

you cant make people like you its that simple add in that men totally by ridicules numbers outnumber couples and women will make this scene for 95% of men almost impossible ... quite simply there is NOT someone for everyone one on this scene and as more guys join everyday it will only get worse for most men sadly ...blunt but true

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

I haven't blamed anyone for the fact I'm struggling to meet women on here so there was no need for that message then hide your profile so I can't defend myself attitude is unreal at least I'm polite and respectful

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By *oxy jWoman
39 weeks ago

somerset

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By *oxy jWoman
39 weeks ago

somerset

read it again and look ate the quote i was responding too ? it was not you ??

ill hide my profile as and when i wish as i often do when at work

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By *oupleus30Couple
39 weeks ago

Minster


"I haven't blamed anyone for the fact I'm struggling to meet women on here so there was no need for that message then hide your profile so I can't defend myself attitude is unreal at least I'm polite and respectful "

You kind of killed the respectful comment when you replied to someone who wasn't responding to you unfortunately

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By *anted by NightMan
39 weeks ago

Shangri-La


"I haven't blamed anyone for the fact I'm struggling to meet women on here so there was no need for that message then hide your profile so I can't defend myself attitude is unreal at least I'm polite and respectful "

This

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By *neeyedwillieMan
39 weeks ago

Darlington

The site is about 80% single men. Same as all the dating apps.

For many men for various reasons fab won't work. No amount of messages are going to work simply due to the sheer number of single guys on here all desperate for a shag trying every trick in the book to get one. Seriously the women and couples on here who meet single.guys get swamped with hundreds of messages.

Best advice I can give anyone is stop hiding behind a screen and go to.social events and clubs. I get meets constantly (dont let the veris on this account fool.you) simply because I'm out there meeting ladies and couples in the flesh in the right places.

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By *I TwoCouple
39 weeks ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

The profile picture won’t do you any favours! I rarely read or reply to a penis avatar. By all means have one in photos but not as profile, it’s really not nice to see even in a forum (bam here’s a cock, look at other mens profile pics, not many on forum have it)

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

I do apologise I thought it was directed at me as get a lot of abuse for no reason

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Keep it in forum please, nothing worse when someone dm’s you about a forum post

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

Ok sorry about that

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
39 weeks ago

Here and there

Question for the poster when you joined did you not think the odds are stacked against single men on fab because of the numbers vastly out weigh that of female and couples.

I have been on here 14 yr on and off and have been very fortunate for a single bloke.

Do not take fab too serious if lucky enough to get a meet embrace it and if you get declined do not take personal not bitter or moan in statuses that can create wrong image

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

You say in your bio that you were on here before and verified, so probably do what you was doing back then.

This is just a personal thing,but your username would put us off immediately.

Other than that fab for a single dude is life on hard mode

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By *assionateguy78 OP   Man
39 weeks ago

Coalville

Thank you for all the advice and sorry to anyone that I might of offended it was not intentional I'm a nice person just fed up of some of the abuse I do get of people on here sometimes

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By *exxyyDy11Man
39 weeks ago

North West

I'd recommend going to a local club mate and building connections there. I'm pretty newish and struggling too. So I'm going to a club and building connections through that.

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