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"Also the picture of you in the car reminds us of Superhans from Peep show lol "Oh dear. That ugly? Haha | |||
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"Also the picture of you in the car reminds us of Superhans from Peep show lol "omg you’re right. take it as a compliment OP, superhans is legendary. | |||
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"Also the picture of you in the car reminds us of Superhans from Peep show lol
omg you’re right.
take it as a compliment OP, superhans is legendary. "Haha, sure, but without the personality...? I don't think he'd be getting many swipes on Tinder, let's put it that way. ahha! | |||
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"Weird that you attach face photos when you have 5 face photos on your profile. Weird that whenever a man posts about women not reading his messages there are loads of replies from women saying that they receive hundreds of messages every day so they don’t have time to read all of them and most of the time they’ll just delete messages without even reading them but whenever you message a woman they always have the time to open your message, go to your profile and block you. I wonder why women always seem to have more time available when you message them compared to when other men message them. If women really do receive hundreds of messages every day and can’t possibly look at them all, like they often claim, what is it about your messages that compels them to take the time to open them, go to your profile and block you rather than just delete it like the others?" I'm sort of at a loss? haha. This was an example message that suffered the same fate. "Hey ***. Just was just browsing your profile and had a peek at your verifications. You certainly sound like a pretty great woman! Hope you've had a happy week so far? Almost at the weekend...at last! Have a little look at what I am about, if interested!" Sure, it's not the greatest message of all time. But it's friendly, curious and intriguing and an attempt to instigate a conversation without being a letch. | |||
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"Yeah. I struggle the same with online dating. Think I am just a minger in the eyes of the majority of women. I went to a club in Swinton recently. It was okay. Prefer the intimate nature of things really. Don't think clubs are for me generally." We are all a minger to the majority of who we are looking to attract... It's no big deal | |||
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"Weird that you attach face photos when you have 5 face photos on your profile. Weird that whenever a man posts about women not reading his messages there are loads of replies from women saying that they receive hundreds of messages every day so they don’t have time to read all of them and most of the time they’ll just delete messages without even reading them but whenever you message a woman they always have the time to open your message, go to your profile and block you. I wonder why women always seem to have more time available when you message them compared to when other men message them. If women really do receive hundreds of messages every day and can’t possibly look at them all, like they often claim, what is it about your messages that compels them to take the time to open them, go to your profile and block you rather than just delete it like the others? I'm sort of at a loss? haha. This was an example message that suffered the same fate. "Hey ***. Just was just browsing your profile and had a peek at your verifications. You certainly sound like a pretty great woman! Hope you've had a happy week so far? Almost at the weekend...at last! Have a little look at what I am about, if interested!" Sure, it's not the greatest message of all time. But it's friendly, curious and intriguing and an attempt to instigate a conversation without being a letch." But it’s still a generic copy/paste that you could send to anyone. It doesn’t make you stand out, let’s put it that way. | |||
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"Weird that you attach face photos when you have 5 face photos on your profile. Weird that whenever a man posts about women not reading his messages there are loads of replies from women saying that they receive hundreds of messages every day so they don’t have time to read all of them and most of the time they’ll just delete messages without even reading them but whenever you message a woman they always have the time to open your message, go to your profile and block you. I wonder why women always seem to have more time available when you message them compared to when other men message them. If women really do receive hundreds of messages every day and can’t possibly look at them all, like they often claim, what is it about your messages that compels them to take the time to open them, go to your profile and block you rather than just delete it like the others? I'm sort of at a loss? haha. This was an example message that suffered the same fate. "Hey ***. Just was just browsing your profile and had a peek at your verifications. You certainly sound like a pretty great woman! Hope you've had a happy week so far? Almost at the weekend...at last! Have a little look at what I am about, if interested!" Sure, it's not the greatest message of all time. But it's friendly, curious and intriguing and an attempt to instigate a conversation without being a letch. But it’s still a generic copy/paste that you could send to anyone. It doesn’t make you stand out, let’s put it that way. " Its an easy stance to take, I understand that. But, and this isn't just out of pure laziness, but in terms of mental efficency, there is only so much you can message people who in most cases have very little to engage with on their profile. And its not exactly Tinder, where you mention you love playing the piano or going on a hike in Scotland. ?? | |||
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"Also, if I get as far as reading the message, I'd block an obvious copy and paste" How do you keep a message polite and friendly, and not being seen as a copy and paste, without it bordering into messages that would be inappropriate. | |||
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"Hello, all! I was wondering if I am just doing it all wrong. I just seem to get instantly blocked by people when I message them. I read their profiles quite intently and their verifications. I might make a nice comment on their profile for example, some light small and casual statement about hoping they've been having a good or happy week, for example. And for some reason, their profile becomes instantly unavailable once they've read my message. I always attach face photos, there is nothing ever explicit in there. I know the ladies no doubt get inundated by a sea of dick on here, but I was wondering if there is something about maybe my look or the vibe of my profile? Any advice for a single male reaching out to single females, who seem to be interested in attention. Cheers " ... aaaaaand yet another decent guy getting nothing but ignorance on here. You are not alone mate, it's the fab rules .. this site really needs to scrap this notion that ignorance is ok and blocking and instant deleting constitutes a fair no thanks. A short and sweet thanks but no thanks is the very least any normal adult should be expected to reply with. The site needs to change. It's just not a place for single guys quite frankly. I'm only here for the sexy pics and a bit of chat with the 1 or 2 people I've managed to make friends with, the rest really is a waste of your time and quite demoralising OP. You'd be way way more successful on a regular dating site looking for NSA or kinky fun. | |||
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"Also the picture of you in the car reminds us of Superhans from Peep show lol
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take it as a compliment OP, superhans is legendary. "Crack is just so ‘Moreish’ classic SH | |||
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"Hello, all! I was wondering if I am just doing it all wrong. I just seem to get instantly blocked by people when I message them. I read their profiles quite intently and their verifications. I might make a nice comment on their profile for example, some light small and casual statement about hoping they've been having a good or happy week, for example. And for some reason, their profile becomes instantly unavailable once they've read my message. I always attach face photos, there is nothing ever explicit in there. I know the ladies no doubt get inundated by a sea of dick on here, but I was wondering if there is something about maybe my look or the vibe of my profile? Any advice for a single male reaching out to single females, who seem to be interested in attention. Cheers ... aaaaaand yet another decent guy getting nothing but ignorance on here. You are not alone mate, it's the fab rules .. this site really needs to scrap this notion that ignorance is ok and blocking and instant deleting constitutes a fair no thanks. A short and sweet thanks but no thanks is the very least any normal adult should be expected to reply with. The site needs to change. It's just not a place for single guys quite frankly. I'm only here for the sexy pics and a bit of chat with the 1 or 2 people I've managed to make friends with, the rest really is a waste of your time and quite demoralising OP. You'd be way way more successful on a regular dating site looking for NSA or kinky fun. " Ah, I've been on dating apps for years, and I'm simply too average looking for them. Hypergamy and all that haha | |||
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"Hello, all! I was wondering if I am just doing it all wrong. I just seem to get instantly blocked by people when I message them. I read their profiles quite intently and their verifications. I might make a nice comment on their profile for example, some light small and casual statement about hoping they've been having a good or happy week, for example. And for some reason, their profile becomes instantly unavailable once they've read my message. I always attach face photos, there is nothing ever explicit in there. I know the ladies no doubt get inundated by a sea of dick on here, but I was wondering if there is something about maybe my look or the vibe of my profile? Any advice for a single male reaching out to single females, who seem to be interested in attention. Cheers ... aaaaaand yet another decent guy getting nothing but ignorance on here. You are not alone mate, it's the fab rules .. this site really needs to scrap this notion that ignorance is ok and blocking and instant deleting constitutes a fair no thanks. A short and sweet thanks but no thanks is the very least any normal adult should be expected to reply with. The site needs to change. It's just not a place for single guys quite frankly. I'm only here for the sexy pics and a bit of chat with the 1 or 2 people I've managed to make friends with, the rest really is a waste of your time and quite demoralising OP. You'd be way way more successful on a regular dating site looking for NSA or kinky fun. " But it's not ignorance is it? The junk mail analogy is often used. You don't reply to your local pizza place if you don't like pizza when they drop a menu through the door. The spam email analogy works too. Nobody responds to those if they're not interested. Given the volume of messages some recieve it would be unfair and a total waste of their time to concentrate on sending 'no thanks' replies to anyone they have zero interest in engaging with, over using their time on site to look for compatible people. The site FAQ's are pretty clear on this. | |||
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"You've been here for just 3 weeks. What were you really expecting? That after knocking up a quick profile you'd be fighting off horny women by lunch time? You're likely only going to be of appeal to a select few - and of those, you might notbe intetested in about half. What is your experience out in tge real world? It's no different here. Nobody owes you a reply. Many use blocking as a filter, for example to prevent repeat messages from those they're not interested in. You see, you may be of the opinion that you meetcall of tge requirements they may have listed but you are forgetting the onecrucial thing and that is that they still have to fancy you. Or did you think that because this is a 'sex site' - (it isn't, it's a swinging site - slight difference) - that everyone is gagging for it and will fuck anyone who asks? " Bypassing the latent and implied accusations of entitlement in this response. ?? Listen, my thread wasn't to instigate some sort of pity party for being butthurt. It was just a genuine request for perhaps finding a way to tailor my profile or approach. If there is nothing I can do, that's fine. | |||
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"Weird that you attach face photos when you have 5 face photos on your profile. Weird that whenever a man posts about women not reading his messages there are loads of replies from women saying that they receive hundreds of messages every day so they don’t have time to read all of them and most of the time they’ll just delete messages without even reading them but whenever you message a woman they always have the time to open your message, go to your profile and block you. I wonder why women always seem to have more time available when you message them compared to when other men message them. If women really do receive hundreds of messages every day and can’t possibly look at them all, like they often claim, what is it about your messages that compels them to take the time to open them, go to your profile and block you rather than just delete it like the others? I'm sort of at a loss? haha. This was an example message that suffered the same fate. "Hey ***. Just was just browsing your profile and had a peek at your verifications. You certainly sound like a pretty great woman! Hope you've had a happy week so far? Almost at the weekend...at last! Have a little look at what I am about, if interested!" Sure, it's not the greatest message of all time. But it's friendly, curious and intriguing and an attempt to instigate a conversation without being a letch." I would suggest that you familiarise yourself with site rules, forum rules and tge site FAQs. It is against forum rules to post the content of private messages. Private messages should remain private - no matter how generic or impersonal they may appear. The site FAQs clearly state tgat a non-response should be taken as a 'no, thank you' and even explain why. | |||
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"Also, if I get as far as reading the message, I'd block an obvious copy and paste How do you keep a message polite and friendly, and not being seen as a copy and paste, without it bordering into messages that would be inappropriate." I think this is a no win situation from some, say a one liner, it isn't enough, send a few lines, it isn't enough. what you have to remember, it isn't enough for "some" people. For others it would be a polite e-mail from a man. Our first meet was with a man who's first mail was a one liner that made us laugh out loud, it was a way in to chat more. Be yourself, you won't be able to please everyone. | |||
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"Weird that you attach face photos when you have 5 face photos on your profile. Weird that whenever a man posts about women not reading his messages there are loads of replies from women saying that they receive hundreds of messages every day so they don’t have time to read all of them and most of the time they’ll just delete messages without even reading them but whenever you message a woman they always have the time to open your message, go to your profile and block you. I wonder why women always seem to have more time available when you message them compared to when other men message them. If women really do receive hundreds of messages every day and can’t possibly look at them all, like they often claim, what is it about your messages that compels them to take the time to open them, go to your profile and block you rather than just delete it like the others? I'm sort of at a loss? haha. This was an example message that suffered the same fate. "Hey ***. Just was just browsing your profile and had a peek at your verifications. You certainly sound like a pretty great woman! Hope you've had a happy week so far? Almost at the weekend...at last! Have a little look at what I am about, if interested!" Sure, it's not the greatest message of all time. But it's friendly, curious and intriguing and an attempt to instigate a conversation without being a letch. I would suggest that you familiarise yourself with site rules, forum rules and tge site FAQs. It is against forum rules to post the content of private messages. Private messages should remain private - no matter how generic or impersonal they may appear. The site FAQs clearly state tgat a non-response should be taken as a 'no, thank you' and even explain why." Okay, this seems pedantic, but will now say that the message example is a 'paraphrase'.  | |||
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"Weird that you attach face photos when you have 5 face photos on your profile. Weird that whenever a man posts about women not reading his messages there are loads of replies from women saying that they receive hundreds of messages every day so they don’t have time to read all of them and most of the time they’ll just delete messages without even reading them but whenever you message a woman they always have the time to open your message, go to your profile and block you. I wonder why women always seem to have more time available when you message them compared to when other men message them. If women really do receive hundreds of messages every day and can’t possibly look at them all, like they often claim, what is it about your messages that compels them to take the time to open them, go to your profile and block you rather than just delete it like the others? I'm sort of at a loss? haha. This was an example message that suffered the same fate. "Hey ***. Just was just browsing your profile and had a peek at your verifications. You certainly sound like a pretty great woman! Hope you've had a happy week so far? Almost at the weekend...at last! Have a little look at what I am about, if interested!" Sure, it's not the greatest message of all time. But it's friendly, curious and intriguing and an attempt to instigate a conversation without being a letch. I would suggest that you familiarise yourself with site rules, forum rules and tge site FAQs. It is against forum rules to post the content of private messages. Private messages should remain private - no matter how generic or impersonal they may appear. The site FAQs clearly state tgat a non-response should be taken as a 'no, thank you' and even explain why." He is posting what HE sent, not someone else's messages as the forum rules refer to The FAQ's about replies are not rules. | |||
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" The junk mail analogy is often used. You don't reply to your local pizza place if you don't like pizza when they drop a menu through the door. The spam email analogy works too. Nobody responds to those if they're not interested. " I never get this analogy, if I stood in a pizza place with an advert saying I want pizza, then the analogy fits and if they then asked me did I want their pizza I would say yay or nay. So for me, having a profile on a site asking for meets, it would be polite for us to say yay or nay to the people who mailed us asking for that meet. | |||
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"To the question, as you have found out, some people block, some people just delete mails from people they are not interested in. Try not to take it personally, it just means they are not for you....but someone will be, you just have to be patient. Your profile seems to be what a lot of people say they like, a few bits of info and a face pic or two. Are you any good at large socials? if so it could be a way for you to meet a lot of people in the same place. Either way while you are waiting for a reply...stick around and join in on the forum, it may get you noticed Good luck "Yeah, I'll stick around on the forum! Didn't even know it existed till like yesterday! haha. To be honest, large socials aren't generally my thing. Or at least I don't 'enjoy' them, and if I'm there without enjoying myself, it seems a little bit masochistic to put myself through it repeatedly. I've been to a club, and thought it was just a little bit too 'on the nose'. Haha | |||
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" He is posting what HE sent, not someone else's messages as the forum rules refer to The FAQ's about replies are not rules." To be fair, the forum rules aren't that specific, and I quote : 'Please don't post private mail to the forums no matter how idiotic/funny it may be. It is strictly against site rules.' And I never said that tge FAQs were rules, I just suggested the OP might want to familiarise himself with them AND with the site rules. | |||
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" He is posting what HE sent, not someone else's messages as the forum rules refer to The FAQ's about replies are not rules. To be fair, the forum rules aren't that specific, and I quote : 'Please don't post private mail to the forums no matter how idiotic/funny it may be. It is strictly against site rules.' And I never said that tge FAQs were rules, I just suggested the OP might want to familiarise himself with them AND with the site rules." I think we need to use common sense, and a bit of nuance here. Clearly no private information was disclosed, it was an outgoing message, that had no response, and there is little to no personal details included in the message. | |||
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"To the question, as you have found out, some people block, some people just delete mails from people they are not interested in. Try not to take it personally, it just means they are not for you....but someone will be, you just have to be patient. Your profile seems to be what a lot of people say they like, a few bits of info and a face pic or two. Are you any good at large socials? if so it could be a way for you to meet a lot of people in the same place. Either way while you are waiting for a reply...stick around and join in on the forum, it may get you noticed Good luck
Yeah, I'll stick around on the forum! Didn't even know it existed till like yesterday! haha.
To be honest, large socials aren't generally my thing. Or at least I don't 'enjoy' them, and if I'm there without enjoying myself, it seems a little bit masochistic to put myself through it repeatedly. I've been to a club, and thought it was just a little bit too 'on the nose'. Haha"I had to go google what on the nose meant but now get what you mean
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" The junk mail analogy is often used. You don't reply to your local pizza place if you don't like pizza when they drop a menu through the door. The spam email analogy works too. Nobody responds to those if they're not interested. I never get this analogy, if I stood in a pizza place with an advert saying I want pizza, then the analogy fits and if they then asked me did I want their pizza I would say yay or nay. So for me, having a profile on a site asking for meets, it would be polite for us to say yay or nay to the people who mailed us asking for that meet. " I get that. I guess the difference is that you've chosen to go into a pizza place where generally the sole reason for being there is to get pizza and want one there and then. On here there's much more variation. Who, how, when and where people meet isn't as cut and dried, and if people are messaging assuming they're a good fit and potentially compatible then that won't always be the case. People aren't always looking to meet just because they're online and I think some do often forget that. Plus some don't read the important bits in profiles that make it obvious they're never gonna be of interest. I guess in my mind the onus is on the sender to both make sure there's at least a chance they may suit someone based on what they see, but also to accept that we can't be everyone's cup of tea and that a message being ignored or deleted with no reply is part and parcel of being on site. It's a two way street. People can often do much more to minimise a lack of response. | |||
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" I get that. I guess the difference is that you've chosen to go into a pizza place where generally the sole reason for being there is to get pizza and want one there and then. On here there's much more variation. Who, how, when and where people meet isn't as cut and dried, and if people are messaging assuming they're a good fit and potentially compatible then that won't always be the case. People aren't always looking to meet just because they're online and I think some do often forget that. Plus some don't read the important bits in profiles that make it obvious they're never gonna be of interest. I guess in my mind the onus is on the sender to both make sure there's at least a chance they may suit someone based on what they see, but also to accept that we can't be everyone's cup of tea and that a message being ignored or deleted with no reply is part and parcel of being on site. It's a two way street. People can often do much more to minimise a lack of response. "I half agree, if a profile is straight forward in what they don't want and it says we are not meeting at the moment then if someone still mails they may not get a reply as the person hasn't read the profile. However if people don't have that on their profile and a person thinks he/she/they fit the bill to what the person/people are asking for then they will probably send a mail in the hope of a meet as the profile is active and is out there advertising themselves. A pizza shop wouldn't ignore you if you asked them for the pizza they are advertising ( hope it doesn't have pineapple on ) | |||
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"Hello, all! I was wondering if I am just doing it all wrong. I just seem to get instantly blocked by people when I message them. I read their profiles quite intently and their verifications. I might make a nice comment on their profile for example, some light small and casual statement about hoping they've been having a good or happy week, for example. And for some reason, their profile becomes instantly unavailable once they've read my message. I always attach face photos, there is nothing ever explicit in there. I know the ladies no doubt get inundated by a sea of dick on here, but I was wondering if there is something about maybe my look or the vibe of my profile? Any advice for a single male reaching out to single females, who seem to be interested in attention. Cheers " Even cpls get blocked. Look at us we are both bi. Some straight cpls block us straight away. Don't take it personal or fab can affect your mental health. Some use blocking as a filter to stop others messaging again ect | |||
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"Passive blocking is great along with the accounts filtering system. It’s what makes the site useable. For instance there’s a forum post about barebacking …..Absolute 10/10 Instablock to all its members and posters. " This | |||
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"Yeah. I struggle the same with online dating. Think I am just a minger in the eyes of the majority of women. I went to a club in Swinton recently. It was okay. Prefer the intimate nature of things really. Don't think clubs are for me generally. We are all a minger to the majority of who we are looking to attract... It's no big deal " Great line  | |||
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"You've been here for just 3 weeks. What were you really expecting? That after knocking up a quick profile you'd be fighting off horny women by lunch time? You're likely only going to be of appeal to a select few - and of those, you might notbe intetested in about half. What is your experience out in tge real world? It's no different here. Nobody owes you a reply. Many use blocking as a filter, for example to prevent repeat messages from those they're not interested in. You see, you may be of the opinion that you meetcall of tge requirements they may have listed but you are forgetting the onecrucial thing and that is that they still have to fancy you. Or did you think that because this is a 'sex site' - (it isn't, it's a swinging site - slight difference) - that everyone is gagging for it and will fuck anyone who asks? " Did he say that or even imply it....NO. | |||
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