FabSwingers.com forum: We think we have a stalke

By *randmrsbigboobs OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Romsey

We think we have a stalker.

Don’t know how to respond to it.

Every morning almost exactly the same time of day a new account pops up. It is always close by the closest contact to us.

It will alternate from a single male profile to a couples profile. It is always the same format of profile.

Will try to make contact to us as soon as the profile appears online.

We of course instantly block this.

We know it’s the same person because that account that is created always disappears from our block list once the new is created.

We think it maybe a friend one of us works with who has discovered who we are.

Is there anyway admin can identify if the profiles are setup with the same email?

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
48 weeks ago

Worcester

"We think we have a stalker.

Don’t know how to respond to it.

Every morning almost exactly the same time of day a new account pops up. It is always close by the closest contact to us.

It will alternate from a single male profile to a couples profile. It is always the same format of profile.

Will try to make contact to us as soon as the profile appears online.

We of course instantly block this.

We know it’s the same person because that account that is created always disappears from our block list once the new is created.

We think it maybe a friend one of us works with who has discovered who we are.

Is there anyway admin can identify if the profiles are setup with the same email?"

it’s trivially easy to make different email accounts. If you have a gmail all you do is put a plus sign and then different letter or number after your name. Hey presto - as many emails as you like!

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
48 weeks ago

Norwich

I guess they could but what would that achieve? This is a tricky one for sure. Have you had any communication with them at all? From your side, I mean? Have you said clearly to them that their attention is unwanted? It could be a police matter if it goes beyond what you’ve described - the police do have online bullying and harassment teams. Do you know or suspect who the person is?

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By *randmrsbigboobs OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Romsey

Nope no communication at all.

If it is the person I think it is we know his main profile and blocked that as soon as he messaged us without responding.

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By *ev_1Couple
48 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Difficult one are they messaging you or just looking?? If just looking put all pictures to friends only for the moment if harassing you report to admin good luck if you need to hide your profile for the time being when off line and only have it visible when you are on line good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I think you can filter out newbies

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By *electableicecreamMan
48 weeks ago

The West

You can stop new accounts messaging you by filters

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By *randmrsbigboobs OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Romsey

I would like to be able to see it and be be able to block. We been blocking the account within 30mins of it becoming live

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By *imisugarWoman
48 weeks ago

Rugby

"I would like to be able to see it and be be able to block. We been blocking the account within 30mins of it becoming live"

I know you shouldn't have to but would you consider changing your profile name after you have blocked the new account. That would make it more difficult to find you, unless they have memorised who has left your veries and seeks you out that way.

Very frustrating someone is behaving that way and I feel it's unfair you are experiencing it.

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By *ink vixenCouple
48 weeks ago

Medway

We had this for a while but turned the tables and managed to find out that he was going to a nearby club on a certain day.

He couldn’t get out the door quick enough when he saw John heading towards him. A word was had.

We have now also blocked new accounts from messaging us

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By *issmorganWoman
48 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Block newbies using your filters op, that should give you a few days grace before they can make contact.

Then you can block the profile once you see it's rejoined.

I had to do this a few years ago as I think someone I turned down, got the hump and kept making jew profiles after I blocked him.

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By *issmorganWoman
48 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm not sure if admin can Id them, but I'd say it's worth reporting them anyway op.

I don't know why some people do this & become total Pests.

The other thing I could maybe suggest, is for a while set your filters so that only site supporters can message you.

It might make them think twice if they have to pay to rejoin constantly.

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By *izzy.Woman
48 weeks ago

Stoke area

Use your filters to block people who are new, unverified and no photos . Use several filters and then they can't contact you.

Screenshot any messages and report to admin.

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By *imon and saffyCouple
48 weeks ago

southampton

If he keeps coming back, have you considered actually responding to the next profile and explaining that you're not interested. Apologise but you're not interested in playing so close to home because you value your privacy.

Blocking hasn't put them off, this might or they might let on who they definitely are, which means you can speak to the police.

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By *itygamesMan
48 weeks ago

use the privacy settings

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By *randmrsbigboobs OP Couple
48 weeks ago

Romsey

The last three attempts he not even been quick enough to message us. I have scene it so quick it’s been an instant block.

Hopefully this will give him the hint.

The thing is I don’t want to do anything that could aggravate him or possibly even speak up.

I just wish the site made it a little bit more difficult for him to do this sort of activity. Maybe give emails a 30 day call of period of something.

Yes I know he can just creat a new email. But making it difficult might put him off his persistence.

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By *ed and WolfieCouple
48 weeks ago

Gravesend

If you just ignore him then he will get bored and move on. Every time you block him he sees this as a challenge to create a new profile and try again.

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By *adCherriesCouple
48 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Go to message filters.

Can't be single Male

Can't be Female couple

Can't be Male couple

Can't be newbies (must have been on site for a few days)

Must have public photos on their profile

Must be verified (or photo verified)

Must be site supporters

Must be aged 21 to 60 (if couple, one of them must be that age)

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By *allySlinkyWoman
48 weeks ago

Leeds

Could you just ignore the profile rather than block it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Not sure if you've thought about hiding your profile for a few days OP?

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By *MrMrsXCouple
48 weeks ago

Hereford

I would probably reply and go along with it as I would need to know who it was ha! If that’s not for you maybe change your message filters as others suggest x

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