FabSwingers.com forum: Why do timewasters bother

By *quirtyfun69 OP Couple
39 weeks ago

Burnley

We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol

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By *hris 1000200Man
39 weeks ago

kells

It's also something I can not understand ,been on here a few years now and it still happens to me ,strange people.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
39 weeks ago

Cardiff

Because they get kicks from it. Fab should have a signing on fee, maybe thatd stop a load of them?

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By *ight mightMan
39 weeks ago

Almost like an occupational hazard. It's the nature of this type of site unfortunately.

If 1 in 10 chats are successful then it is a better ratio of success than trying to chat women up in my 20s lol

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By *hris 1000200Man
39 weeks ago

kells

That reminds me, must renew

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By *valanche1001Man
39 weeks ago

Leeds

Just dreamers who talk a good game but when it comes to interacting with actual humans they go all wobbly

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By *quirtyfun69 OP Couple
39 weeks ago

Burnley

We think some of them are dreamers

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By *andPextraCouple
39 weeks ago

North West

Id pay a monthly subscription fee if is got rid of fake profiles and timewasters on here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Central

If it's about people who stand you up, after you've prearranged a meet - I've no clue, apart from some are probably cheating and could get found out, or get guilt.

If it's not about failing to turn up, many of the chatters will just not be compatible. We should expect most people we chat with, to not be mutually compatible. Thus most hot starts will go cold. And there's no requirement to explain, say goodbye etc.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
39 weeks ago

Hull

I think they get off with playing on peoples emotions !don’t have any intentions of meeting

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By *lujiz94Man
39 weeks ago

Bishop's Stortford

They often get cold feet right at the last minute

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By *entlemanrogueMan
39 weeks ago

Motherwell

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

i think they like wanking over the discussion, rather than actually do what is being discussed.

I also think some of them are just info gathering

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By *uger n Spice78Couple
39 weeks ago

South East Coast

"Because they get kicks from it. Fab should have a signing on fee, maybe thatd stop a load of them? "

So agree. We had stalker who just kept opening up accounts if he'd had to pay he might had thought twice. A lot of pic hunters on here as well.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
39 weeks ago

manchester

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

For some people the chase is all they want’

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By *oxy jWoman
39 weeks ago

somerset

why are people cunts in real life figure that one out then we may get a answer ..

but seriously i cant belive how many are getting messed around most of these problem profiles are quite easy to spot most of the time ... if it keeps happening then maybe change the way you look and select ... this account and our couples account we not had a letr down for a few years now and we play regular / most weeks ....even cucky on his single profile has never been let down

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

It’s probably a mixture of a lot of things. There are a lot of single males who get quite thirsty, and then I’m sure a ton of coupe profiles are actually ex-couple profiles, last verified 2021, no new pics, just the guy who controlled the account thrapping off - which is nothing wrong but just be honest. Likewise for those who get a confidence boost and have no intention of meeting, just be honest.

I’ve dialled in and out of this account for the last 9 months, pre-covid a lot more seemed to meet.

There’s still plenty of honest and meeting people, just have to sort the wheat from the chaff.

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By *onnie Brasco7Man
39 weeks ago

kildare

These gobshites that send the most hideous and vile messages are modern day flashers, who get a kick out of shocking people and thrive on making people feel bad.

I don’t think they have any intention in meeting anyone, the only reason they join is to do what I mentioned.

Well that my theory

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By *issmorganWoman
39 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It depends what you're classing as time wasters really.

To me they're those who arrange to meet and don't show or let you know they're not coming.

Some will change their minds, or may realise after chatting a while that you're not looking for the same things.

If someone stops chatting, it doesn't make them a time waster.

Yes there are people on here with no intention of meeting.

They are easy to spot though and will usually want sex chat or more pics to get them off.

If someone arranges to meet you and stands you up, please report them.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh

They get off on the thrill of the chase

They like to play games would day avoid but you can't tell if they are going to straight away and even verified people don't turn up to meets

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

They may not consider it a waste of their time I guess.

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By *itygamesMan
39 weeks ago

i think there feeling horny the day they arrange the meet then on the day of meeting there not feeling horny so cant be bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Because they get a kick out of it. I used to name and shame but I got suspended for a week so I stopped

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
39 weeks ago

North West

Depends what people define as time wasters.

Some people just want kinky conversations.

Or like the idea of fantasies but stuff can stop them in reality.

No rules to how others use the site.

I just wish people were more open about what they actually wanted

then no one would feel their time is wasted.

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By *alandNitaCouple
39 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

What do you consider a time waster?

To me it's a meet that doesn't turn up as planned. This has never happened to us, not that we meet much via Fab, we find clubs work best for us.

Nita

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By *ubbie300Couple
39 weeks ago

Bawtry

A time waster to me is someone who doesn’t read our profile. The men assume the lady will abandon her boundaries for the them.

Most of our messages are from males that do not meet what we are looking for, it’s a waste of their time as well as ours

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Depends what people define as time wasters.

Some people just want kinky conversations.

Or like the idea of fantasies but stuff can stop them in reality.

No rules to how others use the site.

I just wish people were more open about what they actually wanted

then no one would feel their time is wasted. "

Ding!

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By *andPextraCouple
39 weeks ago

North West

We are very open and explicit about what we want on our profile.

May as well write “blah blah blah”, as 95% of the site seem to see a picture and message what we don’t want regardless

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By *herryEatersCouple
39 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

A problem that has GREATLY increased since covid !. Why ?, some lose their nerve, others get a weird kick out of it

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By *heSuccubusWoman
39 weeks ago

Darlington

Like the attention, no intention

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By *lossomTreeWoman
39 weeks ago

Ipswich

Never been stood up in person (yet), but had 4 meets arranged with couples that didn't go ahead as I didn't get final confirmation on the day.

Then there are the couples who agree they want to meet and we get as far as discussing dates, only for them to stop responding.

I heavily screen who I interact with as well

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
39 weeks ago

Norwich

I reckon because they’ve got time that needs wasting.

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

That's what is like atm with people. They just want to showing on fab between them.

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

"That's what is like atm with people. They just want to showing on fab between them. "

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

I still never know if it's really or fake even getting blocked. I'm real and honest and it's just what it is.

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

Any chance to get options for me

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

"Any chance to get options for me "

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

It's just what is like

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By *archelCouple
39 weeks ago

A field somewhere

We no longer entertain arranging private meets for this reason, unless it's a couple we've already played with.

First thing we ask...do you do clubs? Majority generally say no but we're thinking about it. Off you pop then and we end of the conversation. If they do go to a club, we're happy to meet them there, if they don't turn up we don't give a shit as we're still in our happy place

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By *izzy.Woman
39 weeks ago

Stoke area

"Any chance to get options for me "

Not sure who you are talking to. Type your reply after copying the part you are talking about. Hope that tip helps you.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
39 weeks ago

Ashbourne

If they think we are annoyed then they are wrong. The only time they waste is their own only the sad thing is they don’t realise it.

They must have uneventful lives to mess around on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Shame really, cause a few of us genuine gents get stick because of the fake time wasters..cant win either way

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By *reative-mindMan
39 weeks ago

Exeter

To give all us genuine people either somthing to moan about or if your a bloke more time in life to do other things.

I'm actually amazed how often you see people saying XYZ is a time waster or actually how often these people get into the position of wasting someone times.

This site never stops baffling me.

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By *rBukkakeMan
39 weeks ago

Broad St, Birmingham

Definitely think there’s been a big increase in single guys pretending to be couples or women. I don’t understand what they get out of it. Perhaps Fab should make it mandatory for everybody to complete photo verification when they join.

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By *heelerMan
39 weeks ago

Northants

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

A lot of men get off on talking to females and couples but have no intentions of meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol

A lot of men get off on talking to females and couples but have no intentions of meeting. "

Agree with this. Some are picture hunters and some just are looking for dirty chat. We don't provide either and they quickly lose interest.

I also think it's bravado and fantasy for a lot of guys. They like to tell us how keen they are and that they at totally cool with turning up and getting down to it. When fantasy becomes reality they bottle it.

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By *inochioMan
39 weeks ago

Derbyshire

"We think some of them are dreamers "

Im no time waster but ill definitely dream about you tonight. Great profile;-)

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By *host63Man
39 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

I can say as a single man contacting women and couples it happens more often than not and I think it's because those people are seeking validation and an ego boost

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
39 weeks ago

nr Alicante

Why do they bother ? In order to “waste time”. Voila ?

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By *quirtyfun69 OP Couple
39 weeks ago

Burnley

Thank you for the replies

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

"It's also something I can not understand ,been on here a few years now and it still happens to me ,strange people. "

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By *ifestyle1Man
39 weeks ago

me171

I never waisted

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
39 weeks ago

Neath valley.

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

Because they can get away with it. Just block and move on as we all get them on here.

Mrs

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By *ifestyle1Man
38 weeks ago

me171

Busy with regular requests

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By *otstuff69xCouple
38 weeks ago

dundee

theres always lots on here and fakes,have no picts together always a clue

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By *ottom charlieMan
38 weeks ago

washington

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"
they are not wasting their time,,

that is how they get their kicks

they do not have the b*lls to get out and meet people coz they are sad hen pecked buggers who sit up in the bedroom messing people about while their wife is down stairs watching telly

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
38 weeks ago

Stoke

They don't know they're timewasters, that's the issue, they think it's normal to mess people about.

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By *itygamesMan
38 weeks ago

There not real swingers , or single men pretending to be a couple...............maybe

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By *herryEatersCouple
38 weeks ago

East Cheshire

Two couples have let us down over the last week, both on the day of the meet. It's becoming a nightmare on here and admin don't give a hoot. Folk that do this should have a count applied to their profile that only admin can see, it gets above a certain number and they are banned.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
38 weeks ago

Darlington

Officially I (or really we as I usually use my couples account with my wife) stopped using Fab for meets ages ago. Way to many time wasters. We where just using it to keep in touch with folk we met at the CLub or social events in the area.

Well, we couldn't get to the club this weekend and thought we would try posting a meet locally. Usually if it's not a time waster we get nothing. No bites or interest. The NE is a big place but our specific zone (as in locally within 20 miles)..not all that much going on.

But we thought..hey, it's been a long while. Lets try.

Well it happened again. New account but photo verified (single

lady. Supposedly!). Wants to meet socially then head off to a hotel, agrees on a time and place.

Well I'm just glad we didn't pre book a hotel. The person wasn't online all day to confirm. Briefly came on (no message to us) and as soon as I messaged to confirm....no response. Message left unread and remained unread 30 mins before we where supposed to be getting ready to head out.

It just the same old same old on here now...which is a shame because we've met some great people but honestly....very little faith in Fab when it comes to new members or low verified members on here now. I'm not sure how it can be made better but it makes fab kinda pointless when its so easy to abuse now, especially with A.I out there making fake photos for photo veris. Cant trust anything anymore.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Stockport

"We seem to have a few people who like to waste their and our time, why do people do it lol"

Maybe they are just so damaged by life that it's all they know how to do? Yes some of them are irredeemable total cunts, but some perhaps just have no idea how to make social interraction work for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

timewasters are people with plenty of time to spare so have plenty of time to waste

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