FabSwingers.com forum: Single girl going to clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Just looking for advice and/or experience stories from people who have either been a single girl in a club or met some! I’m thinking of attending a club as a single girl in a couple of months’ times so interested to hear…

Particularly interested to hear of any stories of single men pairing up to have some group fun

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By *assionate explorer 1Man
47 weeks ago

Folkestone

I'm yet to pluck up the courage to go to a club on my own.

I'd say it's easier for ladies to get someone to go with them.

I would love to meet a girl and go to a club. Rarer than a unicorn lol

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
47 weeks ago

Worcester

I would say that it’s generally better not to pair up into a fake couple.

If the guy goes rogue and does something that gets him kicked out then that potentially taints your membership too.

Plus it’s often more expensive for you if you couple up.

And you have to babysit a guy. You’ll usually get fewer opportunities to play if you’ve got a guy in tow.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I’ve been to a club on my own… was so incredibly nervous but I had a rum or three and everyone was so lovely to me, my nerves soon disappeared!

I’d love to go with a gal though, think we’d have a lot of fun!

Also went with a guy once and the above is right, it wasn’t as freeing and felt tied to him for the night.

Any questions just shout!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
47 weeks ago

Sheffield

My advice would be to just go, honestly once you are there and inside it’s all good. Those nerves are exciting. I’ve made some amazing friends over the years too.

I’d never pair up with anyone I didn’t trust and know extremely well.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
47 weeks ago

Next Door

I found the worst bit was going through the door.

Select a club/event that you would like to attend. Contact the club/host and say you're a newbie and would like to attend. If it's an event there usually is a chat/messages (different platform) going on, so you can say hello. Maybe ask to meet someone beforehand, friendly face etc.

At the club you will be given a walk around etc. And the staff willook after you.

Find something you feel comfortable in, and take other bits to wear just in case.

I wouldn't attend as a couple unless you know the person well.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
47 weeks ago

Worcester

"Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy "

What you wear depends on the club and the theme of the night.

If you’re unsure then just drop the club a message

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By *oiluvfunMan
47 weeks ago

Penrith

"Just looking for advice and/or experience stories from people who have either been a single girl in a club or met some! I’m thinking of attending a club as a single girl in a couple of months’ times so interested to hear…

Particularly interested to hear of any stories of single men pairing up to have some group fun "

You’ll be absolutely fine visiting by yourself, the hardest part will be walking through the door! Once inside though, as a solo female, you’ll be well looked after by the staff, as single women in clubs are the rarity!

If you go by yourself, it will be the lowest cost option for you, and if you want to leave at any point, you can, you’re not thinking about someone else and what they want to do…..

Clubs as a single guy; hit or miss.

Clubs as a single woman; kiddie in a sweetie factory

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
47 weeks ago

Next Door

"Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy "

It depends on the club. If its dress down then i wear a niceset of undies/ body/ or a little skirt and bra top. Not dress down, i usually wear a nice skimpy dress/skirt&top to start with then dresses down later in the night.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
47 weeks ago

Next Door

"Interested to read this as I want to go to my first club too - I'm also wondering what do people wear... I'll probably feel uncomfortable in something too skimpy

The main things is wear what you are comfy in.

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By *nnocentOneWoman
47 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Single ladies. Speaking from experience, I had a few "Dutch courage" drinks & took the plunge with my local club. The staff were really good as I was new & alone. To be fair, it's safer than meeting a guy from Fabswingers itself. Even if you don't play, I can imagine that every club has a bar area to socialise in. Don't be scared, you'll be looked after!

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By *archelCouple
47 weeks ago

A field somewhere

We're friends with a few unicorns, one comes clubbing with us regularly. We don't play with her, she's just a good friend. She started by going with another unicorn friend, but comes with us when she's out now. She always has a great time and goes off and does her own thing later in the night.

I personally wouldn't risk a single guy who's not been before in case as others have pointed out..he goes rogue. Many guys can't cope with the sexually charged atmosphere and start behaving like total twats.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
47 weeks ago

North West

I’ve clubbed for 9 years as a single girl

Met loads of friends along the way, single guys, couples and loads of other single gals. It’s been the best.

Never had any trouble. Decent club hosts have always been amazing.

I’ve coupled up numerous times to get in clubs with no guarantee of playing.

Just do what you want, and stick to your boundaries/ wants. It’s always been a great experience for me.

Lots of hosts can arrange group fun, or know of people who may be looking for similar. Always worth speaking to the hosts if you don’t know many on the scene. Also worth joining the group chats prior to events and getting to know people. xx

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
47 weeks ago

south coast IOW

Ive gone to clubs, organised parties and socials as a single for years. If its a new venue to me i often message the hosts beforehand to say im coming alone and have always had a tour and been introduced to a few people by the hosts on arrival. It’s absolutely fine and no one is pushy. Most people will chat and he friendly. Just go for it xx

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By *abioMan
47 weeks ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I would say that it’s generally better not to pair up into a fake couple.

If the guy goes rogue and does something that gets him kicked out then that potentially taints your membership too.

Plus it’s often more expensive for you if you couple up.

And you have to babysit a guy. You’ll usually get fewer opportunities to play if you’ve got a guy in tow."

I would actually fully agree with this….

I don’t see how it would be easier going to a club with someone you don’t know meeting people you don’t know.. it also feels like double the pressure!

I would give the same advice to a single girl going to a club than I would a single guy… just go an chat with all and sundry! Talking to someone isn’t “I want to get into your knickers/pants” a conversation is just a conversation!

I would not want to put my reputation on the line for someone I don’t know

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By *anchester_gentMan
47 weeks ago

Manchester/ Cheshire border

I’ve taken a fair few ladies for their first club trip. Sometimes as a couple when we’ve met previously. Sometimes as two single buddies when I’ve shown them around and been a familiar face for them while they found their feet.

Best advice is let the club know it’s your first time - so they can show you round properly. And maybe make your first trip a “fact finding” one on a quieter day so you can get a feel for how it all works.

Happy to answer any more questions you may have.

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By *HE ONLY PLAN IS NO PLANMan
47 weeks ago

Westmidlands

When on the scene as a couple ,we met a Gorgeous lady at Liberty Elite club in Lutterworth, she was at the Bar on her own we chatted to her she was a little Nervous ,We gave her some advice and then left her to wander the club ,we Noticed her chatting throughout the night ,And more importantly Enjoying 2 guys in the Big play room ,Later that night she said she had an amazing time fulfilled 1 of her fantasies, and was so so glad she had joined and attended Liberty.

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By *oxy jWoman
47 weeks ago

taunton somerset

nothing worse in clubs than people pairing up / fb / fwb they are so easy to spot as they are so far apart ... go as yourself you wont regret it but you might if you pair up with a guy you dont really know

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By *toney606Man
47 weeks ago

Around and about,

I've accompanied a few ladies on their 1st time,to make them feel safe and they had a great time,also I've never seen a single lady have a problem in a club,they are very welcomed

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