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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth

Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people

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By *bi HaiveMan
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42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people "

Because as they've said, they're curious.

Some people aren't yet comfortable having it on their profile and have to start somewhere. Of course some use it as a means of getting access to a woman, but that's very easily tested at the time.

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth


"Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people

Because as they've said, they're curious.

Some people aren't yet comfortable having it on their profile and have to start somewhere. Of course some use it as a means of getting access to a woman, but that's very easily tested at the time. "

We get that

But bi curious

Tends to be all for female

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people

Because as they've said, they're curious.

Some people aren't yet comfortable having it on their profile and have to start somewhere. Of course some use it as a means of getting access to a woman, but that's very easily tested at the time.

We get that

But bi curious

Tends to be all for female

"

Not always. I had straight on my profile the first time I met a bi couple.

Look at the verifications of many bi couples and you'll find plenty of encounters with straight men.

Doesn't mean what went on in private was always 100% straight.......

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

They usually say to us "I'm bi but have to put straight on my profile" then give a reason, usually either because people they know are on here or because they claim women wont respond to bi profiles

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth


"Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people

Because as they've said, they're curious.

Some people aren't yet comfortable having it on their profile and have to start somewhere. Of course some use it as a means of getting access to a woman, but that's very easily tested at the time.

We get that

But bi curious

Tends to be all for female

Not always. I had straight on my profile the first time I met a bi couple.

Look at the verifications of many bi couples and you'll find plenty of encounters with straight men.

Doesn't mean what went on in private was always 100% straight......."

Yes we understand

But it's the men who are absolutely not interested in males

But they still want to meet

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth


"They usually say to us "I'm bi but have to put straight on my profile" then give a reason, usually either because people they know are on here or because they claim women wont respond to bi profiles"

Thats another one

We have had numerous conversations with straight couples

And couple with straight men

Said we do not meet straight men

Or straight away into a swap

But they want to meet but are adamant that bi isn't for them

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By *rs BxxWoman
42 weeks ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

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By *rs BxxWoman
42 weeks ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

Just chancing their luck as so many single guys do. As they so often say "if you don't ask then you don't get"

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth


"Just chancing their luck as so many single guys do. As they so often say "if you don't ask then you don't get""

Totally

But surely just message a straight couple

Why do straight couple want to meet bi couples when they want different things x

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
42 weeks ago

Hyde

I guess there is the question of does every encounter have to be bi?

I (Mrs) am bi.... but in an FMF or MFMF I don't have to play with the woman.

So perhaps they're just looking for a straight swap?

K

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By *rs BxxWoman
42 weeks ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.


"Just chancing their luck as so many single guys do. As they so often say "if you don't ask then you don't get"

Totally

But surely just message a straight couple

Why do straight couple want to meet bi couples when they want different things x"

They messages numerous profiles regardless just hoping to get lucky, probably never even reading your profile. I have on my profile Tuesday afternoons only but that doesn't stop messages other days and other times... "Just chancing my luck" unfortunately it will never change, just delete and move on.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"They usually say to us "I'm bi but have to put straight on my profile" then give a reason, usually either because people they know are on here or because they claim women wont respond to bi profiles

Thats another one

We have had numerous conversations with straight couples

And couple with straight men

Said we do not meet straight men

Or straight away into a swap

But they want to meet but are adamant that bi isn't for them "

Maybe, just maybe, they saw your profile, liked what they saw, then read your verifications and saw that you have met single, straight men before. So got in touch.

Just a thought.........

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth

Thanks for your comments

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
42 weeks ago

Worcester

Because they’re homophobic and don’t want to actually admit that they might find men sexually attractive.

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth

I have not explained properly

But thanks for your time

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Im down as straight on my profile purely for the reason that when I had it listed as bi, was completely overwhelmed with messages from guys (bi, MM couples etc). From that, I can only imagine what it's like on here for the females being overwhelmed with messages!

To me, as a single guy that enjoys threesomes with couples, there is an element of bi involvement, and I do stress in any messages what my limits are

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By *lexV16Man
42 weeks ago

Welling


"Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people "

If you read through the forum topics of newbie of bisexuality you’ll find that most guys would love to explore it with understanding couple and seems they are taking you for one. But clearly by this kind of topic on here you aren’t. Just put disclaimer you are looking for experienced bi guys.

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth


"Why do straight profiles message bi profile

Then the bs I'm curious

I want to

What would I have to do

Why not just message other straight people

If you read through the forum topics of newbie of bisexuality you’ll find that most guys would love to explore it with understanding couple and seems they are taking you for one. But clearly by this kind of topic on here you aren’t. Just put disclaimer you are looking for experienced bi guys."

That's utter bs

So a straight male message us

We say sorry we don't meet straight males

He says no worries

Then an hour later ok he can suck me

You ask is it t female preferably

Yes

Or straight males message

I want to come over and do xyz to Mrs

He can watch

We say no we don't do that

Ok what do I have to do then

Or straight couple want to meet bi couple

But don't like what we do

So it's nothing to do with what you said

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By *rs BxxWoman
42 weeks ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

I've got a couples profile and we are both straight, not fab straight we are straight, not even curious. We get the same guys messaging wanting to meet us for what ever is on offer, they'll offer to suck hubby if it gets a meet even though we are straight. They are just chancing their luck, just delete, block and move on.

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

grangemouth


"I've got a couples profile and we are both straight, not fab straight we are straight, not even curious. We get the same guys messaging wanting to meet us for what ever is on offer, they'll offer to suck hubby if it gets a meet even though we are straight. They are just chancing their luck, just delete, block and move on."

Perhaps it's difficult for males to understand

The annoying part was when they said they would like to try it

Sort meet then say actually we don't x

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By *rs BxxWoman
42 weeks ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.


"I've got a couples profile and we are both straight, not fab straight we are straight, not even curious. We get the same guys messaging wanting to meet us for what ever is on offer, they'll offer to suck hubby if it gets a meet even though we are straight. They are just chancing their luck, just delete, block and move on.

Perhaps it's difficult for males to understand

The annoying part was when they said they would like to try it

Sort meet then say actually we don't x"

Some guys will do and say anything to get a meet. Yes bloody annoying but that's single guys and Fab for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

As said before, maybe they saw you've got straight male veris and took the chance. You must have changed your filter or messaged straight male first though?

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By *ickD80Man
41 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

According to your profile you’re a bi couple who are looking to meet MF couples and Females (not males!), according to your bio you won’t meet straight males but you have 2 verifications from meeting straight males and in one of your posts you have stated that you meet straight men who claim to want to try bi for the first time. Don’t you think you’re sending out mixed messages? It’s a bit hypocritical for a couple who say in their bio that they don’t meet straight men but have verifications from straight men to complain about straight men contacting them and that straight men aren’t clear about what they are looking for. It seems to me that you’re the ones who are unclear about what you’re looking for.

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

grangemouth


"According to your profile you’re a bi couple who are looking to meet MF couples and Females (not males!), according to your bio you won’t meet straight males but you have 2 verifications from meeting straight males and in one of your posts you have stated that you meet straight men who claim to want to try bi for the first time. Don’t you think you’re sending out mixed messages? It’s a bit hypocritical for a couple who say in their bio that they don’t meet straight men but have verifications from straight men to complain about straight men contacting them and that straight men aren’t clear about what they are looking for. It seems to me that you’re the ones who are unclear about what you’re looking for. "

Ok so Mr know it all

Those men messaged and straight away said they were bi

Thanks for taking the time to go through our profile

I have said if a male says I'm straight,no internet in male

We will be polite and say that doesn't work for us.

Then they say fine what would I have to do

Why would you do something you do not like

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By *ickD80Man
41 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"According to your profile you’re a bi couple who are looking to meet MF couples and Females (not males!), according to your bio you won’t meet straight males but you have 2 verifications from meeting straight males and in one of your posts you have stated that you meet straight men who claim to want to try bi for the first time. Don’t you think you’re sending out mixed messages? It’s a bit hypocritical for a couple who say in their bio that they don’t meet straight men but have verifications from straight men to complain about straight men contacting them and that straight men aren’t clear about what they are looking for. It seems to me that you’re the ones who are unclear about what you’re looking for.

Ok so Mr know it all

Those men messaged and straight away said they were bi

Thanks for taking the time to go through our profile

I have said if a male says I'm straight,no internet in male

We will be polite and say that doesn't work for us.

Then they say fine what would I have to do

Why would you do something you do not like

"

So are you saying they’re lying when they say they have no interest in men because they go on to ask you what they have to do with the man?

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By *he couple nextdoor OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

grangemouth


"According to your profile you’re a bi couple who are looking to meet MF couples and Females (not males!), according to your bio you won’t meet straight males but you have 2 verifications from meeting straight males and in one of your posts you have stated that you meet straight men who claim to want to try bi for the first time. Don’t you think you’re sending out mixed messages? It’s a bit hypocritical for a couple who say in their bio that they don’t meet straight men but have verifications from straight men to complain about straight men contacting them and that straight men aren’t clear about what they are looking for. It seems to me that you’re the ones who are unclear about what you’re looking for.

Ok so Mr know it all

Those men messaged and straight away said they were bi

Thanks for taking the time to go through our profile

I have said if a male says I'm straight,no internet in male

We will be polite and say that doesn't work for us.

Then they say fine what would I have to do

Why would you do something you do not like

So are you saying they’re lying when they say they have no interest in men because they go on to ask you what they have to do with the man?"

Do not speak to me

I have no internet in your vile opinion of us

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By *ickD80Man
41 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"According to your profile you’re a bi couple who are looking to meet MF couples and Females (not males!), according to your bio you won’t meet straight males but you have 2 verifications from meeting straight males and in one of your posts you have stated that you meet straight men who claim to want to try bi for the first time. Don’t you think you’re sending out mixed messages? It’s a bit hypocritical for a couple who say in their bio that they don’t meet straight men but have verifications from straight men to complain about straight men contacting them and that straight men aren’t clear about what they are looking for. It seems to me that you’re the ones who are unclear about what you’re looking for.

Ok so Mr know it all

Those men messaged and straight away said they were bi

Thanks for taking the time to go through our profile

I have said if a male says I'm straight,no internet in male

We will be polite and say that doesn't work for us.

Then they say fine what would I have to do

Why would you do something you do not like

So are you saying they’re lying when they say they have no interest in men because they go on to ask you what they have to do with the man?

Do not speak to me

I have no internet in your vile opinion of us

"

I asked you a question, I didn’t state an opinion.

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