FabSwingers.com forum: Going to first club

By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Hey!! I’m struggling to find a single woman who wants to come to a club with me. Seems harder than I thought. I do live a fair distance away but willing to travel. Any advice?

If any single woman wanna go with me feel free to pm me .

Thanks

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By *ickNick500Man
50 weeks ago

Herts

"Hey!! I’m struggling to find a single woman who wants to come to a club with me. Seems harder than I thought. I do live a fair distance away but willing to travel. Any advice?

If any single woman wanna go with me feel free to pm me .

Thanks"

Why don't you go on your own, mate? Most clubs have times when single guys are allowed to attend, albeit sometimes there are restrictions on numbers.

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By *octor ProdMan
50 weeks ago

working Overseas

Go on your own. Once you are throth the door then the nerves will vanish.

Just remember go with no expectations, but talk to people and make new friends; then if you dont get invited to play you will have had a good evening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

. Okay that sounds like a plan. Ahh so you get invited to play . Ok thanks for that

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By *iss DevilWoman
50 weeks ago

Bedford

As above poster has said, go on your own, OP, you don't need a woman to hold your hand!

From the point of view of a woman who did take a newbie to a club- I have learned my lesson. He got overwhelmed by the environment and caused trouble for himself and me. As you have never been to a club, what guarantee has any woman got who chooses to take you to a club that you are not going to lose it once inside? Or that you are not going to let your "cheaper entry ticket" go and be in the club as a single guy?

If you are worried about costs, do your research and find clubs that are not charging single men extortionate amount of money.

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By *iss DevilWoman
50 weeks ago

Bedford

". Okay that sounds like a plan. Ahh so you get invited to play . Ok thanks for that "

You MAY get invited to play, but also you may not. It will depend on your behaviour, the way you present yourself on the night AND on what the other party/parties are looking for. So chat to people, appear friendly but also respect their choices.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Hey thankyou for that. It’s interesting to read your view and perception. That all makes sense to me. Money is no problem so I have a look and get myself down to one.

ThAnkyou

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
50 weeks ago

south coast IOW

As a single female I often get random guys asking me to take them to clubs and parties with me. The answer is always the same. My invite or membership is as a single female. While i may meet a guy in the club i go and leave alone. That way i have the flexibility to chose how much i want to engage with a new person but also as a newbie i dont know how you will behave once inside and i do not want my own reputation tarnished by someone else’s behaviour. The only time i will attend with a guy is after i have known them for some time and am confident that i can be myself and not have to worry about how they will conduct themselves. I always try to talk to new people i see as i know how daunting it can be going alone to a new place but you do soon get to know people and for the most part swingers are a friendly old bunch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Thankyou so much that has really helped.

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By *archwood CoupleCouple
50 weeks ago

Marchwood

A few years ago when i was single, I was asked by a female neighbour if I'd take her to a club.

I don't know what she'd taken before we set off, but her behaviour was completely unacceptable, first she tried to grab another woman's breasts, then fell flat on her face. Surprisingly, we were asked to leave

Go on your own, you may not get your leg over, but you'll certainly make some new friends and who knows where it'll lead

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By *HE ONLY PLAN IS NO PLANMan
50 weeks ago

Westmidlands

Take a trip on your own ,seriously once through the door any nerves you had will be gone .When I was on here as a couple for many years we would see guys at clubs standing in the corner not socialising, Just head in keep smiling, always be polite and make conversation,and no when to move on try not to bore people, The swinging scene will always treat you with respect as long as you are ,

You will meet so many people visiting clubs ,get invites to house party's, and make great friends, trust me once through the door at your first club ,its all good.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
50 weeks ago

tf1

I always get messages from guys asking me to take them to clubs and the answer is always no.

I’ve only ever taken one guy and I knew him and knew he would behave himself.

I don’t want the responsibility of someone else. I also don’t want them stuck to me all night and I don’t know them and don’t know if they will behave or not.

If I can go on my own then so can you.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
50 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

Doesn't your fbuddy want to go with you to a club? If not as others have said, go on your own.

As a newbie you'll generally get given a tour of the club, reminded of the rules and might even get introduced to some regulars.

Ms x

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By *oiluvfunMan
49 weeks ago

Penrith

"Hey!! I’m struggling to find a single woman who wants to come to a club with me. Seems harder than I thought. I do live a fair distance away but willing to travel. Any advice?

If any single woman wanna go with me feel free to pm me .

Thanks"

Honestly mate, if you haven’t got a club on your doorstep, that you can visit easily and often, they’re really not worth the effort or expense. As a solo guy, you’ll meet more women in your local Weatherspoons than a swinger club

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