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By *oxy jWoman
48 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
"Hey all,
This is going to be controversial, but that's what the forums are for, so here we go:
Swinging is fun. Swinging is exciting. Swinging is about giving and receiving pleasure. Swinging is about fulfilling fantasies. But most importantly, swinging is SIMPLE. Many people get confused and don't know what to do, or get embarrassed or ashamed when progress is happening, so here are some SIMPLE basic points to follow throughout the journey to fun, exciting and pleasant world of swinging.
Here we go! (in Hydraulic Press Channel voice)
First things first, let's agree what swinging is:
adjective: swinging
1. moving back and forth or from side to side while suspended or on an axis.
"an old mahogany grandfather clock with a swinging pendulum"
2. [INFORMAL] lively, exciting, and fashionable.
"a swinging resort"
3. [INFORMAL] engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.
If you are interested in 1, go to B&Q, get some rope and a plank of wood, find a tree, build a swing. They might even have ready made sets in garden section. Either way, this guide is not for you. Neither is this website (unless this is a "special" kind of swing to aid with some activities relating to option 3, in which case, keep reading).
If you are thinking about this fun, exciting and relaxing holiday resort from option 2, again, you are not in the right place. I suggest booking.com or Airbnb, otherwise you'll find it hard to place a booking before it's too late, holidays are over, and it's time to get back to work.
If you're here for option 3 - congratulations! You have found the most active (we'll elaborate on this later) website connecting like-minded people enjoying this kind of lifestyle.
Let's expand this definition slightly to include not only group sex and swapping partners, but also sharing fantasies, photos, videos, watching others or being watched, etc, you name it - if it involves or relates to sex AND involves anyone other than your current partner AND your partner is both aware and ok with your activities - let's call that swinging.
If your partner is not ok with and aware of your activities, you re not swinging but cheating.
If it doesn't involve anyone other than your partner, it's not swinging either - you are having sex. Congratulations. Enjoy it and do it as often as you can while you can. Remember, practice makes perfect.
If it doesn't involve sex, you're on the wrong website. Press the back button a few times and change the search term you typed into Google. You just got lost on the internet.
If you don't have a partner, that's ok, many swingers are single, just don't keep your hopes up for finding one in this community and keeping them exclusively for yourself. Remember, they are here, just like you, to excersize their freedom to have fun whichever way and with whoever they want. Not saying you can't fall in love and marry a swinger, just don't invite someone to meet your parents after you exchange a few messages on here and maybe meet once or twice. (Unless you have been adopted and your step parents are swinging too, in which case, go for it, you be you. Hell, get your step siblings to join as well, why not. Swingers don't judge).
Now that you are on here, and know what swinging is, you have to create a profile. To do that, the website will guide you through this. You will fill out some technical info about yourself ( your specs) and what kind of people you are looking to engage with and for what activities (your looking for specs).
Now, THIS is the hard, if not the hardest part about swinging: you have to know what you want. Look in the mirror or close your eyes entirely and imagine really doing the things you think want to do. If it makes you uncomfortable, you probably shouldn't do it. Don't put it on your profile or suggest otherwise that you want to do something that you are not comfortable with. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed of your desires, but don't cross the line you are not ready to cross. Take it easy. Things tend to work out themselves over time, and you should always be in control on how far you are willing to go. There is always time for next time.
In the profile you can also upload some pictures of yourself. By "yourself" I mean not only your monster pride and joy from between your legs, your enormous boobs or delicious bum. I mean your FACE. Yes. That thing you saw in the mirror when you asked yourself what do you really want to do. Now is not the time to be shy or embarrassed. By definition this is (at least should be) the least judgemental community of all. Remember, we are all here for the same reason after all. And if you are worried that someone closed minded and judgemental from outside of the community will join and find your profile to expose you - well, if you followed expanded definition of what swinging is (i.e. you are not cheating) and you are being true to yourself, then what does it matter. Besides, can you imagine anyone taking a naked picture of themselves and posting it to the internet just to name and shame someone for doing the same? Think again...
Also, worthy of note - do not lie on here. In your profile or in messages or when meeting people. Like EVER. This will not get you anywhere. Truth always comes to the light of day sooner than later. No point being embarrassed or ashamed of anything (if you still are, you might reconsider your life choices) or hiding anything at this point.
Doe the nature of the activities this community is about, it is a VERY VULNERABLE place. Everyone wants to have fun ina safe environment. Don't hide shit or pretent you are someone you are not. (Gay male pretending to be bi-curious or single posing as a couple account) That is just not ok. You are who you are and there is plenty to go around for everyone, just be honest. Dishonesty just increases insecurity for everyone and makes things difficult in the long term.
Congratulations! Your profile is now complete.
Now you can start looking for swinging partners to make your desires come true. Look through nearby profiles, look at other people specs and their looking for specs. Look at their photos. If you like what you read and see, send them a message. It's that simple... ...hold on just a moment.
Perhaps this has to be explained as well.
The message you send should be an introduction. Something along the lines people say on those corporate meetings when you stand up one by one, say your name, what you do or what your goals are and some kind of interesting fact about yourself. Not a "Hi, wanna meet?" with a blurry picture of your junk attached, or "wanna use my throat?". That is just undignified. Ask yourself how would you react to a message like this? Respect yourself and others.
If you were born without junk between your legs, or had it surgically removed by your own choice - you can also send messages out introducing yourself to those with junk. Really. Just try it.
No discrimination here and all genders are equally entitled to send someone a message saying "Hi, I'm this and that, I like your photos and would like to chat on here and see where it leads to"
The other party regardless of gender is obliged to reply expressing their interest or lack thereof.
It's called courtesy, and it's a part of civilised culture.
Not answering messages is not ok, and likewise, repeatedly spamming someone every other day after they said they are not interested in you is not ok.
It goes both ways.
On the flip side, now that your profile is complete, you may receive messages from other swingers looking for the exact thing that you have to offer. This is where things get started. The most important thing to to is to REPLY.
Read the message, look at their profile, and if you like what you see then act on it NOW. Or if they don't fit your "looking for specs" reply politely ”Thanks for your interest, but that's not what I'm looking for currently." Don't leave people hanging.
Equally, sending sending unsolicited "wanna fuck" dick pics and letting messages rot in inbox unanswered are both as bad as one another.
This community will be as enjoyable for everyone as we make it. If you approach and respond with kindness and respect, it will only get better going forward.
Also, on the subject of staying true to yourself: there might be time when you're sitting at home, bored, with the phone in your hand or in front of computer and you feel a bit frisky and start sending messages out. That's fine. But, after a while when things cool down you are no longer interested and just drop the conversation and leave the other person wondering what is going on, that is no longer fine. Go back to your profile setup stage and stare at the mirror for a little longer. Look, dirty talking or sex chatting falls under the umbrella term of swinging, but be honest. With yourself and others.
Just put in your bio that you like that sort of thing and let everyone know that that's what you're into. This will make thinks simpler for everyone. You wouldn't want to be played like this, so don't okay this game with others. Unless that's what you're into, in which case make it clear in your profile.
That's all folks,
May the swing always be with you & happy fabbing.
My thumbs sore and my battery is dying. I may add to this in the future if I feel inspired, but for today I'm done.
May the conversation begin
Kris"
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