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By (user no longer on site) OP   
50 weeks ago

Hi, I’m just looking for some general advice really. Where do/can you start with exploring this? I’ve always wanted to play with a guy, but I can’t seem to push myself over that line to do it unfortunately. I was thinking first about organising a wank meet but what’s it like with a guy for the first time? I would love to suck but I’m unsure whether or not I would enjoy it… any tips?

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By *AYENCouple
50 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I would suggest you don't 'push' yourself anywhere. When the situation is right you'll know it and likely enjoy it, if you force it you probably won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
50 weeks ago


"I would suggest you don't 'push' yourself anywhere. When the situation is right you'll know it and likely enjoy it, if you force it you probably won't. "

Yeh you’re right, I don’t want to push myself too early and then regret it. No way..

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By *heekyCharmMan
50 weeks ago

Colne


"I would suggest you don't 'push' yourself anywhere. When the situation is right you'll know it and likely enjoy it, if you force it you probably won't.

Yeh you’re right, I don’t want to push myself too early and then regret it. No way.."

Hiya x Maybe try finding a couple who would be happy to show you some loving. I'm sure they're out there ready and waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Similar situation to you… fantasise about it a lot for oral but apprehensive about taking the next step x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
50 weeks ago


"Similar situation to you… fantasise about it a lot for oral but apprehensive about taking the next step x"

Glad I’m not the only one!

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By *ovetoedgeMan
50 weeks ago

Dunstable

Maybe go to a spa or sauna, if it feels right then give it a try. Can always say no thanks.

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By *imHangslowMan
50 weeks ago

Piccadilly

I would just find a guy who's bi/gay on here that you like the look of and just build an online friendship. Then when you feel good arrange to meet for a social and take it from there. I've met at least three guys same situation as you, all loved sucking my cock for the first time ??

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
50 weeks ago

Cheshire

A gay sauna seems the best place for you to experiment. The guys in there will be used to straight guys wanting to try oral or even anal for the first time.

Also it’s a lot safer than going to a gay club/pub as you have the safety of the venue. Literally saying no and leaving won’t be an issue as the guy you are with will easily find someone else willing in the place.

The guys are generally friendly and there for the sex, so you’ll not be disappointed.

Good luck and I hope you enjoy yourself

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By *anielpiercedMan
50 weeks ago

by the seaside


"Hi, I’m just looking for some general advice really. Where do/can you start with exploring this? I’ve always wanted to play with a guy, but I can’t seem to push myself over that line to do it unfortunately. I was thinking first about organising a wank meet but what’s it like with a guy for the first time? I would love to suck but I’m unsure whether or not I would enjoy it… any tips?"

Try a club bi night,you can meet like minded people and take things at your own pace that way with no pressure on your self.

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By *s-two-75Couple
50 weeks ago

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Male here.. I would suggest you Google gay bi sauna and find one by you.

There’s no pressure to play or do anything you can just watch and se how you feel. They are usually quite chilled places and once your in I’m sure any nerves will be gone x

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By *nc31Man
50 weeks ago

uxbridge


"Hi, I’m just looking for some general advice really. Where do/can you start with exploring this? I’ve always wanted to play with a guy, but I can’t seem to push myself over that line to do it unfortunately. I was thinking first about organising a wank meet but what’s it like with a guy for the first time? I would love to suck but I’m unsure whether or not I would enjoy it… any tips?"
me and gf meet lots of bi-curious guys once she kisses them and sucks them I join in sucking I don't expect them to suck me unless they want to. 1st step is see if u like receiving 1st..

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By *nc31Man
50 weeks ago

uxbridge


"I would suggest you don't 'push' yourself anywhere. When the situation is right you'll know it and likely enjoy it, if you force it you probably won't.

Yeh you’re right, I don’t want to push myself too early and then regret it. No way..couple here chilled to meet and see how it goes

Hiya x Maybe try finding a couple who would be happy to show you some loving. I'm sure they're out there ready and waiting. "

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By *orkspoonMan
50 weeks ago

nearby

Another vote for saunas here; don't be afraid to say no thanks if you want to stop or want someone to stop. Glory holes might be a safe way to start

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By *ubbie300Couple
50 weeks ago

Bawtry


"Another vote for saunas here; don't be afraid to say no thanks if you want to stop or want someone to stop. Glory holes might be a safe way to start"

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By *astsussexMan
50 weeks ago

7dials brighton

Meet some1 like me. Haha. No pressure. Go with the flow.

Explain to him that u want to try. Not sure if u can do it. He’ll understand.

Try and if u don’t like it. At least you’ll know it’s not for you

Life is short

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By *rith47Man
50 weeks ago

Erith

Good suggestions here re sauna and finding a couple. Someone you can feel relaxed with and build trust. Certainly takes time.

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By *lexV16Man
50 weeks ago

Welling

I would not suggest gay scene like sauna etc for a total newbie. Too much nerve needs to open the door and step in.

The best would be to find understanding couple but chances are low. Most bi couples are looking for well experienced.

The easiest way is to get on with gay dating app and find understanding easy going guy there. Plenty of gay guys with kinks for newbies. Many happy to have a chat and watch porn together for start. Next thing when you are aroused you’d understand if you want to give it a go or not

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
50 weeks ago

Chatham

We have all been there. My first time I chatted to a guy for a long while making boundaries that I wouldn't go past making sure he knew it was my first time and I would be nervous. But eventually you just need to go for it. I did and I felt so comfortable with this guy and enjoyed the whole experience.

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By *asterofmaidsMan
50 weeks ago

Telford

Come over to the dark side you won't regret it x

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By *sxboy69Man
50 weeks ago

Rayleigh

No need to push

My first time was on the sister site to here as I was curious and simply wanted to try some non hetero action to see how things felt. I met up with a verified bi guy after work for a wank session and as things felt right we moved onto oral both ways and anal both ways. I certainly enjoyed the experience as it felt comfortable. I've also tried gay saunas with mixed success - it's great to go and watch live action and group fun. but I also find it a bit grim at times and frequently it's difficult to find a guy in there that I find physically attractive as often old fat dudes lol. Your profile and pics look good to me BTW - so good luck!

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By *andy cane321Couple
50 weeks ago

Aylesbury

You could try a gay sauna. There's o expectation to play or do anything you dont want to. This is how it started for me. It was curious so went to a sauna. They have gloryholes to so maybe try the gloryholes for the anonymity

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By *ovetoedgeMan
50 weeks ago

Dunstable

My very first time was a guy massage, a very gentle older man who took his time, until I was very aroused. Very nice and recommended.

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By *arky3210Man
50 weeks ago

Washington marky

I'm the same, I know that I want to but unsure who to do it with.

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By *uliesmoothcdTV/TS
50 weeks ago

grimsby

I was in the same boat and contacted a couple on the site, I was open and honest told them I was a 'virgin' and would need some patience. They were fantastic and we met no pressure was applied, things went slowly and it just seemed natural when I sucked the husbands cock with the wife gently encouraging me. It was amazing.

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By *ovinglifeXXMan
50 weeks ago

Crediton

I've had meets with bi curious guys , I just got naked.... bit of a grope and wank ..

I'm Neatishead to uou if you want a chat , Ian

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By *ucks_NomadTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Berks

In my experience, the best way is to find someone to talk to and explain it’s your first time with a person of the same sex. Make sure he is non pushy and he knows you want to go at your pace.. meet and be yourself with him so to relax.. when you are ready, suggest a kiss and see how it feels! I loved my first kiss! If you want to, get naked together and be touchy feely! Feel the body of the man with you and get him to do the same! You’ll find yourself naturally touching nipples and also his cock as he touches yours! Take your time.. I found kissing and sucking a cock is a natural thing! Don’t worry about technique, you will adapt! Kiss and lick and be natural!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
49 weeks ago

Thanks everyone for the tips and advice, really appreciated! I think I’ll take my time on this to be honest, but I’m sure it will all happen when it’s supposed to happen.

I might reach out to a few people on here, thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
49 weeks ago


"I've had meets with bi curious guys , I just got naked.... bit of a grope and wank ..

I'm Neatishead to uou if you want a chat , Ian"

Thanks, isn’t that Norwich?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
49 weeks ago


"No need to push

My first time was on the sister site to here as I was curious and simply wanted to try some non hetero action to see how things felt. I met up with a verified bi guy after work for a wank session and as things felt right we moved onto oral both ways and anal both ways. I certainly enjoyed the experience as it felt comfortable. I've also tried gay saunas with mixed success - it's great to go and watch live action and group fun. but I also find it a bit grim at times and frequently it's difficult to find a guy in there that I find physically attractive as often old fat dudes lol. Your profile and pics look good to me BTW - so good luck!"

Thank you for the info and the kind words!

I think ultimately I just want it to be SAFE more than anything. And both parties enjoy something out of it.

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By *ovinglifeXXMan
49 weeks ago

Crediton


"I've had meets with bi curious guys , I just got naked.... bit of a grope and wank ..

I'm Neatishead to uou if you want a chat , Ian

Thanks, isn’t that Norwich?"

Sorry it meant to say , ' I'm near to you ' as im near okehampton , not sure what happened , thick fingers ! Message me if you'd like to chat

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By *ongandharderMan
49 weeks ago

Rotherham


"Similar situation to you… fantasise about it a lot for oral but apprehensive about taking the next step x

Glad I’m not the only one!"

Possibly watch some porn stuff encouragement get in the head space for it first

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By *ibsonVicMan
49 weeks ago

Minworth

I agree with much of the advice on here - don't go with someone who will "push" you.

Try someone you can trust (the right kind of verifications are helpful) and meet with nothing on the agenda. Nothing that anyone feels that they have to do.

A scenario for you: you're with a guy who is relaxed and friendly. Maybe a glass of wine...

He may rub his bulge a little. He may politely ask "Do you mind if I take my cock out?"

If you're OK with that, you may like to see him fondling his cock... cuppling his balls... gently stroking. You may feel like rubbing yourself through your jeans. That gentle stimulation may well feel very sexy.

He may ask - "would you like to touch?" If you don't want to no problem. Just reach out and gently touch. Feel. Caress. You may just wonder what it would taste like... just to lean forward and tease with your tongue.

Maybe to slip the by now hard cock into your mouth...

I suggested this scenario a couple of years ago to a bi-curious younger guy. The sexual tension was incredible. What started as a "just go as far as you want to - no pressure" experience to one of the most erotically charged evenings we've both ever enjoyed...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
49 weeks ago


"I agree with much of the advice on here - don't go with someone who will "push" you.

Try someone you can trust (the right kind of verifications are helpful) and meet with nothing on the agenda. Nothing that anyone feels that they have to do.

A scenario for you: you're with a guy who is relaxed and friendly. Maybe a glass of wine...

He may rub his bulge a little. He may politely ask "Do you mind if I take my cock out?"

If you're OK with that, you may like to see him fondling his cock... cuppling his balls... gently stroking. You may feel like rubbing yourself through your jeans. That gentle stimulation may well feel very sexy.

He may ask - "would you like to touch?" If you don't want to no problem. Just reach out and gently touch. Feel. Caress. You may just wonder what it would taste like... just to lean forward and tease with your tongue.

Maybe to slip the by now hard cock into your mouth...

I suggested this scenario a couple of years ago to a bi-curious younger guy. The sexual tension was incredible. What started as a "just go as far as you want to - no pressure" experience to one of the most erotically charged evenings we've both ever enjoyed... "

Not going to lie, this sounds good!

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By *ickD80Man
49 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

If you have to force yourself to be with a man then it doesn’t seem like you truly want to do it. If you did then you wouldn’t need to force yourself. Whenever we try something new we don’t know if we’re going to enjoy it or not but normally the desire to try it is more powerful than the fear of not liking it if we do. If the fear of not enjoying something is more powerful than the desire to do it, so it stops you trying it, then that’s normally a sign that you don’t really want to try it.

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