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By *arby n Ken OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

Milton Keynes & Murcia, Spain

Hi

We were wondering what examples couples use as a secret code to indicate discretely to each other that they are interested in another swinging couple, whilst in their company… perhaps at a swingers club?

Be interested to read how you do it?

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

If we are interested we say "Did you remember to feed the dog?"

It is something completely normal to say in company so it doesn't get picked up on

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"Hi

We were wondering what examples couples use as a secret code to indicate discretely to each other that they are interested in another swinging couple, whilst in their company… perhaps at a swingers club?

Be interested to read how you do it?

Thanks in advance"

No secret codes needed at a swingers club, just ask, all pretty much there for the same thing.

We went to Hotwife Club at Libs and they did have coloured wrist bands at the bar.

Different colours signified you were looking for different things but can’t remember what any of them were and also don’t remember seeing anyone actually wearing them.

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By *arby n Ken OP   Couple
42 weeks ago

Milton Keynes & Murcia, Spain

Brilliant. Love it. Thank you

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By *oxy jWoman
42 weeks ago

somerset

no codes just the blunt yes or no and thats it its better to say no so they know not to bother again and so easy to say yes

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Little squeezes on each others legs xxxx

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By *lan157Man
41 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

A former playmate partner had a code arranged with me if she was not feeling in with any couple we talked to . When she used the code word in conversation I knew it was time for us to move on to someone else .

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By *rystalsswingCouple
41 weeks ago

Galway

Anyone have a reliable babysitter

Then I'm gone at the knees

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By *rpeggioCouple
41 weeks ago

Baughurst


"If we are interested we say "Did you remember to feed the dog?"

It is something completely normal to say in company so it doesn't get picked up on"

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If either of you asks the question then that signals interest from one of you, the one asking, but your other half has to respond something. Yes means green light? No means no play? That about right?

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By *dfabMan
41 weeks ago

Dunboyne


"Anyone have a reliable babysitter

Then I'm gone at the knees "

One that plays when you get home

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"If we are interested we say "Did you remember to feed the dog?"

It is something completely normal to say in company so it doesn't get picked up on

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If either of you asks the question then that signals interest from one of you, the one asking, but your other half has to respond something. Yes means green light? No means no play? That about right?"

Thats correct

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
41 weeks ago

Halifax

We do a "can I have a word with my partner in private" thing like they do in Dragon's Den

Just kidding, we usually just know from each other's body language and to be sure we have different touches for yes, no and if it is "let's get the hell out" from either of us then there is no need to ask the question whoever first thought "hell no" just says something which means moving on.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I think more importantly to have code to let the other half know they don't want to play

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By *heSuccubusWoman
41 weeks ago

Darlington

If it's just us then we'll just say, but if we're in company... 'is the heating on in here?' or 'it's a bit chilly'.

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By *aomilatteCouple
41 weeks ago

Midlands


"Hi

We were wondering what examples couples use as a secret code to indicate discretely to each other that they are interested in another swinging couple, whilst in their company… perhaps at a swingers club?

Be interested to read how you do it?

Thanks in advance"

We don't need a code to tell each other we're interested, we know each other so well and can tell by how the conversation is going. Maybe you could raise your eyebrows when you look at each other?

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By *rpeggioCouple
41 weeks ago

Baughurst


"If we are interested we say "Did you remember to feed the dog?"

It is something completely normal to say in company so it doesn't get picked up on

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If either of you asks the question then that signals interest from one of you, the one asking, but your other half has to respond something. Yes means green light? No means no play? That about right?

Thats correct "

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LOL, Have you ever had anyone going worried about your poor puppy starving and alone at home?

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By *rpeggioCouple
41 weeks ago

Baughurst


"I think more importantly to have code to let the other half know they don't want to play

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For us the default assumption is no play unless both of us confirm YES with each other. A look is unusually enough for that. Confirmation is important, we are very social so sometimes we are enjoying the chat with the other couple a lot but not necessarily are keen on playing with them.

Also for us no need of any code to say NO to play among us, or any need for discussion, because NO play, if one of us does not want to play, is not up for discussion, if you see what l mean. So any hint from either of us to move on with our night is enough to politely leave the couple.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
41 weeks ago

Cheshire

We won’t use codes. If we like the look of a couple we will just discuss it openly as husband and wife.

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By *rouble81Couple
41 weeks ago

Bolton


"We do a "can I have a word with my partner in private" thing like they do in Dragon's Den "

Then go talk to the nearest wall?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"If we are interested we say "Did you remember to feed the dog?"

It is something completely normal to say in company so it doesn't get picked up on

__

If either of you asks the question then that signals interest from one of you, the one asking, but your other half has to respond something. Yes means green light? No means no play? That about right?

Thats correct

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LOL, Have you ever had anyone going worried about your poor puppy starving and alone at home? "

Not yet because the answer has always been yes so far

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By *arby n Ken OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Milton Keynes & Murcia, Spain

Some good tips here. Thank you. Keep them coming

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By * and BCouple
41 weeks ago

Durham


"Hi

We were wondering what examples couples use as a secret code to indicate discretely to each other that they are interested in another swinging couple, whilst in their company… perhaps at a swingers club?

Be interested to read how you do it?

Thanks in advance

We don't need a code to tell each other we're interested, we know each other so well and can tell by how the conversation is going. Maybe you could raise your eyebrows when you look at each other?"

That's exactly what we were just saying, we know each other so well we would know what one of us was thinking. Body language is all we need

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Hi

We were wondering what examples couples use as a secret code to indicate discretely to each other that they are interested in another swinging couple, whilst in their company… perhaps at a swingers club?

Be interested to read how you do it?

Thanks in advance"

No secret code for those we are interested in, however those that we are not, that’s a different story ha

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By *uger n Spice78Couple
41 weeks ago

South East Coast

We have a joke that we say Jack Russel lol

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
41 weeks ago

Coventry

No, but on reflection that would be a handy thing to have.

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
41 weeks ago

Hyde

We have a 'no' code .... but not sharing it

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By *herryEatersCouple
41 weeks ago

East Cheshire

If we don't get a moment alone then it's body language and behaviour towards the other(s). Sometimes it's that look in Cherry's eyes (often "omg I fancy her but NOT him" lol)

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By *arby n Ken OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Milton Keynes & Murcia, Spain

Thank you

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By *arby n Ken OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Milton Keynes & Murcia, Spain

I think it could be more obvious when interested but it’s the exit strategy that is probably more important as you say.

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
41 weeks ago

banbury

I've done the discreet tap on the leg, 1 tap yes, 2 taps no. Also we both need to he in agreement if she was a no and I was yes. It's a no

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By *aomilatteCouple
41 weeks ago

Midlands


"We have a 'no' code .... but not sharing it "

We'll happily share our "no" code, arm around around the shoulder and a rub of the others ear lobe, shortly followed by "We'll go and get a drink, we'll see you later"

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By *erriman69Couple
41 weeks ago

highworth

Love the dog feeding idea. We might borrow it. Even though we don't have a dog!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Love the dog feeding idea. We might borrow it. Even though we don't have a dog! "

Neither do we lol

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By *arby n Ken OP   Couple
41 weeks ago

Milton Keynes & Murcia, Spain

Us too

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By *reenleavesCouple
41 weeks ago

North Wales

We tend to know from each others body language. If we're both engaged and open then we know we're both into the couple. If one of us has switched off a bit then we know it's time to bail. It's all unspoken and us usually resolved with a quick eye contact.

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By *andy cane321Couple
41 weeks ago

Aylesbury


"Little squeezes on each others legs xxxx"

This is ours, a little squeeze of the thigh

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago


"Little squeezes on each others legs xxxx

This is ours, a little squeeze of the thigh "

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