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By *cK13 OP   Man
49 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Any advice on my profile? All new to this so I’m thinking there’s obviously better options with more experience out there, so no one really wants to take on an apprentice case haha

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
49 weeks ago

Birmingham

Can you say you're new when you've been here more than a year?

The bathroom pic should probably go. It's not flattering to have a toilet, be it a clean one, in shot. The rest of the pics, tbh show nothing off that would interest me personally. Dick pics are always better off in friends only. Let's see some normal person pics publicly.

Kink wise... what are you into? Some form of clue here would be good, you've got a dislike but no specific likes. You open yourself ypro alot of things you possibly wouldn't try with zero details.

Have you asked the demographic of women you like whether they like being called "chubby"? Could be off putting.

You mention your pleasure, what you do and don't like etc but give little into what you offer to get your partner off.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
49 weeks ago

Birmingham

Also, 18-99 age range?

Really?

Do you not think you need to be realistic on the idea that you're 26 so younger than 21/22 probably won't be interested. Would you really want to play with people in their 70's, 80's and 90's?

Put some real thought into it

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By *udd7324Man
49 weeks ago

barnsley

Hi I’m also new here and I really don’t know where I’m going wrong every message is read or deleted is my profile not set right people so for verification but ho to get that without a meet ??

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
49 weeks ago

Middle England


"Hi I’m also new here and I really don’t know where I’m going wrong every message is read or deleted is my profile not set right people so for verification but ho to get that without a meet ?? "

One of the most bland profiles we've seen in ages. You've put zero effort in so expect zero out.

There's absolutely nothing about you in the profile. You've done nothing to engage anyone so why would anyone be interested in meeting or replying to you.

Sorry if this seems harsh. Look in the forum for other threads on this topic as it comes up daily; it might give you pointers as to how to improve yours.

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By *oxy jWoman
49 weeks ago

taunton somerset

my advice is blunt but honest ...

if you need advice on how to write a simple profile about you and what you are looking for then you'll get nowhere on this scene .... just imagine what you would be like face to face ????

advice gets you a boring false profile like all the others that ask ..

so my advice is be you work it out because you will need to stand out way way more than you think with the amount of me that are on here

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By *JandJJCouple
49 weeks ago

Nuneaton


"Any advice on my profile? All new to this so I’m thinking there’s obviously better options with more experience out there, so no one really wants to take on an apprentice case haha"

Just our opinion, but the last photo with your tongue out is not that enticing.

Maybe we are wrong.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
49 weeks ago

Worcester

Nobody wants to “message you and find out.”

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
49 weeks ago

East Sussex

Hello op

Welcome to the forum.

I'd say leave your profile as it is. Read the forums and check other profiles, gain a little knowledge of what works for other people. Don't copy them but adapt to suit your personality.

The bottom line is that your age group will struggle but the good news is that you will get older . You're in good shape and seem to know what you want and what you have to offer people.

Just take your time to get to know how things work around here.

Good luck

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By *cK13 OP   Man
49 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Hi guys thanks for all the advice. I’ve took a little more time to review my profile, took some of your constructive criticism (not all) into my new profile. Hopefully I’ve made half decent changes to it now that makes me more approachable. Can you guys have a look again and see if these are changes for the better.

Many thanks x

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By *iss DevilWoman
49 weeks ago

Bedford

My piece of advice - when people see "straight" on your profile and then see that all the veri you have are from men, they usually don't bother reading any further. Yes, you do explain in your profile but I'd say you're anything but straight. So own up to your sexuality and at least put bi-curious there, if you don't think you're bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago


"my advice is blunt but honest ...

if you need advice on how to write a simple profile about you and what you are looking for then you'll get nowhere on this scene .... just imagine what you would be like face to face ????

advice gets you a boring false profile like all the others that ask ..

so my advice is be you work it out because you will need to stand out way way more than you think with the amount of me that are on here "

This is the only advice that should ever be given on these thousands of profile advice threads

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
49 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Hi guys thanks for all the advice. I’ve took a little more time to review my profile, took some of your constructive criticism (not all) into my new profile. Hopefully I’ve made half decent changes to it now that makes me more approachable. Can you guys have a look again and see if these are changes for the better.

Many thanks x"

Rotate the first picture and lose the bit about your first threesome. If you feel you want to mention you've had a threesome before just say you've tried it once and would like to try again.

Again good luck

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By *rpeggioCouple
49 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Also, 18-99 age range?

Really?

Do you not think you need to be realistic on the idea that you're 26 so younger than 21/22 probably won't be interested. Would you really want to play with people in their 70's, 80's and 90's?

Put some real thought into it"

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Great advice on your previous post and this one. Being realistic about the age range is important to avoid disappointments and false expectations at both ends.

Personally, we prefer to set it based on the age range that we would feel comfortable meeting at each side of our own age. Whether that is realistic or not, never got into our thoughts. I can say that we get messages from within the limits of our range and even outside the limit, so I guess we got it mostly right.

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By *rpeggioCouple
49 weeks ago

Baughurst


"...

but the good news is that you will get older ..."

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I guess Lena & I have been blessed then that we started swinging in our 50s, rather than waste our time hanging around for 2 decades before getting any success

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
49 weeks ago

East Sussex


"...

but the good news is that you will get older ...

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I guess Lena & I have been blessed then that we started swinging in our 50s, rather than waste our time hanging around for 2 decades before getting any success"

We started in our fifties too. I have to say that I think it's great that so many young people are keen to explore swinging if that's what they want. I really wish that things had been as open and accepting when I was in my twenties.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
48 weeks ago

Birmingham

Your write up is so much better! And your choice of pics.

Honestly well done in taking this on board and putting some into practise. I don't mean to sound patronising with that, I genuinely mean it. Far too many ask for advice and then do nothing except make another post complaining they get no meets.

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