FabSwingers.com forum: Unanswered messages

By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Not sure if we are doing something wrong here. Have messaged a few folk. It's always me (F) that have sent them and never anything inappropriate, literally just an intro, hello, suggesting a hook up in the future (summer, not tomorrow) type thing. Never had any replies back, some are unread some are read, people have viewed profile but nothing. We have only just been site verified on Friday night and i have added a profile pic tonight, also tonight I've left a review for a club we went to last year in club reviews. but short of that is there anything else we can do to maybe get some replies and a convo going?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people look at profiles before deciding if they want to reply, pics of tits and dicks are usually brushed off people want to see a wee bit more of your personality, your bio should include your likes and dislikes and what you both can offer

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Most people look at profiles before deciding if they want to reply, pics of tits and dicks are usually brushed off people want to see a wee bit more of your personality, your bio should include your likes and dislikes and what you both can offer"

Beat me to it.

If there's nothing to generate interest or attraction in a profile then a reply is unlikely.

That's as true for couples as it is for single men.

Content is key.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What is it about the profiles you message that attracts you and makes you want to contact them?

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By *he KinkysCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Get some more photos added of you both and write up a more detailed profile about yourselves and do it together x

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By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

There's a good chance I've maybe over filtered. I've always searched for specifics. Like we are planning to go away for a weekend in summer, so I've only searched that area, things like that. Where as now I'm thinking we drive, there's nothing to stop us broadening that's earth area. I guess I'd rather someone local so if it goes tits up then they're not stuck some place.

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By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

So if I pm what I've wrote for a bio, can someone have a look over and tell me if I've fucked it or if its OK?

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By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

I think aswell we both have quite a few tattoos that are very personal to us, I guess with the whole pic thing, I legit don't want recognised.

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By *lossomTreeWoman
over a year ago

Ipswich

As a woman I like to get a sense of the couple through the photos and what has been written.

I also want to know a bit about what you like and what you are looking for.

Some profiles make it clear it's shared mutual fun where all have a good time.

Others use disgusting language where it's clear the pleasure is all about them and none about the woman they are looking for.

At the moment your profile has far too little information.

Non verified I'm comfortable with as I can see you're new. Met with two brand new couples recently.

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By *lossomTreeWoman
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I think aswell we both have quite a few tattoos that are very personal to us, I guess with the whole pic thing, I legit don't want recognised. "

You can use a photo app to add stickers over the tattoos for discretion, I've seen others post photos that way.

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By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

There would be not much left of R if I did that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pics dont have to be naked ones

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"There would be not much left of R if I did that

I have over 20 tats. None visible in public pics.

Easily hidden either with phone app editing or hey - just clothes!!

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By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Just something we will need to play about with I guess

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By *oxybigbutt OP Couple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

If anyone could have a look and let me know if our profile is better now that would be appreciated. Also anything further of that I've maybe missed. Thanks all so far

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

So you were messaging people before without a pic of any kind and not being site verified as a couple? Not surprising no responses.

Your profile looks better now but you really need more pics. Saying that you might need to lower your expectations as the vast majority of couples are looking for singles ladies so you face big competition. Also many of them prefer to meet bi ladies rather than bi curious. Not impossible but difficult.

I wonder also how many are willing to start chatting about potential plans for the summer if you live a long way away. Might be best to focus on your local area and hopefully meet some people.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

Have a think about if you’re “bi-curious” (and what that actually means, if anything) or if you’re actually bisexual.

Why would a bisexual woman want to sleep with a “curious” woman, when she can just go out and sleep with women who definitely want to fuck her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your bio is alright! Though I personally wouldn't have shared details about my family life quite asmuch.

Your pics, yeah you need more. As a woman, I pass by any profiles of couples that just show tits and dicks, its just not overly interesting if that makes sense? Nothing wrong with body parts but it doesn't make people seem adhering.

I know you're looking for women only and you're only bi-curious. Nothing wrong in that at all. But again, as a woman, I'd pass that up because my first thoughts would be 1. You're someone who is bi for your partner and not you 2. You're inexperienced and I'm unlikely to enjoy the meet with Ms.

I'd also probably not start considering trying to plan meets for summer yet unless you're considering visits to Swingathon, holidays etc. It's far too future based. Stick with local and current times for now, it's only day 102836303835 of January, never mind in 4-5 months xx

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Have a look at the profiles of others who tickle your fancy and compare what youve written and what you see on those

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Not sure if we are doing something wrong here. Have messaged a few folk. It's always me (F) that have sent them and never anything inappropriate, literally just an intro, hello, suggesting a hook up in the future (summer, not tomorrow) type thing. Never had any replies back, some are unread some are read, people have viewed profile but nothing. We have only just been site verified on Friday night and i have added a profile pic tonight, also tonight I've left a review for a club we went to last year in club reviews. but short of that is there anything else we can do to maybe get some replies and a convo going? "

If you message the club you went to they will likely be happy to give you a verification. Many people are wary about interacting with profiles that don't show verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well with only one pic of a pair of tits and a cock, you won't get very far. Plus, sounds like you're using the "have a look at my profile" ploy in the forums to get some attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only give my opinion here

If someone messages me now for a meeting in the summer, I wouldn’t bother responding

It’s too far away. This sure moves fast. By summer most women/couples have recieved so many messages and new offers, the chances of an offer made now still standing is slim

I’d try again closer to when you can meet

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

You’re searching for single women and I am probably exactly the person you are looking for.

I’m afraid I’d look at your profile and ignore you. You are curious and not bisexual. You much means you might not be that into it.

You both smoke which puts me off.

You are both larger which puts me off ( won’t put everyone off)

No pictures except tits and cock

If you’re looking to meet in summer. Hell I don’t know what I’m doing next week let alone summer.

And you’re new which would also put me off because you might be full of drama - not necessarily I know that but more likely than someone who has been on scene for a while

And finally you have no veris.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I too would avoid someone bi-curious who wants to ‘give it a bash’ - what happens when/if you decide it’s not for you?! You’d be better off researching clubs to visit.

As others have said, more photos would be good; there are several ways to avoid the tattoo-identification issue. Best of luck!

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