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Swingers club as a single male

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By *anchbiguy84 OP   Man
45 weeks ago

Manchester

Hey there!

I’m a guy who has identified as queer most of my life and have greatly enjoyed being part of all sorts of queer sex positive spaces; something I consider to very much part of my identity.

Lately I’ve been dipping my toe into the world of experiences with the opposite sex, so I’m curious about going to swingers clubs but I’m curious to know what the experience is like as a single male.

One of the main differences I think I am coming to understand is that straight swinging culture seems a little more geared towards couples and single females and I imagine that’s to ensure that woman are not made to feel unsafe; because let’s face it… my gender are good at that.

So the really direct question I want to ask is, as a single M, am I wanted? And what will my experience be like?

If the answer to the first question is yes, how does it work for a single male, and are there any rules I need understand or particular ways of approaching the situation so that I enjoy myself but don’t make anyone feel uncomfortable etc.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
45 weeks ago

tf1

Of course single men are wanted. I really only go to clubs when they allow single guys in

The rules are simple. Don’t touch without consent.

Be chatty and friendly with everyone and expect nothing. And you don’t get upset if you get rejected. And you will have a blast

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By *ethnmelvCouple
45 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Of course single men are wanted. I really only go to clubs when they allow single guys in

The rules are simple. Don’t touch without consent.

Be chatty and friendly with everyone and expect nothing. And you don’t get upset if you get rejected. And you will have a blast "

Spot on! Same applies for us, we like Clubs where single guys go

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By *octordigitsMan
45 weeks ago

nearby


"Hey there!

I’m a guy who has identified as queer most of my life and have greatly enjoyed being part of all sorts of queer sex positive spaces; something I consider to very much part of my identity.

Lately I’ve been dipping my toe into the world of experiences with the opposite sex, so I’m curious about going to swingers clubs but I’m curious to know what the experience is like as a single male.

One of the main differences I think I am coming to understand is that straight swinging culture seems a little more geared towards couples and single females and I imagine that’s to ensure that woman are not made to feel unsafe; because let’s face it… my gender are good at that.

So the really direct question I want to ask is, as a single M, am I wanted? And what will my experience be like?

If the answer to the first question is yes, how does it work for a single male, and are there any rules I need understand or particular ways of approaching the situation so that I enjoy myself but don’t make anyone feel uncomfortable etc."

Adam and Eves do a bi day mondays …. May be useful- other clubs are listed on here - give it a go

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
45 weeks ago

Launceston

I agree with the others. Be smiley, warm and friendly and no expectations, that way you don't come across as pushy. After chatting for a little while, if the energy is still good, just ask if she'd like to play. Relax, I'm sure you will be fine. Good luck x

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By *herryEatersCouple
45 weeks ago

East Cheshire

Of course you're wanted, sometimes by both sides of a couple. Re clubs pick your night, some have bi nights where there's less chance of awkward situations . Rules ?, no means no !, dont pester or annoy anyone and all will be fine. Just be yourself and mingle ~

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By *ottodot123Couple
45 weeks ago

Gillingham

With your look and attitude I think you'd do just fine x

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By *ongshanks65Man
45 weeks ago

Weymouth

As a single male that dies go to clubs, it will all depend on your personality and how confident you are. I see single men that have no problems mixing and playing. Personally I struggle as I lack confidence.

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By *abioMan
44 weeks ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"As a single male that dies go to clubs, it will all depend on your personality and how confident you are. I see single men that have no problems mixing and playing. Personally I struggle as I lack confidence."

I always say good conversations and bad ones all start with the same word…

Hello

Once you get past that you will never know if you are someone’s type or even compatible unless words flow out of your mouth…

Just a normal conversation… just because you are in a club don’t just leap in and talk sex! You wouldn’t do that anywhere else!

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By *anchbiguy84 OP   Man
44 weeks ago

Manchester

Thanks all for the advice. I ended up going to cupids in Manchester last night and had a great time

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By *cnugatugMan
44 weeks ago

Chatham

I too am a single guy and a complete newbie to club's I so want to attend one but I lose my nerve when I actually try

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By *ongshanks65Man
44 weeks ago

Weymouth

If anyone is in the South there is a club in Bournemouth that does a social on a Wednesday night, its a good soft start for new people.

Look up Social at Untrained Nights

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
44 weeks ago

Sheffield

I go to clubs for single men. I avoid the couples and single women events, they just aren’t my cuppa tea.

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By *agnar73Man
44 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Been daytime at a club but not at evening yet.

I’m slightly nervous about that first evening one, but my names down so I’ll go.

Been wanting to go for ages, so I’m hoping it goes okay

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
44 weeks ago

Hyde


"Thanks all for the advice. I ended up going to cupids in Manchester last night and had a great time "

I was going to reply with advice but then I read this and realised I remembered seeing you last night. I think you had on little pants with numbers on and then just your cock ring

Seems to me you were getting along just fine!

Kat

X

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By *izzy.Woman
44 weeks ago

Stoke area


"Thanks all for the advice. I ended up going to cupids in Manchester last night and had a great time "

Great to know that you gave a club a go and had a good night

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By *anchbiguy84 OP   Man
44 weeks ago

Manchester


"Thanks all for the advice. I ended up going to cupids in Manchester last night and had a great time

I was going to reply with advice but then I read this and realised I remembered seeing you last night. I think you had on little pants with numbers on and then just your cock ring

Kat

X"

Seems to me you were getting along just fine!

That was me! Hahaha… I’m known amongst some of my friends as “naked Ben”. I was very pleased when I was told by the staff it’s perfectly fine to walk around in the buff

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By *ottodot123Couple
44 weeks ago

Gillingham


"Thanks all for the advice. I ended up going to cupids in Manchester last night and had a great time "

That's great news I'm so pleased.

Naked Ben

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