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So you've been cheated on

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By *he Black Experience OP   Man
over a year ago

banbury

Now you're hurt, you're mad you're upset.

She's now with the other guy , but he had no idea about you. He thinks she's great wonderful person. She's begging you not to say anything to him. What would you do?

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

Have dignity. Keep my mouth shut and walk away from the drama.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I agree with above, stay well away and keep your head held high op.

Many cheats keep cheating, so he may find out for himself who or what she is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd really want to tell him but I probably wouldn't.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Since my ex did it, I'd tell him so he can be aware that if she's able to do it she might also do it again then again she may not

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I wouldn't go out of my way to tell them. But if there was a direct question I wouldn't lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are AH for all sorts of reasons.

Let it go go OP, move on without looking back and live your best life

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

I shit on you in the worst way possible but I’d really appreciate it if you didn’t do anything to jeopardise my happiness.

Definitely wise the guy up then block and away.

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By *he Black Experience OP   Man
over a year ago

banbury


"I shit on you in the worst way possible but I’d really appreciate it if you didn’t do anything to jeopardise my happiness.

Definitely wise the guy up then block and away. "

Literally those were her words!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm…..I’ve got the devil on one shoulder, an Angel on the other…..

Sod it. Devil won, I’d tell him!

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I really don’t think it matters what you do, I don’t think he’ll pay too much attention to what you tell him because he’ll put it down to you being bitter and trying to get revenge on your ex. If he is bothered and asks her about it then she’ll easily be able to talk her way out of it by saying that she was unhappy in the relationship with you and blame you in some way and tell him that she is happier with him and loves him more than she loved you so she’d never cheat on him. He’s in a new relationship with someone he thinks is wonderful so he’s going to want to believe that she’s as wonderful as he thinks she is and will convince himself that it’s nothing to worry about. And if he sees it more clearly than that and accepts that she cheated on you then maybe he’s not the sort of person who judges people on their past mistakes and is willing to give her a chance to prove she’s changed. Maybe knowing that she’s cheated in the past will mean that he is a bit more cautious at first but that will soon pass if he doesn’t see any reason not to trust her.

Unfortunately I don’t think you have as much power over your ex as you seem to think you do, probably best to forget about it and move on.

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By *iaandjamesCouple
over a year ago

UK

I (J) was cheated on once.

She left me for the guy as well. About 18 months after splitting up with her I bumped into her in town one night. The following day I ended up at hers/her boyfriends house whilst he was on holiday, and had her in their bed.

I took (consentual) photos of us in some very compromising positions. I didn't confirm either way whether I would show her boyfriend the photos, which for me was more enjoyable that she was left in suspense.

About a year later he died when he smashed his car up d*unk, I never did find him and show him the photos.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

She's cheated on you ? And your still speaking to her as she's asking you to stay quiet

Not actually sure what's going on there

Cut them off , stone cold , they are dead to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don’t think it matters what you do, I don’t think he’ll pay too much attention to what you tell him because he’ll put it down to you being bitter and trying to get revenge on your ex. If he is bothered and asks her about it then she’ll easily be able to talk her way out of it by saying that she was unhappy in the relationship with you and blame you in some way and tell him that she is happier with him and loves him more than she loved you so she’d never cheat on him. He’s in a new relationship with someone he thinks is wonderful so he’s going to want to believe that she’s as wonderful as he thinks she is and will convince himself that it’s nothing to worry about. And if he sees it more clearly than that and accepts that she cheated on you then maybe he’s not the sort of person who judges people on their past mistakes and is willing to give her a chance to prove she’s changed. Maybe knowing that she’s cheated in the past will mean that he is a bit more cautious at first but that will soon pass if he doesn’t see any reason not to trust her.

Unfortunately I don’t think you have as much power over your ex as you seem to think you do, probably best to forget about it and move on. "

Exactly this, yeah you might tell the new partner but cheaters/narcissists are very good (in most cases) of manipulating the truth.

They will change the narrative to suit their needs and the new partner will no doubt believe what they are being told by this person because you've been made out to be useless/a cheat/abusive etc, they will have no reason to not believe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% let him know then just walk away, block and forget about them both.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I (J) was cheated on once.

She left me for the guy as well. About 18 months after splitting up with her I bumped into her in town one night. The following day I ended up at hers/her boyfriends house whilst he was on holiday, and had her in their bed.

I took (consentual) photos of us in some very compromising positions. I didn't confirm either way whether I would show her boyfriend the photos, which for me was more enjoyable that she was left in suspense.

About a year later he died when he smashed his car up d*unk, I never did find him and show him the photos.

"

Jesus christ

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

Sitting on the table

How is this even a question?

Be a man & just walk away.

Nobody needs this unnecessary drama in their life, including you. You would be just embarrassing yourself.

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By *nlyessexCouple
over a year ago

Hornchurch

Don’t need to cheat I would tell my husband I fancy someone and he would let me meet him

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Well we're swingers so cheating doesn't happen because we trust each other.

Anyway back to the op. Tell him or don't, either way he owes you nothing because he never made a commitment to you. If anyone is to blame its your partner

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