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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
52 weeks ago

East Sussex

Are you saying you're being ignored because other men are wasting people's time?

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By *edWitch0000Woman
52 weeks ago

worthing

How do you know most men are time wasters? I've never had a man fail to turn up when arranged. Your lack of success isn't because of time wasting men. No man will get any interest with no photos.

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By *hrimper36Couple
52 weeks ago

Central France dept 36


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

No it’s definitely you op.

So I’m guessing that some men have let you down on meeting which is a shame but sometimes real life gets in the way of fab life.

Chill and just enjoy YOUR adventure.

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Just looking at peoples statuses that’s all. I’ve a reason behind no photos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

No not at all just watching some of the statuses that couples or women have put on. I get 100 men a day message me but I’m not into men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
52 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Yes. "

Are you answering me? The quote button under each list will let us know who you're replying to .

If you think about it logically a man who doesn't waste people's time is likely to be more appealing, not less.

Are you finding your messages go unanswered?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
52 weeks ago

East Sussex


"No not at all just watching some of the statuses that couples or women have put on. I get 100 men a day message me but I’m not into men."

Use your mail filters to stop men from messaging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

I’m not saying the men are wasting my time but when I see the statuses that some couples and single ladies put out about been ditched or ghosted I don’t think it’s fair. If you arrange to meet someone you should meet and if you can’t then a simple message saying something has come up would be acceptable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Oh just noticed that thank you.

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By *londebiguyMan
52 weeks ago

Southport


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

Do not have public photos due to your job.

Your only photo is of your eyes.

I'm sure that anyone who might recognise you then that photo would help them.

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By *londebiguyMan
52 weeks ago

Southport


"No not at all just watching some of the statuses that couples or women have put on. I get 100 men a day message me but I’m not into men."

Just block men.

But it reads from your post as if its the men who are tinewasters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Yes my messages seem to go unanswered I get women on here get 100’s if not 1000’s of messages but it’s extremely annoying.


"Yes.

Are you answering me? The quote button under each list will let us know who you're replying to .

If you think about it logically a man who doesn't waste people's time is likely to be more appealing, not less.

Are you finding your messages go unanswered?"

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By *umbriaman1962Man
52 weeks ago

outside of penrith

How can you tell time wasters

I exchanged messages one lady more than a year on and off before ever met her . I could given up and said she was but no just not ready to meet.

Same as sometimes chat then think not for me does that make one party time wasters ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

No definitely not I miss typed the message basically I’ve seen lots of women moan about men been fake or time wasters.
"How can you tell time wasters

I exchanged messages one lady more than a year on and off before ever met her . I could given up and said she was but no just not ready to meet.

Same as sometimes chat then think not for me does that make one party time wasters ?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ???

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
52 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ??? "

No apology necessary .

People will often look at photos and profile text before reading a message. Representing yourself in the best way possible while being truthful will help but isn't a guarantee of success. Men outnumber women by a large percentage which makes it more difficult but not impossible

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By *uninBathCouple
52 weeks ago

Bath

You don’t need to show your face. Think there’s a bit of woe is me going on here.

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By *esparate danMan
52 weeks ago

glasgow

Whats so important about your job that you cant be recognised and that you have time to be horny

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By *llNatural36FWoman
52 weeks ago

Denbighshire

Op I can’t give you any advice regarding your profile as you haven’t asked but look at you first and ask yourself are you using your “shop window” to the best of your ability? Are you selling yourself the best you can. Don’t worry about other people just focus on you, happy fabbing

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By *ealitybitesMan
52 weeks ago

Belfast

If they aren't wasting your time why are you bothered?

Just because lots of people put up negative statuses doesn't mean all or any of them are true. They are often posted for attention or sympathy.

I've never had a no show or been one but at the same time my experience on here has never been influenced by what other men do or don't do.

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By *octordigitsMan
52 weeks ago

nearby


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

Its not a “man’s world “ on here - quite the reverse….. my suggestion is to go to a club or a social and keep fab as a method of contacting people you’ve met …. To get a genuine meet on here you have to be very lucky or very stand out - good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Ive never been let down in all my 14 years on here, cancelled etc yes but never a no show, people just need to vet their potential meets better

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By *alandNitaCouple
52 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. "

People who waste other peoples times has no impact whatsoever on whether people respond to your messages.

Having a profile that makes potential meets interested in you will help, but Fab is often difficult for single guys.

If you're genuinely interested in swinging, get yourself to clubs and socials.

Nita

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By *entle_lover_xMan
52 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

Ok let’s assume you are right and Fab removes 80% of single men. Do you think your chances with ladies would sky rocket and you’d be fighting them off? Somehow I doubt it. You’ve still got to be attractive and interesting to ladies in your own right - people won’t just fuck you because less other options. Personally I’m glad the twats are here - makes it easier to appear sensible and stand out

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By *issmorganWoman
52 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Thing is banning them or using a point system would be open to others abusing it.

Say someone doesn't like another member, they could easily report that member and have their friends do the same.

There are couples who waste time and women too, what I class as a time waster is someone who are ages a meet, then doesn't show or let them know they're not coming.

Other people have their own ideas of it ie they wouldn't meet them or changed their mind.

Concentrate on yourself and others have said make your profile interesting for others, with a bit of personality.

We all value discretion and there are lots of pics we can all upload that wouldn't identify us to others.

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By *edWitch0000Woman
52 weeks ago

worthing


"Just looking at peoples statuses that’s all. I’ve a reason behind no photos. "

Of course you have a reason but it WILL stop women from wanting to reply to you.

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By *oxy jWoman
52 weeks ago

taunton somerset

other men doing wrong has no bearing on what you do or how you do it op other men ruin it for themselves not others and it seems so called good guys like to think this is why they are getting no where but its not them its you your not getting anywhere because of you stop blaming others ...

sexual attraction and likeminded are what people want and until someone see that in you then youll have to wait and see if someone comes along .... being a good guy will not get you meets that should be just the norm ... so others do NOT fuck it up for you you are responsible for yourself

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
52 weeks ago

Weymouth


"Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ??? "

How would people know they're attracted to you without pics? X

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By *ucka39Man
52 weeks ago

Newcastle

I seem to waste more time away from the site than on the site

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By *rpeggioCouple
52 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ??? "

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We are a couple and cannot see your profile. Have you also blocked couples? Or is it our age?

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By *rpeggioCouple
52 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Ive never been let down in all my 14 years on here, cancelled etc yes but never a no show, people just need to vet their potential meets better"

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Totally this

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By *orny-DJMan
52 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

I don't put my success or lack of it down to the actions of anybody else but me.

Only you can do anything about how you get on here

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

You won’t have any success with a hidden profile OP.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
52 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Has no pics & wonders why people aren't falling over themselves to meet him

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By *rpeggioCouple
52 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ??? "

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OP, you have you blocked women as well as couples from looking at your profile. If you are just looking to meet men, that's fine, but then don't complain about lack of attention from other categories.

I love Fab forums, they never fail you to surprise and offer the most ludicrous posts and requests for advice. A guy complaining about men affecting his chances of success in finding couples and women, but he does not think that blocking them from looking at his profile might be a reason for his lack of success.

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By *alleyDaveMan
52 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

Mate ,you have no photos ,AND your profile is hidden. Many of us single blokes on here have never had a meet ,even with plenty of face pics and a full ,public profile. How do you expect to gave any success when no one can see your profile ?

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By *oberto7Man
52 weeks ago

Greenock

Gies peace! Blaming other guys fir your lack of meets pmsl

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
52 weeks ago

Here and there

So many say oh i have no pics because of their job no one expects folk to show on public but some idea of body is expected.

Its not blind date and personally speaking I have a lorra lorra fun??

Poster comes across as feeling entitled.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
52 weeks ago

Sheffield

This old chestnut again. Too many people rely on fab for meeting others. If people are getting stood up often then they need to look at their own approach to meeting.

There are plenty of ways to meet at organised socials and clubs.

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By *alleyDaveMan
52 weeks ago

Sheffield


"This old chestnut again. Too many people rely on fab for meeting others. If people are getting stood up often then they need to look at their own approach to meeting.

There are plenty of ways to meet at organised socials and clubs. "

Your last sentence is the perfect example of "This old chestnut again "

Just because some people enjoy clubs and organised, dosnt mean everyone wishes to go to one .

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By *laywithmysubCouple
52 weeks ago

Canary Wharf

Yes, if someone doesn’t have a pic on their profile I expect them to send one privately. Then if we’re interested I’ll ask for another within a shortish time, to check it’s the same person.

We get 100’s of men messaging, some are timewasters and pic hunters, but many are genuine, but there are too many of them. ??

Another thing I’d say is read what they’re looking for, sometimes we want an older experienced dom, or other times someone who’s 19-21, it’s very off putting getting messages saying I see you want 19-21, but is 30 okay, then when I don’t reply they message again and again - it’s the easiest way to get blocked by me.

Hope you find that helpful.

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By *heelerMan
52 weeks ago

Northants

Its not just men that don't up but I've been let down by females.but just move on its life.

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By *laywithmysubCouple
52 weeks ago

Canary Wharf

Another thing I should have said is don’t lie about your age on your profile. Macy times were looking for a young guy like 19-21, we get messages from accounts of 26-30 saying I just put the wrong age, that’s a red flag for us.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
52 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ???

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OP, you have you blocked women as well as couples from looking at your profile. If you are just looking to meet men, that's fine, but then don't complain about lack of attention from other categories.

I love Fab forums, they never fail you to surprise and offer the most ludicrous posts and requests for advice. A guy complaining about men affecting his chances of success in finding couples and women, but he does not think that blocking them from looking at his profile might be a reason for his lack of success. "

OP has hidden profile so nobody can see it. It’s not possible to block just couples or just ladies. To be fair it was on view when he started this thread. Guess the attention was too much :

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By *ilverfox for youMan
52 weeks ago

Hull

It goes both ways !!men and women

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
52 weeks ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

Time wasters can be different for different people and things can happen in the real world to stop someone turning up which doesn't make them a time wasters it just makes them human

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By *rpeggioCouple
52 weeks ago

Baughurst


"Realised I miss put that. I apologise never really used forum before sorry. I’ve blocked men but can’t understand why I literally don’t get attention from women or couples is it just down to having no photos ???

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OP, you have you blocked women as well as couples from looking at your profile. If you are just looking to meet men, that's fine, but then don't complain about lack of attention from other categories.

I love Fab forums, they never fail you to surprise and offer the most ludicrous posts and requests for advice. A guy complaining about men affecting his chances of success in finding couples and women, but he does not think that blocking them from looking at his profile might be a reason for his lack of success.

OP has hidden profile so nobody can see it. It’s not possible to block just couples or just ladies. To be fair it was on view when he started this thread. Guess the attention was too much : "

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Thanks, that makes now sense of why some responders were talking about the OP's profile as if they were able to see it.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
52 weeks ago

barnstaple

"Down with this sort of thing"

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By *rMonkeyMan
52 weeks ago

Somewhere

Stop blaming others for your lack of success, the only person responsible for that is you.

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By *abioMan
52 weeks ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

A) define time waster

B) what you do doesn’t affect how I am perceived and vice versa..

C) blaming others is a kop out… you think of yourself being blameless rather than thinking “what can I do to improve myself and my chances!”

There are avenues you can go down… if you don’t want pictures out their because of the job hide them privately rather than publicly

You are your own best sales person.. you know you best and your best selling points, you should give people reasons to pick you over a.n.other

If you are not doing that… that’s on no one else but you…..

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By *edWitch0000Woman
52 weeks ago

worthing


"This old chestnut again. Too many people rely on fab for meeting others. If people are getting stood up often then they need to look at their own approach to meeting.

There are plenty of ways to meet at organised socials and clubs.

Your last sentence is the perfect example of "This old chestnut again "

Just because some people enjoy clubs and organised, dosnt mean everyone wishes to go to one ."

Everyone knows how you feel about clubs and socials :D but everyone also knows how that's working out for you. Just because you don't like the advice doesn't mean it's wrong.

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By *hawn ScottMan
52 weeks ago

london Brixton

My ex wife and I joined here as a couple looking to meet other couples, that's swinging right?

Would never have considered this site a a single guy! Single guy looking for single girl isn't swinging? It's dating right?

Surely you'd have better luck on regular daring sites? Or dating site for the more broad minded

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

So how would one meet a couple on a dating site ?


"My ex wife and I joined here as a couple looking to meet other couples, that's swinging right?

Would never have considered this site a a single guy! Single guy looking for single girl isn't swinging? It's dating right?

Surely you'd have better luck on regular daring sites? Or dating site for the more broad minded"

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By *hawn ScottMan
52 weeks ago

london Brixton

Well I've never been into MMF so thought never crossed my mind. But there are other sites specifically for that.

Is this the only site you are on? Maybe cast another net?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

Yeah I’m only on here not really knowing where to begin. Haha


"Well I've never been into MMF so thought never crossed my mind. But there are other sites specifically for that.

Is this the only site you are on? Maybe cast another net?"

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By *assy LassieWoman
52 weeks ago

Lanarkshire


"My ex wife and I joined here as a couple looking to meet other couples, that's swinging right?

Would never have considered this site a a single guy! Single guy looking for single girl isn't swinging? It's dating right?

Surely you'd have better luck on regular daring sites? Or dating site for the more broad minded"

Yet you're a single guy looking for single females. Touchè

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By *hawn ScottMan
52 weeks ago

london Brixton


"My ex wife and I joined here as a couple looking to meet other couples, that's swinging right?

Would never have considered this site a a single guy! Single guy looking for single girl isn't swinging? It's dating right?

Surely you'd have better luck on regular daring sites? Or dating site for the more broad minded

Yet you're a single guy looking for single females. Touchè"

Did you read my profile? I'm not looking for anything other than building a new friends network. I like the forum here and don't actually contact anyone. This site isn't great for social events so I have other sites for that. I've been involved in the swinging, fetish, kink scence for 15 years and was just giving some advice

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By *ucka39Man
52 weeks ago

Newcastle


"My ex wife and I joined here as a couple looking to meet other couples, that's swinging right?

Would never have considered this site a a single guy! Single guy looking for single girl isn't swinging? It's dating right?

Surely you'd have better luck on regular daring sites? Or dating site for the more broad minded"

Being single in the swinging lifestyle isn't dating as the scenario would be totally different understanding what is actually swinging and dating lead to something different and the intention. Hence people looking for an additional sub, dom, bull, and an extra for mfm ffm mmf fff

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By *hawn ScottMan
52 weeks ago

london Brixton


"My ex wife and I joined here as a couple looking to meet other couples, that's swinging right?

Would never have considered this site a a single guy! Single guy looking for single girl isn't swinging? It's dating right?

Surely you'd have better luck on regular daring sites? Or dating site for the more broad minded

Being single in the swinging lifestyle isn't dating as the scenario would be totally different understanding what is actually swinging and dating lead to something different and the intention. Hence people looking for an additional sub, dom, bull, and an extra for mfm ffm mmf fff"

As said there are other sites, this isn't really a fet site for the whole domme sub thing and there are specific sites for MMF etc. Of course you have to pay for them

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By *andyoldman49Man
52 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Is it me or are most blokes on here time wasters gives us the genuine ones no chance. I’m fed up of been ignored I don’t have a public photo due to my job but the time wasters need banning. Close there accounts. Either on a points system three points and they’re gone or if they get reported for not turning up to a planned meet they have there account closed down. "

Well the ladies do outnumber the men on here so if you want to meet you need to stand out. I have been on here quite a while and still not had any meetings. I do think COVID had something to do with it but I'm not actively messaging loads of women. I do spend most of my time on here just looking around and reading the forums and stories. I check a lot of profiles out some more than once but I very rarely message them. Usually because either I don't meet what they are looking for or they are not what I am looking for. I get very few people view my profile and only had a couple of messages sent but that's just the way it is.

I would love some attention in the form of views and messages but it is what it is. Sounds like you need to be more proactive.

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