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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Just after some advice really. I am married (happily) and in the bedroom I always play the Dom role as my wife likes to be tied and teased but there are time when I want to be sub but she doesn't make the switch very well.

Any ideas of how I can satisfy my needs in the sub role?

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

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No, I tried and failed to get my ex to switch from time to time. Having said that, she is a selfish cow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In support of your wife, I'm sub to Cheryl's Domme and I cannot begin to tell you how difficult it is to switch from this aspect, so I do sympathise with her. I can imagine it being much easier to go from Dom to sub.

Try a BDSM site maybe or a club?

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone can switch...I know I can't. And it's nothing to do with being selfish but I'm sub and cannot play a Dom role despite trying a couple of times...wasn't satisfying for me or him as it wasn't something I'm comfortable with at all.

Discuss it with your wife and maybe see if you can meet couples where the wife is Domme...experiment a little that way and see what progresses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Under right circumstances I love to switch. For me it depends on the 'scene', what sort of control are you willing to give her? Have you spoke about what would turn her on given that situation of her being in control. For me a simple tie up and tease (albeit fun) just wouldn't work, there has got to be more to it, spanking or the idea of a strap on is a huge turn on for me.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I am submissive, I could take on the role of the dominant but I wouldn't find it sexually fulfilling...actually I think it might make me laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

I know it's hard to go from sub to Dom so does that ultimately leave me with the fact I may have to find another lady to fulfil this fantasy/need x.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"Thanks everyone

I know it's hard to go from sub to Dom so does that ultimately leave me with the fact I may have to find another lady to fulfil this fantasy/need x. "

Try getting her d*unk! I know I'll give anything a go when I'm d*unk! lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't switch. However should I ever be asked to by my dominant then I would do so and get my pleasure from pleasing.

I however don't think I could be with a dominant that wanted me to switch. Just because I don't find men submitting sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tina cant Domme, she has tried to switch but its not in her nature and finds it awkward.

There many events out there and socials and mail us we,ll tell you of some and the best site to look for them.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


" I always play the Dom role as my wife likes to be tied and teased but there are time when I want to be sub but she doesn't make the switch very well."

Im a natural sub but weve wanted to change things up and i found it hard at first. If im honest i didnt find the other sites all that helpful for me personally. I ordered a load of Mistress/Femdom books and just read to see if it was for me.

It sounds like she just needs a little more ideas to help her get going i would suggest the books but dont force it if its unnatural to her. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Elise Sutton is a particularly good FemDomme writer and very good at providing inspiration on techniques for a budding Domina.

But a true sub won't ever truly be able to Domme. They may go through the motions out of love, devotion.... They may enjoy pleasing you in this, but they won't find enjoyment in the wickedness of the act itself. "/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add, I would say I am a switch too.. I have been a Domme, and a sub, but never with the same person... I find it is either me in control, or they who have me at their feet.

I somehow admire the swapping pf position, but have never been able to get into that mindset

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By *andKxxxCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm naturally submissive! Have only started playing these roles last week or so with my hubby but we have both took turns and I've found I can be both Dom & sub and both turn me on and pleasure me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm naturally submissive! Have only started playing these roles last week or so with my hubby but we have both took turns and I've found I can be both Dom & sub and both turn me on and pleasure me "

I do admire that. I've never been able to swap roles with the same person. I think as long as you enjoy what you are doing and derive pleasure from it... Go for it! I can't recommend bdsm enough really. It taught me a lot about myself.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


" Go for it! I can't recommend bdsm enough really. It taught me a lot about myself. "

I cant agree with this more . Im a switch i was the Dom with an ex before i met Mr C but i really enjoy topping with him or others when he lets me. I just love the different dynamics it brings.

The more you switch roles the more easier it becomes i find. x

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By *ornymixedracedguyMan
over a year ago

YORKSHIRE

Id love to be dominated and given an amazing blow job and hand job by 2-3 women. Mmmm

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Not everyone can switch...I know I can't. And it's nothing to do with being selfish but I'm sub and cannot play a Dom role despite trying a couple of times...wasn't satisfying for me or him as it wasn't something I'm comfortable with at all.

Discuss it with your wife and maybe see if you can meet couples where the wife is Domme...experiment a little that way and see what progresses"

^^^^Oh this!

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By *mandvinceCouple
over a year ago

London

Vince is switch, and he's good at both. That makes it easier for me to switch too. Well, to be honest, I don't make a good sub anyway, I'm way too rebellious and stubborn to be a sub, so it was easy for me to switch.. I find it harder to be a sub, it's like fighting a demon of stubbornness..

I guess my advice to you would be - if you want your wife to domme you, then start acting like a sub. Being a sub is more than just letting the Dom to do whatever he wants, sub needs to entice Dom, so entice your wife to domme you. For me, the more he wants it, the more I won't give in, the more he will want to do it - kinda like a vicious cycle really..

Advice for your wife would be - don't be sorry - inflict pain/teasing pain - tie him up so that he can't do anything while you let loose and just do whatever you want - if you get bored - leave him tied up on the bed while you go do other things.

Other than that, it should come naturally..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a sub and good at it when it comes to Kyle.

Its natural for me as he is a natural dom. It's hard to reverse roles but somehow I can never imagine someone else dominating me. I would dominate them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I tried and failed to get my ex to switch from time to time. Having said that, she is a selfish cow "

I think you have to be natural Domme for this to work properley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone can switch...I know I can't. And it's nothing to do with being selfish but I'm sub and cannot play a Dom role despite trying a couple of times...wasn't satisfying for me or him as it wasn't something I'm comfortable with at all.

Discuss it with your wife and maybe see if you can meet couples where the wife is Domme...experiment a little that way and see what progresses

^^^^Oh this! "

Completely after with this, if you not naturally Dom it's very hard to switch to that role, and not someone being selfish at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Just after some advice really. I am married (happily) and in the bedroom I always play the Dom role as my wife likes to be tied and teased but there are time when I want to be sub but she doesn't make the switch very well.

Any ideas of how I can satisfy my needs in the sub role? "

Is trying a DOM woman too simple an answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as a large number of swingers enjoy seeing their significant other with a different partner what about finding another couple with a domme female or single domme female to play with?

There may be other couples with the opposite situation to you looking as well

Best advice is talk about it lots, then talk more, and make sure that you all agree on what will be explored and most of all have fun!

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