FabSwingers.com forum: New to swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
45 weeks ago

Hi, I'm a straight man new to this. I'm in the mature age group but still slim, fit and full of life. I joined because I want to have lots of gorgeous sex! However, I realise that that isn't going to happen unless I understand the "rules". It seems there's plenty of CDs wanting to perform oral - but how do I get to meet women? (That's a question FOR women) Any advice appreciated. Thanks x

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
45 weeks ago

Weymouth

The only "rule" is that unless there's mutual attraction, it just won't happen!

Just anecdotal, but the few times I've seen women enjoy men in knickers on here it's been women as half of a couple - best of luck! - Xeno

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By *lik and PaulCouple
45 weeks ago

Flagrante

My advice would be to go to organised socials or clubs.

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
45 weeks ago

brighton

All men on here want to have lots of sex. However there are many more men than women/couples. Also, women are generally different to men in terms of sex drive. Women tend to choose to swing/have casual encounters less often than the average man would. (Talking in general terms).

All that goes to mean that most men don't seem to get a sniff of a woman through this site. There isn't a magic formula that will unlock access to women. There are things that will absolutely work against you, and you can trawl the site for tips on making your profile as good as possible, but you must keep your expectations realistic.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
45 weeks ago

Tamworth

I'd recommend socials if you can get to them, they're fantastic for meeting new people. Many aren't big groups you get lots of smaller ones.

Clubs is another to consider.

Go where the people are, the whole swing thing is based on meeting people, being social and *maybe* you'll find people with mutual attraction and play will happen.

You can also opt to just use fab, in which case, look for people who are looking for you. So sexuality, gender, age range, similar interests in what you're looking for. Drop them a message and see if you get a bite. Don't be disheartened if you don't get replies, just means they aren't interested.

I'm sure you'll have some luck! Don't get sucked in by the "unsuccessful" men, they complain alot but never take anyone's advice!

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By *issmorganWoman
45 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Your pics won't appeal as much to many women, I think it's a bit of a niche thing.

Maybe take some different pics, ones that aren't of your cock.

Also fill in what you offer a meet, we know you want a curvy women for daytime fun. What is it that they'd get out of meeting you.

You have to sell yourself on here and at the min your profile is a bit bare. You do have to put some effort in to get the rewards.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
45 weeks ago

Coventry

The "rules" are just the same as in everyday life from a point of veiw of repect and how you approach/treat others. It terms of initially hooking and building atraction its really not any different to in the vanilla world. The only real difference is maybe an expectation of exclusivity. So you really don't need to worry about being in on some secret rule book or code. Just be yourself as you would anywhere else. Obviously if being yourself is being respectful, charming and generally a good egg this will help loads. So there's no special code you need to know.

Obviously recognise that it's notoriously hard on here for single blokes (as I know from personal experience). However being a good egg and putting yourself out there in the right ways definitely helps. And I know if done right does seed success with a the right effort thrown in.

Also don't fall into the trap of blaming physical attributes and/or penis size for a lack of success. This is on of the biggest misconceptions and woes I see on here. Yes being generally good looking is no disadvantage (although what is good looking is very subjective anyways). However trust me from years of experience the single guys that clear up on the scene do so far more for their personal qualities and people skills than their looks. Most of the guys we know who regularly do well and are spoken highly of by others are not man gods, just fairly normal guys. Seen so many classicly incredible specimens of men in clubs who surprisingly don't do so well. And likewise the incredibly classicly attractive and/or well equipped men who do well do well far more due to their personal qualities and charm than their physical features. So look to your personal quality for success, not to what you have or have not physically. Although (and I shouldn't have to say this) always be clean, fresh and make an effort.

Also personally I find the physical swinging world a better place to find success. Although granted it is nerve racking and takes some bravery. So as others have said get out there. Get to a social or two, start getting your face shown. Because the club/party scene is different from the online world and it opens up new opportunities if done right.

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