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By *.applebees OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Southampton

A couple from another town (250+ miles away) said that they were visiting where I live and would like to see me while they were down viewing properties. I had my normal level of suspicion when it comes to meeting anyone but their profile had 7 verifications, from as recent as a week ago, so I wasn't too worried.

Eventually I'm sat in the planned meeting place waiting for them and after an hour goes by I decide to call them because I'm now almost certain they're not coming. They accidently pick up, I hear background chatter in a woman's voice and then they hangup. Soon after I'm blocked on everything.

I'm so confused about this because it wasn't catfishing. It seems to me that they were who they said they were, all the pictures they sent were consistently real and they've been verified a lot. So they weren't lying about who they were, just where they were.

Why would a couple set up a meet with someone on the other end of the country just to stand them up? What do they get out of it?

I'm just glad I always bring a book to public meets in case I get stood up and have to wait.

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By *llaandGCouple
51 weeks ago

London


"A couple from another town (250+ miles away) said that they were visiting where I live and would like to see me while they were down viewing properties. I had my normal level of suspicion when it comes to meeting anyone but their profile had 7 verifications, from as recent as a week ago, so I wasn't too worried.

Eventually I'm sat in the planned meeting place waiting for them and after an hour goes by I decide to call them because I'm now almost certain they're not coming. They accidently pick up, I hear background chatter in a woman's voice and then they hangup. Soon after I'm blocked on everything.

I'm so confused about this because it wasn't catfishing. It seems to me that they were who they said they were, all the pictures they sent were consistently real and they've been verified a lot. So they weren't lying about who they were, just where they were.

Why would a couple set up a meet with someone on the other end of the country just to stand them up? What do they get out of it?

I'm just glad I always bring a book to public meets in case I get stood up and have to wait."

I wonder if they had multiple meets arranged and you were unlucky? Which isn't great but hopefully it was a good book

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By *.applebees OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Southampton

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By *.applebees OP   Man
51 weeks ago

Southampton


"I wonder if they had multiple meets arranged and you were unlucky? Which isn't great but hopefully it was a good book"

That a good shout actually, the background chatter I heard did sound like a bar so maybe they chose a different person to meet with. If that's the case then I wish they had just rescheduled ahah

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By *heekyDemandCouple
51 weeks ago

Leicester

It sounds crap, if you go to the bother of arranging multiple meets then maybe don't choose, have them all...

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51 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Pay it no mind and chalk it up as a lesson learned, even couples on here (counting ourselves) find it difficult to find suitable people to swap with. It's not so much timewasters, just people being people. Hope you didn't waste too much time, and good idea taking a book.

One thing we have noticed is that anyone who is genuine and who seriously wants to play will be more communitive and direct. Both in messaging on here and on the phone.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
51 weeks ago

North West

Because IMO, lots of couples are super self entitled on here and won’t care they’ve wasted your time

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
51 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Wow that's so rude of them op

Please report their profile, because if they've done it to you, I bet there are others they've done it to.

I honestly don't get why people do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"A couple from another town (250+ miles away) said that they were visiting where I live and would like to see me while they were down viewing properties. I had my normal level of suspicion when it comes to meeting anyone but their profile had 7 verifications, from as recent as a week ago, so I wasn't too worried.

Eventually I'm sat in the planned meeting place waiting for them and after an hour goes by I decide to call them because I'm now almost certain they're not coming. They accidently pick up, I hear background chatter in a woman's voice and then they hangup. Soon after I'm blocked on everything.

I'm so confused about this because it wasn't catfishing. It seems to me that they were who they said they were, all the pictures they sent were consistently real and they've been verified a lot. So they weren't lying about who they were, just where they were.

Why would a couple set up a meet with someone on the other end of the country just to stand them up? What do they get out of it?

I'm just glad I always bring a book to public meets in case I get stood up and have to wait."

Because people are weird. I had someone recently talk to me for 2 weeks, the initial message said they were visiting my city and wanted to meet up.

The date came that they were supposedly meant to be here for a gig. I could see on their location that they were still the other side of the country. They continued to pretend they were here in a hotel… then time to meet came and they vanished. They were online but just stopped messaging and with the location still on so it was clear they were hundreds of miles away.

What was the point? I dunno. But yeah it happens - some people just get excitement from chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"I honestly don't get why people do this. "

Because they're inconsiderate arse holes.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
50 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


" but just stopped messaging and with the location still on so it was clear they were hundreds of miles away. "

There is a bug in the location thing. If you have "who's near" turned on, and then turn it off, it can continue to show you as located where you were when you turned it off even days later.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
50 weeks ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk


" but just stopped messaging and with the location still on so it was clear they were hundreds of miles away.

There is a bug in the location thing. If you have "who's near" turned on, and then turn it off, it can continue to show you as located where you were when you turned it off even days later.

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I've also found sometimes that it doesn't update my location on who's near untill I open Google maps with my location on, not sure if that's a common thing or just something that's happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago


" but just stopped messaging and with the location still on so it was clear they were hundreds of miles away.

There is a bug in the location thing. If you have "who's near" turned on, and then turn it off, it can continue to show you as located where you were when you turned it off even days later.

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Also, if the 'who's near' is switched off, it goes off the postcode in your profile.

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By *sian LeedsMan
50 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes absolutely. Which makes me think that maybe they think they hold a couple's privilege "it's all about us" card.

Although I think many single females are also the entitled type.

Us single males are the irrelevant class.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

A little rude considering they're the ones who got in touch...but, you know life gets in the way. Perhaps their swinging lifestyle isn't really prioritized, in that they maybe don't feel obligated to conduct themselves in a certain way for this sort of thing.

Irritating, inconsiderate...but what can you do?

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By *ickD80Man
50 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

How do you know they were who they said they were if you didn’t meet them? Did you do a video call with them before you were meant to be meeting?

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