FabSwingers.com forum: Advice please

By *uro2999 OP Couple
21 weeks ago

Wales/NW

Hi guys, asking since advice about what you'd do in the following situation. A single male friend of ours has been chatting to a few different couples and single fems and has a meet with the female half of a couple who we'll call A. He's also been chatting for a while with another gen female from a couple who we'll call B. He's been chatting to B for quite a while and they'd exchanged over 200 messages but never managed to arrange a meet. He's chatted with B about some meets he'd arranged which then fell through last minute and a lot of her conversations revolved around A who she'd said she was in comms with too. Now he's 99.9% convinced that B is the male half of A using a fake profile. The profile is well verified but the veris are not published so possibly an old profile of theirs that he's resurrected. What would you do in this situation?

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By *eachcplCouple
21 weeks ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

Report your suspicions to admin. Let them look and make a decision

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By *aomilatteCouple
21 weeks ago

Midlands

Go and meet A, then afterwards arrange a meet with B. 200 messages sounds an awful lot though!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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21 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think he's making this far more complicated than it needs to be and I don't understand why he's talking to one woman about another.

Why are you asking for advice on his behalf?

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By *itygamesMan
21 weeks ago

Shall i join in ? You coyld call me C

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By *ucka39Man
21 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Id exchange numbers and discuss over the phone just to clarify

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By *idden Gem69Woman
21 weeks ago

north lanarkshire

A like the D

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By *uro2999 OP Couple
21 weeks ago

Wales/NW

"I think he's making this far more complicated than it needs to be and I don't understand why he's talking to one woman about another.

Why are you asking for advice on his behalf?"

Because he didn't want to make the guy aware that he knows what's going on if he's being somewhat stalked by him.

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By *uro2999 OP Couple
21 weeks ago

Wales/NW

"Go and meet A, then afterwards arrange a meet with B. 200 messages sounds an awful lot though!"

He's been trying to meet B. If he meets B at all then he'll find out one way or another

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By *icecouple561Couple
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21 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I think he's making this far more complicated than it needs to be and I don't understand why he's talking to one woman about another.

Why are you asking for advice on his behalf?

Because he didn't want to make the guy aware that he knows what's going on if he's being somewhat stalked by him."

Honestly if your friend has suspicions that a guy is pretending to be a woman he should either call them out or report the profile. If he's hedging his bets in case it really is a woman he'll need to ask to meet for a coffee or a quick cam.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
21 weeks ago

Halifax

Which one are you OP?

Are you the guy using a fake profile, going by your logic, this must be fake profile right since you have not displayed your own veris.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
21 weeks ago

Leeds

Because he didn't want to make the guy aware that he knows what's going on if he's being somewhat stalked by him."

If he has suspicions why is he continuing to engage in conversations ?

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By *urfDazeMan
21 weeks ago

Caernarfon

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By *ink vixenCouple
21 weeks ago

Medway

Was it colonel mustard in the dining room with the lead pipe?

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By *issmorganWoman
21 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

To be honest, if just block b or stop engaging.

If he's tried and failed to meet them several times, either they have no intention of meeting or are not who they claim to be.

Stop giving them the attention and info they're after.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Just ask for their phone number and say you want to speak in person to her.. no number supplied probably means she is a he

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By *aomilatteCouple
21 weeks ago

Midlands

"Just ask for their phone number and say you want to speak in person to her.. no number supplied probably means she is a he

Do many people give their phone number to people they've never met?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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21 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Just ask for their phone number and say you want to speak in person to her.. no number supplied probably means she is a he

Do many people give their phone number to people they've never met?"

We don't

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

That's why we have a sim just for meeting people

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By *icecouple561Couple
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21 weeks ago

East Sussex

"That's why we have a sim just for meeting people "

So do we but we only give the number if we're about to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I can't imagine exchanging 200 messages and not arranging a meet .. we run out of things to say after a dozen messages

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By *icentiousCouple
21 weeks ago

Up on them there hills

"Was it colonel mustard in the dining room with the lead pipe? "

Naa library is where the fiction is kept.

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By *elkieWoman
21 weeks ago

Durham

Well, there’s nothing you can do, because neither of these people have the slightest intention of meeting you. So if you’re enjoying the chat crack on, and if not then stop replying?

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

"Hi guys, asking since advice about what you'd do in the following situation. A single male friend of ours has been chatting to a few different couples and single fems and has a meet with the female half of a couple who we'll call A. He's also been chatting for a while with another gen female from a couple who we'll call B. He's been chatting to B for quite a while and they'd exchanged over 200 messages but never managed to arrange a meet. He's chatted with B about some meets he'd arranged which then fell through last minute and a lot of her conversations revolved around A who she'd said she was in comms with too. Now he's 99.9% convinced that B is the male half of A using a fake profile. The profile is well verified but the veris are not published so possibly an old profile of theirs that he's resurrected. What would you do in this situation?"

If I enjoyed chatting to 'them' I'd continue. Assuming it's the same person being weird.

I was in a similar situation where I was chatting to a 'woman' and her man friend. It was the same person but it doesn't matter to me as the chat was good.

He wasn't aware that I knew. Don't mention it or they will stop chatting as it spoils the illusion.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
21 weeks ago

Wherever

200 messages is an indication itself for not having any intention to meet in a first place.

Some people just enjoy the attention you give them.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
21 weeks ago

Halifax

"Do many people give their phone number to people they've never met?"

If we are getting a genuine feeling and are about to meet then yes.

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By *itygamesMan
21 weeks ago

just opened a tin of alphabetti spaghetti, i'm going to get to the bottom of this one way or another

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By *rpeggioCouple
21 weeks ago

Baughurst

"Was it colonel mustard in the dining room with the lead pipe? "

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By *rpeggioCouple
21 weeks ago

Baughurst

200 messages sounds like a lot for anyone with intentions to meet. Arranging a play meet is sometimes tricky but having a social coffee together for an in person chat and find out if there's attraction enough for a play date is not that difficult.

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