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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age." That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " That sounds more like she's not interested in the relationship any more. I know it's the usual advice but you need to have a grown up conversation with her. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " Then I think you're now platonic friends. It sounds as if you'd like to maintain a sexual relationship with her but the reality is she's closed that door. Shutting someone down when they try to talk to you makes it impossible to resolve the situation and means she's dictating the direction your relationship goes with no input from you. That's not fair whatever the reason she's doing it | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " Looks like you're both done. Doesn't want sex with you, and basically doesn’t want you in her company. Go find someone who wants to be with you and enjoy yourself. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " Why are you with her? What's the point of the relationship if it's only a couple of hours a week with no sex? | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? ** " ** You already have. | |||
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"It could possibly be due to the menopause or perimenopause & this can change or reduced sex drive. Estrogen takes a nose dive can cause mood swings and we'll all kinds of issues Seek medical advice on the issue please I don't know her age group but early menopause can start from around the age of 40 in some cases These lady's may need hormone therapy to reduce the risk of osteoporosis and heart disease. But proper heath care is the way forward in any case, well woman clinics etc, speak to your wife and seek help from your GP. In the interim simply love her to bits, pamper her, massage her, spa at home nights, make her feel special, do it with no expectation of sex It's also good to compliment her etc There will be no short term reward for your actions but long term will put you in the good books, it's at this most difficult time that you need to be that supportive man she needs. But my main advice is GP/healthcare & go from there " How's he going to do all that in the couple of hours he sees her? | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years .... would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? " And yet you have verifications here going back 8 years ![]() | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " That sounds like there’s more than a lack of interest in sex going on. | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years .... would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? And yet you have verifications here going back 8 years ![]() . My veris are from 2015 then stop until 2020 when problems started. I have not had any 1 to 1 contact in that time. Yes visited a club but spent most of my time in the sauna and jacuzzi. No contact at all. | |||
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"Your profile and veris contradict your thread OP. If you’re not happy together and you want to live the life of a single guy then make the break." Veris are mainly pre 2015 and those since do not involve 1 to 1 at all. Visited a club out of curiosity and spent time in jacuzzi and sauna. | |||
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"Your profile and veris contradict your thread OP. If you’re not happy together and you want to live the life of a single guy then make the break. Veris are mainly pre 2015 and those since do not involve 1 to 1 at all. Visited a club out of curiosity and spent time in jacuzzi and sauna. " Your profile still states you are a single guy and the green arrow makes interesting reading. I’ll say it again, you’re contradicting yourself. | |||
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"Your profile and veris contradict your thread OP. If you’re not happy together and you want to live the life of a single guy then make the break. Veris are mainly pre 2015 and those since do not involve 1 to 1 at all. Visited a club out of curiosity and spent time in jacuzzi and sauna. Your profile still states you are a single guy and the green arrow makes interesting reading. I’ll say it again, you’re contradicting yourself." As I say single guy from 2015. Green arrow shows what I have responded to! Yes been more active here recently but not yet been tempted by anyone. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " But according to your verifications, you have gone behind her back and you have cheated, so maybe that’s the issue? | |||
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"It's not great to be looking on here, behind her back no. Please update that you're not single on your profile though and give others the choice to meet you knowing that, if you'd decide to meet here. Personally I'd sit down with her and tell her you don't want to live without sex & how it's making you feel and ask if she will compromise and get it elsewhere discreetly. If she says no, you have some thinking to do. Can you stay with her and cheat or is it time to leave the relationship. " Agree | |||
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"Fill your boots; after all you have been on a swinging site for years and years. It's been so honourable of you to have just chatted and not taken it further so far. Although your verifications do paint a different picture. We can gloss over that. You must have known this day was coming from when you set up your profile. You've been to clubs etc before, as recently as the last few years,so yes from her response what choice do you have? It's almost as if she's driven you to this point." Absolutely this, you don’t really have a choice. She’s basically put a gun to your head. | |||
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" Your profile still states you are a single guy and the green arrow makes interesting reading. I’ll say it again, you’re contradicting yourself. As I say single guy from 2015. Green arrow shows what I have responded to! Yes been more active here recently but not yet been tempted by anyone. " You can gloss it over any way you like. You’ve been with your partner for seven years yet your profile states you’re a single guy. You didn’t get a chance in all those years to change it? You do you OP. Good luck, I think you’re going to need it. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " That doesn’t sound like much of a partnership, if she’s shutting down conversations that are important to you. I think you might have bigger problems than lack of sex. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. That doesn’t sound like much of a partnership, if she’s shutting down conversations that are important to you. I think you might have bigger problems than lack of sex. " I agree. If people shut down conversations about things that are obviously important to the person initiating them its because they know it'll be difficult and they're going to hear things that scare them or they don't like...or because they're just not bothered about how that person is feeling. | |||
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"I have read all thats been said and yes maybe I have been cheating in some eyes. In my mind though, it was no different to watching porn as I never got close to full sexual contact. " Not meaning to be pedantic but you attended and joined in the fun during a gangbang; how can that be the same as just watching porn? If your partner, or any in the future, had participated in a gangbang behind your back are we to assume that you'd be ok with that? I've read lots of these threads in that past and of course we only get one perspective of the relationship but they always have the same common theme as yours. | |||
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"I have read all thats been said and yes maybe I have been cheating in some eyes. In my mind though, it was no different to watching porn as I never got close to full sexual contact. Not meaning to be pedantic but you attended and joined in the fun during a gangbang; how can that be the same as just watching porn? If your partner, or any in the future, had participated in a gangbang behind your back are we to assume that you'd be ok with that? I've read lots of these threads in that past and of course we only get one perspective of the relationship but they always have the same common theme as yours. " Gangbang? News to me. I attended a group meet but no personal contact at all! | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? " Easy answer say if you're not gonna care for my needs here then I'll get them seen to elsewhere. Make it clear, its just physical no emotional connections You'll make her aware of all it and come home when done. I've done this and surprisingly her sex drive came back and other times I just did it and make it clear | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? Easy answer say if you're not gonna care for my needs here then I'll get them seen to elsewhere. Make it clear, its just physical no emotional connections You'll make her aware of all it and come home when done. I've done this and surprisingly her sex drive came back and other times I just did it and make it clear" Vile. ![]() | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. That doesn’t sound like much of a partnership, if she’s shutting down conversations that are important to you. I think you might have bigger problems than lack of sex. I agree. If people shut down conversations about things that are obviously important to the person initiating them its because they know it'll be difficult and they're going to hear things that scare them or they don't like...or because they're just not bothered about how that person is feeling. " ?? and makes the person trying to strike that conversation worthless | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? Easy answer say if you're not gonna care for my needs here then I'll get them seen to elsewhere. Make it clear, its just physical no emotional connections You'll make her aware of all it and come home when done. I've done this and surprisingly her sex drive came back and other times I just did it and make it clear Vile. ![]() Yes. That option is totally unacceptable to me. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. That doesn’t sound like much of a partnership, if she’s shutting down conversations that are important to you. I think you might have bigger problems than lack of sex. I agree. If people shut down conversations about things that are obviously important to the person initiating them its because they know it'll be difficult and they're going to hear things that scare them or they don't like...or because they're just not bothered about how that person is feeling. ?? and makes the person trying to strike that conversation worthless " Yes because the message is that your feelings are not as important as theirs. A relationship won't reach it's full potential without difficult conversations and that's sad | |||
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"I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " Seems to me that this relaionship has run it's course and is all but over. If she doesn't want to talk and cuts you out when you see her, what do the two of you actually do in the few hours per week that you see her. Seems to me that she's trying to give you signals that she's not interested in ou anymore but doesn't want to be the one to end it | |||
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"The recent verification states that you “did your part in keeping the lady satisfied” at a recent gangbang. I’m not really sure why your thread is so contradictory to your profile, but I don’t think you can say “that option is totally unacceptable to me” in regards to the suggestion you should tell your partner you intend to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere… when you already have? Or is the honesty the unacceptable part? ![]() For your infornation, it was not a gang bang! | |||
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"The recent verification states that you “did your part in keeping the lady satisfied” at a recent gangbang. I’m not really sure why your thread is so contradictory to your profile, but I don’t think you can say “that option is totally unacceptable to me” in regards to the suggestion you should tell your partner you intend to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere… when you already have? Or is the honesty the unacceptable part? ![]() No, it was bukkake, but…does that make a difference? It’s still an intimate sexual act and participating in fulfilling another woman sexually | |||
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"The recent verification states that you “did your part in keeping the lady satisfied” at a recent gangbang. I’m not really sure why your thread is so contradictory to your profile, but I don’t think you can say “that option is totally unacceptable to me” in regards to the suggestion you should tell your partner you intend to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere… when you already have? Or is the honesty the unacceptable part? ![]() There was no contact whatsoever. | |||
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" There was no contact whatsoever." That makes it ok then. You are going to justify your actions regardless. | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? " Yes a Big Yes its wrong if you feel you need to get it else were then become a single man and not a serial cheater just my thoughts | |||
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"The recent verification states that you “did your part in keeping the lady satisfied” at a recent gangbang. I’m not really sure why your thread is so contradictory to your profile, but I don’t think you can say “that option is totally unacceptable to me” in regards to the suggestion you should tell your partner you intend to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere… when you already have? Or is the honesty the unacceptable part? ![]() Ah, so wanking and literally shooting your load over a woman was definitely not cheating then? | |||
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"That's rough - especially the unilateral "shouldn't be doing it at our age" bit. That's asking for trouble, I'd say. I have a similar situation but carte blanche to deal with it as I see fit. I've no doubt that Fabs will be offering its collective "wisdom"." we hate this from single guys, no wonder most couples are always cautious when guys contact them. Have you asked her, maybe she knows you on here? | |||
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"The recent verification states that you “did your part in keeping the lady satisfied” at a recent gangbang. I’m not really sure why your thread is so contradictory to your profile, but I don’t think you can say “that option is totally unacceptable to me” in regards to the suggestion you should tell your partner you intend to get sexual satisfaction elsewhere… when you already have? Or is the honesty the unacceptable part? ![]() Wow, just wow. So glad I stumbled on this post. Great reminder why I chose to stay single forever. Sorry OP, I have no more of a constructive feedback. | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? " This is why you shouldn't judge married people on here. ![]() | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? " In exactly the same position although been together for 27 years and she won’t even discuss sex, simply rolls her eyes. Last time I raised the subject she simply replied “I know, I know. Sex doesn’t even cross my mind”. It can be a lonely and frustrating place to be. It’s why I’m on here. Very much doubt I could meet anyone but just chatting with others is a distraction and has helped. | |||
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"I have been with my partner for 7 years and for first 4 sex was amazing, so much so that I stopped looking on here having joined when single. However her sex drive has gradually gone lower and lower and I find myself looking more on here. It reached a peak today when she actually said we should no longer be doing it at our age! I have tried to speak to her many times about how I feel but no response. Has anyone else come across this and would it be really wrong gor me to try and hook up on here? " From experience. I wouldn't drag it out. Leave. She will end up finding it from somewhere or she's settled for what you provide her... Either way... | |||
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" For your infornation, it was not a gang bang! No, it was bukkake, but…does that make a difference? It’s still an intimate sexual act and participating in fulfilling another woman sexually There was no contact whatsoever. Wow, just wow. So glad I stumbled on this post. Great reminder why I chose to stay single forever. Sorry OP, I have no more of a constructive feedback." You echoed my thoughts exactly - very glad to remain single in a world where a man can post on a public forum looking for sympathy in his pursuit of cheating (since apparently engaging in a bukkake gangbang is somehow not cheating) and a load of other attached guys will give the “woe is me” in the comments beneath. OP, cheat if you want, it’s your life (psst - you already have, hate to break it to you but your cum splattering on another woman’s face does indeed count as contact). But I can never quite understand why people make these posts and then get defensive against the backlash. | |||
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" For your infornation, it was not a gang bang! No, it was bukkake, but…does that make a difference? It’s still an intimate sexual act and participating in fulfilling another woman sexually There was no contact whatsoever. Wow, just wow. So glad I stumbled on this post. Great reminder why I chose to stay single forever. Sorry OP, I have no more of a constructive feedback. You echoed my thoughts exactly - very glad to remain single in a world where a man can post on a public forum looking for sympathy in his pursuit of cheating (since apparently engaging in a bukkake gangbang is somehow not cheating) and a load of other attached guys will give the “woe is me” in the comments beneath. OP, cheat if you want, it’s your life (psst - you already have, hate to break it to you but your cum splattering on another woman’s face does indeed count as contact). But I can never quite understand why people make these posts and then get defensive against the backlash. " I agree I have cheated but in mu mind tried to cover it by convincing myself it was not direct intimate contact. Time to move on I think. Innthe end, honesty is the best policy. | |||
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"I think you should do what's best for your relationship and for yourself. It's not down to me to tell you what's wrong or right but if you're hoping to get permission to go behind her back you're unlikely to on here. In an ideal world you'd be able to come to a mutually acceptable agreement but that seems unlikely if you've reached a point where she's including you in her belief that sex stops after a certain age. That is the problem. I dont want to go behind her back. Its not in me. Tried a couple of cam sessions but felt guilty afterwards. At the time, I thought if its not 1 to 1 and/or in person, its not really cheating - who was I kidding as it all felt so wrong. I am in a very difficult position as I dont live with her and barely see her more than a few hours a week. When I do, she doesnt want to talk and just cuts me out. " Oh OP. You are between a rock and a hard place. If you are here though and she doesn’t know about here, then it is cheating to a degree. I think the low sex drive could be down to a miriad of things, lack of confidence, maybe or are you paying her compliments and giving her attention. It sounds like she’s giving you an easy ‘out’ but it could be to see how deep your feelings are for her. Good luck OP. | |||
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