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"But that is terrible behaviour either way! I mean most people would quite happily take an excuse, at least you definitively know you've been cancelled on. But to be blocked is very cowardly and disrespectful if you know you did nothing wrong!" Totally agree But it seems there is that element in the lifestyle They seem to get their “kick” from the chat. | |||
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that! We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine! So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this! So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked! So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked! Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! " She probably had last minute nerves, and simply bottled it. It happens. Take comfort in the fact IF she really lives at the address she gave, she’s potentially worrying you may still call round at some point… Don’t overthink it, just learn from it, and move on. There’s plenty of genuine people to share good times with in here | |||
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"There’s plenty of genuine people to share good times with in here " there may well be plenty genuine people on here but finding the ones that the attraction is right and getting on is the hard bit | |||
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that! We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine! So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this! So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked! So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked! Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! " pretty much the same has happened to me and I've posted about it as well. A few others I've spoke to, it's happened to them with the same person. I wonder if it's the same as my one | |||
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"What do you think you'd have been at risk of?" aids | |||
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"fab provides the tools the rest is down to you ... what can fab do ? nothing is the answer can you imagine them trying to fix 1% of the pronlems on here let alone all.. something happened she got cold feet ? something was said that she did not like?? or she was a man or just a prick teaser.. for me the warning sign is there in black n white .. a woman giving her home address out not caring about her own safety ? sorry but thats not the real world i dont know of one single woman who would do this.. she being verified means nothing you only have to be a verified man to set up a fake womans profile and veri it from another computer and bingo a fake womans profile.. we stopped meeting couples and women on here years ago maily to avoid male run couples profiles but also because a massive amount of couples and womens profiles are fake / or couples who've split and the guy has kept it..hence we only meet guys via this platform the only way for me/us is to be super blunt and to the point thick skinned and very very picky but thankfully been doiung this a very long time and our littke black book serves us well " I wouldn't give out my home address that way either but I do know there are women profiles on here that do. I've had people message me that's what they've been used to. I'm not outwardly accusing anyone of being dangerous but I know what I consider safe and my comfortable boundaries. So to be told I'm over-reacting because xyz was happy with it. Definitely confirms to me it happens (sometimes all you need to see if the veris left to confirm it to be true). As for OP I'm sorry you've had your time wasted in that way. It isn't pleasant and I'm sure you used all your usual checks before proceeding. I've been ghosted loads on/before agreed socials. I never really understand it as they message me first and invite me out. Who has the time to play these games? Was stood up once and we had been chatting for weeks and weeks. Hard lesson learnt for me. | |||
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"fab provides the tools the rest is down to you ... what can fab do ? nothing is the answer can you imagine them trying to fix 1% of the pronlems on here let alone all.. something happened she got cold feet ? something was said that she did not like?? or she was a man or just a prick teaser.. for me the warning sign is there in black n white .. a woman giving her home address out not caring about her own safety ? sorry but thats not the real world i dont know of one single woman who would do this.. she being verified means nothing you only have to be a verified man to set up a fake womans profile and veri it from another computer and bingo a fake womans profile.. we stopped meeting couples and women on here years ago maily to avoid male run couples profiles but also because a massive amount of couples and womens profiles are fake / or couples who've split and the guy has kept it..hence we only meet guys via this platform the only way for me/us is to be super blunt and to the point thick skinned and very very picky but thankfully been doiung this a very long time and our littke black book serves us well I wouldn't give out my home address that way either but I do know there are women profiles on here that do. I've had people message me that's what they've been used to. I'm not outwardly accusing anyone of being dangerous but I know what I consider safe and my comfortable boundaries. So to be told I'm over-reacting because xyz was happy with it. Definitely confirms to me it happens (sometimes all you need to see if the veris left to confirm it to be true). As for OP I'm sorry you've had your time wasted in that way. It isn't pleasant and I'm sure you used all your usual checks before proceeding. I've been ghosted loads on/before agreed socials. I never really understand it as they message me first and invite me out. Who has the time to play these games? Was stood up once and we had been chatting for weeks and weeks. Hard lesson learnt for me. " Yep very much a lesson learnt. And if it's happened to us, someone else has probably been in the same position. It's more the time invested and wasted despite all the in depth checks we do. Luckily it wasn't a wasted visit to the area but thankfully we looked and didn't just turn up without realising! | |||
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"Fab Admin always investigate reports of inappropriate behaviour, when users report it. Even if blocked, you can still report users. It's peculiar and not on, to have people travelling and to not notify them, if plans change. " I'm glad you posted this. I'm also curious about the investigation process but I respect that THAT won't be made public, for very obvious reasons. | |||
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"Fab Admin always investigate reports of inappropriate behaviour, when users report it. Even if blocked, you can still report users. It's peculiar and not on, to have people travelling and to not notify them, if plans change. " I am curious if anybody has ever been sanctioned in some way after being reported for not showing or blocking just before like this. I know it's an option when you report somebody but never heard of anybody getting sanctioned for it. You hear of people getting timeouts and bans for all sorts of things but never that. Obviously hard for Admin to judge what happened I know but sometimes there in black and white in messages. | |||
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"And we always respect that, make it be known multiple times that it's on them to call the shots if they want to meet us. That's how much of a back seat we take because we never want to make anyone uncomfortable. The fact the address was sent and how to access the property was even more weird! " Have you heard anything from her since? | |||
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"I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. We've had a few experiences where we've been blocked at the last minute. We've given up meeting single guys on Fab as a good 70-80% cancel either the day before or last minute. We've pretty much given up meeting people online due to the timewasters and fantasists. There's an awful lot of people that fantasise about meeting people, but when that becomes a reality and they actually have to go through with it, they get scared and pull out. The amount of effort we've seen people put into arranging a meet only to cancel, block or ghost is extraordinary. They will spend hours chatting, asking questions, building a rapport then vanish when they have to go through with it. We meet people at parties now. Meeting in real life is so much better than Fab of any other app. " Our approach to avoiding cancellations and time wasting is to not exchange face pics, minimise sexy chat and arrange a face to face drink, when we’ve arrange to go out together anyway. Little time is wasted and we were out for a drink anyway so if they don’t turn up then we still have a nice night. | |||
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"I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. We've had a few experiences where we've been blocked at the last minute. We've given up meeting single guys on Fab as a good 70-80% cancel either the day before or last minute. We've pretty much given up meeting people online due to the timewasters and fantasists. There's an awful lot of people that fantasise about meeting people, but when that becomes a reality and they actually have to go through with it, they get scared and pull out. The amount of effort we've seen people put into arranging a meet only to cancel, block or ghost is extraordinary. They will spend hours chatting, asking questions, building a rapport then vanish when they have to go through with it. We meet people at parties now. Meeting in real life is so much better than Fab of any other app. Our approach to avoiding cancellations and time wasting is to not exchange face pics, minimise sexy chat and arrange a face to face drink, when we’ve arrange to go out together anyway. Little time is wasted and we were out for a drink anyway so if they don’t turn up then we still have a nice night. " | |||
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"The address you was given might not have been hers. I was sent to an house to meet a guy and an old lady answered. After having been sent to a wrong address once before i go prepared . I just asked for mr Brook and i had come to quote for some work. She told me she lived alone and i must have got the wrong address. I suspect who sent me must have lived near watching because they had description of the house ,The make, model and colour of the car on the drive was correct. Though mine ended up not being a wasted journey the lady wanted some work done on her house. When i checked later the guy had deleted his fab profile. " It was good of you to have a back up story of why you were there. No point worrying the old lady. Some people are shit. Hope you find someone nice in the future. | |||
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"The address you was given might not have been hers. I was sent to an house to meet a guy and an old lady answered. After having been sent to a wrong address once before i go prepared . I just asked for mr Brook and i had come to quote for some work. She told me she lived alone and i must have got the wrong address. I suspect who sent me must have lived near watching because they had description of the house ,The make, model and colour of the car on the drive was correct. Though mine ended up not being a wasted journey the lady wanted some work done on her house. When i checked later the guy had deleted his fab profile. " That's awful. Good quick thinking though not to alarm her. How cruel for someone to do that to the lair of you. | |||
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"As a single woman, I would never, EVER meet someone for the first time at a private address. Always at a public place. If they din’t want to show their face to me in public, I don’t want to show them my body in private… " | |||
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that! We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine! So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this! So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked! So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked! Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! " We've had false addresses and a couple who cancelled 30 minutes prior to a meet then admitted they were using us as 'backup' just incase the other couple didn't appear !. Cherry was fuming as took ages getting ready, instant block of course. | |||
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"So they were relying on the fact that you would check their profile and see that they had blocked you? Was she planning on just ignoring you had you turned up and knocked on the door? Very odd behavior. It's not like typing out "Sorry, changed my mind" is a difficult thing to do." I've turned up at an address and knocked ... not the people that I was expecting to meet there! Some very odd and disturbing people around. | |||
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"So they were relying on the fact that you would check their profile and see that they had blocked you? Was she planning on just ignoring you had you turned up and knocked on the door? Very odd behavior. It's not like typing out "Sorry, changed my mind" is a difficult thing to do." Also the fact that it could be someone elses address that they have a beef with? | |||
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"So I guess there's a first time for everything right? First thing is first, we know 'anyone' has the right to cancel a meet - we respect that! We've never been stood up, or cancelled on - even on our single accounts but last night was probably the worst I could imagine! So we were chatting to a verified, genuine woman, who had invited us round to her place. We always kind of believed it was too good to be true but gave them multiple opportunities to back out. We was given an address and a time and that's when we thought strangely, this is on as they are leading this! So fortunately we had to be in said destination to pick up my partner but half hour before, just decided to check her profile and we'd litterally had just been blocked! So that led us to think, what if we genuinely had turned up at this address, could we have put ourselves at risk? We obviously did not! If we had been travelling from slightly longer, we'd never have checked! Does Fab even look into this? Has anyone else experienced this before? Just makes you lose faith in people in this community as trust is massive part of this! " Your grown adults FFS! Fab can't hold your hand for you | |||
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"I've been given false addresses a couple of times, I'm guessing someone is looking out from behind a curtain nearby having a laugh" | |||
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"Hi op That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve " Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well | |||
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"Hi op That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well " Nope you misunderstood if one doesn't turn up have a backup plan | |||
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"Well, quite a few things! Who knows who is gonna be behind that door? Like from our perspective, we'd never ever give our address out freely. We'd have to have been 110% convinced both parties are committed to meeting you know? " Sorry this happened to you. I’ve also had similar happen to me many years back. Someone invited me to their hotel. When I arrived at the room it was totally empty (the whole floor of the hotel was empty and every room had the doors wide open, as if being renovated). When I went to message the person, they had blocked me. Such weird and bizarre behaviour. So now I very rarely meet anyone without them providing proof that they’re in the location they say. | |||
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"Consider yourselves lucky to only have one meet cancelled on you. We have a trail of time wasters, at a social event one woman told the room she was an orphan, a week later told us she couldn't come to an arranged meet coz her brother died. We have been dropped, then the people dropping us post a veri for someone else on the night. " You know you can be an orphan and have a brother, right? | |||
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"Hi op That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well " There’s nothing wrong with having a reserve as long as you tell them they are a reserve, and keep them updated. | |||
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"Hi op That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well There’s nothing wrong with having a reserve as long as you tell them they are a reserve, and keep them updated. " Oh wow I'd be honored if I was second on a list | |||
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"We don't feel fab admin take this behaviour seriously, especially since changing hands a year or so prior to covid." All reports to Admin are investigated. Sometimes there's little information that they have to go on other than hearsay of what the reported user has allegedly said and agreed to, if arrangements were made off-site. But a picture can emerge if enough of us report the same types of messing others around. If more of us confirm meet details on Fab, getting them to agree at least there's something more tangible than something that may never have happened. It could be a good thing if fab introduced each user accepting meet details requested, with assumptions that users also cancel via fab, with automatic notifications. I encourage everyone to always report, as this will help to improve site standards for everyone. | |||
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"Hi op That's why a social is always important on mutual ground. Not saying that you could be dressed for nothing but you could still enjoy the moment and maybe have a reserve Oh that's nice.. you block the reserve if all goes well There’s nothing wrong with having a reserve as long as you tell them they are a reserve, and keep them updated. Oh wow I'd be honored if I was second on a list" It’s not that someone else is preferable to you, it’s simply that they arranged first, and I don’t just dump people if something more interesting comes along. Take your ticket and wait for your number to be called like a good boy. | |||
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"But that is terrible behaviour either way! I mean most people would quite happily take an excuse, at least you definitively know you've been cancelled on. But to be blocked is very cowardly and disrespectful if you know you did nothing wrong!" How do you know it's cowardly as it's the internet and also FAB, trolls and folk getting off on terrible behaviour, the only reason some people are on here. They then read a forum post and feel great. Us respectful people are disgusted at that kind of behaviour but we put ourselves onto the internet so we have to take everything it throws at us. Some things are great and some boil our piss. We have just been chatting with a single guy who's profile stood out as really good, we arranged to have a social but not a time or a place as he wasn't going to get time till after new year. We went to message 2nd January and he's gone. Few years ago we arranged to meet a couple in Stoke, had address and time. We were just about to leave Derby to head over and like you OP we checked on fab to tell them we are on our way, again they had left fab just before we were due to meet. Fab is getting worse with this kind of thing which is why 99.9% we just meet people in a club. We have a great night out and if folk turn up and we click it's a bonus | |||
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