FabSwingers.com forum: Stag q… best club to find vixen?

By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Hi,

So I’m a good looking gym fit mid 30’s guy, single and hoping to find a woman of a similar age for a stag/vixen relationship. To be clear my ideal is someone already fairly active in the swinger lifestyle so that we can continue to go to club events together but would be solely so she can play with guys as I want to be monogamous. I’m not submissive and want a ‘normal’ relationship but it just feels right to me to be able to go to club meets for the sociable aspect and I would take pride in my girl having fun with my support!

So my question is, which club/event should I be going along too to find my vixen!? Like I say I’m sociable so I guess where are there likely to be single girls? And whilst I would want an active sex life in private I don’t want to play at clubs myself so would I be judged being a single guy seeking a relationship at a club meet and not getting involved when everyone else is just there for sex!

Thank you in advance

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
48 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"so would I be judged being a single guy seeking a relationship at a club meet and not getting involved when everyone else is just there for sex!

Thank you in advance

T "

It depends on what you look like

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By *he Dark SaintMan
48 weeks ago

hitchin

Clubs dont really work like that, there's no go to place to find a vixen for a dynamic you prefer. There are tailored events at multiple venues but not specifically for finding your partner in crime

You just have to talk to people, if you get on and want to be together then cool more power to you. Thats pretty much all it boils down to

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
48 weeks ago

Chippenham

Different singles and couples go to clubs for so many different reasons. I don't think people get judged or frowned on at clubs for what they are looking for, They are the perfect place to let yourself be free to be yourself.

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
48 weeks ago

Chippenham

"Hi,

Thank you in advance

T "

Not everyone is there to actively look for sex, lots go just to socialise and network with like minded people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Thanks guys. I’m confident that I’m a decent looking guy but can’t share photos on here due to my job. But happy to attend club events obviously hence my query on here.

Yeah I understand there isn’t a dream event with all girls attending seeking a stag/vixen relationship so it was more just trying to suss out the right event that would give me the best odds. So I guess my question really should be what events have a high proportion of single woman in late 20’s early 30’s? Then it’s just a case of striking up a conversation and going from there.

Like I say I’m new to the club scene as going along to play myself doesn’t really bother me. I think I would enjoy the social side of it though

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Thanks guys. I’m confident that I’m a decent looking guy but can’t share photos on here due to my job. But happy to attend club events obviously hence my query on here.

Like I say I’m new to the club scene as going along to play myself doesn’t really bother me. I think I would enjoy the social side of it though "

There are girls on here interested in it, and also guys actively looking for that dynamic. If you want some advice on the profile shout

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By *ink vixenCouple
48 weeks ago

Medway

Ah…

It’s the job.

Of course.

Your employer would obviously recognise every part of your body from every angle like most would.

Go on some dates with vanilla ladies and broach the subject fairly early on.

If she’s horrified then she ain’t the one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Thank you Eve I have sent you a DM for any advice you might be able to offer on my profile since you’ve kindly offered!

Pink Vixen I have added a hopefully discreet photo on my profile but I do genuinely need to be discreet due to my job. I have a good job and generally have my shit together so don’t struggle to get normal dates but thus far the women I have met have been put off by the stag/vixen concept. I think there is a lot of confusion that I’m seeking an open relationship and there is suspicion when I explain that I have no intention of seeing other women but rather I just want her to regularly see other guys and want to play an active role in facilitating that.

Anyway yeah I am sure there must be women out there who are seeking this dynamic so hopefully I can find someone!

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
48 weeks ago

Nottingham

Greedy girl nights and single guy heavy events would be an idea , obviously you'd have to talk with the ladies concerned. Or perhaps chat with them on here and let them know what your looking for

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By *entle_lover_xMan
48 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

I think explicitly looking for a vixen partner is probably the wrong approach. People become stag/vixen couples generally after already being couples. You are better off not thinking about looking for a partner but just meeting and having fun with as many ladies as possible, be that at clubs, parties, socials or directly from there. If you hit it off and have fun then later perhaps it can develop into more. I think most single ladies who you might meet at events won't be looking for a partner and may be put if you raise early on. Best let it run naturally. I met my current partner via here and we have stag/vixen vibe I guess but at first we just met for a random shag, then another one and gradually got more serious together. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

Thanks both. You’re right that I think I just need to get along to a few events and socialise and see who I meet. I’m sure there are single woman attending greedy girl events that would be open to having a relationship. I’m not really that interested on being involved myself though, although I’d want an active sex life I’m more of an intimate at home between us kind of guy. But I would enjoy a relationship where we regularly attended greedy girl kind of nights for my partner to play and obviously that’s a good opportunity for us to network as I would also be keen that we had a few regular guys that we can contact to come over, or for her to visit. I don’t necessarily have to be present or watch just keen to have a partner that is willing to regularly enjoy other guys!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
48 weeks ago

Leeds

"I’m confident that I’m a decent looking guy but can’t share photos on here due to my job. But happy to attend club events obviously hence my query on here.

Are you not worried about being recognised at a club ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
48 weeks ago

I guess so but I suppose if you see someone you know in a club then they are just as worried about seeing you!

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