FabSwingers.com forum: Getting no where loosing the will

By *hawn147 OP Man
48 weeks ago

BIRMINGHAM

Hi everyone, I’m new on here but I’m not getting anywhere. I would love to talk and meet new people and was thinking of going to chameleon in the hope to meet new people but being single and new to this world i would prefer to go with an experienced female. Can anyone help out? Xx

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
48 weeks ago

Middle England

What were your expectations on joining the site?

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
48 weeks ago

Hyde

Just go.....

Plenty of men and women attend alone. Events have hosts that will show you around.

If you wait for a woman you could be waiting forever - cos without offence- what's in it for her to be a tour guide or hand holder?

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By *JandJJCouple
48 weeks ago

Nuneaton

This site isn't for everyone.

There are so many single guys on here people can just choose the ones who present themselves the best they can, and look the best. Why would they choose otherwise?

What were your expectations when you came on here OP??

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Fatten out your profile a bit, go to an organised social maybe if a club seems a bit much, generally be patient and don't set expectations too high yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Biggest misconception by so many on here is that this is Insta shag or all they have to do is send one message and boom they’ll be knee deep in offers.

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By *JandJJCouple
48 weeks ago

Nuneaton

"Biggest misconception by so many on here is that this is Insta shag or all they have to do is send one message and boom they’ll be knee deep in offers. "

True words spoken!!

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By *andystick72Man
48 weeks ago

kinky Street

It's brilliant on hear ,but chams is another level ,best advice I can give you is talk, if its a couple talk to the guy aswell ,as its he's missus you want to shag ,so just be polite ,respectful, and be patient,,,

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By *orny-DJMan
48 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

You've only been here 7 weeks.

Most single guys can wait up to a year to get their first meet.

Some fair better, others less fo.

Some men have been here years and still not had a meet.

You need to think about what your expectations were on joining and realign them

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By *andystick72Man
48 weeks ago

kinky Street

7 weeks and you haven't been to a club yet or had a meet ,can I ask why did you join

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By *he James gangCouple
48 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

I would change your pics op. A smile and smartly dressed goes a long way. Having been to chams quite a few times, the singles night can prove brilliant for us or not. Don't fall into the trap of being like a stalker. Couples who want a third are always impressed by personality, not just looks. Unfortunately your personality comes across as a bit grumpy from your pics.

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By *edWitch0000Woman
48 weeks ago

worthing

Most women who use fab are part of a couple. The chance of you finding a woman who wants to go to a club with you on fab is slim to none. Just be brave and go. Lower your expectations and enjoy it for what it is. Remember that the swinging lifestyle is more about couples than single men, and this is a swinging site so single men can struggle to get much out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I would change your pics op. A smile and smartly dressed goes a long way. Having been to chams quite a few times, the singles night can prove brilliant for us or not. Don't fall into the trap of being like a stalker. Couples who want a third are always impressed by personality, not just looks. Unfortunately your personality comes across as a bit grumpy from your pics. "

I would echo this, you don't look like someone who anyone would like to spend time with due to your pics. Nothing to do with looks, it's your moody facial expressions.

We never meet anyone from Fab and we've been on here for eighteen months. We meet people at parties and events on a regular basis. Fab is only for keeping in touch with people we meet that are on here, that's it.

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By *ink vixenCouple
48 weeks ago

Medway

Confidence at a club will get you much further than taking some random woman along to hold your hand.

It’s time to pull on the big boy pants.

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By *wingItOnCouple
48 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Then hopefully, take off the big boy pants

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By *mber SkiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Cwmderi

"Biggest misconception by so many on here is that this is Insta shag or all they have to do is send one message and boom they’ll be knee deep in offers. "
so true

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By *ornycougaWoman
48 weeks ago

MOROCCO Wherever I lay my hat

I'd echo everything that has been said on here already. You come across as totally focused on your needs and make it sounds as any woman would be fortunate enough to have you. Wrong. I find the right balance of confidence and self-deprecation attractive.

Oh and this could just be me but I would never go to a club with a guy I didn't know AND who had never been to a club before either.

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By *oxy jWoman
48 weeks ago

somerset

your a man what did you expect from a scene already totally crammed full of men ???

most ment never get a meet fact

i was speaking with a guy at a clue a couples weeks back nice guy but his entitlement was off the charts he basically expected naked women to fall at his feet i had to tell him thats not swinging and left him be he never listened and a hour later kicked out the club ... like so many other men who expext sex and things like attraction are unimportant ... like most just full of entitlment

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By *oxy jWoman
48 weeks ago

somerset

and why should or would a woman give up a fun night just to babysit a guy ?? if you've got no confidence then this scene really is not for you

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By *iss KinkWoman
48 weeks ago

North West

Just go on your own otherwise you could be waiting a long time

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By *oiluvfunMan
48 weeks ago

Penrith

The swinger club 'world' is full of EGOF's mate (Established Groups Of Friends), and the only way to break in to these EGOF's, is to visit a club several times, to get your face known by the regulars. This won't be an overnight achievement for you, given you are a single, straight, Caucasian guy, so the times you are able to visit will be less than others, and that's not forgetting there is usually a waiting list for single guys for a membership for Chams....

As you're based in Birmingham, have a look around for the social events like 'Up The Brum', which would probably work better for you getting your face/name known in the swinger scene.

Fab is all about patience mate. You've only been here 7 weeks, don't be in a hurry, just be the best you, keep updating your profile (look at it yourself, and ask yourself would you be interested if you were a woman?), and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Loads fake accounts on here cranks I get loads messages like all the women do. I been on off here for few years I get same message off profiles couples and singles men with the same pictures that message me over 7 yrs ago only spoke to few decent men on here most are cranks

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Loads fake accounts on here cranks I get loads messages like all the women do. I been on off here for few years I get same message off profiles couples and singles men with the same pictures that message me over 7 yrs ago only spoke to few decent men on here most are cranks "
oh and the messages hi how are you what up to and bullshit I just block if man really interested make effort to get to know you

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Biggest misconception by so many on here is that this is Insta shag or all they have to do is send one message and boom they’ll be knee deep in offers.

True words spoken!!"
I agree I like man makes effort reads profile what looking old school respectful articulate good with words

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Hi everyone, I’m new on here but I’m not getting anywhere. I would love to talk and meet new people and was thinking of going to chameleon in the hope to meet new people but being single and new to this world i would prefer to go with an experienced female. Can anyone help out? Xx "
women get hundreds messages my advice don't send dick pics try to get to know women interested in and read back what you wrote in message keep it respectful

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Central

Look around the forum for posts from single men who find it harder than they expected. Check the advice given to them too.

People view the profile of the message senders, so making the profile the best it can be to sell you, is essential. It's really about what you have to offer, rather than what you want them to give you. This is especially true because single men are here in their many thousands.

Chameleons typically has a long waiting list for single men. There are many other clubs though. Big boy pants on, you don't need a companion

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By *e and him 2021Couple
48 weeks ago

stoke on trent

Hi op

You are a little fish in an ocean. Plenty of single guys on fab.

Best thing to do is put the big boy pants on and visit a club. Chams is good if local to you ring first to make sure you can join and get in. Then mix with people don’t follow people round chat get a feel for the place/the people etc and then hopefully you will get talking and then possibly a verification will follow and then that opens doors to more things. Be patient and don’t give out negative vibes with that be on a forum or club.

Don’t expect anything and if something happens then it’s a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Hi everyone, I’m new on here but I’m not getting anywhere. I would love to talk and meet new people and was thinking of going to chameleon in the hope to meet new people but being single and new to this world i would prefer to go with an experienced female. Can anyone help out? Xx "
Cupid's in Manchester nice club loads different events on day and night

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By *iss DevilWoman
48 weeks ago

Bedford

Chams is infamous for being oversubscribed for single men, and are not cheap when it comes to membership. You can try get your name down for some of the events they run (as you don't need to be a member to attend then, just be on the guest list), but be aware that single men places always go very fast. Also, you can arrange to meet people inside, you don't need a woman to hold your hand to get through the door.

Clubs can be a hit and miss for single men, particularly ones who are not able to talk to people. I personally expect a guy who wants to fuck me to at least be able to say "hi" to me and maybe have a short conversation. I ignore ones who just follow me around without saying anything or who try to touch me when I'm playing.

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