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"I'm not sure I fully get what you mean tbh. Surely it's not that hard to just write out a simple message to a woman, they're not mysterious creatures of the deep. They're just people. A message should be pretty easy to type up. Say hello and the usual pleasantries. Abit about yourself, what you're looking for and then ask them for that info. Job done. Helps if you've actually read their profile obviously, noone wants to waste time giving answers you could have gotten yourself from taking 2 minutes to read a bio. " ...this plus make sure your profile is the best it can be as people tend to read profiles before considering whether it's worth replying or not. | |||
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"So can I just ask, (probably reading tone on some of these replies…) was the question that I posed offensive in some way? " No but it was ambiguous. I don't understand why you want a woman to imagine she's a man writing a message. We're genuinely wanting to enter in to dialogue. | |||
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"So can I just ask, (probably reading tone on some of these replies…) was the question that I posed offensive in some way? " Offensive? Not at all, I think maybe you're reading into it too much. It's an odd question to ask honestly, as I said, I'm not really sure what you're asking for but I didn't read any replies as people being offended | |||
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"OK so here's some ideas... Me as a women, this is the kind of message I prefer: Hi, I'm (your name), hope you're having a good week/weekend (whatever fits). I noticed in your bio, you're looking for (insert something you've read that interests you), I'm also into (see last brackets). I'm wondering whether you'd like to (chat more/consider a social/meet for a social at a club/event)... That's about it for a first message. Doesn't have to be super complicated or detailed. Simple, to the point, showing that you can and bothered to read. Doesn't need creepy compliments or an attached link to every pic you've shared on fab or a dick pic. " This, 100%. | |||
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"... if you aren’t giving off the right sexual energy does it seem like “why the fuck is he talking to me about X or Y subject " 100% how I feel about 99.97% of messages received. The 0.03% are the ones that don't bother me with small talk, dick pics, or a need for instant gratification. | |||
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"To the ladies out there? If you were expecting a great first message / conversation starter, what would it be ? Imagine you are a man writing this … And please try to be genuine and truthfully honest in your reply " Honest question. Do you know what a decent first message OP? Why don't you give us an example of what you think is a decent great first message? | |||
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"I'm not sure I fully get what you mean tbh. Surely it's not that hard to just write out a simple message to a woman, they're not mysterious creatures of the deep. They're just people. A message should be pretty easy to type up. Say hello and the usual pleasantries. Abit about yourself, what you're looking for and then ask them for that info. Job done. Helps if you've actually read their profile obviously, noone wants to waste time giving answers you could have gotten yourself from taking 2 minutes to read a bio. " People only like the pretty pics 
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"I'm not sure I fully get what you mean tbh. Surely it's not that hard to just write out a simple message to a woman, they're not mysterious creatures of the deep. They're just people. A message should be pretty easy to type up. Say hello and the usual pleasantries. Abit about yourself, what you're looking for and then ask them for that info. Job done. Helps if you've actually read their profile obviously, noone wants to waste time giving answers you could have gotten yourself from taking 2 minutes to read a bio. People only like the pretty pics
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(Yes tongue firmly in cheek) "I know, I know.... as soon as I typed "read" I knew I was asking too much! Amazingly though, my suggestions haven't gone without a little be of abuse in our inbox! Apparently men don't need to be told how to read a message and how to formulate a message. Ugh, however will I live | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this " Us neither, we've not been using fab as long as you have yet. You'll get the hang of it. Every message I send, before I hit send, I read it and think about whether I would reply to that message if I received it (with more than a no thank you). Really consider that bit. Is it worth replying to, is it selling you in any way. If you're unsure, don't send it. Consider what you could change. On the other hand, as said above... you could write out the best message anyone in the whole world has written. If it goes to someone who isn't sexually attracted to you, it won't make any difference. | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this Us neither, we've not been using fab as long as you have yet. You'll get the hang of it. Every message I send, before I hit send, I read it and think about whether I would reply to that message if I received it (with more than a no thank you). Really consider that bit. Is it worth replying to, is it selling you in any way. If you're unsure, don't send it. Consider what you could change. On the other hand, as said above... you could write out the best message anyone in the whole world has written. If it goes to someone who isn't sexually attracted to you, it won't make any difference. " Thanks. It’s kind of a weird one in terms of, if you were to message someone that you know, you might start with “hi” or “how’s things?” And maybe a bit more because of you know them. But because of you don’t know the people on here, it’s like a new social playing field. | |||
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"To the ladies out there? If you were expecting a great first message / conversation starter, what would it be ? Imagine you are a man writing this … And please try to be genuine and truthfully honest in your reply " In other words you want a template for a message……. | |||
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"To the ladies out there? If you were expecting a great first message / conversation starter, what would it be ? Imagine you are a man writing this … And please try to be genuine and truthfully honest in your reply In other words you want a template for a message……. " Not exactly, more so to identify what different people think when they get messages on here. It’s not exactly like other social platforms. Of course I do want to work towards improving my interactions on fab, that’s why I asked the question … | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this " I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? " It isn’t exactly the mainstream way of the world, I can imagine it has a culture of its own. My perceptions could be wrong though | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? It isn’t exactly the mainstream way of the world, I can imagine it has a culture of its own. My perceptions could be wrong though " The same rules apply here as everywhere. Approach people with friendly respect and you shouldn't go far wrong. It not easy for single men though so you might need patience | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? It isn’t exactly the mainstream way of the world, I can imagine it has a culture of its own. My perceptions could be wrong though The same rules apply here as everywhere. Approach people with friendly respect and you shouldn't go far wrong. It not easy for single men though so you might need patience" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ I consider myself to be a sociable person, when I’m out in public I can easily engage in a conversation with a stranger and when I’m at parties etc I have always been able to chat with people I’ve never met before and get to know them over the course of the evening, but I have never gone up to someone and said anything like what people here expect from a first message, I don’t tell people my name as soon as I meet them, I don’t tell them any information about myself straight away, I don’t look for something to refer to that makes my introduction unique to them, I don’t end my introduction by saying something like ‘would you like to chat with me?’, I tend to say something like ‘alright, how you doing? Having a good night?’ Or something similarly non specific. That normally gets one of 2 replies, a reply with some specific information that the start of the conversation is based around, like ‘I’m having a great night because……’ or ‘I’m having a bad night because…..’ or an equally non specific reply like ‘I’m having a good night, what about you?’ in which case I’ll say something more specific that can be the topic for the start of a conversation. I think that if I found myself sat or stood next to a stranger at a party and I said ‘hi, my name’s….., I like football, golf, walking, watching tv. (Say something I noticed about the person that I like), I’m hoping to relieve the awkwardness of being stood next to you in silence by having a lighthearted chat with you that may be the one and only time we chat or could lead to us becoming friends for life. Would you like to chat with me?’ then I’d receive a confused look and be watching the person walking away from me as quickly as they can. Similarly, if I said ‘hi, how you doing? Are you having a good night?’ To a stranger at a party and that person didn’t say anything in reply, turned around and walked away from me (the equivalent of ignoring and deleting a message here) then I’d consider that person to be incredibly rude. I’m not saying that men don’t need to make a bit of an effort with their first message and I’m not saying that women and couples should reply to every message they receive, but I am saying that it’s not accurate to say that introducing yourself to someone here is the same as any other time you’ve introduced yourself to someone and I don’t think it’s fair to criticise someone for asking what’s the best way for him to introduce himself to people here. The skills we have learned for starting a conversation with strangers when face to face do not apply here at all, neither to the rules we’ve learned for replying to strangers who start a conversation with us when face to face. If you think it’s ok to question why a grown man doesn’t know how to introduce himself then i think it would be ok for us to question why you think it’s ok to completely ignore someone who just says hi to you. | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ " This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. | |||
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" If you think it’s ok to question why a grown man doesn’t know how to introduce himself then i think it would be ok for us to question why you think it’s ok to completely ignore someone who just says hi to you. " It's different rules on here than irl. E.g. no reply : not interested Which is fair do's as they get hundreds of messages... Possibly they get fed up of the same message so put things like: "be interesting" "read our profile FFS" "Messages with how are you - BLOCKED" Start appearing in profiles. It puts me off messaging profiles when I see this..but.. perhaps some of them want to put men off. | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. " To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? " Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info "Ah.. yes.. BUT.. how do you know they're married but with a singles profile? I could be married with 10 kids for all you know | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info "That’s not my point at all….I’m saying that introducing yourself to someone and starting a conversation with someone on here is nothing like how it is in real life, face to face. So all the people telling OP to just introduce himself as he normally would in real life and the ones who are saying that at his age he should know how to introduce himself, are wrong to say that. | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" " Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ...... | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ......" So you agree that it’s different here than in real life? You’re explaining why men need to make more of an effort with their introductions on here than in real life, you’re explaining why simply saying hi isn’t good enough here but it can be in real life? You’re agreeing that the people who are saying that OP should know how to introduce himself to people on here because he has experience of introducing himself to people in real life are wrong to say that? | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ......" I would definitely go to a different cafe and leave them a 1 star review | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? It isn’t exactly the mainstream way of the world, I can imagine it has a culture of its own. My perceptions could be wrong though The same rules apply here as everywhere. Approach people with friendly respect and you shouldn't go far wrong. It not easy for single men though so you might need patience If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ I consider myself to be a sociable person, when I’m out in public I can easily engage in a conversation with a stranger and when I’m at parties etc I have always been able to chat with people I’ve never met before and get to know them over the course of the evening, but I have never gone up to someone and said anything like what people here expect from a first message, I don’t tell people my name as soon as I meet them, I don’t tell them any information about myself straight away, I don’t look for something to refer to that makes my introduction unique to them, I don’t end my introduction by saying something like ‘would you like to chat with me?’, I tend to say something like ‘alright, how you doing? Having a good night?’ Or something similarly non specific. That normally gets one of 2 replies, a reply with some specific information that the start of the conversation is based around, like ‘I’m having a great night because……’ or ‘I’m having a bad night because…..’ or an equally non specific reply like ‘I’m having a good night, what about you?’ in which case I’ll say something more specific that can be the topic for the start of a conversation. I think that if I found myself sat or stood next to a stranger at a party and I said ‘hi, my name’s….., I like football, golf, walking, watching tv. (Say something I noticed about the person that I like), I’m hoping to relieve the awkwardness of being stood next to you in silence by having a lighthearted chat with you that may be the one and only time we chat or could lead to us becoming friends for life. Would you like to chat with me?’ then I’d receive a confused look and be watching the person walking away from me as quickly as they can. Similarly, if I said ‘hi, how you doing? Are you having a good night?’ To a stranger at a party and that person didn’t say anything in reply, turned around and walked away from me (the equivalent of ignoring and deleting a message here) then I’d consider that person to be incredibly rude. I’m not saying that men don’t need to make a bit of an effort with their first message and I’m not saying that women and couples should reply to every message they receive, but I am saying that it’s not accurate to say that introducing yourself to someone here is the same as any other time you’ve introduced yourself to someone and I don’t think it’s fair to criticise someone for asking what’s the best way for him to introduce himself to people here. The skills we have learned for starting a conversation with strangers when face to face do not apply here at all, neither to the rules we’ve learned for replying to strangers who start a conversation with us when face to face. If you think it’s ok to question why a grown man doesn’t know how to introduce himself then i think it would be ok for us to question why you think it’s ok to completely ignore someone who just says hi to you. " I haven't questioned why a grown man doesn't know how to introduce himself  .
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" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. " Your examples are obvious. But what the op and myself are saying is men trying to be polite get a bashing by others who get annoyed because the umpteenth guy trying to be respectful asks them how they are. Understandably though women couples TVs etc.. may get fed up of that, leading to profiles saying "don't ask how I/we are" It's just something that puts me off personally.. just saying before I get jumped on.. | |||
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" I haven't questioned why a grown man doesn't know how to introduce himself . I think the rules are the same. You don't. That's fine. " Forum mod.. eh.. smashing profile.. let me polish your profile! [steps sideways out of thread] | |||
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" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. Your examples are obvious. But what the op and myself are saying is men trying to be polite get a bashing by others who get annoyed because the umpteenth guy trying to be respectful asks them how they are. Understandably though women couples TVs etc.. may get fed up of that, leading to profiles saying "don't ask how I/we are" It's just something that puts me off personally.. just saying before I get jumped on.. "I think when people state in their profiles that they don't want any idle messages such as hi, how are you? Etc.. They are merely stating for you to send a meaningful message. Including pleasantries in your message is fine. Just don't make the message literally the words hi or hows you? | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ...... So you agree that it’s different here than in real life? You’re explaining why men need to make more of an effort with their introductions on here than in real life, you’re explaining why simply saying hi isn’t good enough here but it can be in real life? You’re agreeing that the people who are saying that OP should know how to introduce himself to people on here because he has experience of introducing himself to people in real life are wrong to say that?" Jeez can't believe such a detailed discussion on this. The comment that triggered this didn't mention real life. It said going through life without making introductions of yourself to others. This could be online too not face to face. Anyway OP it's really not rocket science. Be a polite decent human being, showing interest in the person you are messaging by referencing their profile and being sexually flirty//interesting without outright crudeness. Actually maybe that is rocket science
If you read a profile and can't think of anything interesting to say, some common interest that perhaps sets you apart from the vast majority, etc. then most probably not worth messaging as you have no edge.
Also bear in mind that everyone here is here for different things and interacts in different ways and the people advising on Forum are not always representative of the whole Fab world.
Some ladies want a strong connection and almost a relationship and may take months of chat to meet, some literally want to meet within the next two hours and fuck (yes they do exist) and everything in between. Ditto with some couples. So there is no standard sort of message. It depends what they want and what you can offer.
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ...... I would definitely go to a different cafe and leave them a 1 star review " | |||
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"I really don't care what the first message says, I always reply. __ Can I put that to the test? "Haha .. yes but but but ... What type of reply will you get | |||
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"I really don't care what the first message says, I always reply. __ Can I put that to the test? "Hi  | |||
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"I really don't care what the first message says, I always reply. __ Can I put that to the test?
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Test on its way. Keep warm this winter, must be very cold around your neck of the woods (if there are any woods up there) xx"__ Well, my hat off to Doris. She was true to her word. | |||
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"I like someone who shows their interest clearly in me not my vagina. Yes it's a site where she can happen but I'm not a walking orifice. " Sex can happen | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info
Ah.. yes.. BUT.. how do you know they're married but with a singles profile? I could be married with 10 kids for all you know "The point is to deter THEM. I can assure you if they lie, I find out before my knickers are down  , and generally before I've left my house. | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info
That’s not my point at all….I’m saying that introducing yourself to someone and starting a conversation with someone on here is nothing like how it is in real life, face to face. So all the people telling OP to just introduce himself as he normally would in real life and the ones who are saying that at his age he should know how to introduce himself, are wrong to say that. "No, it's MY point  | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ......" Ah, but is the food good? | |||
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"OK so here's some ideas... Me as a women, this is the kind of message I prefer: Hi, I'm (your name), hope you're having a good week/weekend (whatever fits). I noticed in your bio, you're looking for (insert something you've read that interests you), I'm also into (see last brackets). I'm wondering whether you'd like to (chat more/consider a social/meet for a social at a club/event)... That's about it for a first message. Doesn't have to be super complicated or detailed. Simple, to the point, showing that you can and bothered to read. Doesn't need creepy compliments or an attached link to every pic you've shared on fab or a dick pic. " Yup - spot on. If they also ticked the boxes with their pics and bio, that would be fine as a first message and I would most likely reply if interested. | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info
Ah.. yes.. BUT.. how do you know they're married but with a singles profile? I could be married with 10 kids for all you know
The point is to deter THEM. I can assure you if they lie, I find out before my knickers are down , and generally before I've left my house."Okay... Am I single? Or married!! | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info
Ah.. yes.. BUT.. how do you know they're married but with a singles profile? I could be married with 10 kids for all you know
The point is to deter THEM. I can assure you if they lie, I find out before my knickers are down , and generally before I've left my house.
Okay... Am I single? Or married!! "Do I care? | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info
Ah.. yes.. BUT.. how do you know they're married but with a singles profile? I could be married with 10 kids for all you know
The point is to deter THEM. I can assure you if they lie, I find out before my knickers are down , and generally before I've left my house.
Okay... Am I single? Or married!!
Do I care? "Oh I just wondered if you could test your skills.. no probs | |||
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" If the same rules apply here as everywhere else then why are men constantly told to think of something original, unique, thoughtful etc to say in their first message and why do women and couples constantly say that they automatically delete messages that just say things like ‘hi, how are you?’ This puts me off profiles.. feels like it's a filter in itself to deter men. To deter certain types of men. Mine wants to deter men in relationships - it works when the buggers read that vital, initial bit of info
Ah.. yes.. BUT.. how do you know they're married but with a singles profile? I could be married with 10 kids for all you know
The point is to deter THEM. I can assure you if they lie, I find out before my knickers are down , and generally before I've left my house.
Okay... Am I single? Or married!!
Do I care?
Oh I just wondered if you could test your skills.. no probs "Only through 1 to 1. | |||
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"For the love of God can people stop helping people on how to message people. It's the only way to know who actually has a brain cell and is remotely polite and interesting " That's like saying someone is ugly because they don't know how to take a photo. Learning a new skill, like writing better, isn't subterfuge. It's progress. | |||
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"For the love of God can people stop helping people on how to message people. It's the only way to know who actually has a brain cell and is remotely polite and interesting That's like saying someone is ugly because they don't know how to take a photo. Learning a new skill, like writing better, isn't subterfuge. It's progress." Telling them what to write is the equivalent of taking the photo for them | |||
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"For the love of God can people stop helping people on how to message people. It's the only way to know who actually has a brain cell and is remotely polite and interesting That's like saying someone is ugly because they don't know how to take a photo. Learning a new skill, like writing better, isn't subterfuge. It's progress. Telling them what to write is the equivalent of taking the photo for them" Depends if they have the acumen to come on the forum posts. They may think they're klevor eenuff ta rite sumfink themselves | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ...... Ah, but is the food good?" Salty. | |||
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" Only through 1 to 1." Thought you had spooky powers.... ... Or do you? [spooky organ music]"Sadly no. Oh to have two sisters and have the power of three | |||
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"For the love of God can people stop helping people on how to message people. It's the only way to know who actually has a brain cell and is remotely polite and interesting That's like saying someone is ugly because they don't know how to take a photo. Learning a new skill, like writing better, isn't subterfuge. It's progress. Telling them what to write is the equivalent of taking the photo for them" Which produces a better photo. Is this really the analogy you wanted? | |||
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"As you can probably tell, I’m not seasoned at this I'm pretty sure at the age of 31 you have not gone through life without introduction yourself or having conversations with others. Why would you think it's any different on here? Because rules set here are a lot different on here then real life.. Imagine your in a café, some guy walks up to you and as he takes a breath to speak, you put the flat of your hand up to say stop! and say... "Be interesting", or "don't start with pleasantries" Imagine you're in a café for 1 hour.... 47 men walk up, say nothing just place their cock on the table. 87 men say "hi". 12 men shout you're an ugly fat bitch and they don't want to fuck you anyway!! 34 men show you pics of them fucking some unknown woman. 21 men show you grainy pics of something that looks like a body part but who knows what it is. ... next day same thing ...... Ah, but is the food good? Salty. " not good | |||
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"For me, if your profile points towards enough compatibility, hey is fine. I'll say hey back and we get chatting." Exactly this.. You can't be everyone's cup of tea. | |||
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