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"The short answer is, you don't. Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so. Remember, you're there to do a job" Exactly this! | |||
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"We received a message from a man I worked with once. We blocked him and I never mentioned it. I do wonder sometimes if discretion is properly understood. " Presumably, the message indicated he knew you were on here and worked together rather than just a general message due to being 'local' | |||
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"We received a message from a man I worked with once. We blocked him and I never mentioned it. I do wonder sometimes if discretion is properly understood. Presumably, the message indicated he knew you were on here and worked together rather than just a general message due to being 'local' " No he had no idea who we were having not seen our faces. We politely turned him down, didn't mention I worked with him and kept our mouths shut. We wouldn't meet anyone from work anyway | |||
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"Obviously I believe in discretion" If you believe it in, probably best to exercise it. I'm sure there are plenty of other women available and if you really absolutely have to message her, probably get to do so after the job is complete so you keep some level of professionalism | |||
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"I'm astonished how ladies especially put their raunchy pics with clear faces on here. Do they have no worries about being recognised..?" Maybe because anyone that recognises them is also on Fabswingers, nobody has a moral highground and nobody is doing anything illegal. | |||
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?" Depends on your job and if you're likely to have to return. If it's a one off visit then if you must message then do so after you have left, much later, if you are likely to return then I wouldn't message at all, they may ask for you not to return then your employer will ask why, too much hassle imo | |||
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"The short answer is, you don't. Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so. Remember, you're there to do a job" Boom! There's the correct advice. | |||
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"Got clocked the other day by someone who works up in the offices at work who I recognise from a fetish club I go to. I've played it totally cool and haven't reacted but the look on his face when he saw me in the canteen was priceless. " Brilliant  | |||
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"Got clocked the other day by someone who works up in the offices at work who I recognise from a fetish club I go to. I've played it totally cool and haven't reacted but the look on his face when he saw me in the canteen was priceless. Brilliant "Luckily he's only seen me in what my friend describes as 'goth/industrial school girl' but last time I saw him he was naked with a ladies toilet sign round his neck... | |||
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"We would block them and never say a word. Doing anything else is creepy." This this this this this! | |||
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Currently, I'm just at the beginning of something vanilla, so not looking for new partners, but it was still an exciting and fun situation, I had a little smile...
But I didn't say anything and definitely didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable in that setting.
What if I was still single and in "hunter mode", also if she was my type??? I think I still would not mention it to her, but I would try to flirt with her in a general way, and if she is up for a drink, I would told her what I noticed when we are in a bit less "official" settings. | |||
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?" Please don't do anything. Discretion is key here. The only way to say anything would be if you bumped into them at a club or event. It could cause a lot of embarrassment at work for someone. | |||
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?" You don’t. Simple as. | |||
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"A few years ago I noted someone had viewed my profile … most likely from who’s near! I was horrified when I saw it was someone who worked for me!! He had a clear facial pic - I immediately blocked him! He never said anything or made any comment, but then again, I think my disguise is pretty good! … only a very select few have ever seen both sides to me, and all said they would never have guessed or made the connection! - phew! X R xx" Did he fab any of your pics? | |||
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking?" Being discreet means that you do not mention it at all. | |||
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"A few years ago I noted someone had viewed my profile … most likely from who’s near! I was horrified when I saw it was someone who worked for me!! He had a clear facial pic - I immediately blocked him! He never said anything or made any comment, but then again, I think my disguise is pretty good! … only a very select few have ever seen both sides to me, and all said they would never have guessed or made the connection! - phew! X R xx" But, we can see your face. I'm sure that he would know. | |||
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"I've just been browsing "who's near" and on my next job there's a female half of a couple who I've recognised by her public face pictures. Obviously I believe in discretion but what do people use/say to discretly let them know that you're in the same lifestyle without blatantly asking? Being discreet means that you do not mention it at all." Exactly. Surely the indiscretion starts by coming on here and putting it about that you have recognised someone from work (or wherever)? | |||
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"Only happened once.there was a guy who started at warehouse I worked at and he was openly gay and I'd met him a few times at cottages and my house.luckily he was great and understood that it wasn't something I wanted others to know about. There is also a woman I've seen pics of on here who I'm sure works in a shop in my town.i thought she looked familiar then noticed a tattoo she had.she seems very dirty but unfortunately I'm out of her age range "I would never say something at her place of work but would have just sent her a message just to say that we were noth close and would she be interested in meeting up,and just left it at that.as people say you hope others on here can act with discretion . | |||
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"The short answer is, you don't. Most people will feel rather uncomfortable with having it brought up in a vanilla setting and it's extremely unprofessional to do so. Remember, you're there to do a job" Precisely! From experience, never mix business and pleasure. | |||
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"I'm astonished how ladies especially put their raunchy pics with clear faces on here. Do they have no worries about being recognised..?" I often wonder that. I'd be mortified if someone from work or a neighbour recognised us. It happened once in a club with a neighbours friend, she was more shocked than us. | |||
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" It happened once in a club with a neighbours friend, she was more shocked than us. "I was at a group party with an old gf and saw a couple I knew from 200m up the road. I just said "look, who's going to say what to who about this ?!", which was true and worked a treat. | |||
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