FabSwingers.com forum: Not getting any meets

By *W30 OP Man
49 weeks ago

york

I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read?

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By *edWitch0000Woman
49 weeks ago

worthing

Firstly have a read of the 1000000 other threads saying the same thing.

Second there are hundreds of men on here for every woman/couple. Your odds are very low.

What did you expect from fab? Dozens of women waiting to fuck you? That's not real life.

Third, a month is no time at all!!

I haven't looked at your profile yet but make sure it's the best it can be. You're one of many on here, you have to stand out.

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By *edWitch0000Woman
49 weeks ago

worthing

Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

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By *W30 OP Man
49 weeks ago

york

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)"

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do

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By *heHornySpark28Man
49 weeks ago

Newcastle

Personally I asked for advice a few months ago plenty pictures keep the dick pics private until someone asks to see them and add more to the bio about yourself what interests you and what your looking for but at the same time the ration of men to women on here is like 4:1 so it’s not always easy but you’ll tick someone’s boxes just got to get recognised

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By *W30 OP Man
49 weeks ago

york

"Personally I asked for advice a few months ago plenty pictures keep the dick pics private until someone asks to see them and add more to the bio about yourself what interests you and what your looking for but at the same time the ration of men to women on here is like 4:1 so it’s not always easy but you’ll tick someone’s boxes just got to get recognised "

Thanks for that and good to know that you’ve asked as well and got some good advice out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

I had 1 MFM meet in 2022 .. when I was active and attending socials..

my best advice for your profile: use bullet points to make things clear. Specify what you are looking for . Make your boundaries clear..

Other than that, maybe attend a social.

If anyone agrees with that, thumbs up

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

As a couple we mainly look for someone who can send more than a one-liner and has a bit about themselves on their profile. On yours it states your pretty much up for anything, be a bit more specific in your desires as just "wanting anything" comes across like you just want to hop into bed with anyone and do anything (not knocking you if you do at all, but most couples want a bit more than that). In short alot of couples (at a guess) want a guy that can hold a conversation and more importantly, be respectful. If you can do that you're already half way there. At least in our humble opinion.

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By *nytime2023Couple
49 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Our advice for what it’s worth. Not enough pictures and profile very vague, dick pics do nothing for us (appreciate others will like them) Biggest thing for us would be 30 and unable to accommodate. This screams ‘cheating guy whose partner doesn’t know’. Let us be clear, I’m not suggesting that’s the case but typically is. If you are in a relationship then be honest about it, if you’re not then perhaps explain why you can’t accommodates? It’s already been written but will write it again, socials and clubs is your best bet.

As always, only our opinion but just trying to help V&K x

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By *helovesitwetCouple
49 weeks ago

brighton

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read? "
no face photos and the traditional cock photo .why not have a profile without a cock photo.maybe a close up of your eyes .lastly you are happy to go with either an 18 year old or even a 99 Yr old ..if you are serious think about that .maybe put some effort and think maybe I want to max out between 25 and 50 for example

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
49 weeks ago

Sheffield

If someone ever says they are up for anything, I just personally find it off putting, we all have limits and things we won’t do. Also would you really meet a 99 year old

I always say don’t rely solely on fab, get to social events and clubs.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
49 weeks ago

North Shields

Low quality badly lit photos is a turn off as shows lack of effort.

As the others have said, along with your status.

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By *electableicecreamMan
49 weeks ago

The West

Du you look at other guys profiles?

Check out the guys who've verified the people you are interested in. You'll see what worked.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read? "

You say in your Bio you're "up for anything"

immediate major turn off for me. I'm not sure do you mean you'd fk anything too.

Also

You obviously don't realise the vast ratios here of Men:Women.

Also

You have major competition with other Men & you need to stand out.

Plus~Point - your profile pic is good

But I definitely wouldn't have "up for anything" in your Bio....it screams desperation too.

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By *ueen of beesCouple
49 weeks ago

North West

From our perspective anyone with no verifications and a couple of pictures who contact us we are vary wary due to past experiences and fakes, especially over the past month. It is a shame really as some people without verifications will be real but not had an opportunity.

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By *aughtyNaughtyCouple69Couple
49 weeks ago

Suffolk

"From our perspective anyone with no verifications and a couple of pictures who contact us we are vary wary due to past experiences and fakes, especially over the past month. It is a shame really as some people without verifications will be real but not had an opportunity."

Couldn’t agree more with above

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

Honestly. Asking here was a badddddd idea.

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By *W30 OP Man
49 weeks ago

york

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do

Honestly. Asking here was a badddddd idea.

I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum

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By *cotsRogueMan
49 weeks ago

glasgow

Oh you’re so special

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

She wasnt rude she was honest you asked for advice you got it

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By *orny-DJMan
49 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

You've only been here a month.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining the site?

This isn't instashag.

Most single guys wait around a year to get their first meet. Some fair better, others less so. There are some guys who have bern here for years and still haven't got a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do

Honestly. Asking here was a badddddd idea.

I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum "

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Quote - "I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum"....

Fair play to you OP....You've taken advice on board & edited your Bio accordingly....

Good on ya.... Major improvement already

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do

Honestly. Asking here was a badddddd idea.

I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum

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Quote - "I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum"....

Fair play to you OP....You've taken advice on board & edited your Bio accordingly....

Good on ya.... Major improvement already

Yup, fair play to the OP.

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By *jonesMan
49 weeks ago

Plymouth

Go to a social saves years of messaging

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By *W30 OP Man
49 weeks ago

york

"You've only been here a month.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining the site?

This isn't instashag.

Most single guys wait around a year to get their first meet. Some fair better, others less so. There are some guys who have bern here for years and still haven't got a meet

I know I’m still new and didn’t expect meets the second I started but seriously your saying the are lads that have done this for more then a year and still not 1 meet then surely they are doing something wrong. Or am I in the wrong?

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By *heekyDemandCouple
49 weeks ago

Leicester

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

It's not rude, it's expedient, go through the 5 stages of grief quickly and get to acceptance. Fab has some positives, but consider going to a club and speaking to real people, if you stand out you may be lucky enough to be invited to play.

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By *edWitch0000Woman
49 weeks ago

worthing

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

I gave you advice. Make your profile stand out. Have realistic expectations. Put better photos. Sell yourself. I'm telling you what single women think when they look at your profile. You can either think I'm rude for telling you the truth or you can take it on board and have more chance of success. Your choice!

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
49 weeks ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

That’s not rude, just them giving you advice!

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By *armandwet50Couple
49 weeks ago

Far far away

That was good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

Don't call single women rude for giving good advice would be a great start. Clubs and socials

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By *ink vixenCouple
49 weeks ago

Medway

Your profile is on the top 100 easily.

Must just be the time of year buddy.

Don’t waste your time writing g long messages.

Just write Hi and a attach a cock picture

That’s all it takes on Fab obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

If I keep my profile the same but just tick the 'looking for men' box I'll get 50 messages a day.

Imagine how many messages the hot women with good profiles get.

Even if they fancy 10 men who message today, how can they meet all those men? They have to say no or ignore.

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By *Normal1Man
49 weeks ago

Stoke

Yeh getting a meet from here and inboxing alone is virtually impossible

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
49 weeks ago

"You've only been here a month.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining the site?

This isn't instashag.

Most single guys wait around a year to get their first meet. Some fair better, others less so. There are some guys who have bern here for years and still haven't got a meet

They are most definitely doing something wrong. You've made some positive changes to your profile OP, hopefully it will help, but just remember things can take time on here, it's not the greatest place if you are expecting instant results

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By *ucka39Man
49 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Think of your profile like a shop window and let it shine and browse other users see how they've done theirs for ideas only then use as much as possible of the site don't just rely on messages

Good luck buddy

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By *allySlinkyWoman
49 weeks ago

Leeds

Do you actually have a room mate or do you mean housemate ?

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By *oxy jWoman
49 weeks ago

somerset

there are alot of guys and i do mean alot of guys who have never had a meet and will never get a meet ... you must know why you joined ..you must know you and what your looking for ... only you know these things yet your asking strangers for advice that will just give you a boring profile like the millions before you whom asked ...

men out numbers women and couples 100/200 to one so for starters you have lots of competition...

sexual atraction is the very least of whats needed but by far not the only thing ...

so the reality is if no one is interested then its that simple no one is interested you'll have to wait and see if anyone becomes and i say if because as said about alot never meet..

also you asking advice on the forums these forums are tiny like %1 tiny add in alot on them dont meet or even swing ..

this is a scene that for men gets harder and harder as more and more men flood in everyday dont get me wrong some men get it right str8 away most wont ...its a swingers site not a free sex site to empty balls its a lifestyle ... this scene for men is mainly rejection .... i would not want to be a guy in fact if i was id not be swinging knowing what i know

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

The truth is that Fab makes up a very small part of the “swinging” world, and even more so if you actually define what people think is swinging in a conventional meaning.

So look at what you want,

A one off

A connection

Regular meets

Couples

Singles

Clubs

Hotels

What sexually excited you and does that match

All sorts of variations.

That makes the percentages even less so to get a meet.

What I would say is if you do talk to someone be honest with what you’re after, don’t mess them around, don’t be too full on

I wish you well

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By *helovesitwetCouple
49 weeks ago

brighton

"Your profile is on the top 100 easily.

Must just be the time of year buddy.

Don’t waste your time writing g long messages.

Just write Hi and a attach a cock picture

That’s all it takes on Fab obviously. "
definitely not if someone sends a cock photo to us on message one instant block and delete.no right minded lady wants a cock photo rimmed in her face unless she asks .don't send a cock photo

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By *edonandHellCouple
49 weeks ago

Peterborough

When your setting up your profile you need to set it up so you stand out from the thousands of other competing single men.

Break down your bio into stages.

A bit about you, what your looking for, what your into.

Are you wanting to go to clubs/parties/social events.

Also make sure you have pics that are versatile and not just you bog standard, dick out or just boxers.

Seeing a man dressed smart also shows he cares about his appearances and hiw he want to look for someone.

Also see where other single men with lots of verifications, have on there profile, if there putting in the effort and reaping the rewards see what tips you can take from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Your profile is on the top 100 easily.

Must just be the time of year buddy.

Don’t waste your time writing g long messages.

Just write Hi and a attach a cock picture

That’s all it takes on Fab obviously. definitely not if someone sends a cock photo to us on message one instant block and delete.no right minded lady wants a cock photo rimmed in her face unless she asks .don't send a cock photo

I suspect a great big dollop of sarcasm was the intention

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By *elbaCouple
49 weeks ago

Derby

This has been asked a million times. Use the search function in the forums. Just asking without engaging your brain reeks of laziness. Sorry but that’s just the way it is.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
49 weeks ago

Heathrow

Fair play to you you’ve listened to the advice and changed your profile. Now look at your profile again and add in what you’re offering someone. It’s says what you’re up for but doesn’t really say what’s in it for them. For example “I’d love to meet someone perhaps at a social or a club” or “I love going down on women and have been told I’m amazing” (ok that’s not so good but you get the drift). And take out the bit where it says you won’t drive too far- makes it sound like you can’t be arsed. Better to say you’d rather meet someone fairly local.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do

Honestly. Asking here was a badddddd idea.

I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum "

Has it made the slightest bit of difference in terms of the replys you've received

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do

Honestly. Asking here was a badddddd idea.

I’ve got a lot of good advice so why is that a bad idea isn’t that the whole point of a forum

Has it made the slightest bit of difference in terms of the replys you've received

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By *i-Guy-75Man
49 weeks ago

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read? "

Try fabguys, 100% success rate there..

Every holes a goal n all that..

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By *revaunanceCouple
49 weeks ago

Exeter

"Just checked your profile: 2 pics, one being a dick pic, and one sentence on your bio. Why would any woman pick you above other men? What makes you stand out? (Clue: currently nothing at all)

Okay that’s just rude so good effort there and all I wanted was advice on what to do "

You've been given advice about improving your photos; which you've accepted.

You've hidden/removed your dick pic.

You've rewrote your bio to expand upon your previous attempt.

All this seems to indicate that you realise some of the reason why you have not stood out from the crowd in the past.

So given the fact that you have appeared to have accepted the advice in full, it seems ironic that you've accused the first person to give you the advice as rude.

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By *oxy jWoman
49 weeks ago

somerset

when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

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By *izzy.Woman
49 weeks ago

Stoke area

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

I disagree. The first message I received today; I looked at the guys profile. Meets 18 to 99, photos that weren't clear or several years old and one line bio. I deleted the message.

The profile isn't the only consideration; but it's a good starting place to improve their chances of getting meets.

***Clubs and socials remain the easiest option to meet people and get verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

I also disagree. We read the profile of whoever messages us. If it doesn't say anything about the person, we don't reply. If there's a bit about it, we do.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
49 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Unreasonable room mate? Girlfriends who don’t signup to ethical non-monogamy (let alone swinging), tend to be a bit like that.

If you have a housemate and they don’t like you bringing people back that’s downright odd and a major red flag that you can’t negotiate or advocate for your needs, as a grown adult.

Also, this isn’t 0800-dial-a-shag you’ll probably be better off on Tinder/any other platform if you expect that just existing and whining is enough to get you laid.

Xx ms

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

The only downside I can see with profile advice is that the recipient alters their profile so much it represents someone they’re not.

The original is a far better guide to who they really are and the person you will meet!

I’m not referring to genetic advice re dick pics etc but the ones who seem to change their whole personality in order to appeal.

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By *octordigitsMan
49 weeks ago

nearby

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read? "

As a general rule of thumb - As a single guy - I use fab to keep in touch with people I’ve met in clubs or at socials …

General advice to any new single guys …. Get to a club - do a newbies night - immersive learning

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By *electableicecreamMan
49 weeks ago

The West

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

It absolutely does. Not everyone is a writer and not everyone is a photographer. A few general tips here and there can be very useful and a lot of people might simply have not thought some info relevant due to inexperience.

While I didn't post my own thread when I joined, I did use the search function and read as much as I could before I started working on my profile. It amounts to the same thing.

I spent months on it to be honest. Writing, rewriting and editing as I learned more about how fab works. My bio is far from generic and the time and effort I spent figuring out the scene has paid off.

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By *r SproutMan
49 weeks ago

the middle

I was going to ask for advice too but I’ll just follow this thread. Some good advice in here

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By *iss KinkWoman
49 weeks ago

North West

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By *iss KinkWoman
49 weeks ago

North West

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read?

As a general rule of thumb - As a single guy - I use fab to keep in touch with people I’ve met in clubs or at socials …

General advice to any new single guys …. Get to a club - do a newbies night - immersive learning "

MsBlue is hosting a Newbie night @ Club Play Blackpool tomorrow night for anyone wanting to try a Club night . No membership needed

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By *ustus696969Couple
49 weeks ago

Southampton

It’s very hard for us couples too to meet other couples not many like to meet

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By *heekyDemandCouple
49 weeks ago

Leicester

"It’s very hard for us couples too to meet other couples not many like to meet

You look great, the problem isn't you. Get to a club, if they have a couples room just ask if you can join someone. Pretty sure the answer will be yes.

We would.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

While I didn't post my own thread when I joined, I did use the search function and read as much as I could before I started working on my profile. It amounts to the same thing.

You spent on months on that? Doesn't seem anything that unique if I'm honest

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By *electableicecreamMan
49 weeks ago

The West

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

While I didn't post my own thread when I joined, I did use the search function and read as much as I could before I started working on my profile. It amounts to the same thing.

You spent on months on that? Doesn't seem anything that unique if I'm honest "

And yet the results speak for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

While I didn't post my own thread when I joined, I did use the search function and read as much as I could before I started working on my profile. It amounts to the same thing.

You spent on months on that? Doesn't seem anything that unique if I'm honest

And yet the results speak for themselves

I'm not disputing your result haha...but do you really think that's down to the profile?

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By *electableicecreamMan
49 weeks ago

The West

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

While I didn't post my own thread when I joined, I did use the search function and read as much as I could before I started working on my profile. It amounts to the same thing.

You spent on months on that? Doesn't seem anything that unique if I'm honest

And yet the results speak for themselves

I'm not disputing your result haha...but do you really think that's down to the profile? "

On fab I don't think it's down to any one thing. It's definitely about playing to your strengths and reading the room.

But I have been contacted by enough people based on my profile alone that I'm happy enough with it.

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By *ussex21Man
49 weeks ago

Crowborough

Its difficult on fab for single males.

It takes time to find people who your looking for to connect with.

Have you thought about attending a monthly social event or swinging club?

Those are good for connecting with others in person socially.

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By *orny-DJMan
49 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

I'm surprised that Shag hasn't been in with his nugget abput patience being the key

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By *oxy jWoman
49 weeks ago

somerset

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

I disagree. The first message I received today; I looked at the guys profile. Meets 18 to 99, photos that weren't clear or several years old and one line bio. I deleted the message.

The profile isn't the only consideration; but it's a good starting place to improve their chances of getting meets.

***Clubs and socials remain the easiest option to meet people and get verifications. "

not what i meant ..... when a guy nobody knows ask for advice on HIS profile then that guy is no longer being himself hes allowing others to make him look or act like someone hes not ... no profile text = lazy ...someone tells him what to write = still lazy ...it makes no sense giving profile advice .... it just creats a false profile ...

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

I disagree. The first message I received today; I looked at the guys profile. Meets 18 to 99, photos that weren't clear or several years old and one line bio. I deleted the message.

The profile isn't the only consideration; but it's a good starting place to improve their chances of getting meets.

***Clubs and socials remain the easiest option to meet people and get verifications.

And it makes no difference anyway

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By *ysonfuryMan
49 weeks ago

Stockport

As many have said work on the profile and try to convey what you are looking for. The cock pics always create discussion some say have them others not. Do what you are comfy with,I do have face pics but they are in friends and I'm happy to send if anyone I'm chatting to is interested in seeing my mush. Make an effort with your messages show you have read people's profiles. Dont expect a reply you often won't and if you do dont expect that it will lead to a meet. Not being able to host is a disadvantage. Try socials they are a good way of meeting with no pressure to play. There are loads of nice folks out there so keep trying. Happy fabbing everyone

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By *anted by NightMan
49 weeks ago

Shangri-La

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read? "

Welcome to the club

I have been on fab for few years and still a fab virgin.

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By *erek trotterMan
49 weeks ago

Peckham

I have nothin in my bio but I'm doing OK

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By *alleyDaveMan
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

With respect ,everyone, including yourselves started out with zero verifications. If people arnt prepared to give others with no verifications a chance , no one would ever get any meet verifications.

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By *alleyDaveMan
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

"You've only been here a month.

Seriously, what were your expectations on joining the site?

This isn't instashag.

Most single guys wait around a year to get their first meet. Some fair better, others less so. There are some guys who have bern here for years and still haven't got a meet

I have been on here for almost two years, and havnt even managed to have a social meet for a coffee. You can have a detailed profile with loads of public photos including face photos ,yet still have zero luck on here .

It's not you ,but you are up against a small minority of single blokes who get all the meets because they go to clubs and organised socials. If you arnt interested in going to those ,you have no chance what so ever on here

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By *alleyDaveMan
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

"when will guys learn profile advice dont work ...plain and simple

While I didn't post my own thread when I joined, I did use the search function and read as much as I could before I started working on my profile. It amounts to the same thing.

You spent on months on that? Doesn't seem anything that unique if I'm honest

And yet the results speak for themselves

I'm not disputing your result haha...but do you really think that's down to the profile?

On fab I don't think it's down to any one thing. It's definitely about playing to your strengths and reading the room.

But I have been contacted by enough people based on my profile alone that I'm happy enough with it."

I've no idea what your secret is mate .maybe it's down to your body.Im bald ,flabby and never seen a gym in my life ,and never will . But good luck to you buddy.

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By *alleyDaveMan
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

"I’ve been on here for over a month now and have messaged a lot of people but I don’t know why I’m not getting anywhere or left on read?

Welcome to the club

I have been on fab for few years and still a fab virgin."

82 verifications says different ,unless you are just mocking us who havnt even had a social meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Unreasonable room mate? Girlfriends who don’t signup to ethical non-monogamy (let alone swinging), tend to be a bit like that.

If you have a housemate and they don’t like you bringing people back that’s downright odd and a major red flag that you can’t negotiate or advocate for your needs, as a grown adult.

Also, this isn’t 0800-dial-a-shag you’ll probably be better off on Tinder/any other platform if you expect that just existing and whining is enough to get you laid.

Xx ms"

Agree about the girlfriend.

However a housemate who doesn't want strangers in their house is perfectly reasonable.

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