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Definitely harder to get meets as an asian man in Edinburgh

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By *ourfavguy OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums OP

Try using the search function of the forums as this topic is a daily thread.

It has nothing to do with your ethnicity, you are new, you are young, some people have children your age and won't entertain a younger person

Good luck

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By *ourfavguy OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Welcome to the forums OP

Try using the search function of the forums as this topic is a daily thread.

It has nothing to do with your ethnicity, you are new, you are young, some people have children your age and won't entertain a younger person

Good luck "

That's very true, but in a lot of cases everything is going very well, and once we exchange face pictures its like no response, happened to me more than a few times so was a bit concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are fussy about faces. We can't help what we're attracted to. Don't take it personally, and save yourself time by sending a face pic early.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I looked and as you have clear body pictures it's more likely to be not a facial attraction for the people you've messaged. It can be hard saying no thank you on here then the risk of further questions or potential abuse.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Welcome to the forums OP

Try using the search function of the forums as this topic is a daily thread.

It has nothing to do with your ethnicity, you are new, you are young, some people have children your age and won't entertain a younger person

Good luck

That's very true, but in a lot of cases everything is going very well, and once we exchange face pictures its like no response, happened to me more than a few times so was a bit concerned "

Call it a fab goodbye. It's pretty n normal behaviour because many guys will not take no an answer and can be uncomfortably persistent.

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By *ourfavguy OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Welcome to the forums OP

Try using the search function of the forums as this topic is a daily thread.

It has nothing to do with your ethnicity, you are new, you are young, some people have children your age and won't entertain a younger person

Good luck

That's very true, but in a lot of cases everything is going very well, and once we exchange face pictures its like no response, happened to me more than a few times so was a bit concerned

Call it a fab goodbye. It's pretty n normal behaviour because many guys will not take no an answer and can be uncomfortably persistent."

I stop messaging once there is no response when everything was going well

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By *ourfavguy OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I looked and as you have clear body pictures it's more likely to be not a facial attraction for the people you've messaged. It can be hard saying no thank you on here then the risk of further questions or potential abuse. "

Generally its the body pictures that starts off the conversation

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Welcome to the forums OP

Try using the search function of the forums as this topic is a daily thread.

It has nothing to do with your ethnicity, you are new, you are young, some people have children your age and won't entertain a younger person

Good luck

That's very true, but in a lot of cases everything is going very well, and once we exchange face pictures its like no response, happened to me more than a few times so was a bit concerned

Call it a fab goodbye. It's pretty n normal behaviour because many guys will not take no an answer and can be uncomfortably persistent.

I stop messaging once there is no response when everything was going well"

You might but a very large number of men don't. Normal rules of etiquette don't apply on fab so might as well get used to it.

The good news is it isn't personal and they are just not attracted to you. The best thing to do is move on. Easy come easy go.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

How on earth would you know that it's more difficult to get meets because of your ethnicity and location? What extensive research have you carried out in your two weeks here to conclude that?

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By *ourfavguy OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"How on earth would you know that it's more difficult to get meets because of your ethnicity and location? What extensive research have you carried out in your two weeks here to conclude that? "

I did speak other few asian males on here, who shared similar experiences

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"How on earth would you know that it's more difficult to get meets because of your ethnicity and location? What extensive research have you carried out in your two weeks here to conclude that?

I did speak other few asian males on here, who shared similar experiences "

As do almost all other males.

And some couples.

And possibly some women too.

Of all ethnicities and locations.

If someone doesn't find your face attractive, they probably don't want to bone. Noone is attractive to everyone. It happens

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

News -

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

This will often be because they don't find them physically attractive. Would you fuck most people randomly picked out? Do you think that Fab women are lacking in taste and choices such that they will have anyone climbing aboard?

Be grateful for the rapid rejections, as you can simply move on

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell


"I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social "

wait, You get replies

Seriously it is hard for the majority of men to get meets, i suggest going to socials and swingers clubs/events so people in the area get to know you.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby


"I looked and as you have clear body pictures it's more likely to be not a facial attraction for the people you've messaged. It can be hard saying no thank you on here then the risk of further questions or potential abuse.

Generally its the body pictures that starts off the conversation"

So and I mean this in the kindest way possible, your ethnicity isn't the reason for silence. It's clear from the photographs of your body.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"How on earth would you know that it's more difficult to get meets because of your ethnicity and location? What extensive research have you carried out in your two weeks here to conclude that?

I did speak other few asian males on here, who shared similar experiences "

And how would they know, unless they've consulted with other men of other ethnicities and tallied the results?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social "

Op

Ever heard the term as happy to be friends with someone but wouldn't sleep with them the fact that you were having good chats shows was something but not sexual it's still a connection and I'd say respect this as not everyone is going to be completely compatible so love for the moment

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social

Op

Ever heard the term as happy to be friends with someone but wouldn't sleep with them the fact that you were having good chats shows was something but not sexual it's still a connection and I'd say respect this as not everyone is going to be completely compatible so love for the moment "

Live not love

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social

Op

Ever heard the term as happy to be friends with someone but wouldn't sleep with them the fact that you were having good chats shows was something but not sexual it's still a connection and I'd say respect this as not everyone is going to be completely compatible so love for the moment

Live not love "

He was trying to!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

That’s a massive generalisation. To be honest OP you are really young and that will play a big part in that.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social

Op

Ever heard the term as happy to be friends with someone but wouldn't sleep with them the fact that you were having good chats shows was something but not sexual it's still a connection and I'd say respect this as not everyone is going to be completely compatible so love for the moment

Live not love

He was trying to! "

But why try just because this is a swingers site it can open doors anywhere which has a proven record.... As you say he was trying people try and do things every day doesn't mean it's going to go to plan its just an added experience things can change

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Had a little browse of your profile which isn't good nor bad but maybe add things that maybe appealing and leaving some food for thought

The fact you were having messages back and forth shows you have something

Browse the site

Spice up your profile and see what others have done for ideas only for assistance. It can be difficult to meet match but someone is always out there it's finding that circle which people fit in

Remember we are never going to be completely compatible with everyone myself included so embrace it buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice


"Welcome to the forums OP

Try using the search function of the forums as this topic is a daily thread.

It has nothing to do with your ethnicity, you are new, you are young, some people have children your age and won't entertain a younger person

Good luck

That's very true, but in a lot of cases everything is going very well, and once we exchange face pictures its like no response, happened to me more than a few times so was a bit concerned

Call it a fab goodbye. It's pretty n normal behaviour because many guys will not take no an answer and can be uncomfortably persistent.

I stop messaging once there is no response when everything was going well

You might but a very large number of men don't. Normal rules of etiquette don't apply on fab so might as well get used to it.

The good news is it isn't personal and they are just not attracted to you. The best thing to do is move on. Easy come easy go."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been talking to various people who I have had good conversations with, but after exchanging photos it almost seems like no one wants to even meet for a social "

Any guy has a hard time here, not just Asian men.

Just too many men compared to women.

You can change your sexual preference (just kidding) or actually turn up at a social meet and charm your way.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"turn up at a social meet and charm your way.

"
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be to do with your age. There's a huge proportion of people on here that are 30 at a minimum. We personally wouldn't want to meet someone in their early 20s straight from this site. If we met them at a meet or club it could possibly work, but wouldn't be our priority. I doubt it's race to be honest, that seems like an easy reason. Ironically one of our first meets was an Asian guy in Cardiff.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Surely as a single man the easiest way if you want a shag is to just use Tinder or Plenty of Fish, the chat/swipe system is so much easier, it’s less weird to have a face photo as being in a dating site is not an issue (if you are single).

From what I understand I was using Tinder wrong, apparently a lot of people on there are looking for hookups, don’t think I ever found those people though ??

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By *ussex21Man
over a year ago

Crowborough

It's difficult on fab for single guys.

Just keep messaging and see how you get on.

I'd recommend going to a monthly social event or a swinging club. You can talk to others in person that way so they can see what you're like and if there's chemistry there.

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